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Romance / Re: Should I Still Give Him A Chance? by pinkpearl17(f): 8:46pm On Mar 11, 2019
[quote author=lilianofentse post=76557373]Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and I love him more than anything in the world but I'm so fed up with giving chance after chance several times now I've caught him messaging other girls inappropriate stuff and I've forgiven him and then a couple of months later when I've built my trust up with him he will do it again, he also deletes all his messages so that i can't see them all which just makes me go even crazier not knowing what has been said.

2 weeks ago I found out he physically cheated on me which he said he was never planning on telling me. Since I've said we can work on our relationship, spicing up our sex life making more of an effort but it's only me that's making the effort. He isn't trying even tho he says he loves me and wants to be with me and not anyone else.

Tonight he went out with his friends and I waited for 5 hours for him so he could meet with me, instead he wants to stay at his friends because he hadn't finished playing a game. I'm so done with getting my heart broken all the time and making all the effort it makes me feel like it's all my fault the problem I have is I still love him so much but I don't know if i can keep putting my self through this all the time.

He knows how to s.ex me and I also knows he loves me but what I can't understand is why he keeps cheating on me.

Modified: Ps I am trying my best to forget about him. Pls any advice on how to forget him would be appreciated. tnx




He does NOT love you. Thae signs are all over. Can you name 5 thoughtful things he has done to prove his love? And please don't mention sex. It does not count.
He clearly does not care about you or your feelings. How can you say he loves you? What do you think is love?

A man who LOVES you will not intentionally do something to hurt you nor keep repeating something he knows will make you feel bad.

This should enable you make up your mind to leave him.
Run
And I also think you are young. You have a long way to go. Don't burden yourself with all this unnecessary issues. Kick him to the curb

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Health / Re: I Tested Positive To Hepatitis C by pinkpearl17(f): 8:36pm On Mar 11, 2019
Richdad50:
embarassed

Two Options I will lay out for you. Any of them will work. Just remain focused and believe.

1. We all can rally around on Nairaland and contribute money for your treatment. We can raise a thread for that while the Mods will actively advertise the thread. The money that will be raised will cover your treatment. However, people like sincerity thus, you must publish your Med records to enhance believe.

2. Prayer of Faith. You will enter into a prayer of faith declaring your healing in the blood of Jesus. Take the communion for 7days and as you eat the bread and drink of the wine, you will release the healing power of Jesus on your Liver. Place your hands on the Liver and declare the promise of the healing power of the Holyspirit on your organ.
A word of prayer for you; dear Lord Jesus, I realise your healing power upon his Liver right now. Recieve the promise of healing and wholeness. In Jesus name, Amen.

Joanna, I have seen the miraculous and tasted the undiluted power of healing in Christ Jesus. I have also seen men walk to the hospital and recieve treatment. Anyone your heart carries will work for you.

Richdad

Nice suggestions. I agree

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Religion / Struggling To Forgive? Here Are Reasons Why You Must Forgive by pinkpearl17(f): 7:18am On Mar 11, 2019
Father forgive them for they do not know what they do. Luke 23:34.

The above were the words of Jesus on the cross about those who nailed Him there. He implored Jehovah , His father to forgive the perpetrators of the inhumane act. How much worse can it get? Imagine facing this same situation yourself, what would you do or say?

In life, people are bound to infuriate you, hurt you, cause you grief. What happens when such a situation faces you? Do you let go or decide to carry the resentment around with you? Research has shown that bottled up resentment and bitterness reduces a life span and mentally speaking it draws you down. You are in charge of how you should feel.

What situation are you facing that you feel it is impossible for you to let go? Have your lover recently broken up with you? Did your business partner cheat you out of a deal? Or maybe your spouse of many years abandoned you without looking back? It could also be your child breaking your heart.

There are countless scenarios that can play out which may cause you great pain or hurt. What happens when they arise? Forgive. Yes, it is that simple. Forgive them. Christ forgave us even while we were yet sinners so how can we not give freely what we received freely?

Just before you roll your eyes, it takes much less energy to forgive than to bottle up resentment and grudges even when you think the other party does not deserve your forgiveness.

The more you forgive, the more emotional and mental victory you attain. Unforgiveness is like bearing the weight of a mahogany table and expecting the other person to feel the pain,

Unforgiveness eats at your soul and rids you of the most important thing in life - Happiness. It robs you of peace of mind and a heart at rest. Even if not for anything, you must forgive because you were forgiven. There is no situation too terrible that you cannot let go. Remember the parable of Jesus about the unmerciful servant? Matthew 18:21-35. Forgiveness is extending the love of Jesus in you to others.

