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Christianity EtcRe: So I Was At A Church Female Pastor Had Leg Chain by poik(m): 2:23pm On Sep 08, 2025
j3r3myk3n:
So I literally was at this church this las Sunday, wouldn’t disclose the name of the church but my first 1hr or so, it was certain workers mounting the pulpit kabashing (speaking in tongues as they’ll say).

Brethren, “start speaking in Holy Ghost/tongue” while he led the session.

As a first timer and a total stranger to such, I felt embarrassed and worried cos of course, a female worker leading the session, probably a prayer warrior was putting on a Jean pant but all I could hear is kabashing for straight few minutes, no much words I could relate to, just speaking in tongues.

While eyes were closed, I sensed another woman’s voice again taking the speaking in tongue session from the previous one, I managed to open my eyes and at least be sure of what I signed up for lol, lo and behold the female pastor had leg chain, that was when I asked myself a sincere question; “haven’t I trespassed already?”

Cos what’s all these straight one hour or more kabashing with questionable mode of dressings?

Oh! Pastor Mrs. must have felt weird noticing that I was busy ruminating the thoughts in my head regarding their totally different mode of worship, she got vexed at some point noticing that while she did everything to lead the whole congregation to clap, jump, do stuffs but I wasn’t so much moved.

She felt unrest and started “… don’t rebel, clap, clap clap” I knew she was indirectly referring to me, so I personally ignored and acted like I didn’t notice but of course the people sitting next to me must have felt, I’m not complying at some point. Hahahahahah.


Fast forward, choir came to my rescue with a very badass music and dancing session, okay I like good music, I felt a relief at least, this is a bit different, I could hear them sing in English and nice songs accompanied with the melodies instrumental backups.

Oh before I forget, while we were at the music and dancing session, I could sense the Pastor Mrs. communicating and probably ensuring this other pastor knew there’s a rebel amongst them lol, I was like; today na today, they would bomb me with Holy Ghost fire if I’m not careful.

After the music and dancing session, a well dressed man, another pastor or so who the Mrs. must have reported me to mounted the pulpit in a nice senator wear but I could sense his maturity, appreciated the choir, sounded humble being compared to Ps Mrs. which she later recognized while trying to pitch in the sermon of the day.

To my very surprise, uncle pulled the
The question is, wetin you go do for that kind church in the first place
CrimeRe: My Married Ex Girlfriend by poik(m): 1:31pm On Aug 01, 2025
Marry a woman thats untouched, men no go hear.

Una eyes go peel.
Just imagine
RomanceRe: "Why Men Should Insist On Marrying Virgins" by poik(m): 10:47am On Jun 14, 2025
I love virgins.
I think we need to celebrate them more. the self control and discipline it takes to keep yourself in this rotten age is commendable. Add respect and femininity to that and no man can resist her.

i will only marry you if you are a virgin, full stop. I don't have strength for drama.
RomanceRe: Girl Stops Friend From Marrying Her Brother Due To High Body Count by poik(m): 2:25pm On Jun 03, 2025
1gbdata:
In a surprising turn of events in Lagos, Nigeria, a young woman intervened to halt her friend's wedding plans with her brother after discovering her friend's high body count. The incident has sparked widespread debate on social media and within the local community.

According to sources close to the family, the woman, discovered that her friend's past relationships were more numerous than she was comfortable with. She felt compelled to inform her brother, leading to the decision to call off the engagement.

The story has garnered mixed reactions, with some applauding the woman for protecting her brother's interests, while others criticize the decision as judgmental and intrusive. The debate has brought to light broader issues surrounding societal expectations, personal pasts, and the complexities of relationships.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tzDAGKcVom8
But if na the same girl she will tell you 'the past is past'.

Can you see the double standards and hypocrisy.

We all know what we are doing.

