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youngchopper:
Listen youngman! You don't need a damn drama in your life! Let me tell u lil story of mine!
Yesterday been 20th of December 2019 my gal friend who have been dating for just 2 months asked me on chat for money for Christmas hair 20k! I can afford it but what made me mad was I told her if she knew that 20k is somebody's salary and the fool replied " na poor person salary be that" since 24 hrs she has been calling have decided to snub her for a very long period of time! Just a galfriend what if I have her type like 5? Do u know the amount of prayer my sweet monther will pray for my head if I wire her 20k? Use your head youngman, your happiness is not tied around her!

My problem is that you can't exhaust the kind of money you deserve. Men like you are rare these days. Men who can with clear eyes take informed decisions.

Chi59:
This is an insult, not a compliment. Go and Stan somewhere else.

I see no need to insult you. And frankly I can't fathom how this is an insult to you.

Most ladies I have encountered say it is better for the man to love them more, as this puts them in the drivers seat of the relationship. Seeing someone who thinks otherwise would be such a breath of fresh air.
I don't see how complimenting a supposedly mature school of thought is an insult. But anyways, my apologies if you feel slighted.

Dottore:
Does she ot anyone owe you any explanation on how she makes her money. I have a 29year old female relative that's a multi millionaire less than 5 years after NYSC.
Her parents and older siblings are living in the house she built. Some term her prostitute, some term her yahoo but only her close relatives know what she does and I would have told you what she does but like I said no one owes you any explanation.

Pray for God to bless you with an idea that make wealth otherwise you'd keep ranting over other people's success yet they won't notice you.

You are such a narrative-diverting expert.

For starters, I don't need anyone's notice. But then, for you to make it about noticing me means the discourse got to you and you are so fixated on defending something with very shallow base.
But like you said, she doesn't owe me explanation. The assertion would have been correct if I was referring to Daniella herself. But I was responding to someone who feels all it takes to attract blessings is to swallow from hook to sinker every tale and gravitate towards wealth regardless of the source.

But ask yourself, do people make this kind of comments around Dangote? Otedola? Pat Utomi? Even Banky W? Don Jazzy?

This is because these people are rich and their source of ostentation is glaring for all to see.

We are a sentimental lot around here and its draining.

Dottore:
Jealousy is a sin. You can't prove that she sleeps around, your points are based on speculations. You don't know how and what she has invested her time and money in.
Have a liberal mindset and be happy with others over their achievements so the same angel of blessings may locate you.

Leave that jealousy thing and let's be realistic for once. What does she do? What does she sell? What brand does she represent? I have only seen her in one movie- Lagos Cougars.
She isn't married, we would have said it's her hubby's dough. What does she do?
You only get visited with blessings when you rejoice with someone with genuine and verifiable source of wealth, not just wealth no one is sure of. I ask again, what does she do?
These kind of comments show how decadent our society is today.

I am not pandering to grapevine tales, but what does she do?

SBL28:
I hate all these nonsense about who loves who more. Some women say it too and I think it is rubbish.
They tell their fellow woman to marry the man that she knows loves her more than she loves him. It makes no sense, I don't want to be married to someone I'm not crazy about because I don't want to get hurt. We should be madly in love with each other.

It's ALL or nothing.

Coming from a lady, I Stan!

@op, I want to assume this is the first time you are hitting that woman. That is what the validity of this comment depends on.

Guy, you shit for altar. I no go hide mouth. 2am is way too irresponsible.
That being said, you have begged and begged. It didn't change.
Now that she has left, beg one more time. Be sure to word your apologies right and let it belly your remorse. Beg her, not her family. It is her you married.
If she doesn't budge, lock up and watch things unfold.
If she left because she wanted to show how intolerant she is of the abuse, she will come around. I am still believing it is the first time and you have no history of tingling digits.

You were ready to explain, and apologise, but the fact of wanting to take advantage of your mistake to drive home her point got the better of her. Whoever told these women that yelling in that manner solves anything?
In the dead of night, in front of their child?

The bitter truth is, the way a woman wants her home to be, that's the way it wil be? Why do you imagine God shouldered her with that responsibility? He put an intrinsic adsorbed in her. This of course is no playing towards op's irresponsible behavior.

So, like I said, beg her, in addition to the previous ones. She will rescind and return.

Pavore9:
What if she had paid and made a withdrawal from the sperm bank?

The sperm in question, it fell from heaven abi? Do women produce sperms now?


