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Iyaebe:
Let's be truthful to ourselves, we all have that careers of men that immediately turn us off on finding out. Mine goes thus:
- Anything media is a big turn off, Bankers, The ' I work from home' groups, Teachers, Bitcoin traders and other Internet businesses, Car dealers.Please add yours, no insults.

UDOKABESTLUV:
Ex-BBNaija housemate, Esther Agunbiade, turns 25 today August 22, Reports.

From The Information Gathered By , She shared sexy new photos of herself on her Instagram page this morning with the caption;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CS3n7uqMew7/?utm_medium=copy_link

wordcat:
Ajasco,

Papa Ajasco,

Mama Ajasco,

Boy Alinco,

Pa James,

Pa Jimoh

I don forget that lady name

Felimax:
I did not read anywhere she said anything about bride price. Her point is, the ex did not take responsibility for over 11 years of marriage that alone is enough maltreatment.
Yes, she said she stood by him owing to the fact that he may not have and even went ahead to take loan on his behalf which she is still indebted to till date but when the ex ran to social media he never mention how much of a failure he has been.
People should learn to take responsiblity for their actions and inactions.
Some men think marriage is all about carrying a mighty dick and if that is where their brain is located the marriage is doom to fail.
Yes, real men take responsiblity, every Adam will look for an Eve to blame.

Vickyvice:
read Matthew 19;9; you can divorce for reasons, but if it's on d ground of unfaithfulness, cheating, you can remarry.but if not on cheating, don't remarry or you reconcile, but if you divorce, and your mate starts seeing someone, or dies, u are biblically free to remarry

dre11:
Curled from this thread....
https://www.nairaland.com/6695502/mother-tina-adeeyo-left-husband

The wife has responded to the allegation


http://saharareporters.com/2021/08/11/why-i-left-my-husband-11-years-married-pastor-adeeyo-%E2%80%93-nigerian-woman

HigherEd:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2484752211668635&id=444807728996437

Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

SUPERPACK:
So effect of global warming is now God testing the microphone to you? Religion is truly the opium of the masses.

Prolificgiant:
Don't go and impregnate the wife oo, I don't trust u in that area

CharisEleos:
Serves you right! Next time , you watch what you say to a woman. Especially one who loved you enough to marry you. Mind you, it was marriage to you and the birthing of your children that made her fat. You still have the guts to rub it in her face by body shaming her.


Even though I don't support the aspect of unforgiveness on her part, I think you deserve to be taught a lesson or two for jam-talking.
One thing you should know is, everybody is not the same, as we all have different tolerance level and a limit to what we can stomach. Our attitude and reactions to issues also differ. So don't expect everyone to handle matters lightly.

You have really hurt her. Words are like eggs, once spoken/broken, can not be taken back. Right now, a lot will be going through her mind like, so all the while you have been looking at her with contempt and disgust..... You know? And that's why she left the room in case you don't know. So, you have to be careful what you say to a woman. Learn to bridle your tongue.

Yes, a woman can stay without sex for years. Very possible.

ollins:
I Really don't know what to do anymore as I am so tired and frustrated of begging my wife for sex.
Ok,let me try and explain my plight,I have been married to my wife since 2010 and we have been blessed with two lovely boys.
This whole issue of my wife not wanting sex with me started in December last year 2020 when we were watching a documentary about people loosing weight and I told my wife playfully that she needs to loose weight but I regretted the words immediately I said them as she is sensitive about her weight,before then we had no problem whatsoever .
2 days later ,she told me that I made her angry by suggesting to her that she was fat and that she would never ever forgive me .
I immediately apologized that I was only joking but she said she would never ever forgive me,I went down on my knees to apologise but all to no avail,I then enlisted the help of my brother in law and mother in law to beg her for me,I even asked her best friend whom she is very fond of to beg for me but none of them could change her mind.
She then moved out of my room but we still maintained our marriage and House.
Right now she has vowed never to sleep with me,at a stage I started suspecting if she had someone else as she is always on the phone chatting but I have no proof that she is cheating.
I have tried everything I can to apologise to her all to avail,I am thinking of going to her church now to report to her pastor or something (we don't attend the same church).
The most painful thing in all this is that my wife knows I have high libido for sex and she chose that to punish me.
Please advise me on what to do because I am so confused and I can't believe my wife has refused me sex since December last year till now.
I am tired of masturbating,(a married man o,�)I have cried and all that to her and she told me something last night that chilled me to my bones which I am still trying to understand,she told me she can stay without sex for years if she is not interested, please � women in the House,is that possible?for a Married woman
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AutoChick4U:
Mtcheeeeeew. The mistake you made was begging. See when you beg much you come across as weak but when you stand your ground as a man, no woman will use you shine.