You might ask, what steps do you take on the journey to forgiveness?

First of all, identify the action, the wrong that was done to you.

2. Remember wrong - doing is an act and does not condemn the doer.

3. Forgive and begin to let go of the grudges rather than dwell on them or swirl them around in your mind countless times. Thinking about it, over- analyzing the situation won't bring you healing. Slowly let go. One by one, shed it off. Reconcile with the situation. It is life, bad things happens and you must move on.

You need to grow and the only way you can move from the spot is by throwing away all bad loads, heavy burden that weighs you down. Trust me, grudges is one hell of a burden. Resentment and bitterness won't get you anywhere.

Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation so you must not necessarily be speaking to them after forgiving them, only make sure there is no animosity in your heart towards them and ýou can maintain cordial relations if you bump into them.

Forgiveness also does not mean you forget it ever happened.

Forgiveness is neither feigning ignorance of the situation or condoning a bad behaviour.

Forgiveness simply means you make a resolution to move past the offense and how it affects you.

It affects you more than the person you think you are holding it against. It is a journey to true recovery. Only when you forgive that you can wholly recover. Master the act of forgiveness, only then can you be truly free. It is putting a seal on the injury and taking away its power to hurt you.

In what ways do you need to start practising forgiveness?

I know you have been touched by this article.

Feel free to like, comment and share.

See you in my next post

Stay blessed

https://musingsandroses./2017/09/10/forgiveness-a-must-do/
Religion / In Search Of Direction - How to get the direction you need from God. by pinkpearl17(f): 7:18am On Mar 10, 2019
The Lord said, I will guide you along the best part for your life, I will advice you and watch over you.

Psalm 32:8 NLT.

When God gives you a vision and a promise, He expects you to get instructions of how it will be done from Him.

We must understand that the covenant of preservation, prosperity and security is interwoven with divine guidance.

God promised us good things but we have to listen to Him to direct us on how to receive these things.
When direction from the Lord is needed, Joshua will stand before Eleazar the Priest, who will use the Urim-one of the sacred lots cast before the Lord- to determine His will. This is how Joshua and the rest community of Isreal will determine everything they should do.

Numbers 27:21

And David inquired of the Lord was repeated severally in the bible emphasizing on how much David prioritize instructions.

One of the reasons David successfully ruled as a king is he never made a step without asking God for directions.

He knew when to stop, go , attack and retreat.

Thankfully, we have the HolySpirit in us so we don't need to wait long to consult for responses
My heart has heard you say, come and talk with me. And my heart responds, ' Lord i am coming'.. Psalm 27:8

God is asking you to come talk with Him. Commit your way to him
Your own ears will hear Him. Right behind you, a voice will say, This is the way you should go, whether to the left or to the right.

Isaiah 30:21.

God is always speaking, the question is are you listening?

What happens when we don't ask for instructions?
Without wise leadership, a nation fails. But victory is won through many advisers.

Prov 11:14

Many make costly mistakes in life as a result of lack of divine guidance. We dabble into relationships, business, careers without clarity of directon. God did not create us to live our life as a guessing game or have a 'whatever goes' attitude.

Divine direction will prevent us from avoidable pitfalls , regrets that could have been avoided, untimely death and lead us in the path of His promise.

That being said, how can we hear from God or know what He is saying pertaining a situation?

Keep reading

Ways you can obtain instructions from God includes:

1. Prayer.

Spend time in thanksgiving and supplications

The power of prayer can not be overemphasized. Anytime we desire to do something, the first step we take is to commit it to God through prayer. Yes, God knows our heart and our thoughts but He needs to hear it from us. He cannot force His way into our lives. We have to let Him come in to direct us.

2. Spend time in the word.

The word of God is light. And the presence of light casts out darkness. In His word is everything we need to live well and right.
All scripture is inspired by God, and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.

2 Timothy 3:16

3. Be open minded to the HolySpirit humble yourself.
He leads the humble in doing right. Teaching them His way

Psalm 25:9.

The Holy-Spirit is available to us as God's children to teach us All things and we can only benefit from this when we humble ourselves and recognize His supremacy.

4. He will bring conversations, informations and opportunities your way.

God has limitless way of speaking to us. I cannot even exhaust it here. So i listed a few. It can even be a phone call from a friend or family related to what you are about to do. You can also see a tv commercial pointing in a direction.

