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So sorry for your loss.

OP, I thought I was going to see straight A's when I opened this thread, nevertheless, kudos to your brother

dearpreye:
Life's easy but we have decidedly made it the opposite. Life's challenging also we have added some more to it. Ever since I started minding my own business, I've fared better and happier. People hardly mind their businesses. And the women folks seem to be the worst sufferers of such intrusion into their lives. And it sickens me to no end.

I'm yet to see the agreement the society made to have it skewed against the women. I have NO business with how people live their lives. The woken folks are treated like they owe society some debts, while men live like society owes them everything.

The women can't live their lives because they're women. In fact, the worst targeted are the SINGLES. For instance, they can't live alone because society thinks they are prostitutes. They are expected to have married before 25, like marriage is the only determining factor for one to be considered successful OR its required to enter the sanctuaries of Heaven. For the records, marriage ends HERE. It doesn't go beyond the grave, and one doesn't need to be married to be happy. Majority of the depressed people are married folks. Marriage doesn't hide our flaws; it simply amplifies and accentuate it.

Even just a few weeks into their marriages, whether or not the man is fertile, the women are expected to be pregnant, and society keeps looking at their tummies for visible signs of pregnancy. These women just can't be allowed to live their lives. Whether or not the couple agreed they intend to have kids later, society believes the women are responsible for the visible absence of kids.

The single lady isn't expected to have a car because it will drive away suitors. See thinking! So she should keep the car parked somewhere away from public glare because she's looking for one suitor. Madness.

She isn't expected to earn more than her husband because she's adjudged to become uncontrollable and bossy back home. She must earn less than husband. Was marriage designed to kill their destinies? Was it designed to enable both parties achieve their purpose in life? Should it be an albatross to their progress? I doubt that.

She's not expected to have a washing machine in the home because society believes it will make her lazy. Hence she must work herself to the bones in a demonic attempt to appear hardworking to society. Madness.

I can go on and on. It's endless. It's just crazy. Women should be allowed to live their lives. OR the women themselves must ensure they live their lives, not minding what the society says. The consequences of our actions and decisions are borne by us, not the society.

There's nothing wrong with the women unmarried at 30. There's nothing wrong if a woman isn't pregnant a few months into a marriage.

To all those great women who have chosen to courageously live their lives away from the unwritten rules of the society, I salute you all.

This piece is in response to a friend's frustration from her parents because at 28 and unmarried, her parents have become her own worst enemies.

Let's stop giving our women unrealistic and extremely selfish expectations. Let them be.

Nice post.

The man is high on religion...

Some low-lifers love money more than their kids. He killed his son to save his pennies, senile man.

KanwuliaJara:
Is this not where the OMNI-POTENT God comes in?

Are u mocking God?

Kennedyiheme:
I'm not a child any more, I just thought about what happened when I was younger, if u arnet financially stable doesn't mean u won't give ur child a birthday gift, no matter hw little let him understand that its tht little u have, he'll love u, nigerian parents blive they are gods to there children, no freindly interraction with there kids, always shouting, my dad always nags about everything u do, he always finds sometin to mke u look bad, I'm not sure if u understand wht u said about parents standing up or wateva, it doesn't tally with wht we are discussing

If you are an adult, you need to move on. You can't change the past, but you can influence your future.

ToroJah:
Dear Family, I still haven't gotten a job till now oh, still applying please if there's any that can help wwith a job within port Harcourt, I'm squatting with a friend somewhere close to garrison, please my e-family assist a sis before frustration drives me into something evil

God bless as you help!

You have more options than you think, stop focusing on the evil ones. What you need now, is to humble yourself. My dear don't be ashamed to do jobs you may think are menial; nanny, waitress, working in fast food franchises, cleaner e.t.c. there is dignity in labor, Goodluck

Kennedyiheme:
Family is important yes I know, but parents in nigeria believe they are doing enough but they actually aren't doing anything, you'll see a mother beat up her child like an animal in the name of dicipline, beating your child furiously keeps him away from you, isn't it better you sit him or her down and talk sensibly? I remember a freind that told me he hates his father, I ask him the reason, he said his father doesn't smile and that his father always look for a reason to blame him, so anytime his father is around he doesn't go near him, for crying out loud you are his parent not God.
Why shld you make your children see you like a monster. my dad never given me $100, which is less than 10,000 naira, my dad has never given me a birthday gift since I was born...the funniest thing is that he is so confortable and doesn't see all dis as a problem....when a child doesn't get support from his parents how do u expect him or her to feel......well we the young ones should learn from our terrible parents and make sure our kids are happy and won't regret having us as there parent

If any of your parents reads this post, am sure they will agree that "100 dollars is not less than N10,000" you see why you need guidance? What you can't see standing up, your parents can see sitting

He can have limbs again(artificial) I hope someone sees this and decides to locate and help him.