She wouldn't want such a girl for her brother, but if she was the one, she will come with all manner of emotional gaslighting to make you accept her with such high body count.
It's men who dont have standards i pity the most.
AutosRe: Toyota Corolla Altis Sweet And Neat For 6m. Slightly Negotiable by poik(op): 12:14pm On May 08, 2025
collele:
4M
no sir, sorry.
AutosRe: Toyota Corolla Altis Sweet And Neat For 6m. Slightly Negotiable by poik(op): 12:13pm On May 08, 2025
Oluwakemitosin:
Kindly drop your contact?
How much is the last price and where is your location?
The car is at Yaba near Unilag. you can whatsapp me on 08052795647.
I can do 5.5m if you are courteous and an arsenal fan lol
AutosRe: Toyota Corolla Altis Sweet And Neat For 6m. Slightly Negotiable by poik(op): 12:11pm On May 08, 2025
seetomorrow:
Do you have a number I can teach you?,
Or WhatsApp me

070 four seven four nine six one two five.

Someone need it Asap.
please whatsapp me on 08052795647. thanks
AutosToyota Corolla Altis Sweet And Neat For 6m. Slightly Negotiable by poik(op):
Engine and gear in tact. Hardly driven. Please whatsapp me on 08052795647. car is at Unilag area, Yaba

AutosToyota Corolla Altis Sweet And Neat For 6m. Slightly Negotiable by poik(op): 10:40am On May 06, 2025
Engine and gear in tact. Hardly driven

RomanceRe: Should I Marry Her Now Or Let Her Go? I’m Not Ready Financially by poik(m): 9:21am On May 03, 2025
Xavier0978:
Hey guys,

Please, I need your opinion on this issue. So I’ve known my girlfriend since NYSC 2019, and ever since then, we’ve been best of friends. I travelled out in 2022, but we still kept in touch and from there we started dating. I’m 29 and she’s also 29. Honestly, I have plans to settle down and marry her when things are right.

A quick note: she’s been trying to come over to meet me as a student ever since I got here, but for one reason or the other it hasn’t worked out (Canada visa rejections and all). Now, she’s talking about how she plans to settle down before her next birthday and even suggested that I marry her while she waits in Nigeria for a maximum of two years before joining me. She really just wants to get married.

To be honest, I currently work and I’m also doing another master’s program in a very reputable institution here in Canada, and I will be done this year. The stress of working and schooling is a lot, and my current workplace pays the barest minimum. I literally have nothing left after sorting out all my bills and expenses. I’m not financially ready to settle down right now, and I even gave her a timeline of two years. Worst case, no matter what, we’ll settle down in two years max. Let me try and fix things for myself here. I can’t marry and bring someone’s daughter here to come and suffer.

I’m a worried person. My dreams are really big and God knows I’m working tirelessly to achieve them. She also knows because I discuss everything with her. Honestly, I understand her point of view, but I’m the kind of person that gets really anxious easily. It would kill me to get married, have kids, and not be able to cater for them.

I know you can’t have everything financially before settling down, but I want at least a moderately stable job. One that allows me to take care of her confidently even if she comes over and doesn’t work immediately. To be honest, my job pay is very low, like unimaginably low, and I’m just barely surviving. I’ve pictured every possible scenario, thinking and planning ahead, but everything is pointing to one answer — I’m not ready.

Considering her age and the kind of person she is, I strongly believe that after marriage she will want kids and to start building a family. That’s not a bad thing, but I, as a man, don’t want to get stuck in that life yet because I know the kind of future I envision. I’ve always promised myself that I won’t raise a family on “manage-manage.” I feel like if I get married now and start raising a family, my focus will shift entirely to making sure they live well, which could make me lose track of my personal goals.

I swear, I know my girlfriend loves me. That’s not in doubt. But I’ve been pleading with her to give me at least two more years. If after that things are still not great, then we’ll settle down and manage until something better comes.

Right now, to be honest, I don’t even have anything financially to plan a small wedding, and I definitely won’t borrow or ask anyone for financial support to do a wedding.

