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Sanchez01:
It took me a long while to know Lemar is a Nigerian.

Time to Grow remains his biggest hit. One of the many heartbreak songs that prepares your mind for what is ahead.

Where do I go?
What do I do?
I can't deny I still feel something,
And girl I wish
You could say you feel the same.
You've broken the bond,
I gotta move on
How do I help this lonely feeling?
You're gone, I'm here, alone...
I guess it's time to grow.

Happy Birthday, Lemar Obika!

Songs

Time to grow
Wait forever
It's not that easy
Dance
Someone should tell you
What about love?
Someday we'll be together.

Good songs are going extinct sha.

You forgot If there was any Justice, and 50/50

SeunDobo:
No be 200 naira bro ...na 500 be smaller money I dey give her and I don tired cuz all the wey I do give her go don reach like 3k to 4k and it's never reach 3 week I come here imagine I don dey Dodge her anytime I jammed her for road cuz she go ask me for Moni

Tell am say you no get. No be by force to give am money. You be her papa? Make she go meet her papa

donbachi:
Jack ma sent us medical donations over the tune of 6.6million dollars..him no sleep any of our women...c'mon 200naira wey u give person daughter,u wan nak am..heart of charity is wat u lack.

I’m not supporting his sleeping with her but Jack Ma is not the best example to use. You know how much that guy has made off Africa?

Israelo16:
Available

Nice car.

HolyTrinity:
Are Feminists feminine failures? I've studied this group for sometimes by intuition, cognizance and experience and I have this to say about it.

First of all, God does not reckon with feminists. He knows them not. Just like he knows not MGTOWs.

Feminism for me simply means women wanting to be equal with men in aspects of their interests. It is saying; "I want as much privilege as you since we both are involved in this thing, but I may not necessarily do as much as you considering my feminine status''. A desire for merit without being qualified, or demanding a prize without paying the price.

Take for consideration, Lucifer wanted to be like the most high, not because it was in the most high's interest but his. Similarly, feminists are women seeking equality with men (the 50-50 world as some say) strictly for their own interest. Consequently, this means that the subject wants to be like the King and the helper wants to be at par with the head.

The only possible reason for this view, as evident in modern day clamour for gender equality is strictly due to misinterpreted pride. Misinterpreted in the sense that, it is confused to be 'self determination/awareness/discovery' and not as a subtle manifestation of pride.

in my opinion, feminism is of 4 kinds. There are the insecure feminists, the eccentric feminists, the egocentric feminists & male feminists.

An insecure feminist is no doubt a pessimist suffering from a just sense of insecurity. She fears that her inadequacies and shortcomings may shortchange her or put her at a disadvantage in the scheme of things, so she joins the bandwagon of those wanting to be equal with men. Sometimes her feministic drive is fuelled by gender discrimination of which she may have been a victim.

An eccentric feminist simply seeks to deviate from the norm. Not necessarily to serve their own personal interest but to just alter natural order of gender headship. They're majorly those championing feminism and the feminist's cause. I tag them 'the movers of sedition'.

An egocentric feminist is very self serving. She's a feminist for her self-centered, selfish and egotistical nature. She seeks equality with men just because it favours her cause. Of all, she's the most inured to double standards and her feminist convictions are reliant on her personal gains. She most likely become or develop into a femifascist.

The male feminists are males who favour feminism for reasons lacking justified reasoning. As flies to wanton boys they're to their goddesses who enlist them for their sports. They're the proverbial Ahab under Jezebel's spells whose wishes are his command, and would kill Naboth for his vineyard.

Generally, an expressive trait of feminists which is also a vice is greed/self consideration/centeredness which may be knowingly or unknowingly confused as self worth or self security. Hence, feminism is characteristically the most homocentric moral crime known to man. This according to me, is the reason for the downturn and collapse of relationships and particularly, the marriage institution.

The above notwithstanding, does not excuse the excesses of the male gender.

Feminist? No, you need not be one.

There is no way in this Jesus’ world that a man and a woman can be equal. Feminism is anti-nature, anti-Scripture, anti-reason, anti-logic and anti-moral.

Prec1ous:
OP, get over it. I think both of you led yourself on foolishly. She was really expectant, but you goofed. She is dealing with the pseudo-rejection the best way she can, also, she is not happy to see your happy pictures. So move on.