5. He will also make impressions in your heart to nudge you in the right way.

You can be thinking about a particular matter and someone will call you out of the blues with an answer which fits directly to your rhoughts.

You might also be meditating on a business to start or a place to invest, probably as you go out, you see the sign board of a business or company stand out in your head.

There are various ways God speaks to us. We must not necessarily hear a loud voice from the sky. He uses things familiar to us, our day to day activities to speak.

6. God can also speak through dreams.

Our dreams are channels through which we can get revelations. Pay attention to your dreams and make sure you dissect your dreams for it to align with the word of God.

7. Be ready to be in full compliance wuth the Holy Spirit.

God cannot force you to obey Him, He can only instruct us then leave you to make our decision.

8. You can consult the pastor of your local church.

God can also speak to us through other believers and His custodians.

9. Maintain a joyful countenance.

A joyful spirit is a clear spirit. You cannot her the voice of the Spirit clearly when your heart is laden with the cares of this world, you will be ignorant to the voice of the Spirit.

Commit to inquring from God before you take any decisions no matter how inconsequential you think it is. Even something as minute as what you will eat. You can ask God for an instruction. He wants to hear and is ready to talk to you.

He is interested in knowing it from you. Check it out with God first. Make it a lifestyle to consult God in all you do and you will begin to enjoy the fruits of divine guidance.

Finally, ensure to test every voice by the word and discard any one in disagreement with the word. For example, God cannot tell you to go kill or fight someone when the word says otherwise.

Feel free to like this post and drop your comments and contribution.

Stay blessed

https://musingsandroses./2019/03/09/in-search-of-direction-how-to-navigate-life-with-gods-guidance/

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Education / Re: 20 Things I Have Learnt In My 20s. by pinkpearl17(f): 11:22am On Mar 08, 2019
Pridestorm:


You made my day, Op.

Thank you
Education / Re: 20 Things I Have Learnt In My 20s. by pinkpearl17(f): 3:18pm On Mar 07, 2019
fathomberry:
OP permission to copy and paste?

Sure, just credit the source while at it. Thanks

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Education / 20 Things I Have Learnt In My 20s. by pinkpearl17(f): 12:50pm On Mar 07, 2019
I have been around in this world for over two decades, so technically, I have learnt a couple of lessons in this imperfect journey of life and would like to share with you. All of which i hope will bring value to you. Here they are;

1. Knowledge is key

Reading can change your life. I read virtually anything and everything in order to learn a new thing everyday. I always feel i will not survive a day without reading something even if it is a 300 word article. Reading is likened to travelling the world through the eyes of others.

2. Family is everything

People will come and leave but family stays no matter what. Family to some people may not necessarily be blood relations but people you have come to develop a very close bond with and you really trust. These are the ones who will stand by you. To me, family is my parents and siblings. They have been more than i can ask for and i am grateful everyday for the blessing of family.

3. Unforgiveness is a silent killer

Holding on to grudges is so outdated. Why give someone that much power over me? I am mastering the act of forgiveness so before anyone offends me, i have already forgiven.

4. Have a good diet and drink water constantly

I have learnt over the years how my diet affects my look, mood and health. Now, i take conscious decisions to eat right everyday. Some days, i don't get it right, other days i do. In the end, making an effort is all that matters.

5. Relationships are not a do or die affair

So they want to go? Let them

They are staying? Put in your best.

Take no one for granted.

6. Smart work is equally as important as hardwork

It is not enough to work hard but learning how to do things the right way, organizing our schedule to get maximum time benefit and being in the right place at the right time all adds up.

7. Procrastination delays success

It is easy and tempting to keep putting off duties and responsibilities for another day but i have learnt that taking one step a day everyday in the direction you want to go is better than doing nothing at all.

8. Love is the cure of all ills.

Love extravagantly. You can never go wrong with loving.

9. It is okay to make mistakes

We are all flawed. Perfection does not exist in this world so it is normal not to get it right sometimes. It is okay to make wrong decisions , poor choices because emotions plays a huge role in humans and all we do. What matters is what you make out of it. Do you learn from them and move on or stay in the pit of regret ?

10. Intuition, the sixth sense is almost always right.

Many of the times i have taken a wrong step are coincindentally the times i did not listen to my guts. Intution can be likened to a guiding force we can use to avoid many pitfalls and take better steps.

11. To be happy in a relationship, be happy with yourself first

Self love comes first. We can only find happiness within us and until we do, it will be difficult to flow easy with someone else.

12. Friends come and go

What is the big deal in friends who go? People grow apart with time. Life happens, tastes and priorities changes, all these can get in the way of maintaining an association and that is okay. Nothing to beat yourself over.