Please, I want your honest opinion. The two options here are: either get married before this time next year or end the relationship now, as there are other people already asking for her hand in marriage.
Baba, you are not ready. If she is not ready to work with your timeline, let her go. Its that simple. Let her look for someone else. Why do we like complicating our lives
CelebritiesRe: Annie Idibia Leaves Rehab Amid Marriage Crisis, To Make Grand Return by poik(m): 4:11pm On Mar 18, 2025
DyshApp:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/tribuneonlineng.com/annie-idibia-quits-rehab-plots-explosive-comeback/amp/
Dem just dey use Nigerians head cook stew and trend. Nothing happened to her in the first place. If are isnt taken it’s hype for a new album
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Romance Fiction Writers Needed by poik(m): 4:15pm On Feb 22, 2025
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Call me 08052795647
AutosRe: SOLD! SOLD!! Price slashed Hot! Hot!! Hot!!! 2001 Used Ford Focus For Sale by poik(m): 12:57pm On Mar 26, 2024
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FamilyRe: My Dad Almost Killed Me Today! by poik(m): 1:00pm On May 06, 2022
Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today huh?


I believe you. There was no missing money. Some parents do it to jolt children to manliness, as they put it.
Dad did something like that once when he felt I was rolling with wrong friends, to drive home his point.
But my issue is that he knows that you were doing something.
Don't go back to the house now, or in at least one week. Even when you do, make it a point of duty to leave the house in the morning even if you have no where to go, and come back late in the evening. And who says after a week or two of that something won't crop up?
TravelRe: Kunle Adeyanju Arrives Africa With Bike (Photo) by poik(m): 6:29pm On Apr 25, 2022
mytime24:
Who dey bankroll u cheesy cheesy
Be careful he may have short fuse�
FamilyRe: Burnt Out - Any Advice? by poik(m): 2:01am On Apr 07, 2022
eazzzy1:
I hate to refer you to a work of fiction but how many years did it take the man in Acrimony to get his App to work? Leaving one’s job to focus on his business is drive, dreams and ambition to me. If the business worked we wouldn’t be here now.

There’s no way to know the guy isn’t doing everything he can to better his situation. We humans are usually more concerned with the results than the process. A man can do everything right and everything go sideways for him. Remember Joseph’s interpretation of Pharoah’s dream? 7 years season of famine and 7 years season of boom? What if this is his season of famine? It’s not like he’s just sleeping, waking and playing video games.

I just feel it’s unfair how a woman can fall back to her man’s money if things go wrong with her, a man has to grapple with his loss of income and then have to worry about his wife’s reaction to the new situation. She makes money, why is sacrificing so difficult? Would she put up her kids for adoption because of the financial burden on her? I think if you love someone, taking care of them would be a privilege not a burden.
This guy, oil dey your head. Like you pointed out, this is an example of the picture when things go south for a man. I am willing to bet an arm that this tale is not exactly the way she is narrating it, in intensity, in pure, chronological and raw truth as it happened. I have a family that I helped run errands during my job seeking days that makes this story come so close to home:very similar scenarios.Man is a govt contractor who gets small small things once in a while. Woman even sources contracts for him from their NGO and other sources where she has influence. Man says he is more interested in business and is handling high profile partnerships with state governments which clearly will take longer than patience to materialize, but will surely do. Yes, the wife complains to me at times, but her love for him is undying. Point is, I know exactly how a virtuous woman would behave at times like this, which is not exactly an isolated case for most men in the current Nigeria. She married him a virgin and would never dream of cheating.

All I can take from this is that the position of being in a providing stance for a family is never a woman's place. Where it happens and it is an anomaly, as shown in what we are reading here: I can imagine that man coming to social media to rant if roles were reversed.

God, please help men. It's not easy o!!
RomanceRe: 9 Reasons Why Christian Single Ladies Can't Find Their Boaz, David, Or Joseph by poik(m): 3:57am On Apr 05, 2022
See how dry such a sensible thread is. If na argument about sex now dem go full everywhere
RomanceRe: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by poik(m): 3:33am On Apr 05, 2022
Girlbestfriend:
You're not far from the truth(interns of his reply)

But he was assuming. You really do not know much about a person until you live with them.
I dont know you o, but thats the normal talk
RomanceRe: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by poik(m): 3:29am On Apr 05, 2022
lol don't be deceived with the career scam. This career thing, abortion right, frustrating men in divorce court celebration of LGBT etc are just ploys by globalists and radical leftists strong men to discourage natural marriage and reproduction between men and women in order to reduce world population because they believe the Earth is going to die as result of global warming if population is not controlled.

