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Family / Re: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by poik(m): 1:00pm On May 06, 2022
Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?


I believe you. There was no missing money. Some parents do it to jolt children to manliness, as they put it.
Dad did something like that once when he felt I was rolling with wrong friends, to drive home his point.
But my issue is that he knows that you were doing something.
Don't go back to the house now, or in at least one week. Even when you do, make it a point of duty to leave the house in the morning even if you have no where to go, and come back late in the evening. And who says after a week or two of that something won't crop up?

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Travel / Re: Kunle Adeyanju Arrives Africa With Bike (Photo) by poik(m): 6:29pm On Apr 25, 2022
mytime24:
Who dey bankroll u cheesy cheesy
Be careful he may have short fuse�
Family / Re: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by poik(m): 2:01am On Apr 07, 2022
eazzzy1:


I hate to refer you to a work of fiction but how many years did it take the man in Acrimony to get his App to work? Leaving one’s job to focus on his business is drive, dreams and ambition to me. If the business worked we wouldn’t be here now.

There’s no way to know the guy isn’t doing everything he can to better his situation. We humans are usually more concerned with the results than the process. A man can do everything right and everything go sideways for him. Remember Joseph’s interpretation of Pharoah’s dream? 7 years season of famine and 7 years season of boom? What if this is his season of famine? It’s not like he’s just sleeping, waking and playing video games.

I just feel it’s unfair how a woman can fall back to her man’s money if things go wrong with her, a man has to grapple with his loss of income and then have to worry about his wife’s reaction to the new situation. She makes money, why is sacrificing so difficult? Would she put up her kids for adoption because of the financial burden on her? I think if you love someone, taking care of them would be a privilege not a burden.

This guy, oil dey your head. Like you pointed out, this is an example of the picture when things go south for a man. I am willing to bet an arm that this tale is not exactly the way she is narrating it, in intensity, in pure, chronological and raw truth as it happened. I have a family that I helped run errands during my job seeking days that makes this story come so close to home:very similar scenarios.Man is a govt contractor who gets small small things once in a while. Woman even sources contracts for him from their NGO and other sources where she has influence. Man says he is more interested in business and is handling high profile partnerships with state governments which clearly will take longer than patience to materialize, but will surely do. Yes, the wife complains to me at times, but her love for him is undying. Point is, I know exactly how a virtuous woman would behave at times like this, which is not exactly an isolated case for most men in the current Nigeria. She married him a virgin and would never dream of cheating.

All I can take from this is that the position of being in a providing stance for a family is never a woman's place. Where it happens and it is an anomaly, as shown in what we are reading here: I can imagine that man coming to social media to rant if roles were reversed.

God, please help men. It's not easy o!!

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Romance / Re: 9 Reasons Why Christian Single Ladies Can't Find Their Boaz, David, Or Joseph by poik(m): 3:57am On Apr 05, 2022
See how dry such a sensible thread is. If na argument about sex now dem go full everywhere
Romance / Re: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by poik(m): 3:33am On Apr 05, 2022
Girlbestfriend:


You're not far from the truth(interns of his reply)

But he was assuming. You really do not know much about a person until you live with them.

I dont know you o, but thats the normal talk
Romance / Re: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by poik(m): 3:29am On Apr 05, 2022
lol don't be deceived with the career scam. This career thing, abortion right, frustrating men in divorce court celebration of LGBT etc are just ploys by globalists and radical leftists strong men to discourage natural marriage and reproduction between men and women in order to reduce world population because they believe the Earth is going to die as result of global warming if population is not controlled.

Nobody has ever been happy because he/she is working. Almost everybody normally hates his job but feminists somehow found a way to paint work as heaven to women and I'm very disappointed how women fell for all the scam. Women were far happier 50 years ago when they really had chance to take care of their own families than now that they just chase illusion. Women weren't using antidepressants and narcotics or committing suicide like this 50 years ago.

white women aren't left out, Are they not the ones on Facebook and Tinder buying Lexus for small small boys in Benin because they were promised marriage?
Women have been scammed of their natural joy and gift by a few crazy radicals it's always too late before they realise they have missed it


This guy, you too much. Nothing could be truer than this.