Make we dey fear God when arguing nau

wirinet:
Na was o, you people need to write your own bible so you can write whatever doctrine you wish to propagate.


Here is the original king James version of Matthew 19:9;
"And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication , and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery"
Now explain to me how you put away your wife for fornication.


Where did you get this your doctrine? Certainly not from the bible. No where in the bible did it say you can put away your wife for the things she did with her body before she met you, just because she did not disclose all her body count.
I wonder how it even makes sense. You married a lady and 10 years later you discovered she had one or even numerous boyfriends in school whom she had slept with (Mind you, you did not meet her a virgin). You then go to your church and demand a divorce from in your church and court, citing Matthew 19:9 as justification. You pastor will think you are crazy.


Bullshit, very misogynistic. What about the husband? Does he also need to confess all his past sins to his intended wife? When you marry, you marry as is, the past is in the past.



Is that so? You congratulate and encourage your wife to cheat? So what happens if your wife is pregnant for another man?

1. Fornication is sexual relationship that involves an unmarried person. Adultery has to do with sexual relationship involving a married person. Except for fornication there means you cannot put your wife away for any cause except there is fornication. Does it click now?

2. If what is written there sounds misogynistic to you, then God is misogynistic. It is clear in Genesis 3: he shall rule over you, referring to the woman. Have you wondered why women were not included in head counts in those days? Why it is forbidden for a woman to preach till today? Why a woman has no business with the altar when she is in her cycle?

Like I said at the beginning of my submission it hurts even me when I say this truth, because most laws in the Bible are more stringent on women. Adam was a direct product of God. Eve was a by-product. That is one, and she killed every hope of equality by allowing the serpent have carnal knowledge of her. As far as a man and a woman is involved there is no equality, regardless of how many feminists there are in the world today.

3. If my wife is pregnant for another man and I put her away, I remain a bachelor for life. But if she fornicated before I married her and I get to know later, I can divorce her. That portion is easy to grasp, Matthew 19.

It looks unfair, the plight of women, but God knows exactly what He is doing. That's why the disciples said if it is so, then not every one can marry. Think about it.

wirinet:
Which scriptures are you talking? Definitely not the bible. Maybe the bhagavad gita.
Here is the bible quote concerning divorce as it relates to cheating by women.

Matthew 19:9
" And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery"

Now if you are having difficulty understanding the king James version, here is the New living translation;
Matthew 19:9
"And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery— unless his wife has been unfaithful "

I wonder what Bible you are quoting.

Thats the problem we are having with all of these deliberate translations to suit people's whims, but God has no hand in.

That portion says except for FORNICATION, not sexual immorality, in the KIng James that i know.

Meaning that you can put away your wife for the things she did with her body before she met you, and she refused to disclose to you before the consummation of the marriage, not what she did after the both of you are married.

That is why at repentance we confess our sins in our past life to Christ our husband, before He takes us in, and we take his surname in baptism, of course the correct way, by immersion in deep waters in the name of Jesus Christ.

You put your wife away because she cheated on you, you become an adulterer.

Great6Pack:
The worst set of hypocrites in this world are men. You can go Bleep as you like either as married man or while dating but it is a taboo for her to do it.

Let it be known here that I am not in anyway in support of cheating while married or courting. But let the truth be told, if you access 10 men, married or courting, at least 6 of them had at one time had sex with someone not their mate. One thing is sure, if this babe is the one that the man confessed to, she will happily forgive him and move ahead with the relationship.

Why can't men sometimes do same. Especially when you know your mate isn't promiscuous but was overtaken by moment of weakness?

Sis, please gather yourself together and concentrate on your work and life. I give you 3 months, a RESPONSIBLE guy will be dying to be your man. And if your present guy (soon to be ex) comes back, tell him he was in the past but you have moved on.

Please abuse me ONLY if you know you are innocent and never cheat. God is watching!!!

My problem, if you ask me, is that statement 'if you know she isn't promiscuous.'

It actually isn't about forgiving.
There is a way we are wired as men.

If a woman who bedded a stranger four times in the car isn't promiscuous, what then is?

Even the tongue and teeth clash in the mouth. The matter that made her vulnerable surely won't be the last. So at every semblance of a fight, she goes whining to a third party, and one thing will lead to another? Think about it.


Don't also forget this confession is coming because the nigga got suspicious. Matter of fact, his God is alive, else he would have caught them red handed.