Nobody has ever been happy because he/she is working. Almost everybody normally hates his job but feminists somehow found a way to paint work as heaven to women and I'm very disappointed how women fell for all the scam. Women were far happier 50 years ago when they really had chance to take care of their own families than now that they just chase illusion. Women weren't using antidepressants and narcotics or committing suicide like this 50 years ago.

white women aren't left out, Are they not the ones on Facebook and Tinder buying Lexus for small small boys in Benin because they were promised marriage?
Women have been scammed of their natural joy and gift by a few crazy radicals it's always too late before they realise they have missed it
This guy, you too much. Nothing could be truer than this.
Christianity EtcRe: Sister Kate: I Wear The Hijab Because My Backside Can Make Men Miss Heaven by poik(m): 3:18pm On Apr 04, 2022
kingot:
bros why nah
Because Bible
CrimeRe: Please She Said I Raped Her But I Didn't Do It Now She Is Threatening Me by poik(m): 3:17pm On Apr 04, 2022
Yhungsarm:
This incident happened last week Thursday. Am a 300L student of Unijos and the girl happens to be my coursemate.

Normally, me and these girl no dey the same level, she can't even talk to me in school but ASUU break happened and i didn't want to go back to Lagos so i stayed back in Jos.

One day i was chatting with her friend who happens to know her and he told me she is still in Jos, so i chatted her up since i was bored and i didn't lie to her, i told her i was bored and i needed someone to talk to for the main time. she accepted quickly and even told me why i didn't chat her up sooner than this. she promised to come to my place and on Thursday she finally came through.

This is the most astonishing part, she knew i had sex with her best friend so she asked me about it and i did not lie about it cus i know she knew and we talked about some nasty stuff related to sex. i was seated on a mini-cushion chair and she sat on my laps literally dropping her boobs in the middle of my face.

As a guy i thought that was the signal, so i carried her straight to the bed and i wanted to gain access and she denied it so i just stood up and left. After a short while she came back again now saying if she handles me and all those stuff, i tried again and she denied i was angry and i wanted to tell her to start gping but i calmed down. she started seducing me badly and i was confused so this time i dropped and dragged her jean with her, we started dragging but she was just saying am trying to rape her and it is unfair, if it is what i do to girls all d time.

i was fingering her at the time but i did not penetrate and i felt it was tense and if i penetrated then what she is saying is true so i stopped and controlled my urge.

She zipped up and started crying, I was like but i didn't do anything and she was like i did everything i want to do with her and it is fault bcus she came to my house.

After a shortwhile, she stopped crying and asked me if it was sex i want or friends with benefit...i was very confused at that point like wetin bring all does one enter so i didn't reply then she said she knows am a rapist and i just want to sex and all dat shit.

i kept my cool after some time she started saying am not normal at all and she jst can't believe what happened, she also said she will tell me something when we she is out of my house.

So i paid her Tp and she went home, i did not chat her up at all. fastforward to Saturday i saw her message saying her forcefully had my ways wit her and jst ignored her so she will deal with me and i will pay for it.

i won't lie to you am very scared, i don't even know what she wants, i started asking her what she wants from me exactly but she is not replying at all. I seriously don't know what to do am very confuse, I don't even understand why i fell for this plot of hers.
What do you think i shud dohuh

Note: I did not have sex with her at all and i never wanted it, she was jst all over me and doing all those stuff. Sex isn't my problem on a normal day bcus am a handsome guy and i get it most time.
After they finish raping the guy mentally and psychologically they come out to cry foul. You coming to a guy's house who lives alone is rape of hs expectations in the first place. Flirty talk, leading him on, sitting on his lap with your mammaries in his face! What more pressure can a full blooded man withstand? I don't care what society thinks, the girl raped him first. What nonsense.

I think she wants something like for you to date her, but since you dont want to, that is where the issue is. So what makes her innocent here?
In conscience, rape is completely out of the question.