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Religion / Re: Sister Kate: I Wear The Hijab Because My Backside Can Make Men Miss Heaven by poik(m): 3:18pm On Apr 04, 2022
kingot:

bros why nah
Because Bible
Crime / Re: Please She Said I Raped Her But I Didn't Do It Now She Is Threatening Me by poik(m): 3:17pm On Apr 04, 2022
Yhungsarm:
This incident happened last week Thursday. Am a 300L student of Unijos and the girl happens to be my coursemate.

Normally, me and these girl no dey the same level, she can't even talk to me in school but ASUU break happened and i didn't want to go back to Lagos so i stayed back in Jos.

One day i was chatting with her friend who happens to know her and he told me she is still in Jos, so i chatted her up since i was bored and i didn't lie to her, i told her i was bored and i needed someone to talk to for the main time. she accepted quickly and even told me why i didn't chat her up sooner than this. she promised to come to my place and on Thursday she finally came through.

This is the most astonishing part, she knew i had sex with her best friend so she asked me about it and i did not lie about it cus i know she knew and we talked about some nasty stuff related to sex. i was seated on a mini-cushion chair and she sat on my laps literally dropping her boobs in the middle of my face.

As a guy i thought that was the signal, so i carried her straight to the bed and i wanted to gain access and she denied it so i just stood up and left. After a short while she came back again now saying if she handles me and all those stuff, i tried again and she denied i was angry and i wanted to tell her to start gping but i calmed down. she started seducing me badly and i was confused so this time i dropped and dragged her jean with her, we started dragging but she was just saying am trying to rape her and it is unfair, if it is what i do to girls all d time.

i was fingering her at the time but i did not penetrate and i felt it was tense and if i penetrated then what she is saying is true so i stopped and controlled my urge.

She zipped up and started crying, I was like but i didn't do anything and she was like i did everything i want to do with her and it is fault bcus she came to my house.

After a shortwhile, she stopped crying and asked me if it was sex i want or friends with benefit...i was very confused at that point like wetin bring all does one enter so i didn't reply then she said she knows am a rapist and i just want to sex and all dat shit.

i kept my cool after some time she started saying am not normal at all and she jst can't believe what happened, she also said she will tell me something when we she is out of my house.

So i paid her Tp and she went home, i did not chat her up at all. fastforward to Saturday i saw her message saying her forcefully had my ways wit her and jst ignored her so she will deal with me and i will pay for it.

i won't lie to you am very scared, i don't even know what she wants, i started asking her what she wants from me exactly but she is not replying at all. I seriously don't know what to do am very confuse, I don't even understand why i fell for this plot of hers.
What do you think i shud do

Note: I did not have sex with her at all and i never wanted it, she was jst all over me and doing all those stuff. Sex isn't my problem on a normal day bcus am a handsome guy and i get it most time.



After they finish raping the guy mentally and psychologically they come out to cry foul. You coming to a guy's house who lives alone is rape of hs expectations in the first place. Flirty talk, leading him on, sitting on his lap with your mammaries in his face! What more pressure can a full blooded man withstand? I don't care what society thinks, the girl raped him first. What nonsense.

I think she wants something like for you to date her, but since you dont want to, that is where the issue is. So what makes her innocent here?
In conscience, rape is completely out of the question.

I'd say call her bluff. Let her do what she wants.
Religion / Re: Sister Kate: I Wear The Hijab Because My Backside Can Make Men Miss Heaven by poik(m): 4:35am On Apr 04, 2022
peterdavidagbo:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J8GC-hTcBSA

“My backside can make men miss heaven that’s why I wear the hijab” – Popular evangelist, Sister Kate reveals [Video]

Popular Nigerian evangelist, Sister Catherine a.k.a Sister Kate, has addressed some questions from her followers bordering on her appearance.

The evangelist, renowned for her ‘rapture’ sermons, first made it clear that she is not a Muslim.

She noted that she only wears the hijab to cover her backside which is a threat to men who desire to make heaven.

Speaking in a video posted on Youtube, Sister Kate said: “Ever since I started wearing this Hijab, many people say that I am a Muslim. First of all, I am a born again Christian. In the Book of Mathew 5:28, if you look at a woman lustfully, you have committed against God.

“Each time I wear my normal dress to preach the Gospel, some men will be looking at my backside, my hip and the rest. They will not focus on the message anymore. Many men have told me that my shape is killing.

“Sometimes, some just want to use their eyes to rape me. Some will even follow me and agree to become my disciple just to be looking at what God gave me. It is not a sin to have such a shape but it is a sin when you use it to take some people away from God.