It hurts me each time I have to say this, because I really feel for women who don't understand the way Elohim moulded this world. If Eve did not roll in the hay with Satan to produce Cain, equality of the sexes would have held sway. But because it happened that way, the punishment is subjugation to the male gender. A woman cannot have two living husbands and make heaven, but a man can, by the Bible.

Note that this is the unapologetic truth, and it is in no way supporting male philandering. Men should strive to be faithful too.


But I will not fail as well to inject that a man has no right to put away his WIFE because she cheated. I'm talking Scripture now. What God values in practical terms is MARRIAGE and not this excuse to fornicate called dating.

queensnow:
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bethyz:
At 21 the last thing a girl will think of is marriage. Please if you are ready and she is not move on na.

21 and married ma .?There are alot of things to still achieve has she finished school ?or worked to make a dime so she can know how difficult it is to work for the money.

She is still young and no one should blame the girl.
At 21 did you in anyway think of marriage and because you are ready you want her to be ready automatically abeg. Keep your marriage you may not be the right person for her anyways dont raise your ego because of marriage.
If you cant wait or rather be patient with her please move on its as simple as that

Omotola Jalade married at 18.
Leave that age matter. Who good, good.

motionarena:
Hi guys

You know it has now been a norm for most women and girls to have multiple piercings in their nose and ears.

I really don't know what they see in it.

Well i have dis girlfriend we have been dating for a while and i plan to marry her. She works with a software company and she is very intelligent.

She returned from a trip and i noticed she had 3 sets of earrings in one ear and also had a tiny piercing on her nose.

I was devastated and asked her why she did it and said it means nothing that she just felt like.

Now am thinking of ending the relationship as i regard girls that do such as loose and runz girls.

Am i overreacting or taking the right move

Jewellery on its own is anti-faith..for Christians

naijacentric:
what have to say about wats happening in the nation put ur religion in ur pocket

This not all entirely religion. If this part of life is gotten right, a lot more things will take shape.

MasterRahl:

As mansakhalifa & NigPatriot rightly said, the OP needs to liven up a bit. We have more pressing issues to bother ourselves about in this messed up country of ours instead of this boyfriend and girlfriend brouhaha.

If you solve all of the problems in the country and still get this wrong, there is still a problem. A big one at that.

Sexual perversion is the mother of all troubles. only very few people know the weight and effect of it not just on an individual, but a nation at large.

In my short stint with Christianity, i have had cause to review certain Bible characters and place them side by side our current walk with God as present day Christians. The substance of reading the Bible should spur us on to learning salient lessons from areas where these heroes of faith failed. The Bible was written 'for correction, instruction and reproof in righteousness', as we all know.

David. Woow. The approved of God. The man after God's own heart. The man people love to make reference to. The divine inspiration behind the all-important book of Psalms in the Bible. The role model of a lot of Christians today. That's okay.

But do you want to know my role model? Anyone but David.

I want to bring this to the fore because we have a lot to learn from the areas he fell short of Gods standards. You see, a lot of the time, we Christians groan and whine from self-inflicted trouble, expecting God to show His omnipotence and where He doesn't, we go braying like overloaded donkeys, at how God has failed us and all of that talk. It is true that even the lawful captives will be delivered, according to the Bible, but also remember the admonition that says we should suffer persecution, for righteousness, and not for being a busybody in other men's matters, and such like circumstances.
There are times God chooses to rise to someone's help simply because there is a divine purpose, or His sovereignty wills it that way. It is NOT a standard. The fact that Jacob was a cheat does not in any way excuse a Christian cheating in the name of the Lord. I would bring up two instances in David's life to support my position.

David was what you would call in today's parlance, from the 'streets'. His mother was not loved, and some unconfirmed accounts claimed that he came as a result of an adulterous affair. Some quarters believe the statement 'In sin did my mother conceive me' in Psalms 51 was directly referring to that fact. There was little or no domestication about him. He was a man of the field. Little wonder he, by the grace of God, was able to defeat the bear and the lion. But he was still wild in his ways, and it played out in a lot of ways in his life.