HungerBAD:
An Ikorodu Customary Court, Lagos, on Tuesday dissolved a 25-year-old marriage, between one Olufade Adekoya and his wife, Olusola, over lateness in preparing meals.

President of the court, Mr Olu Adebiyi, who dissolved the marriage, said there was “no longer any love in the marriage.’’

Adebiyi said that the court had tried several times to reconcile their indifferences but all efforts proved abortive.

“Therefore, you have ceased to be husband and wife, henceforth.
“I put an end to the union between both of you from today in the interest of peace,” he said.

The 57-year-old husband had told the court that his wife does not cook for him regularly and when she does, the food comes late.

“My wife had failed in her matrimonial obligations; she doesn’t prepare my food on time, I have warned her several times but she wouldn’t listen to me.

“ Most times I go to the canteen to eat when I am hungry, there is no point in harbouring a wife that makes me hungry.

“In fact, my sister saw me there one of these days, I am totally fed up.

“Please separate us, I am no more interested in the marriage.’’

However, the 45-year-old respondent denied all the allegations and accused her husband of wanting to take another wife.

“He is accusing me wrongly because he wants to take another wife, please help me beg him.

http://www.ngrguardiannews.com/2015/08/court-dissolves-25-year-old-marriage-over-wifes-lateness-in-preparing-meals/

This man is funny, after 25 years of marriage the only reason he can come up with for a divorce is this?! He is just looking for excuses to marry a younger woman.

ConfessionsNgr:
What could have made my teenage son interested in sex at his age when he should be serious with his studies? He is 14-years-old and in SS1. This is a boy brought up in a good Christian home. Maybe the mistake was the laptop his dad bought for him. We had thought it will aid him in his studies but he is using it for something that could destroy his future. I’m so sad about it. That night, I was hearing some sound from his room around 11PM and I could understand what it meant. So I tip-toed to his room and saw him engrossed in the porn movies he was watching. I was so furious; I beat him and seized his laptop. I later got to know he was introduced to porn by a class-mate of his. I told him I’m changing his school. He has been begging me not to tell his dad when he returns from his trip but I feel his father should be aware of the whole thing. Parents out there, how can I check this situation?


Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/203/i-caught-my-14-year-old-son-watching-porn

It takes a lot of self-control (especially for men) to have access to porn and not use it. If he already had a smart phone before the laptop, you may be dealing with an addict, so beating him may not fully solve the problem.

I am still trying to figure out why it is essential for a 14year old boy to have a laptop or smart phone even though you said it was for study. We are not that technologically savy here, kids are still being taught by teachers and given text books for added knowledge. That said, if you choose to live like a westerner, then you are sure to face a lot of the problems they deal with too.

You did well by taking the laptop, but he also has a smart phone you need to take too, tell his dad about it and both of you should figure out what to do. I suggest you find something productive for him to engage in e.g. regular sporting activities, or anything productive that he likes should be encouraged to help him live a more meaningful life.

Obviously both kids lack exposure, hence the fascination

or=machidoh post=36861774]Imagine if You Were a Woman
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•Period pains every month

•Changing Your Surname

•Leaving Your Family

•Give up School for marriage (some)

•Labour Pains

•Building Family For Someone Else

•Body Shape Changes

• The bitch niqqa cheats

•Crying to sleep everyday

•Taking Care of Your Kids independantly during
difficult times Bcz The bitch ass niqqa
disappeared

• Being responsible to raise kiids with nothing in
the pocket

.If You See this My Sister I Respect You

Niqqa Honour Your Woman,Support her(y)(y)(y)(y)(y)

#WomenAreStrong
#MACHIDOH[/quote]Nice 1

bolajioginni:
Our conversation below

''My name is Mimi as my friends call me..am an undergraduate..I have a boyfriend and we have dated for 7months now. Since we started dating, this guy has not done anything for me. I understand perfectly well that he is serving so I don't disturb him about money..
But last night we had problem. The problem is he said the next time we see that we will have sex for a very long time unlike before. I then asked him that, after all these sex that we are having, that what will he leave for my husband if eventually we don't marry. Onlyto him to reply: he said he is eating the main thing now, that my husband will eat the remains.
When he noticed I was not happy with his response, he said he was joking.. Now my question is: should I still go ahead with this guy or should I quit?''