ollins:
I Really don't know what to do anymore as I am so tired and frustrated of begging my wife for sex.
Ok,let me try and explain my plight,I have been married to my wife since 2010 and we have been blessed with two lovely boys.
This whole issue of my wife not wanting sex with me started in December last year 2020 when we were watching a documentary about people loosing weight and I told my wife playfully that she needs to loose weight but I regretted the words immediately I said them as she is sensitive about her weight,before then we had no problem whatsoever .
2 days later ,she told me that I made her angry by suggesting to her that she was fat and that she would never ever forgive me .
I immediately apologized that I was only joking but she said she would never ever forgive me,I went down on my knees to apologise but all to no avail,I then enlisted the help of my brother in law and mother in law to beg her for me,I even asked her best friend whom she is very fond of to beg for me but none of them could change her mind.
She then moved out of my room but we still maintained our marriage and House.
Right now she has vowed never to sleep with me,at a stage I started suspecting if she had someone else as she is always on the phone chatting but I have no proof that she is cheating.
I have tried everything I can to apologise to her all to avail,I am thinking of going to her church now to report to her pastor or something (we don't attend the same church).
The most painful thing in all this is that my wife knows I have high libido for sex and she chose that to punish me.
Please advise me on what to do because I am so confused and I can't believe my wife has refused me sex since December last year till now.
I am tired of masturbating,(a married man o,�)I have cried and all that to her and she told me something last night that chilled me to my bones which I am still trying to understand,she told me she can stay without sex for years if she is not interested, please � women in the House,is that possible?for a Married woman
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Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Badsatan:
We need to come together find way through this Poland Waka. The school route too expensive. But we go do more research and watch alittle. Let's keep in touch

Womanizer:
You just confirmed that you have low self esteem in not why would you be so paranoid as to start loosing sleep over who she's chatting with.

Make you kukuma carry your wife's hand bag and be following her to the hair salon cos you're afraid that other men will toast her.

There are women everywhere and you can even be dating 5 at the same time if you want so I don't understand why any guy should become a monitoring spirit over his woman

Shortyyy:
The most confused gender in the world is the male gender.

They won't marry an Instagram babe but go ahead and cheat on their wives with an Instagram babe. Odiegwu o

If only women will understand that marriage isn't a do or die affair, men won't have to give them foolish conditions just to marry them.


A woman that her business is mostly on social media, will drop her business just because she wants to answer "Mrs" What a waawu!

Badsatan:
Poland and Lithuania which is better?

The problem with Lithuania is they have no embassy in Nigeria.

Badsatan:
Are there jobs in Lithuania?

esteeino13:
This 1.5m should be enough for poland work visa the koko is getting an agent that will process it for but u can make ur research here on nairaland..u will get what u need

Nemere2020:
Soldiers in show of force
You may observe order if you like — Umahi
Price hike, panic buying in Awka, Aba, Umuahia


https://dailytrust.com/sit-at-home-order-fear-anxiety-in-southeast

aminulive:
POLITICSNIGERIA.COM


https://politicsnigeria.com/breaking-police-capture-neutralize-ahmed-gulaks-killers-photos/

sokkatua:
Hi fellow Nairalanders, I want to share my story with you. I have been living in Canada for over 20 years, unfortunately, a Nigerian girl whom I love very much broke my heart in 2005, I was disillusioned and almost died from the depression. In 2007, my father, God rest his soul decided to introduce me to his doctor, a fresh graduate of the nation's premier university. I instantly fell in love with her, we would talk for hours, my phone bill was astronomical, unfortunately, in 2008 I was arrested in a caribean country for attempted smuggling. My wife patiently waited for me till I got out in 2012. We got married and had a daughter, but because of my criminal past, I could not sponsor my wife and daughter till 2019, so I had to travel to Nigeria every year to visit them.
To cut the long story short, i spent almost 15K dollars altogether, everything was great in the beginning but then I lost my 60k a year job in 2020 and that was the beginning of the end of my marriage. My wife would leave home for two days claiming she's working overtime, she would cook for my daughter but not for me , we longer communicate in the house, she refuses to contribute anything towards mortgage or bills because according to her, it's man's job to pay for everything even though I m only making minimum wage working as a concierge. A particular guy drops her off every time she goes to work and when i asked her who he is , she went into a tirade questioning my rights to question her.I tolerated her effrontery till three weeks ago when she was boldly telling a guy she loves him right in front of me . I lost my cool and I ended up in jail for 3 days . Right now I m not allowed to go back to the house or contact my daughter whom she now claims is not mine .I have decided to return to Nigeria with the 25k left in my account,i cant go back to prison again because prisoners often targets anyone accused of harming a woman or a child. I'm appealing to anyone to please hook me up with a job or any hustle in Nigeria.

Bhus21:
Jesus did ask her to go and sin no more. He didn't condemn her to death. Suggesting that there is redemption available to all even an adulterous woman. No?