“Even God has given me revelations in my dreams that I should stop seducing men. And to me, I never knew it has gotten to this level. Then I opted for the Hijab. This is because it covers my shape perfectly well. I don’t want to be the reason why some people will miss Heaven.

“I see some ladies wear clothes that will expose their sensitive parts like their hips. Please stop it, you are taking many away from God. I am not saying you should wear Hijab, just wear things that will cover your body especially if you are like me.”

No Scripture authorizes a woman to preach to men. Thats where the avoidance should start from.
Family / Re: Is It Too Late To Start Looking For A Wife At 36 Years Old ? by poik(m): 8:14pm On Nov 21, 2021
LIGHTLOVERSGRAM:
am just 27 and available � chocolate in complexion, 1.6 in hight � God fearing Girl� very hardworking but like fasting too much. Complete single girl. thank you sir and ma�

babe wey serious lol
Romance / Re: Why Do I Always Keep Meeting Bad Guys!! I'm Tired.. by poik(m): 6:35am On Nov 19, 2021
Candycrushy:

I be ogbanje normally grin

Thing with girls most times is, they always want what they cant have.

The normal, nice, shy guy that is actually ready to move the moon for you will not catch your eye. Its female wiring and it isn't much of your fault. The men who will set your hormones racing, sleep with you before you know it, and probably toss you away after a few escapades will always be top on your list because they appear more exciting, adventurous, masculine, and daring.
You may need to re-evaluate your priorities. Answer those DMs. Nobody is saying like what you like, but be sure of what is moving you to like someone.

Cut down on sex. It is a woman's place to determine the timetable of sex in a relationship. that way it will be easy to weed out the haves from the have nots.

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Family / Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by poik(m): 4:12am On Nov 17, 2021
Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.

Not like i am surprised, but this woman is clearly a bad woman. I saw the tweet wherein someone asked her why she didnt help her husband step up and she said she cant fund an adult’s project. A man you married, and you claim to be one?

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Crime / Re: She Was Deceived Into Prostitution Abroad. by poik(m): 8:34am On Nov 05, 2021
annycase5:
Na wa o

UAE wey some girls dey use red eye find here your sister see am free of charge still dey complain

undecided undecided undecided

so u too dey find am

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Travel / Re: Welcome To Balneario, Brazil, The Dubai Of Brazil(photos) by poik(m): 8:39pm On Oct 06, 2021
Reclaiming the ocean comes with dastardly disadvantages.

But will man hear?
Romance / Re: My Experience Dating A Lady From Zimbabwe by poik(m): 8:36pm On Oct 06, 2021
khia:


Nooo!! I'm just messing with you. grin if I didn't like some of you I would never come on this site. It's only the AfriCOONS and arrogant, egotistical liars I can't stand.


Lol. Something tells me you need love, a good dose of romantic love. Not sex o, love. Masculine, protective, endearing, fulfilling love.
Romance / Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by poik(m): 7:45pm On Oct 06, 2021
MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

One of the first and most grievous mistakes you made was sleeping with a woman who isn't your wife. You may see it as nothing, but look at the complications it has landed you into now. You are in a marriage you regret, your mom breathing down your neck, and this wouldn't have happened had you not gotten that girl pregnant, a girl who is almost turning inimical to your life.

That being said,

If you are a Christian, divorce is not part of the equation. I will advise you to put your foot down and stamp your authority in that house. I usually hate men coming to talk of 'peace'. that singular word gives the woman too much power over you. She wants war, give it to her-not by physical altercation, but by complete withdrawal of attention. Deal with her in ways she would never have imagined, whilst doing your duties as a man. You dated her, so you know the buttons to press. Na she go mellow.

Forget that seven-figure engineer. You are not sure what will happen with her. You are only lured by heartbreak and money. Deal with the bird you have at hand.
Family / Re: My Wife Is Having An Emotional Affair With Her Pastor by poik(m): 5:29pm On Oct 06, 2021
JustNumb:
Hey guys I'll just be brief.

Straight to the point.

My wife is having an emotional affair.

Whats making it worse?

It's with a pastor with wife and children. Her pastor when she was in another state.

Now they're both in different states.

How did I know?

I saw her chat with him about 2+ years ago, and saw all the sweet name calling, the pet names and how they tell each other their activities of the day and even marital problems.