It was time for war, and when kings go to war, he chose to remain at home, for whatever reason. He saw a woman bathing, while lounging in his penthouse. lust took the better of him, and he was hooked. Now, the Bible says that he inquired after who she was. I believe they must have told him this girl was related to his razor-sharp counsellor, Ahitophel. But no, he was past caring at this stage.
He went ahead to bed her, and when she became pregnant, he made plans to kill her husband and actually did. All this while, Ahitophel was watching and could do nothing about it. This was the king we are talking about, who could challenge the king? By the way, if Ahitopel was David's adviser, they were approximately the same age, and for Bathsheba to be Ahitophel's granddaughter, David must have been at least two decades older than Bathsheba. But that is besides the point, if paedophilia isn't the issue here. After all, towards David's demise, a thirteen year old virgin was sent to keep him warm. A 13 year old virgin! Why this dizzying craving for women?

But a time came when Ahitophel would have his pound of flesh. His son Absalom rebelled, and Ahitophel quickly jumped ship. Imagine what would have happened had God decided not to answer David's plea for his counsel not to be taken.

This obsession with the female specie was to play out in his son Solomon, who held the world record at the time for sampling vanity and being the 'big god' to one thousand women in his lifetime. Haba!

Another ocassion worthy of mention was the encounter with Nabal. Now the Bible described Nabal as churlish, rude and uncouth. But let us examine objectively, and with Christian, peaceful mindset, what went down between the both of them.
Nabal’s shepherds were herding sheep around the area where David and his men were camped. After the day’s job, they left, only for David’s soldiers to come to Nabal to demand sheep. Nabal, in a fit of rage, answered them roughly, and David took up arms immediately to charge towards him, but was accosted by his wife along the line.
The question is, what right had David to demand sheep from Nabal? Absolutely none. There was no contractual agreement that David should offer his men protection in exchange for sheep. So, what was the basis of David’s anger at his refusal to avail them of his livestock, to the point of wanting to kill him? Absolutely none. To tie maters up, the minute Nabal dropped dead, boom! Abigail became his wife instantly.

Some of the things that happened to David were self inflicted, others were just circumstantial, and the book of Psalms is full of David’s cries for deliverance. Is it little wonder then that God refused him the homour of building Him house, on account of his stained hands?
There are a lot of lessons we can draw from this shining light of God, in the person of David. Where applicable, and as much as possible, let us refrain from doing evil and feeding our deadly cravings.

Prettyjanet1:
From my own understanding, we've already chose our path from heaven. Does this saying mean one's path that has been choosen from heaven can be changed?

Does it mean destiny can be changed?

Depends on how you look at it.

For me, i choose to see it from the lens of Gods ultimate purpose for man. The degree to which God has use for man varies. For example, Samson had a destiny which, despite his flouting of instruction, still held sway. Through Abraham, the world was to be blessed, and despite the fact that he got a child the wrong way, the promise still came through his loins.

No decision man makes can shock God. I believe that man's path has been decided from the word go. God isn't worthy of worship and reverence if things can go outside of His pre-designed will at some point, and it means he is no longer omniscient.

Some achievements and fulfillment of destinies come with specific instructions come with instructions, and when man disobeys it, God cannot be held liable. I believe this is the juncture where man's destiny lies in his hands. The destiny of the children of Israel was to make the promised land, but Moses placed a set of instructions before them, urging them to choose life. They didn't, and that generation perished in the wilderness.

MGab25:
A lady on Facebook, Oghenetejiri Charity took to a Facebook group to share screenshots of her chat with a pastor, Emiaso Oke Emir who cursed her for refusing to give him phone number he requested for.

By the authority and power invested in me by God as a man who ruleth over the world and have dominion over the earth, you shall die without a husband” – The pastor said as revealed in the chats. He also went further to insult her parents and generations.

Read full Chats below;
“By The Power Invested In Me By God, You Shall Die Without A Husband” – Pastor Cursed Lady Who Refuse Giving Him Her Phone Number

https://naija4u.me/by-the-power-invested-in-me-by-god-you-shall-die-without-a-husband-pastor-cursed-lady-who-refuse-giving-him-her-phone-number/

Yes. GOD confirms the word of His servant and performs the counsel of His messenger.

A real servant of God would not abuse authority.

The God we are talking about is just. He is not man.

Unless there is more to this story, the lady has nothing to fear.

Sterope:
Are you telling us that in your first approach to a woman, you tell her all about your loniless and desire to spend the night with her?

Do the above expressions convey the concept of 'love' to you?

All the matrimonial cases of Iya Sikira and Iya Modupe seeking divorce because of domestic abuse sound like women who got married to rich men or is this your way of trying damn hard to feel good? Take a look at your neighborhood, you can see for yourself. You have been lied to, the reason for domestic abuse is not beca use some woman got married to a richer guy.