13. God is real

There are times when i get to a 'I can't go any further point' and something just happens to uplift my spirit. If that isn't God, what is?

14. Contentment is key

Why compare myself or possessions with another when there is enough to go round in the world? I learnt to be perfectly okay with where i am and what i have, i envy noone. Note, the word here is content not complacent.

15. Gratitude ensures happiness

To be happy is to be consciously grateful of all the good things happening or has happened to you. Happiness is not a destination but an attitude.

16. You can do more than you think

We limit ourselves in our mind due to a number of factors like how we grew up, the people we have been listening to and societal dictates but i have come to realize that the embargoes exist only in my mind. I stretch myself beyond what i think. If i think i can do 4, i do 8.

17. Learn a new hobby

Whether it is instrument, dancing singing, playing a sport, a new language, taking care of the elderly, learn something new.

18. Be kind to others

Life is tough. Everybody has a point of pain somewhere in their lives. Don't add to it with nastiness. Use kind words and action as a healing balm to everyone you come across.

19. The regret of what you didn't do is bigger than the regret of what you did.

It is better to attempt something than sit back and let life pass you by. It is better to say 'i did it and failed' than 'i wish i had done it'.

20. Don't take life too seriously

Whatever you do, don't forget to play, laugh, have fun, nor take things personal. It is not that serious.

What lessons have you learnt in your life? Feel free to share.

https://musingsandroses./2019/03/07/20-lessons-i-have-learnt-in-life/

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Religion / 8 Things You Should Know About Unanswered Prayers by pinkpearl17(f): 7:42am On Mar 03, 2019
What is prayer and why do we pray?

Prayer is a spiritual communication with God. It is a time when we talk to Him and also listen to hear Him and to also develop deep intimacy. When you become a child of God, you have the privilege of this special communication with Him.

We pray to maintain a constant communion with God and to be able to relate with Him, know and do His will and lay out desires on Him.

Prayer is an effective tool in communicating with God. Jesus Christ was always praying.

Many atimes He withdrew to be alone in order to pray. It was a necessity.Luke 5:16

In the book of John, Jesus instructed believers to ask for anything in His name and it will be done unto us. John 14:14.

That being said, why do we pray sometimes without seeing results?

1. Our motives are wrong.
When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

James 4:3

We pray for something just because another person has it and we desire it. There is no tangible reason why we want it. Know you not that this is coveteousness and the bible warns against it?

2.Unforgiveness and grudges.

A broken and contrite heart, God will not despise. If our heart is filled with grudges, Unforgiveness and bitterness, it will be difficult for your prayers to be answered because Jesus specifically said
'before you pray, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.' Mark 11:25.

Our personal answered prayer is conditioned upon our relationship with others and with God. You cannot be fuming with bitterness and rage against your fellow human and go to pray.

3. Our heart is filled with wickedness and oppression.
The Lord is far from the wicked but He hears the prayers of the righteous Proverbs 15:29 NLT.

When you lift up your hands in prayer, i will not look. Though you offer many prayers, i will not listen. For your hands are covered with the blood of innocent victims. Isaiah 1:15

4. We pray amiss

All our prayers should begin with thanksgiving. We should also pray with scriptural backing. Your prayer points and process should be in line with the word of God.

5. Doubt.

Doubt is like planting a seed today and uprooting it the following day before it germinates. When you pray, don't doubt.
'But when you ask Him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as the wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind.

Such people should not expect to receive something from the Lord. James 1:6 &7

6. God has answered by saying 'no'.

'According to His will', This is the caveat Jesus gave inorder for any prayer we make to be answered. Our desires must be tailored in line with the will of God so our prayers can be answered.
For God is working in you, giving you the desire and power to do what pleases Him. Philippians 2:13

Delight yourself in the Lord and He will grant you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

Do you realise what is going on here? God has first put His desires in you so when you pray, this desires will be fulfilled.

7. God is saying, 'Not yet'.

As a parent, if your 8 year old child ask for a car to drive, will you give them? They will have to get to 18years before they can legally be able to drive. So what do you say to them? Not yet, my child.

There is a level of spiritual maturity you will need to get to as a Christian before some prayers will be answered. And you attain this level of maturity when you continually feed on His word and allow it to transform and renew your mind. This is required because it will enable you to handle your blessings properly and for you to be stretched enough to handle it.

8. God is saying, keep knocking.

Remember the story of the unrighteous Judge and the widow? Never stop praying. 1 Thessalonians 5:17. Persistent prayers develops patience in us.