All the red flags and checklist of an emotional affair have been ticked by them.

The only thing remaining is the sexual part.

We've been married for some years now, she was a virgin when I married her though I'm 100% sure they have not met since we got married.

But the issue here is that this is causing serious friction in our marriage.

When I first saw it, I gave some time to be sure and I confronted her and she denied and said he's just her pastor (denial is one of the checklist).

Some months later they didn't stop the communication, I was about to tell her mum cos she visited. She pleaded and I let it slide.

Fast forward to 2021 they are still in communication. This time around the so called pastor is even always reminding her to clear chats so I won't see it.

Now emotional affair is actually worse than sexual affair
This pastor has a wife. I just pity the wife cos I can imagine how she would also be feeling.

I provide for the home, I also had to change from biz to the one that makes me travel to something that makes me work from home so she won't say it's cos I'm not always around.

We struggle with our sex life. What do I mean? She doesn't like sex. She doesn't mind if we stay 1 year without sex.

But me I'm a man with sexual needs.

Now when I see the way she doesn't like sex and I remember this emotional affair, it drives me crazy.


Those who have passed thru this, how did you overcome this challenge?
I don't want a broken home for my children cos sometimes I feel like calling her people and telling them to take their daughter back. Infact I'll dash them the bride price.

Do I go and get a side chick? But that won't solve my problem.

Guys come to my aid.

Cos if we discuss this again, this will be the 3rd time we're talking about same issue and same guy.

Sorry wasn't brief wink

Get up suddenly one day, either by text or in person, tell her: Your pastor can have you. I am no longer interested.'

Walk out of the room.

Ignore every other thing she has to say.

Keep it so for a few days.

Her brain will reboot.
Family / Re: Is This Chemistry Or Is It Bound To Happen In Marriage/relationship? by poik(m): 3:39pm On Sep 17, 2021
Lamanii22:
I noticed recently that whatever my husband likes is what I like, for example, I originally use FCMB and my partner uses zenith, immediately I opened an account with zenith... Another one, I listen to foreign classic songs basically while my partner's more into Tupac and Orlando owoh, I totally love those songs now... I don't eat fufu before but I'm liking it now lol.....


He has a strong frame.
You are in his frame, because you love him.
You have bonded with him, most probably because there has been some sex.
Please tell me you are married.


Girls,keep yourselves for your husbands. It will pay you better.

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Romance / Re: Careers Of Men That Turn You Off As A Lady? by poik(m): 11:55pm On Sep 15, 2021
Iyaebe:
Let's be truthful to ourselves, we all have that careers of men that immediately turn us off on finding out. Mine goes thus:
- Anything media is a big turn off, Bankers, The ' I work from home' groups, Teachers, Bitcoin traders and other Internet businesses, Car dealers.Please add yours, no insults.

Any reason for this list? Just asking
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: ₦400k Monthly Job In Nigeria Or American Visa, Which Option Is Best? by poik(m): 10:40am On Sep 01, 2021
For me, its not just any visa. Tourist visa no be visa. If its a legit visa that guarantees my stay without issues, na to japa.
Else take the job, work for a year or two garner experience, go for masters abroad legitimately

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Celebrities / Re: Esther Agunbiade Celebrates Her 25th Birthday With Sexy Photos by poik(m): 1:24am On Aug 23, 2021
UDOKABESTLUV:
Ex-BBNaija housemate, Esther Agunbiade, turns 25 today August 22, Reports.

From The Information Gathered By , She shared sexy new photos of herself on her Instagram page this morning with the caption;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CS3n7uqMew7/?utm_medium=copy_link

So much exposure for someone who feared not seeing another year. Very worthy thanksgiving indeed!
Celebrities / Re: Boy Alinco Celebrates His 53rd Birthday (Photos) by poik(m): 10:02pm On Aug 13, 2021
wordcat:
Ajasco,

Papa Ajasco,

Mama Ajasco,

Boy Alinco,

Pa James,

Pa Jimoh

I don forget that lady name

Pepeye
Religion / Re: Tina Bright: Why I Left My Husband & Married Pastor Adeeyo by poik(m): 7:26pm On Aug 11, 2021
Felimax:


I did not read anywhere she said anything about bride price. Her point is, the ex did not take responsibility for over 11 years of marriage that alone is enough maltreatment.
Yes, she said she stood by him owing to the fact that he may not have and even went ahead to take loan on his behalf which she is still indebted to till date but when the ex ran to social media he never mention how much of a failure he has been.
People should learn to take responsiblity for their actions and inactions.
Some men think marriage is all about carrying a mighty dick and if that is where their brain is located the marriage is doom to fail.
Yes, real men take responsiblity, every Adam will look for an Eve to blame.