Bhus21:
Some 3 weeks ago I confronted my wife about a man she'd been seeing. She unapologetically told me she had slept with him and wanted a divorce. This is my attempt to process this shock to my system and heal from the trauma.

jurgenkloppp:
My fiancée finds it difficult to apologize even when I have made it clear that what she said or did offends me. She would not apologize unless she has convinced herself that what she did or said is actually worth apologizing for, if she doesn't feel what she did or said is wrong, she would never apologize no matter how angry what she said or did makes me feel.

I have already done her introduction, but I am considering calling off the engagement and cancelling the wedding plans. I feel it's only pride that makes someone act or behave in this manner. She also has a short temper, that I am trying to manage but I certainly can't cope with her also being proud.

Guys am I overthinking or she is actually proud.

Lovethaa:
There's this neighbor of mine , He used to be an Abuja based but work made him relocate to Lagos ,

To cut the Long story short we became friends after a while and we do chilli and Go out together . Although he is 5 years older than me .

He told me of his intentions to settle down as soon as possible which is right considering the fact that he is financially stable plus not getting younger ,

He recently met this babe around where we both stay and they started going out , I didn't think it was something serious until he revealed to me that he wants to marry her .


Now the issue here is that I used to know a guy that once dated the babe and after they broke up the guy revealed to me the crazy things they did and he also mentioned some of his friends that have tasted the babe in the same area too , I almost toasted her myself back then just to get a piece of the cookie but I later ignored the thought ,

So when my friend told me he wants to marry her ,It broke my heart because I felt he deserved more than a lady who had been used many times especially where he lives , Although at first I didn't want to tell him but I later opened up to him and the guy felt bad because he loves the babe but he thanked me , (Unknown to me that he had gone far as meeting the babe parents).


Long story short My friend broke up with her and the babe called me up ,laying curses on my head, Strong curses saying I won't know peace for destroying her relationship..

.How she got to know I was the one who told her boyfriend I didn't know.


I blocked her numbers and warned her not to call me again because the curses were too much and she was actually crying why cursing me

Those curses and tears got me feeling uncomfortable and I have been wondering if I did anything wrong.

Was I wrong for interfering ?..Truth is I would have felt betrayed if my friend knows some secrets about my fiancee and he didn't tell,I was only putting myself in his shoes



P.s I need you honest opinion .....

bukatyne:
Good day Peeps

Disclaimer: THIS IS BUKATYNE's THREAD

Intro: It is a long read

It recently dropped in my heart/mind that the two reigning philosophies (feminism/women) and (red pill/men) are anti-Christianity i.e. you cannot be a Christian and be a modern-feminist or a red piller. In addition to the points below, modern-feminism and red pill fan the ambers of distrust between both sexes. And if both sexes distrust themselves, how can they fulfill God’s mandate on earth which includes dominion and multiplication? How can they live in harmony?

The Bible gives us ample guidelines on human relations in all spheres of life; marriage (most affected by the gender war), society, workplace, parent-children, domestic staff/workers etc.

MODERN FEMINISM: Why modern? The first wave seeking equal opportunities for men and women aligns with the tenets of Christianity. Modern/mainstream feminism here refers to (although not limited to) seeking equal outcomes, rejection of godly patriarchy, anti-marriage, anti-men/malehood, acceptance/support of homosexuality/transgender/intersex/abortion, systemic destruction of men, refusal to acknowledge differences in gender, rejection of a woman’s role in marriage (housekeeping/nurturing of children), support of immorality under the guise of ‘it is my body’, wanting to ‘copy men to do wrong’ instead of insisting on the right thing, rejection of God etc. etc. We get the idea.

RED PILL: In summary, this is a philosophy for men that ‘highlights who women are’ and how to ‘game’ them especially sexually.
> First off, red pill never ’highlights the fault of men’ and one wonders if they are perfect. The Bible tells us to remove the log in our eyes before removing the speck in our neighbor’s eyes. It is also a sign of pride and thinking highly of yourself to list only the ‘fault’ of another party and how you want to deal with them without taking stock of yourself and how you can be a better person. Psalm 36: 2 In their own eyes they flatter themselves too much to detect or hate their sin.
> Secondly, the focus on sex (sadly outside marriage which is fornication {another sin} especially on Nairaland is ridiculous. A man who has arrived is one spinning plates aka joggling women without the intent to commit (marry) to anyone of them. Proverbs 31:3: Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
> Thirdly, the subtle/explicit hatred for women is anti-love your neighbor as yourself or do unto others what you want others to do unto you. Ephesians 4:31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 1 John 3:15: 15 Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him. 1 John 4:20 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. Compare the positive attitudes of men/fathers/husbands in the Bible viz a viz the red pill.