Be persistent in your prayers. The timing of God cannot be evaluated by man. It can take 5 seconds, minutes, days, weeks, months or years. Only keep praying.
'Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours." Mark 11:24.

Our Heavenly Father cannot withold any good thing from us. This is the promise He has made. Your prayers will never be in vain. Believe.

https://musingsandroses./2019/02/25/8-things-you-should-know-about-unanswered-prayers/

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Romance / How to get over a breakup - picking up the pieces by pinkpearl17(f): 2:08pm On Feb 28, 2019
To let go is to remove the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clinging and disappointment of the past that binds our spirit.

Jack Kornfield.

Heartbreaks are tough from the heartache, pain, being disillusioned and crushed. All of a sudden, a person we have let into our lives, gotten interwoven with and made plans with walks away. It is a difficult situation but you can get through it. I have put together a few practical tips of how you can get over a breakup. I am confident it will help you if you practise them. Lets take a look at them below.

1. Cry.

Cry until the tears can no longer fall. Crying helps to relieve the weight on your chest. All the pent up emotions of anger and hurt, will pour out through tears. I know it hurts because to you the person meant the whole world and now they ate gone, it feels the world have left and rejected you. So cry it out.

2. Be angry.

It is okay to be mad. You invested emotions, time, money, resources into somethinh that flopped, so anger is expected. Allow yourself to feel the anger but don't get stuck in this phase.

3. Accept it.

Whether you like it or not, people will come and go from our lives. It is inevitable in life and does not define our worth in anyway. It just signifies their time in our lives is over. Reconcile with yourself. All the 'why' questions you keep asking won't change anything. Don't dwell on what coulda shoulda woulda been. The reality is, the relationship is over. Face it. Accept it and move on.

4. Release them in your heart

Don't be bitter. It will only hold you down and slow your heaing process. Whatever you do, don't demonize them in your heart or focus on all the wrong things that was done to you. As it takes two to agree so it takes two to disagree. Forgive them and let them go. Forgive yourself too. It is not your fault.

Release them in your subconscious mind. Remind yourself of all the reasons it did not work. Maybe you could have done better. Maybe she could have done better. Learn the lessons and move on. Let them go from your thoughts. Comsciously learn how to block the thoughts when they come.

Replace it with other things, with time your subconscious will pick it up and stop bringing up the thoughts. It takes practise but it will fade with time. The more you hold on, the more you hamper your growth and prevent yourself from opening to someone else. Let go.

5. Fall in love with yourself

This point cannot be overemphasized. I understand a break up makes us question our worth as a person. We beat up ourselves for inadequacies that we perceive might have led or contributed to the break up.

This is a normal reaction in our irrational mode but harmful to our emotional and mental wellbeing. A break up does in no way reduce you. Your identity is in Christ Jesus and it cannot change. No human factor can change it.

You were made in the likeness of God. A mere relationship break cannot define you. Your worth is priceless. Look in the mirror and see how marvellously God designed you. You are a masterpiece

6. Find a hobby.

Whether it is singing, dancing, learning an instrument, sports, starting a blog, whatever it is you love doing, find something to do and invest your energy in it. This will help so much as it will shift the enetgy from yout broken relationship into the new hobby.

7. Have a support system

It could be your family or closest friends you can confide in. But talk to someone. Talk about it until you dont feel pain anymore. It has proven that when we say things out and actually hear the words, we are more objective about it than when it is holed up in our mind.

8. You will find someone else.

Right now, you may feel so hurt and think you will never find anyone like your ex partner or be able to love anyone else again. This is the biggest lie of the century. Your brain is playing tricks on you. There are other amazing people out there. And you will meet someone else, love again. It is the circle of life. The pain will be nothing but a distant memory to you.

There is a reason for everything. You can find purpose in pain if you decide to.

Love is so real. It is unfortunate we might have a few bad experiences in our journey of finding love, but this in no way invalidates the existence of love. God is love and as long as there is God, there is love.

Pain is very temporal but love is everlasting. I pray God heals your heart. I leave you with this verse
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. He determines the number of the stars and calls them each by name. Great is our Lord and mighty in power. His understanding has no limit. Psalm 147:3-7.

You are loved.� � �
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Romance / One Major Cause Of Breakups We Often Neglect by pinkpearl17(f): 12:55am On Feb 21, 2019
Never leave a true relationship for a few faults. Nobody is perfect, Nobody is correct. In the end, affection is always greater than perfection- Anonymous

If you were asked what your ideal relationship looked like, what would it look like? Is there any semblance of it to your current relationship?