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The Parable of the goat and the yam in the same pen!

It has been proven countless time, that there is no sanity and clarity when a man and a women with the right amount of hormonal rush think that they can stay friends. Especially when nothing ties them together, maybe business or they are investment partners.

You can speak all the English you want to speak, but do not ever forget these...

You cannot tell your body when to and not to produce oetrogen, testosterone, dopamine and oxytocin. Nature must proceed.

This is also why you should beware of girls who claim all their friends are the opposite sex. You are been fooled!

Guys, the best way to get any girl is to be her friend but once in a while, chip in romantic talks and dirty chats but do not forget to also touch her "mistakenly" sometimes, this qualifies you as a potential romantic partner.

Do this systematically and You have already laid the ground for your impending kill.

Thank you.

I keep saying this. A man and a woman cannot be just friends. It never ends well.

If i dont see myself marrying you, we cant be close. Its that simple. I dont trust the ‘we are just friends’ typa girls. I dont.

Paboyler:
Hello Williams, from your description of events you already stated that you can not accept, you can not train another person's (man's) son no matter that you love the woman. It seems your mind is already made up on this issue, that notwithstanding, I will give my candid advice since you seek it.
forward to the issue at hand, You said you really love this lady in question and you intended to get married and settle down with her. Now I need you to understand that true love does exist, and it is sacrificial in nature, that means it will cost you some thing valuable, if it doesn't cost you anything valuable then it is not real, you must understand that you loving your woman, you must equally extend the love to her son, you must learn to accommodate both of them without fear, bias or pretence. You must consciously and determinantly love both mother and son as your wife and son respectively. Otherwise you can't truly profess love for your woman. This measures the depth and sagacity of your love for the woman. In other words you cannot truely love the woman without loving her son.
I will not conclude my advice without asking these questions?
1). Does it mean that you cannot train or accept an orphan who is not related to you?
2). Does it mean that you cannot adopt a child in the case that you cannot cannot give birth to one simply because he/she is not your blood?
3). What do you expect or how would you feel if tomorrow you pass on early (God forbid) at a very young age leaving a young wife and kid behind, and the woman re-marries, would you like for that new husband of your wife to marry her and love without doing same to your child?
Just a few question to ask.
My brother I bet you wouldn't like your child to be rejected. Therefore It would be best for you to accept that child in as much as you would accept and love the mother. Only then can the love be complete because the Child is part of his mother. And any attempt to segregate between them will not only cost them their happiness but will as well cost you your happiness very dearly. The fall-out from this act will cost your union with that your beloved woman your happiness, joy and can if possible cost you your job because your marriage will be is shambles. Therefore you better take a firm decision to either whole heartedly accept and love both the woman and her son or walk out of their life before you hurt them.
As regarding the stubbornness of the kid, it's a normal thing with them, this is the right stage for that to happen with them, there's nothing you can do about it. Even if it were your kid he will act and behave like that, moreover he is a boy. I bet you even both parents of one particular kid would quarell over that. It's absolutely normal you should learn to tolerate that if you must be a good father. Becoming a father is not just footing the bills and providing for the family, this is one of the Herculean task you must handle.
I have to testify here that I have actually fathered a boy child from a single parent while dating his mother exactly the same situation as you, but for 8 years. The kid is now 10 years old. He is fondly called my son even by my own parents and other family members. He is just like my PA (personal assistant), he knows everything I do. We can't stay without each other and we are best of friends. He believes so much in me.
The import of this testimony is that:
* You can actually use this kid to build your strongest hold on your lady, make them believe in you and you will be happier as every one wins.
* This situation will help you prepare more for your own children and even perfect you on the act of becoming a better father when your own children arrive.
* It will bring you Spiritual blessings and open doors for you.
Thanks a lot as you consider these pieces of advice.
Please note: Endeavor to get that kid a gift on His birthday.

Sir, i appreciate your input and since you have prolly been in the shoe, it can pass as coming from an experienced source.
But i am particular about those three questions you asked. Adopting a child because you have none or being benevolent to an orphan in need is not the same as the scenario here. Reason being that in both cases, there are no parents and even if there were, you know what you signed up for and are cool with it. But for someone who manipulates a fellow human with the ‘if you love me you will love everything about me’ card, its a different ball game, a whole new feeling. Besides he is already feeling somehow and trust me it wont go away no matter how much he suppresses it. Talking about the man dying and leaving children-its still different because the man is dead. He cant show up tomorrow to claim his child.