As Christians, we know that everyone has their role which does not make them inferior to others with ‘seemingly more important roles.’ As succinctly said by Dr. Myles Monroe, ‘there is nothing as tragic as excelling in a wrong role.’ I remember a story ‘attributed’ to Pastor Kumuyi: God showed him his mansion in Heaven and he saw a gigantic one beside it. Out of curiosity, he inquired and God told him it belonged to a lady sweeping/interceding in his Church. To people of the world, the girl is a nonentity doing something ‘irrelevant.’ To God, she was playing her role in Kumuyi’s mission and doing it well. For instance, Samuel served God by serving Eli (1 Sam 3:1); the first Deacons in the Bible (described as Spirit filled) were chosen to serve food to widows. The Deacons were appointed because the Apostles were distracted from teaching the gospel by serving. They did not think it was beneath them to serve. Peter was sent as an Apostle to the Jews while Paul was sent as an Apostle to the Gentiles. Some of the Apostles with Jesus did not write a page of the Bible while Apostle Paul wrote thirteen books etc. It neither diminished their importance nor denied them assess to heaven. Read Luke 22:24-27 for an idea of 'positions'

Christianity teaches the following amongst others:
Servant-leadership and upliftment: Jesus Christ washed the feet of His disciples, cooked for them etc. Jesus the Creator left His glory and became flesh like us. Imagine a King leaving his kingdom to resettle in another town where nobody knows him. Jesus prayed that we would do greater works than He did and empowered us for it.

Responsibility even when not convenient: Paul was shipwrecked and arrested yet he still took his assignment to preach the gospel around seriously. Going to the Cross was not easy for Jesus either. He wept at a point when His assignment overwhelmed Him yet He did not give up or think of Himself. Luke 22:44: He prayed more fervently, and he was in such agony of spirit that his sweat fell to the ground like great drops of blood.

Leaving vengeance for God/Forgiveness: At the Cross, Jesus still prayed for his enemies; Joseph son of Jacob forgave his brothers; we are enjoined to forgive 70 * 7 times daily etc.

Willingness to forgo your ‘rights’ for peace/greater good and humility: Jesus taught ‘if they slap your left cheek, turn the right one’, if someone offends you, forgive 70 * 7, endurance, patience etc. etc. Philippians 2: 1 – 11 is a fantastic read.

Mercy: Joseph the husband of Mary and Joseph (is it the name?) the son of Jacob win this award. Joseph (Mary’s husband) found out she was pregnant while engaged to him and supposedly a virgin. In the state of hurt and disappointment, he was still contemplating how to break the engagement without ‘disgracing’ Mary. We also know Joseph the son of Jacob who forgave his half brothers who sold him into slavery and Potiphar’s wife who set him up.

Love and Compassion: the Bible is a story of love. All the law and prophets has been compressed into two: 1. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind. 2. Love your neighbor as yourself. Again, the Bible is filled with stories of Jesus’ compassion; to his disciples, to his opponents, to sick people around, to those who rejected Him etc.

Putting others before yourself: Ephesians 5:21 tells us to submit one to another. Same with other verses in Paul’s epistles which teaches us to treat one another with humility and mercy.

Harmony: Hebrews 14:12 Follow peace with all men and holiness without which no man shall see the Lord. Colossians 3:12-13: Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

Contentment: Godliness with contentment is great gain. Just how we are different parts of the body of Christ hence different functions/gifts/roles, we have different roles in the church, families, workplace, society etc. We should embrace those roles and ask for the grace to do them well.

So my dears, you cannot be a modern feminist/red piller and be a Christian. You cannot serve two masters; you need to choose your master.

I leave us with this Bible passage:
Colossians 2:8, KJV: "Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ."

Colossians 2:8, NLT: "Don't let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ."

Regards,
Bukatyne




I think the red pill was hijacked. I don't see red pill as an excuse to hate women or change them like clothes. I can never do that. I see a feminine, respectful woman and I will cherish and love her for life.
Red pill is a slogan that brings men to their senses and reawakens them to their Godordained responsibility and place as trailblazers and rulers of the home. Genesis 3.16 says 'and the man shall rule over her.' it is as non-negotiable as menstruation.
Original redpill makes a man wise but considerate. Removes the wool of naivety and the scarcity mentality that has made many men pawns in the hands of ungodly women.
The reference you made to Joseph, remember that an angel came to warn him specifically not to put his wife away. Else, it's impracticable for any man to believe that story Mary told. That shows it is an exclusive case and not one for precedence.
Applied rightly, the redpill theory puts a man in his rightful, God-ordained place.

kingjooo:
Tho I now listen to my cousin young buck.
Tenekey niggi.

Young buck is the realest from g unit dirty South.
You're right my nigga,that guy is dope.I can remember his verse on the song poppin them thangs,when he said (most of his enemies are dead but he knows he got about two left)