I hear complains like, when we first started dating, he/she was not like this. They changed overnight. And i ask, What really changed? Our partner or our perception of them?

One of the biggest reasons the quality of relationships diminishes overtime is because we shift focus from all the good qualities we saw in the beginning to all the flaws and imperfections. We begin to see all the negatives. This in turn causes friction in relationship and ultimately lead to break up; for what you focus on, you empower and what you empower rules you.

It is good to have high standards for a relationship, the ‘all or nothing” mindset. As we are all on a journey to settle with someone our heart will be at peace with.

The question is, when does it become extreme? Where do we cross the line from real to unrealistic expectations?

The problem with setting unreasonable standards for others is we will be on a constant lookout for someone better/perfect and can fit into our perfectionist standards.

While this is a good outlook if it is for your car or career, it is destructive when manifested in our relationships.



You underrate your relationship if you are constantly on the look out for faults or perfection. When things are going well, you take it for granted but at the first sign of disagreement, you go off like a bolt of volcano.

Don’t get me wrong, issues like disrespect, rudeness and abuse of any form whether verbal, physical or emotional are viable reasons to break off a relationship right away.

Minor issues like forgetting chores, messes, insensitive statements, forgetfulness on important activities all stand out and metamorphose into big fights because we had long overlook all the good that has neen going on

This tendency is bad to the extent of us seeking out problems when we dont see any in sight and just like the bible says, what you seek, you find.

There are real life issues and there are problems you manufacture in your mind. These non-existent problems cause avoidable disputes.

If you a master fault finder, then you are a perfectionist.

The build up of minor offences is a catalyst to breakdown any loving relationship.

The best way to stop this is by changing your perception. The way you see things and your mind processes it determines your response to it.

If you choose to see the positives and focus on them, you will find yourself more appreciative of your partner. This does not mean disregarding major red flags like violence but overlooking minor annoyances like not taking out the garbage, forgetting to switch off the bulb or leaving thr toilet seat up.

Give your partner the benefit of doubt. Research has shown that when you let people know how much confidence you have placed on them and how you trust them to do right, it will encourage and move them into living upto it.

Note: the keyword here is confidence not expectation. Confidence is letting them play out their plan which you trust will be in the best interest of the both of you while expectations is wanting them to do it your way according to your standard.

What have you been overlooking in your relationship, begin to give your partner credit for it. Take note of all the nice things they do for you and the relationship, appreciate it everyday.

This can apply to all other forms of relationship; parent-children, sibling -sibling, friends, employer – employees.

It is about time you stop being overly critical of others afterall, everybody is flawed including you. Begin to see only the good in them. Hone the strengths and diminsh the weaknesses. Stop destroying your relationship with harsh crictism.

Christ showed us this example by avoiding all forms of crictism. Rather than tell people how bad they are or all the bad things they have done, He made them see past offenses don’t count and how good the future can be.

Follow this example, let the change begin in your heart and you will notice changes in your relation with others. Be less critical and more accepting. Ask the HolySpirit to touch your heart.

What are the key relationships in your life you believe you need to start appreciating more?

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Celebrities / Re: Ufuoma McDermott And Daughter, Kessiana Step Out In Matching Outfits To Church by pinkpearl17(f): 9:56pm On Feb 03, 2019
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Business / Re: Jewellery Business And Barbing Saloon, Which Is Better? by pinkpearl17(f): 7:38am On Jan 24, 2017
Addicted2Women:
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I would recommend a barbing salon

But jewelry business is good but not that great, who do you want to sell those jewelries to ?? Where do you wanna sell them ??

When you say jewelry, you mean real jewelries like Jesus piece, Cuban links, Hublots and Audemars or you mean those fake dog chain the Hausa people sell ??