In other words, that is a justification for leaving her marriage on to the next fruitful one right?
Religion / Re: Tina Bright: Why I Left My Husband & Married Pastor Adeeyo by poik(m): 7:11pm On Aug 11, 2021
Vickyvice:
read Matthew 19;9; you can divorce for reasons, but if it's on d ground of unfaithfulness, cheating, you can remarry.but if not on cheating, don't remarry or you reconcile, but if you divorce, and your mate starts seeing someone, or dies, u are biblically free to remarry

Sorry, thats a perverted Bible. Adultery is no cause for divorce. Fornication is. Anything else is illegal and if the cause isn't fornication, divorcing under that premise and remarrying is adultery.
Religion / Re: Tina Bright: Why I Left My Husband & Married Pastor Adeeyo by poik(m): 7:05pm On Aug 11, 2021
dre11:
Curled from this thread....
https://www.nairaland.com/6695502/mother-tina-adeeyo-left-husband

The wife has responded to the allegation


http://saharareporters.com/2021/08/11/why-i-left-my-husband-11-years-married-pastor-adeeyo-%E2%80%93-nigerian-woman

A pastor with open eyes marries someone’s wife?
What does he preach to his congregation on Sundays?
Anyways it’s modern Christianity where anything goes.

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Religion / Re: Why Winners Pastors Were Sacked By Daniel Breakforth by poik(m): 1:29am On Jul 21, 2021
HigherEd:


https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2484752211668635&id=444807728996437

If that is the agreement, and the pastor reneged on it, then he deserved the sack.

But my issue is with the system.

Church growth, you say. By what yardstick?

By population? Christ adds to His church, not man.
For you to harangue a man with that responsibility, it means everything that needs to be done will be done. Including preaching that tickles the senses and brings all and sundry to church. The fact that someone came to church does not make him or her a Christian. The aim should be to make Christians out of people, not churchgoers.

But we are a people of numbers and statistics.

Tell children that such numbers will not ultimately translate to money at the end of the day. Tell toddlers that; na person wey no dey go farm you go tell say rat dey lay egg.

The church cannot be taken seriously, operating like this. The devils we are commissioned to conquer will just ask Paul i know, Jesus i know, but your voice isnt even familiar.’

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Romance / Re: My Relationship Is About To Hit The Rock, Pls Advice , by poik(m): 7:21pm On Jul 18, 2021
Zeal0000007:
Guys I need your help here, me and my gal have been together for 6 yrs now, I was convinced that she's the one for me, so I decided to engage her late last year, at least to show that her position in my life is not taken for granted , we have really been through hell for each other even when there was nothing she was there for me, but thank God today I'm working now.

Now for the past 2 yrs, It looks as if I have been struggling to keep her, cos we have been cohabiting since I came back from nysc. Since I came back over two yrs now she has been mishaving , she locks her phone constantly, something she never did before, even if its opened the apps are lock only her can open it, if complain abt that she will respond like why will I touch her phone, asking me who does that, to touch a woman's phone even to go to social media, and she has being subjecting me to that because I don't trust her, when we are about to sleep she put her phone on flight mode, and put it under her pillow and put her head on top. Her phone is constantly on silent mode during day time so if it rings she will determind whom to pick so I won't hear and know. We can't watch movie together as partners perhaps she afraid of who will call next ,because she knows I will give her hit.

If I manage to pick up her call she will be shivering,
We have had alot of issues because of her giving in to distractions , I'm tired of talking , I don beat her tire my hand don bend. I have told her if u don't want me again and you have seen somewhere better , open up and tell me instead of cheating that will be honorable thing to do. I don tire for this gal, if I drive her away she has no where to go. The school she's going I'm the one supporting her, her family is not giving her enough support because the don't believing in education all the know is business, and I'm the only one bearing her load and i'm not doing that because i want to marry her, i'm doing it because she needs help and she is my lover.
She doesn't want to loose me because we have really suffered together so she want to keep me as potential husband and still be playing games outside , what crime did I do to go for service so I can come back and make life better for us, cos that was when she got spoilt. I deflowered her and thats not how I left her.