I'm willing to bet this is NOT the first approach. His submission may reek of some obtuse intentions but, he has her number and they have obviously been talking.
It's a simple case of offer and acceptance, to which each party has a franchise.

I think there is nothing wrong with the man expressing his feelings, but then it was poorly worded or he didn't say exactly what he wanted.

It's wrong, his approach. There are better ways he could have made his mind known.
But if he really liked her and wanted something with her, I see nothing wrong with it, only that artificial 'class barrier'.

But, is the lady a celebrity? I don't know her.

Too many times these days, the question ‘so you do not trust me?’ becomes a regular feature of relationships, business associations, and even platonic friendships. Indeed, it has become so commonplace that any kind of deviation away from that norm is viewed with dissent, and is even grounds to begin a fight or a quarrel with far-reaching potentials. A man with history of philandering suddenly expects his partner to hand him trust on a platter. A nascent business deal which brings two people together, one person is making doubly sure that he is not putting his money in the wrong place or dealing with a dubious person, and suddenly all blazes are ignited under that veil of ‘distrust’.


Why do people expect trust to be something to be surrendered to by mere word of mouth and face value? Why is trust perceived to be free and unquestionable? Why is it such an important ingredient in a relationship, yet something that is hardly scrutinized and put to the test?
Truthfully, a lot of people who have doled out trust undeservedly have always had finger-burning stories to tell. What is more dramatic about the matter is that people who scream at the first evidence of trust questioning are the ones who have a trust Achilles heel.
Be that as it may, do not be afraid to drill an associate or friend before reposing trust in the person. Do not get intimidated or overly emotional when that reverse psychology is used on you, to let down your guard when you should not, or to someone you should not. In fact, people who should be handed such privileges are usually not afraid of scrutiny. At any rate, it does not matter how they take your prying questions and your peripheral attempts at analyzing their motives and actions. Trust is earned; let them work for it.


On the other side of the divide, do not forget that it is a two-way thing, and we attract like energies. It is a universal law. You should also be a trustworthy person yourself. In a relationship, of whatever colouration, do all you can to be transparent in your words and actions. Based on precedence, you may not need to employ all the methods in the book to ascertain what your friend weighs on your trust scale, if you cultivate transparency and truthfulness.
You earn trust; let someone also earn yours.

Too many times these days, the question ‘so you do not trust me?’ becomes a regular feature of relationships, business associations, and even platonic friendships. Indeed, it has become so commonplace that any kind of deviation away from that norm is viewed with dissent, and is even grounds to begin a fight or a quarrel with far-reaching potentials. A man with history of philandering suddenly expects his partner to hand him trust on a platter. A nascent business deal which brings two people together, one person is making doubly sure that he is not putting his money in the wrong place or dealing with a dubious person, and suddenly all blazes are ignited under that veil of ‘distrust’.

Why do people expect trust to be something to be surrendered to by mere word of mouth and face value? Why is trust perceived to be free and unquestionable? Why is it such an important ingredient in a relationship, yet something that is hardly scrutinized and put to the test?
Truthfully, a lot of people who have doled out trust undeservedly have always had finger-burning stories to tell. What is more dramatic about the matter is that people who scream at the first evidence of trust questioning are the ones who have a trust Achilles heel.


Be that as it may, do not be afraid to drill an associate or friend before reposing trust in the person. Do not get intimidated or overly emotional when that reverse psychology is used on you, to let down your guard when you should not, or to someone you should not. In fact, people who should be handed such privileges are usually not afraid of scrutiny. At any rate, it does not matter how they take your prying questions and your peripheral attempts at analyzing their motives and actions. Trust is earned; let them work for it.


On the other side of the divide, do not forget that it is a two-way thing, and we attract like energies. It is a universal law. You should also be a trustworthy person yourself. In a relationship, of whatever colouration, do all you can to be transparent in your words and actions. Based on precedence, you may not need to employ all the methods in the book to ascertain what your friend weighs on your trust scale, if you cultivate transparency and truthfulness.

You earn trust; let someone also earn yours.

Nice writeup bro.
We just all need to repent.
My concern is not just the actors.
The question is we the watchers. Especially those who are Christians.. Wetin we dey find there?
God have mercy.

safarigirl:
Was this epistle really necessary?