Please start dating your mate, this guy is older and wiser than you. I can tell that you are quite naive regardless of age. It will be safer for you to date your mate(if you have to be in a relationship) You also need to have a (female)mentor, someone who you can learn from. All the best

lolaxavier:
https://cdn.pmnewsnigeria.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/jos.jpg

MAIDUGURI, (Reuters) – A bomb attack on a packed market in northeastern Nigeria bearing the hallmarks of Boko Haram killed around 50 people on Tuesday, sources said.
The explosion struck at around 1:30 p.m. (1230 GMT) in the town of Sabon Gari in Borno state, which is the heartland of the Islamist militant group.
“So far, 52 people are injured, 47 dead persons have been removed from the market,” Umar Kidda, a member of a civilian viligante group, told Reuters by phone.
Kidda, who witnessed bodies being taken away, said the market was busy when the explosion occurred.
A military source who declined to be named said around 50 people had been killed.
Boko Haram has killed thousands of people during a six-year armed campaign to set up an Islamic state in northeastern Nigeria.
According to a Reuters tally, more than 600 people have been killed in raids and bombings by the insurgents since President Muhammadu Buhari took office on May 29, promising to crush the group.
At the start of the year Boko Haram controlled territory about the size of Belgium.
The army said it pushed the group from most of that area in the last few months with the help of troops from Chad, Niger and Cameroon, but there has been a recent resurgence in militant attacks.
No one claimed responsibility for Tuesday’s blast.

http://www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2015/08/11/over-50-killed-in-borno-bomb-blast/

Change has come? RIP to those poor souls

Tummy tummy first, Chiki Chiki second, and Indomie third.

Fry it only when the oil is hot, don't leave it for long in the oil.

Cuties!

To God be the glory great things he has done! Although I hope the OP isn't trying to advertise a hospital.

guntranno:
How much was it before May 29?

I was expecting change

ote author=Rilwayne001 post=36845019]

Okay nah. Time will tell. [/quote]We shall c

Rilwayne001:
YES, Jonathan must go to jail.

Hahhhahahhaha this is so funny! If dem born una well, touch am

Hbd pretty geh

She's looking prettier

oses4u:
last week I bought pms at a non- NNPC station @ N87. I asked why they now sell at dat price they said it because the refinery in warri is working now. soon all petrol stations in warri will sell at that price. so lets be positive and support change.

Since May 29, I have not bought fuel for less than N100

ORALL:
Nah,did your dad rape your sister or was your momma raped too...or are you one of those food for back olosh.o

Tell me..your father

Is he a drunkard/rapist

Gabbage in Gabbage out, bag of filth!

Awww sweet!

She's adorable

ademega:
When a guy is set to marry , he looks for traits such as , care, love, respect , good looking , educated , romantic , intelligent, God fearing , industrious ,compassionate ,fun to be with etc. I must tell you, there are some hidden signs you need to look out for, so that you won’t be catch unaware. like the saying goes, when you are married, divorce is not an option. so, be wise. don't be afraid to break a heart because your life depends on your future than to toil with it.

NOTE:
This may actually be applicable to ladies too but I will want to speak from an angle of a guy .

1) Negative Minded Ladies.

These set of ladies are always pessimistic about anything and everything. You hardly hear them say positive things about any issue except their own exploit. They are in the habit of giving and pointing to negative examples every time. They won’t stop asking you silly questions like “ if armed robber should come to our house and rape me what will you do ?” or assuming we are married and no child for ten years what will be your reaction? “

Note:
Am not saying one should not have some fears about life (evils are everywhere) but when one’s life is dominated in that direction then, there should be a rethink.

Implication:
If you eventually end up with such woman, she will never see anything positive in what you do, no matter how much you try. This can be frustrating as a man especially the hard working ones. They are the type that will always compete with their husband and feel they can do better than their husband if they have same opportunity of equal resources.



2)Haters/ Non Appreciative

This type of lady will always hate anything that doesn’t have anything to do with her. She will condemn even the best obvious good things. No news is good news to her in as much she is not part of the beneficiaries. She is not fascinated by good things around. These are the type of ladies that see a car of your relative or friend that worth millions of naira and say its shouldn’t be more than 500k. She looks down on anybody that does extra ordinary things, believing it’s noting special while she can’t even do one per cent of such.

Implication:
These type of ladies tend to hate every of your family members, friends, and neighbours when she eventually gets what she want (marriage). You your self don’t be surprise you will always be a victim day in day out.
Don’t mind the cordial relationship she is having with people around you now , it’s a matter of time when she eventually gets in ,her full blown colour will show like rainbow in the sky.



3) The Gentle and peace lover

She is always quiet and smiling. She will always take your opinion as the best. In most cases, she hardly antagonises your decisions even when it’s obvious it’s not convenient for her. She will not let out her opinion so that you won’t be angry. Not that she doesn’t have one but she doesn’t want to make you angry. Even if you are angry she will make peace immediately before you get out of her sight . she will always beg .