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

Also watch how out of a one year relationship, it took her 7months to tell you something as weighty as this. To make sure you would be too carried away by love by this time to pause and use your head. What else is the definition of manipulation and wickedness?

To compound matters you talk in your house and she resents you, over a strain she put on the both of you. I hate it when a woman feels so entitled because of one beauty that wont last a decade or one semblance of goodness which has turned to a bargaining chip.

Its in your hands though. For me i wont think twice sacking her.

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

Go up, go down, this baby mama thing is sure a lot of baggage. It always rears its head, especially when things are going smooth. Real killjoy.
It isnt easy to look at your wife as someone another man has crossed, let alone have a child, worst of all a stubborn one at that.

The worst is, let him get to 20 or 21 at the brink of becoming useful, and watch the man show up from nowhere to harvest your labour. The woman may rave and shout but its all wash: biology wont lie and the law would take its course. You cant help feeling cheated, even if you have your own children.

Since you have started feeling this way the easiest thing to do is to re-evaluate that relationship: there isnt an easy way of saying it.

Again, one meet, one random apology and one random rendezvous is all it takes and she will bed him behind your back; its probably her first and we all know how potent old firewood is. Even if that doesnt happen, there will be uncomfortable interferences in your home:they have a child together. Can you live your life like this?

If i were the one, i cant o.

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You cant drop a Merc and a Toyota before me and expect me to choose Toyota. It cant happen!

dre11:
https://m.guardian.ng/news/how-yahoo-boys-subjected-state-house-director-naankang-to-agony-of-slow-death/

Let them concoct more believable lies.
We arent fools.
When did yahoo boys become daring as to track a woman to her home, strangle her and set her ablaze? Yahoo boys don finish with their magas?

Dem never talk wetin happen to that woman

NNFORUM:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/tribuneonlineng.com/police-arrest-school-proprietor-for-raping-corps-member-in-delta/amp/

Took her to his house and raped her without her knowledge. How did this happen? Was she hypnotized?

NNFORUM:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/tribuneonlineng.com/police-arrest-school-proprietor-for-raping-corps-member-in-delta/amp/

Wait. Took her to his house and had carnal knowledge of her without her knowledge. Was her drink laced or something? Was she hypnotized? This part should be clear enough.

hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

How do you force a woman to marry you? How is it done? Threats? Violence? Manipulation? Charms?
Make una educate me.

She doesnt even want to change her name? Your wife?

Truth is...she isnt yours to begin with. I dont want to go into the foolhardiness of seeing her through school, noble as it may have sounded.

But...she knew all of this and went through the wedding preparatioins with you, spending money you could have channelled elsewhere? Now bringing claims of force?

if she is truly serious and wants out of the marriage after all avenues of settlement are exhausted, simply let her go. Its the best you can do. Its hellish living with someone whose mind is elsewhere. but she shot herself in the foot, if she is a Christian. She remarries, and it will be a life fraught with daily deliberate offence to God.

Jeffmonti:
About To Lose A Good Girl. Please Help!

This might turn out to be a lengthy read, please bear with me. The bashing and insults will be unnecessary as i have already told myself hurtful things a thousand times over.

So i am 29 and have a girlfriend who’s 25 we are both graduates; she’s a nurse and i am a practicing engineer and we’ve been dating for 3+ years now and preparations are underway to tie the knot this year God willing. Something happened last year, she suggested i move to a bigger apartment so that we can start buying household items and everything necessary to start a home as we are looking to get married soon which we did; i got a bigger place, met her parents she met mine. In a nutshell everything seems to be going well, we even started a business together and set to take on the future together before the devil struck (i take blames for my actions as i am not overly religious)

Around June last year, i met a girl (very fine girl) in the new area i moved to, although i have been seeing the girl around but one day as i was driving in i saw her hiding somewhere close to my compound avoiding the rain with her friends so i took them in until the rain subsided we exchanged contacts and started texting on WhatsApp a few days later. And soon after we started having sex (protected sex), prior to that time i never cheated on my girlfriend.