Yes, everybody failed; the girl, the guy, the distributor of the video, the school, parents and guardians.

There are consequences for failure. You don't get to fail and continue like nothing happened, the point of a mistake is to learn from it. The girl made s mistake and has to pay for it by way of her dignity being spread online and her expulsion, the boy made a mistake and has also been expelled, albeit, he was smart enough to keep his face out of it, the school made mistakes and their name is equally being tarnished in the media, the parents mistake has led to their children's shame all over the internet.

The lesson to learn from all this is that, you should never create a sex tape and if you must, keep your face out of it, so, even if it is traced back to you, you can deny it with your full chest

So this is all you got from the writeup abi

Mrcomedimatic:
On Sunday, at the Nigerian Law Bwari Abuja, Nollywood actor Kanayo O. Kanayo who is currently an aspirant to the Bar, officially became a member of the Catholic Church by receiving baptism and taking other sacraments of the Holy Church, alongside two other "Female Muslims who converted from Islam into the Catholic Faith" .

They found Jesus in Law School.

Source: https://gidifeed.com/nollywood-actor-kanayo-o-kanayo-and-two-muslim-sisters-baptised-as-catholic/

Catholicism created Islam na. There is no conversion here

Gistring:
Nollywood actress Empress Njamah celebrates her 40th birthday with cleavage baring outfit. Gistmore reports

Taking to her Instagram page, the actress wrote



https://www.instagram.com/p/B48jv2tB_vy

Empress Njamah is a Nigerian actress. In 2012, she was nominated for best supporting actress at the Africa Movie Academy Awards, but lost out to Terry Pheto.

hoeboss? this woman well so?

nlPoster:
Links?

In the old testament, the priests had specific attire described in detail. If you consider choir ministration as a form of priestly ministry, having uniforms would still be in order, just saying.

No.
Singing is not recognized in the Bible as a ministry in the sense you are looking at it. It was not really a special thing that required deftness and skill, never mind mordernity and civilization. You don't need special skill or calling to please God with singing, contrary to other forms of ministrations. Singing was for everyone. Bible says clap your hands all ye people and sing with triumph.

Makschinchin:
You're right.. But you know that in those days, Biblically, there wasn't a building called church like we have today. The early apostles fellowshipped in one another's house. Church came as a building and brought its own way of doings.

I don't think so. In Acts 3, the apostles were going into the temple at the hour of prayer. the gate Beautiful was near the temple.

The entire idea of having separate people who are dressed differently to sing to God is no feature of the Bible. Choir isn't a Scriptural derivative.

Worship according to the Bible is for everyone together, not a select, fashion-seeking group.
Choir was introduced by politicians some years after Rome took over the first church. It wasn't in the original template for worship, as right as it seems today.

rossovu:
Bros if she's changed, straight 100% and her love for you is real...forgive her past and keep her... if we check ourselves kpata kpata nobody innocent.

God will not allow a female to manipulate me thus.

When they want to eat their cake and have it they come with that guilt tripping tale of let the saint cast the first stone.

Guy, if the confession does not sit well with you, bail out. Conception issues due to multiple abortions is a real issue. Forgiveness is different from foolhardiness.

Thing is, for those saying she was honest enough to tell him and should be appreciated, if she deceived him, it will come out one way or the other, and it will be worse then.

Mrcashman87:
I am not new to Nairaland but I have to use this account for my story . I have met her in 2009 she was calm , doesn’t talk much but easily get angry and I also noticed that she wasn’t a good cook but was good in other things ( chores) , it didn’t stopped me from loving her, I didn’t tell any of my people even though I have sisters that are good cook but I decided to take her to catering school to learn how to cook which she went for lessons to practice.

We got married in 2013 , she got pregnant that same month and she became so lazy that I will go to work and come back to found the house very messy with everything’s all over the places , dirty dishes and not dinner yet, and I have to take over cleaning and cooking dinner for us. She claimed she could not longer clean the house , she is tired and need to rest so I have decided to get a house help for her , a small 14 years old, this girl was hard working , very obedient but to my wife she is evil , every single day I comes back from work , this girl is always in tears my wife will beat the hell out of her to the extent of giving her black eye , if I confront her she will start accusing me of sleeping with the girl which is not true, I can never stoop so low to sleep with an underage girl. I have nieces of similar ages what I wouldn’t want another person to do to my nieces and wouldn’t do to another person daughter.