I'd say call her bluff. Let her do what she wants.
Christianity EtcRe: Sister Kate: I Wear The Hijab Because My Backside Can Make Men Miss Heaven by poik(m): 4:35am On Apr 04, 2022
peterdavidagbo:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J8GC-hTcBSA

“My backside can make men miss heaven that’s why I wear the hijab” – Popular evangelist, Sister Kate reveals [Video]

Popular Nigerian evangelist, Sister Catherine a.k.a Sister Kate, has addressed some questions from her followers bordering on her appearance.

The evangelist, renowned for her ‘rapture’ sermons, first made it clear that she is not a Muslim.

She noted that she only wears the hijab to cover her backside which is a threat to men who desire to make heaven.

Speaking in a video posted on Youtube, Sister Kate said: “Ever since I started wearing this Hijab, many people say that I am a Muslim. First of all, I am a born again Christian. In the Book of Mathew 5:28, if you look at a woman lustfully, you have committed against God.

“Each time I wear my normal dress to preach the Gospel, some men will be looking at my backside, my hip and the rest. They will not focus on the message anymore. Many men have told me that my shape is killing.

“Sometimes, some just want to use their eyes to rape me. Some will even follow me and agree to become my disciple just to be looking at what God gave me. It is not a sin to have such a shape but it is a sin when you use it to take some people away from God.

“Even God has given me revelations in my dreams that I should stop seducing men. And to me, I never knew it has gotten to this level. Then I opted for the Hijab. This is because it covers my shape perfectly well. I don’t want to be the reason why some people will miss Heaven.

“I see some ladies wear clothes that will expose their sensitive parts like their hips. Please stop it, you are taking many away from God. I am not saying you should wear Hijab, just wear things that will cover your body especially if you are like me.”
No Scripture authorizes a woman to preach to men. Thats where the avoidance should start from.
FamilyRe: Is It Too Late To Start Looking For A Wife At 36 Years Old ? by poik(m): 8:14pm On Nov 21, 2021
LIGHTLOVERSGRAM:
am just 27 and available � chocolate in complexion, 1.6 in hight � God fearing Girl� very hardworking but like fasting too much. Complete single girl. thank you sir and ma�
babe wey serious lol
RomanceRe: Why Do I Always Keep Meeting Bad Guys!! I'm Tired.. by poik(m): 6:35am On Nov 19, 2021
Candycrushy:
I be ogbanje normally grin
Thing with girls most times is, they always want what they cant have.

The normal, nice, shy guy that is actually ready to move the moon for you will not catch your eye. Its female wiring and it isn't much of your fault. The men who will set your hormones racing, sleep with you before you know it, and probably toss you away after a few escapades will always be top on your list because they appear more exciting, adventurous, masculine, and daring.
You may need to re-evaluate your priorities. Answer those DMs. Nobody is saying like what you like, but be sure of what is moving you to like someone.

Cut down on sex. It is a woman's place to determine the timetable of sex in a relationship. that way it will be easy to weed out the haves from the have nots.
FamilyRe: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by poik(m): 4:12am On Nov 17, 2021
Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.
Not like i am surprised, but this woman is clearly a bad woman. I saw the tweet wherein someone asked her why she didnt help her husband step up and she said she cant fund an adult’s project. A man you married, and you claim to be one?
CrimeRe: She Was Deceived Into Prostitution Abroad. by poik(m): 8:34am On Nov 05, 2021
annycase5:
Na wa o

UAE wey some girls dey use red eye find here your sister see am free of charge still dey complain

undecided undecided undecided
so u too dey find am
TravelRe: Welcome To Balneario, Brazil, The Dubai Of Brazil(photos) by poik(m): 8:39pm On Oct 06, 2021
Reclaiming the ocean comes with dastardly disadvantages.

But will man hear?
RomanceRe: My Experience Dating A Lady From Zimbabwe by poik(m): 8:36pm On Oct 06, 2021
khia:
Nooo!! I'm just messing with you. grin if I didn't like some of you I would never come on this site. It's only the AfriCOONS and arrogant, egotistical liars I can't stand.
Lol. Something tells me you need love, a good dose of romantic love. Not sex o, love. Masculine, protective, endearing, fulfilling love.
RomanceRe: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by poik(m): 7:45pm On Oct 06, 2021
MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.
One of the first and most grievous mistakes you made was sleeping with a woman who isn't your wife. You may see it as nothing, but look at the complications it has landed you into now. You are in a marriage you regret, your mom breathing down your neck, and this wouldn't have happened had you not gotten that girl pregnant, a girl who is almost turning inimical to your life.