If you want those type of dog chain the Hausa guys sell, go to China, they are very cheap there

Why would you go to Dubai ?? This is the reason why many of you won't be successful in business, you want to rush to Dubai to go see tall buildings

If you call yourself a businessman and don't know that China is the business headquarter of the world, you don't deserve to be in business

When i went to China, i was shocked, i saw them manufacture Rolex Replicas and Audemar Piquet replicas, i bought 3 Rolex for $400, came back to New York and went to a Rolex shop and sold each one for $13,000

Things are manufactured cheaply in China, for example, an IPhone 6 earphones for $1 and sell them for $13 in the USA [/b]
Pure lie. Original Rolex watches are made of titanium which is very expensive. Only a dumb person would not know that. You can never buy fake Rolex watches and sell it to a real Rolex watch dealer in the Us because there are chemical test to determine if the watch is truly original. Easy with d lies
Foreign Affairs / Re: Melania Trump's Stunning Dress To The Trump Pre-inauguration Dinner by pinkpearl17(f): 7:06pm On Jan 20, 2017
fabre4:




still doesn't make u better than her

Why attack her? U just displayed ignorance. Do u know the meaning of classy? She is complimenting the lady. Read before you respond
Celebrities / Re: Freeze Offers N20k To Lady Who Told Him To Leave Pastors & Face His Work (Pics) by pinkpearl17(f): 12:52pm On Dec 17, 2016
Old senseless man. At ur age. No wonder your ex wife beats you because u r an animal. Shame on u.
Celebrities / Re: Freeze Advises Oyedepo To Sell His Private Jet To Educate His Students For Free by pinkpearl17(f): 4:25pm On Dec 14, 2016
Freeze is just stupid. Why cant he sell his expensive watches and give to the poor? What moral ground does he have? Why should he rear children out of wedlock? Pot calling kettle black. Can he work as hard as Dr Oyedepo works?
Celebrities / Re: Freeze Advises Oyedepo To Sell His Private Jet To Educate His Students For Free by pinkpearl17(f): 3:40pm On Dec 14, 2016
Who is Daddy freeze? Wants to be relevant by attacking people bigger than him. Os it his money? What is his pain?
Fashion / Re: Neurite Mendes Wins Miss Africa 2016 In Calabar by pinkpearl17(f): 10:58pm On Nov 27, 2016
Richardonald:
I watched it, the truth is that the gal didn't win miss africa because of beauty, atleast there are more than 15 gals who are prettier than her, she won it with her intelligence, she was very brain enough when they ask her question about climate change.. I gave her MY NUMBA 1 she deserves it.
She also had poise and grace that most of the other girls did not have. She Is pretty alright. Her poise , elegance and intelligence nailed it
Family / Re: Marriage Is Not For Better Or For Worse by pinkpearl17(f): 6:41am On Nov 01, 2016
mastermaestro:
Where did you generate this absurd tale from? Come up with something reasonable to elicit appropriate responses. undecided
I did not generate it. I read it. There Is a forum basically for relationships. It is called break it or make it. The story is real 100%
Family / Marriage Is Not For Better Or For Worse by pinkpearl17(f): 5:39pm On Oct 31, 2016
I recently read a story of a woman who lets her husband cut her during lovemaking because he enjoys licking her blood. According to her, blood turns her husband on. He beats her with sharp objects to bleed so that he can lick the blood and gets aggressive if she attempts to wipe off the blood.
The woman who is a mother with numerous scars from the injuries inflicted by her husband claims marriage is for better or worse. So she needs to pay that sacrifice so as not to be single.
. Is marriage really for better or worse?
. What would be the deal breaker for you?
NYSC / Re: Corper Lawal Auwal Kontagora Shot Dead In Kaduna While Visiting Female Friend by pinkpearl17(f): 12:17pm On Oct 24, 2016
I sense betrayal. His friends must have planned this. Envy transforms people to demons. Whoever that was privy to his movement. I really dont think it is a random killing. R.I.P

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NYSC / Official Book Presentation Of A Batch B Stream 2 Corps Member In F.C.T Abuja. by pinkpearl17(f): 9:48pm On Oct 08, 2016
A Nairalander who is a batch b corps member serving in Abuja by the name, Angel Odogwu, a graduate of microbiology from Delta State University wrote and published a book titled 'Make the Moments' which borders on youths channeling their energy into positive Endeavour that will yield favorable fruits in the future. It is a clarion call to young ones to make every time of their lives count. If young ones fail to invest their time wisely, they end up having just regrets to look back to.
The book launch held on the 5th of October 2016 at the National press center Abuja and the book is now officially available.