The sex continued, up to 2 times a week sometimes 3 as it was relatively easy as she lived very close and my girlfriend only visits on the weekend and never sleeps out (she’s from a very good and wealthy family with proper moral upbringing). Most evenings when return from work conji just do me one kind i don cross street other times she calls until we became comfortable having unprotected sex

So late October 2019, the new girl (I’ll call her Lola) texted me that’s she’s not feeling too well and i asked her to visit the hospital to run a test to know what to treat. She came back with a pregnancy test result proving she’s already 3 weeks pregnant, i was sure it was mine but i didn’t panic as she had a bf and i have my gf we were just for the sex at least that’s what we told each other.

So i asked her to remove the pregnancy, but got the shocker when she said she’s never going to remove the pregnancy that she’s 27 and have no desire to marry me or stay with me but she’s going to have the child. Omo my heart flipped. I begged her for like 3 weeks until she got mad and stopped taking my calls, she even moved away from her apartment. So i texted her and arranged a meeting, we sat down and discussed at length but she was still bent on keeping it, i got furious and told her i am not ready to be part of the child’s life if she’s going through with it as i see no reason why she wants to have my child when she knows we are NEVER going to be together, that was when she said she had already told her family that i am not interested in the child and they support her to keep it and let the child bear their family name. I discussed the matter with two friends a boy and a girl and the asked me to let her have the child first.

One month passed fast forward to early December, Lola called 6 times i was so shocked. I couldn’t take her calls. She texted that she’s ready to terminate the pregnancy since i am wicked and unconcerned she rained all manner of derogatory words but i was only concern with her decision to let go. I called and we agreed to meet the following day, I skipped work that day and met with her and her elder sister and elder sister’s friend. The sister and her friend were so mean but i was unmoved; i don already fuckup and ready to take anything to let it all go away because the knowledge of things will destroy my girlfriend.

So Lola entered my vehicle and we drove out, on our way to the hospital for her to terminate the pregnancy plus treatment she’ll take afterwards and for the damages i have caused her. She’s going to need 150k from me, i was furious and told her i don’t have that kind of money talk less of handing it over to her for something like this (i sure don’t know what i cost but i know it’s not up to 50k). She said if i don’t give her what she want she’s going to have the baby and that i should be thankful that she’s coming up with this that if she had listen to her friends advices she would have moved to my house with all sort of troubles (she was right) but i didn’t give in just yet. I dropped her off and ask her to have the child that am not going to give her the money as i don’t have it (I get the money sha).

So two days passed, she called again and after many arguments we agreed at 100k, made her to sign a NDA not to bother me again and all, I transferred her the 100k that night, she confirmed receipt and promised to go with it the following morning and that was the last I have heard or seen or her since then, until 3 weeks ago when another of her sister called from Canada and was asking if i am Me, that she’s been seeking my contact for a while now that Lola friend had to steal the number Lola’s phone and pass it to her as Lola has been hiding my phone number from the rest of the family and she doesn’t know the arrangement i have had with her but i should know that she’s having the child, she just thought i should know that i have a child somewhere when the baby eventually drops.

Knowing fully well that i am a shitty person to have done something terrible to myself and my girlfriend and all our future plans because of cheap sex, but I’ll be a more terribly bad person to have knowledge of a child somewhere and not be in his/her life. I called Lola but she didn’t take i texted her about her sisters call she called back to know who called and was furious, she ended the call (I guess to call her sister back) and called back again in about 20mins and asked me not to ever call her line again. I replied her text she should tell her family not call me as well. I have dodged to her apartment building a coupe times but she’s not been around for weeks as i was made to believe.

So i bought a ring to engage my girl few weeks ago but had to hold first to see how things play out, i can’t go ahead and marry my girlfriend with this kind of secret untold; that will be wickedness from the pit of hell and i still don’t know how to break it to her, it will destroy her.

I jokingly painted a similar scenery to my girlfriend; her response was: she will not marry me because if she does she will kill me in my sleep. That everybody is expecting us to get married this year, she now have high respect from her family because of me and this kind of thing happens both of us will die. Omo fear catch me.

Fellow Nairalanders, this is my predicament please advice a stupid brother. Insults are welcome as I hope to pick a thing or two from your comments. MODs please push this up biko.

Simple. Its done. Tell your fiancee and take whatever comes. It may be harsh but its the best. Lola will have no other hold on you. What does she want? I thought she said she has no desire to marry you? Money?