One time I came back from work to found the girl in a pool of blood , that my wife hit her with a wooden chair and she had a deep cut on her head , I got angry with my wife even her reasons didn’t make sense to me , all because she asked the poor girl to warmed up the baby milk and she mistakenly left it for too long , the milk was too hot to give to the crying baby so she got angry at her and hit her . I have told my wife she shouldn’t act like that no matter what and here come again you are sleeping with her and that’s why u are siding with her , we had an heated argument that I have left the house to cool down , I came back after 5 hours and next morning I have send for my brother to take the girl back to her parents , I have given her money 30k to manage that was how the girl left the house.

When our first child was 6 months , we found out she was 2 months pregnant she cried that the baby is too small , she can’t keep the pregnancy , I have begged her to keep that everything will be alright . Our twins were born a girl and boy , having 3 children under 2 wasn’t easy for us and I have to go to work while she staying with the kids all alone and she was depressed , I have decided to bring in a house help 15 years old boy , the same thing repeated again , she was maltreated him the same thing she did with the girl , that boy didn’t even stays with us for 2 months , he run away . I came back to found her crying that the boy has slapped her and run away, I was angry for what he did even swear if I catch him , he will regret the day he was born but the other way I knew that boy did it for self defence .

After the boy left I said no more e help , she will have to manage alone because I couldn’t help her anymore , but my house become dirty that I wouldn’t even want to bring in visitors because of the state of the house , dirty plates can stay in the sink for 3 -4 days , laundry she has a washing machine but she couldn’t bother to do , cooking we eats take away every single night , imagine I comes back home 9pm due to my job and Lagos traffic , at that time I’m even exhausted but I have to started cleaning , one time I got pissed with her that she didn’t wash the eldest daughter school uniform and all her uniform 5 sets of uniform were dirty and she had no clean one to put on in the morning , I have to wash them at 10pm and for her she didn’t see anything wrong with that.

When the twins were 1 years she told me she is tired of staying at home that she wanted to go to work , I have told her to wait at least for them to be a year and 6 months to start school before she can pursue her career but she disagreed with me, so I gave her money for business , she opened a shop . We had an agreement that she should be closing down her shop at 7pm so she could be home with the kids and take care of the house , she was ok and I got a elderly woman as a help , she doesn’t lives with us , she comes at 6 am and closes at 8pm and I also brought 2 of my nieces 18 and 11 to the house. Every since she started working she has never get home on time , sometimes she stays until 10pm , if I talk she get angry and will start raining insults on me , we haven’t make love in a long time , she always complains of being tired , her stomach is paining her etc etc. I have decided to leave her alone and not bother her about sex anymore , and it doesn’t bother too. She acts as im a nobody to her. So it happened in July I came back home to found my niece 11 years old with a deep cut and blood on her eyebrows and my wife did it just because the girl broke a plate so she hit the girl with the broken plate , first all I had to rush her to the hospital and she had 11 stitches and went back home, all I wanted to sit with her and to talk sense with her but she wasn’t even interested all she could do was shouting at me , accusing me of sleeping with both my nieces and the elderly house help , was so angry that I have beaten her badly which I later regretted and apologise to her.

That was the first time I have lay my hand on her something I vow not to do to the woman I love but she pushed me so bad and I have been remorseful but she refuse to forgive me . It’s now 4 months we don’t talk , we don’t sleep in the same room , she just do her own and come home anytime she pleases. I just don’t know what to do anymore , I love my wife and children but her attitudes isn’t right. We have 3 beautiful children 5and twins are 4. Sometime i want to divorce her but when I think about my children I just don’t feel like going ahead with divorce but I’m also a human and can’t stop living like this .

Please my brothers and sisters help me with your advices

The second I saw 'lazy', I knew it would just be a matter of time before trouble will brew.
She is just a bad woman, period.
In as much as I hate external interference, you may have to resort to this.

babyfaceafrica:
a theif is caught and sentenced to jail..will karma still catch him and his children?..or karma only attacks those that are not caught?..these things are confusing

To me, I believe the things we see are only a fraction of what goes on in the spirit realm. A lot of forces are at work to cause the things that play out before our eyes. Someone can be manipulated to steal. Others can be the effect of a generational curse.
I do not have all the answers, but I strongly believe that what one sows will come back to him or her, sometimes in a different form or size.

The doer is not in control of the measure or size.
The fact that one gets a negative effect from immediately doing good does not mean that is Karma.