That being said,

If you are a Christian, divorce is not part of the equation. I will advise you to put your foot down and stamp your authority in that house. I usually hate men coming to talk of 'peace'. that singular word gives the woman too much power over you. She wants war, give it to her-not by physical altercation, but by complete withdrawal of attention. Deal with her in ways she would never have imagined, whilst doing your duties as a man. You dated her, so you know the buttons to press. Na she go mellow.

Forget that seven-figure engineer. You are not sure what will happen with her. You are only lured by heartbreak and money. Deal with the bird you have at hand.
FamilyRe: My Wife Is Having An Emotional Affair With Her Pastor by poik(m): 5:29pm On Oct 06, 2021
JustNumb:
Hey guys I'll just be brief.

Straight to the point.

My wife is having an emotional affair.

Whats making it worse?

It's with a pastor with wife and children. Her pastor when she was in another state.

Now they're both in different states.

How did I know?

I saw her chat with him about 2+ years ago, and saw all the sweet name calling, the pet names and how they tell each other their activities of the day and even marital problems.

All the red flags and checklist of an emotional affair have been ticked by them.

The only thing remaining is the sexual part.

We've been married for some years now, she was a virgin when I married her though I'm 100% sure they have not met since we got married.

But the issue here is that this is causing serious friction in our marriage.

When I first saw it, I gave some time to be sure and I confronted her and she denied and said he's just her pastor (denial is one of the checklist).

Some months later they didn't stop the communication, I was about to tell her mum cos she visited. She pleaded and I let it slide.

Fast forward to 2021 they are still in communication. This time around the so called pastor is even always reminding her to clear chats so I won't see it.

Now emotional affair is actually worse than sexual affair
This pastor has a wife. I just pity the wife cos I can imagine how she would also be feeling.

I provide for the home, I also had to change from biz to the one that makes me travel to something that makes me work from home so she won't say it's cos I'm not always around.

We struggle with our sex life. What do I mean? She doesn't like sex. She doesn't mind if we stay 1 year without sex.

But me I'm a man with sexual needs.

Now when I see the way she doesn't like sex and I remember this emotional affair, it drives me crazy.


Those who have passed thru this, how did you overcome this challenge?
I don't want a broken home for my children cos sometimes I feel like calling her people and telling them to take their daughter back. Infact I'll dash them the bride price.

Do I go and get a side chick? But that won't solve my problem.

Guys come to my aid.

Cos if we discuss this again, this will be the 3rd time we're talking about same issue and same guy.

Sorry wasn't brief wink
Get up suddenly one day, either by text or in person, tell her: Your pastor can have you. I am no longer interested.'

Walk out of the room.

Ignore every other thing she has to say.

Keep it so for a few days.

Her brain will reboot.
FamilyRe: Is This Chemistry Or Is It Bound To Happen In Marriage/relationship? by poik(m): 3:39pm On Sep 17, 2021
Lamanii22:
I noticed recently that whatever my husband likes is what I like, for example, I originally use FCMB and my partner uses zenith, immediately I opened an account with zenith... Another one, I listen to foreign classic songs basically while my partner's more into Tupac and Orlando owoh, I totally love those songs now... I don't eat fufu before but I'm liking it now lol.....
He has a strong frame.
You are in his frame, because you love him.
You have bonded with him, most probably because there has been some sex.
Please tell me you are married.


Girls,keep yourselves for your husbands. It will pay you better.
RomanceRe: Careers Of Men That Turn You Off As A Lady? by poik(m): 11:55pm On Sep 15, 2021
Iyaebe:
Let's be truthful to ourselves, we all have that careers of men that immediately turn us off on finding out. Mine goes thus:
- Anything media is a big turn off, Bankers, The ' I work from home' groups, Teachers, Bitcoin traders and other Internet businesses, Car dealers.Please add yours, no insults.
Any reason for this list? Just asking

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