Education / Re: Delta State University (DELSU), Abraka Thread by pinkpearl17(f): 10:51pm On Jul 27, 2016
Pls does delsu accept D.E for med surg?
Religion / Re: How Nigerian Pastors Breed Corruption In Nigeria By Pastor Sunday Adelaja. by pinkpearl17(f): 9:11am On Jun 26, 2016
This man is wise

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Education / Re: 10 Reasons Why You Should Go For Postgraduate Studies by pinkpearl17(f): 12:36pm On Jun 22, 2016
zubinike:


Lie lie kill u, he had first class from U.I, he should be doing is doctorate degree now and not M.SC, unless you missed something
Lol. Everyone has something to say just yo downgrade Education. Granted, people make money without acquiring masters but there are still people who make money because of how educated they are. The value of education is inestimable. When God' decides to bless you, he blesses the works of your hand.
Celebrities / Re: Sonia Ogbonna Shares Her Post-Baby Body Journey, Encourages Ladies by pinkpearl17(f): 8:31pm On Jun 10, 2016
cruzita:
even if u can't afford modern technologies ,u can do the manual ones everyday in your room .manual ones gives fast and accurate results even.I'm a sports person and I know what I'm saying
I support you 100%.many women are lazy about physical exercise. They tell you it is genetics. I have young friends now who say they dont have strength to exercise. Is it when they are married and saddled with responsibilities of kids and hubby that they would now pick up the habit? Belly fat from C.s is hard to lose but at least it can be controlled. Kudos to women.
Celebrities / Re: Blame Your Man For Cheating, Not The Other Woman - Emma Nyra by pinkpearl17(f): 11:42am On Apr 26, 2016
Pls tell them it is their man they should tame. When has fighting the other woman ever stop po ed him from cheating?

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Celebrities / Re: Doris Simeon Wants To Restore Her Virginity by pinkpearl17(f): 9:32pm On Apr 23, 2016
NAMDOSKY30:
Men don't know what they have, women don't know what they want....I wonder wetin this man see for S.D wey make am divorce this fine beautiful girl....girls beware of your friends....
S.D is really beautiful in addition to her melodious voice. Her pictures dont flatter her.Meet her in person and confirm it. So if it is about beauty, she is more than equal to the task
Religion / Re: 'any Christian Indulging In These Listed Sins Is Already On His/her Way To Hell' by pinkpearl17(f): 10:24am On Apr 21, 2016
cold:
A mentally deranged god will always breed mentally deranged followers..sigh
Just shut up. You have no right to insult the religion of others even when you dont share the same beliefs. Atheist my foot. How were you made? Did you fall from the sky? At least acknowledge the existence of a Supreme Being.
Back to the topic, it is the pastor who needs mental evaluation.

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Literature / Re: Resources For Young Writers by pinkpearl17(f): 6:38am On Apr 21, 2016
Nice one!!!
Sports / Re: They Say This Jean-Kévin Augustin Is 18 Years, What Do You Think. by pinkpearl17(f): 1:13pm On Apr 20, 2016
MrAkias:
JEAN-KEVIN AUGUSTIN (18
years old) | Paris Saint-Germain
| 5 goals Na wa o.... they say dis guy is jst 18 yrs.... guys wats ur take on dis... is dis guy really 18yrs, abi na wetin...


[img]Jean-Kévin Augustin (born 16 June 1997) is a French footballer who currently plays as a striker for Ligue 1 side Paris Saint-Germain[/img]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jean-K%C3%A9vin_Augustin
Looking at your dp, I thought I saw a rabbit but then with the wide mouth, I dont know if it is a goat now. How can you call someone ugly? Do you look at your self in the mirror at all? Seek a professional advice.
Celebrities / Re: Flavour And Anna At His Father's Birthday Celebration by pinkpearl17(f): 2:02pm On Apr 19, 2016
chisco82:

Oh! Now i can understand you better. The bolded: You are among those that feels that celebrities are diffrent from other people therefore whatever they does is moraly right. A girl u admitted she sleept with diffrent men should be applauded because they are respected men. Hope that is not ur goal, praying to do so.
No offence. Hope you are not the same with.her.anyway.
Sandra has a beautiful soul. She is so kindhearted. When you are with her, she makes you feel good whether male or female. Let her be. Moreover she is the first baby mama. Girls sleep around with guys in order to keep them or to make them marry them and these so called guys end up dumping them. Sandra decides she wants older, successful people, it is her choice. Between. Sin of fornication is the same. It doesn't matter if it is with your boyfriend or your man friend, you are all committing sin. If you have never slept with any girl, dumped her or if you are not sleeping with your current girlfriend then you have the moral justification to say something.

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Sports / Re: They Say This Jean-Kévin Augustin Is 18 Years, What Do You Think. by pinkpearl17(f): 1:51pm On Apr 19, 2016
The only thing I can see is that he is a footballer, paid thousands of pounds every week, successful and young. Have I answered you @ op? By the way, he was born in Paris, birth register is computerized. You can't change it or you are telling me govt changed it for him? France is not Nigeria.

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