I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

Must be one of these PH chicks wey don hook oil boy. Remove sentiment and ask her to go meet the person who has been calling her.

If you dont want to train a child another man sired.
Begin your back up plan this second.
Travel / Re: Floods At Lekki Phase I: The Aftermath Of The Heavy Rain On Friday (Pictures) by poik(m): 7:07pm On Jul 18, 2021
SUPERPACK:
So effect of global warming is now God testing the microphone to you? Religion is truly the opium of the masses.

So during Noah’s time on a virgin earth without much human activity, it was global warming too? Make science dey deceive una.
Science that is even agreeing with the Bible
Celebrities / Re: 2Face Idibia To Sound Sultan: I Promise You Your Family Will Be Safe And Good by poik(m): 12:03pm On Jul 15, 2021
Prolificgiant:
Don't go and impregnate the wife oo, I don't trust u in that area


Tubaba will NOT do that to Sound Sultan. He won't.
Family / Re: Please Help.my Wife Has Denied Me Sex For More Than 6 months now by poik(m): 10:14pm On Jun 23, 2021
CharisEleos:
Serves you right! Next time , you watch what you say to a woman. Especially one who loved you enough to marry you. Mind you, it was marriage to you and the birthing of your children that made her fat. You still have the guts to rub it in her face by body shaming her.


Even though I don't support the aspect of unforgiveness on her part, I think you deserve to be taught a lesson or two for jam-talking.
One thing you should know is, everybody is not the same, as we all have different tolerance level and a limit to what we can stomach. Our attitude and reactions to issues also differ. So don't expect everyone to handle matters lightly.

You have really hurt her. Words are like eggs, once spoken/broken, can not be taken back. Right now, a lot will be going through her mind like, so all the while you have been looking at her with contempt and disgust..... You know? And that's why she left the room in case you don't know. So, you have to be careful what you say to a woman. Learn to bridle your tongue.

Yes, a woman can stay without sex for years. Very possible.



Abeeegi.
Six months?
There is no where in the story it was implied that she got fat because of childbirth. It could also be owed to indulging and binging on junk, as is characteristic of most women. Even at that, she should take cue and lose that weight. Instead of sulking like a two year old.

Na the man fault sha
Family / Re: Please Help.my Wife Has Denied Me Sex For More Than 6 months now by poik(m): 10:10pm On Jun 23, 2021
ollins:
I Really don't know what to do anymore as I am so tired and frustrated of begging my wife for sex.
Ok,let me try and explain my plight,I have been married to my wife since 2010 and we have been blessed with two lovely boys.
This whole issue of my wife not wanting sex with me started in December last year 2020 when we were watching a documentary about people loosing weight and I told my wife playfully that she needs to loose weight but I regretted the words immediately I said them as she is sensitive about her weight,before then we had no problem whatsoever .
2 days later ,she told me that I made her angry by suggesting to her that she was fat and that she would never ever forgive me .
I immediately apologized that I was only joking but she said she would never ever forgive me,I went down on my knees to apologise but all to no avail,I then enlisted the help of my brother in law and mother in law to beg her for me,I even asked her best friend whom she is very fond of to beg for me but none of them could change her mind.
She then moved out of my room but we still maintained our marriage and House.
Right now she has vowed never to sleep with me,at a stage I started suspecting if she had someone else as she is always on the phone chatting but I have no proof that she is cheating.
I have tried everything I can to apologise to her all to avail,I am thinking of going to her church now to report to her pastor or something (we don't attend the same church).
The most painful thing in all this is that my wife knows I have high libido for sex and she chose that to punish me.
Please advise me on what to do because I am so confused and I can't believe my wife has refused me sex since December last year till now.
I am tired of masturbating,(a married man o,�)I have cried and all that to her and she told me something last night that chilled me to my bones which I am still trying to understand,she told me she can stay without sex for years if she is not interested, please � women in the House,is that possible?for a Married woman
.

What a sensible woman who loves and adores her husband would do is to take a cue from that to keep fit and eat less if she has the tendency of blowing up. But no, she has to exhibit childishness and naivety. Six months?

Na the man cause am sha

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