Note:
Some ladies are naturally loving and gentle, they take life easy, not that they are dull but that is just their life style. Most at times its good to fight separate and come back . it makes partners stronger. The separation may be short or long . what is most important is that you tend to reflect on the relationship if it actually worth it or not. A situation where one of the parties is always making sure this doesn't happen, my brother am afraid .

Implication:
Most ladies that falls into this category are the ones that are very eager to marry. She must have witnessed nearly all her mates or younger ones wedding. So, they need to form zombie to get what they want. Some might have been warned by their relatives and blamed their hot temper for their delay in marriage. So, they had to subside the temperament till when they would have little or nothing to lose. When you eventually marry this type of lady, don’t be surprise when you receive the first "adult slap” from your gentle wife. Watch out. Not only that, you will be surprise when she complains abouabout everything and all things. Those are the ladies that gives directly or indirect rules on family and friends that visit the house while her family members enjoy a free day anytime any day. She stops begging and most times initiate fights.


4) The masculine worker.

When you visit a lady in the house and you discover she has the strength of more than a man .hmmm. You see her fetching water and balancing 50 litters of kegs of water on both hands. You see her painting her own room by herself, taking cutlass clear the surroundings, cutting trees before the Gardner resumes. She kills snakes anyhow. She walks where men can’t even dare.


Note:
It’s good for ladies to be hard working and has the ability to do various house shores but there is work for men and there are works for women. The lady that can do all... hmm.

Implication:
Don’t be surprises when eventually she gets to the house and she sees nothing much to exercise her power on hmm... You may need to have some training in judo or karate.
More also, these kind of ladies will not allow anybody near your house because she believes she can do it all. When the work load is much, you are incorporated into the kitchen by force by fire.



5) The Wedding Planner.

The only thing she is excited to discuss is how the wedding day will be. She doesn’t care about home, about future together, about how to raise the kids. Those are the desperados. She will never talk of how the two of you will attend marriage seminar, single programs, discussing family situations etc.


Note:
It’s normal for ladies to think of wedding and plan towards that great day. But it’s worrisome if that is the 90% talk instead of the marriage plan.

Implication:
Most ladies don’t understand that wedding is not marriage. Most ladies misbehave when they get to their husband house because they failed to prepare for it. They were cut unawares by their husband character which they might have been told at marriage seminars or read about... How would they know when they didn’t prepare? More also, they collude with family members to demand for exorbitant and outrageous bride price even when you struggle to make sure she leaves her fathers’ house



6) The Indoor Lady

The indoor ladies are only exposed to their parent house, schools attended, NYSC and church. Besides all these places, nothing else. They can only talk only on these places in their life time. Worst still, they never read papers, listen to news, No visitation of any kind and Enemies of social media. They are uninformed set of ladies. They are difficult to train. Worst still, they so much have strong conviction about the little they know. They are very difficult to beat in an argument. They are ready to enter into a blind argument with you. These people are very difficult to train. You hardly enjoy watching TV with them or accompany you to places. Her sense of judgment is next to error.

Implication:
welcom to a lonely life where electronic gadgets becomes your best friend. You will prefer talking to yourself like a mad man than discussing with her. Reason why you see some men glued to their phones in the house.

7) Nollywood Fan

All their life style is built around Yoruba, Hausa and Igbo movies. They believe everything they see on their screen. They are millions miles far away from reality .They are always suspicious of all the people around them as evil. They don’t want to make friends so that what happened to Ronke Oshodioke in “campus girls” movie would not happen to them in reality.

Implication:
They will give your life rules of life as if you were just born to the world. Citing relevant and irrelevant movies.

8 ) Fighting Parent Influence :

You go to her house, you over heard her mum screaming on her daddy for hours , you saw or heard this with your own very ears not once, not twice. The fact is, no matter how nice, accommodating, humble, loving and caring your lady is, you will occasionally get that dose. If you are very fortunate it won’t be a daily
dose


Implication:
she will make your life miserable!




9) The Past Perfect Secret Keeper (PPSK)

Any lady that fails to give you a hint (if not details) of how she departed from her former relationship(s), is dangerous. You may soon be the victim of her regular bad character. Like it’s said, character is like a smoke, you can’t cover it. That character that destroyed her former relationship she is keeping away from you will still repeat itself sooner or later. Watch your back bro.

By: ademega

Love conquers all...

yanabasee:
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Hehehehehe...you're pained! Kpele
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My sister's married and have grown up kids! And they're well behaved and well nurtured!
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Ion want to diss u any more! How are you?

Hehheehee no they are not, well nurtured indeed! With a brother like u?! Lol