Vyolet:
There's this question i have been meaning to ask, just to sample the opinion of a few people, mostly men.

Men, how do you feel when your wife tells you that another man hits on her at her work place or at a random place like parties, eatery, mall or just anywhere she visits.

As we know that Marriage is a sacred one filled with lots of compromises, and due to that fact, each party just get extra careful of their actions or utterances as you just may never know what will hurt your partner.

Its normal. What she does in response is the issue.

bukatyne:
@Oga Prosper:

I don't know your 8yr old daughter sleeps in your room.

The poster below said it: You leave all parenting decisions to your wife.



You don't like the kids in your matrimonial bed? Tell her and set up the guest room for the 8yr old and the crib for the 7mths old in your room.

If your wife is worried about the safety of the 8yr old (I don.t know why she could be), you both check on her once at night.

Also learn to communicate: You feel your daughter should sleep independently: Tell your wife, she is not a witch.

Your sex life is dwindling? Tell her.

Stop feeling things or wondering how to tell her; create a cool atomsphere for discussion (probably after food) and raise your concerns.

And please do not reward bad behaviour: You do not need to 'date' your wife before she has sex with you or do her other duties.

Please note I am not saying you both shouldn't date/ court yourselves; I am saying do not do it to cajole her to do what she needs to do.

Do it as recreation; all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.

Goodluck.

I love this. Devoid of gender bias and stuff.
Communicate.
Date her yes, but not in expectation of sex.
Both parties should work towards keeping intimacy in that union and children is no excuse. Children that will grow and chart their own life courses?
If someone like me switches off that's it o. Especially after trying to talk about this to no avail.

I am in love with this comment. Free from gender bias and stuff.
Communicate.

oluwafemme129:
Lady who got burnt during a gas explosion has shared photos of her transformation to celebrate her birthday.

Yinka Matthews suffered the burn on June 8, 2013, when a gas cylinder in her kitchen exploded when she was trying to cook.

Her body was badly burned during the explosion and she was in a coma for 2 days. When she regained consciousness, she contemplated suicide and begged the doctor to inject her with a substance that'll kill her.

Today, she's well and her skin shows no signs of the burns she once suffered.

Sharing photos of what she looked like lying on her hospital bed shortly after the gas explosion and other photos of what she looks like now, she wrote:



https://www.instagram.com/p/B7nqeDsHy8D/?igshid=j3n9ec0yyjga

So God passed you through all of this and the best form of gratitude is to begin to expose your breasts all over again abi?

TUANKU:
Drop your whatsapp number.

08052795647. Thanks

agemmy113:
I wrote Good pm ma, what a nice look.
She haven't confront me but she told her housegirl that I will have to explain what I mean to her when she come back..

Relax. As a matter of fact she wants to hear more. She is angry and didn't reply you immediately on Whatsapp instead told her house help?

LadyExcellency:
You don't chose side with sin. Disrespecting your mother in-law is a sin provided she wouldn't react as such with her own mother. The wife should treat both mothers with same respect. God doesn't condole partiality.

From all indication, the wife can celebrate a birthday for her mum but never for her mother in-law.

Understand my point. Put each party where they belong. That's all I'm saying.

Ugoerico:
Why not use the 1.5 to process study visa in relatively cheaper countries like Ukraine, Romania etc?
OR if you prefer first class countries Germany and other western Europe then use part of the money you have and pay someone living there to get sponsorship letter for your study visa..

If the above coudnt work then the third option is to do three months UAE visa enter there, get and pay a reliable UAE job agent for any readily available 2year contract job for u: salary of about 3500 AED(350k naira always comes with accommodation). Do the work for two years and save money, come back to naija and start Germany process whose success rate remains very high once you block an account of 10,200 Euro for your living expenses.

Don't plan migrating with visit visa cos u may end up regretting...

Wish you good luck.
(I am not an Agent and i don't recommend any)

Probably the best advice I have read so far. But sorry, how does getting sponsorship letter make the student visa easier? Just asking cos I'm aware Germany is hotcake for students now.

PrinceMajestic:
if they were not smarter than you are they would not have been the govnors or presidents today. These are men who know how smoking enhances proper reasoning, humans have been smoking for centuries so its only a human behavior, u don't smoke or drink so this means u don't have indiscriminate behaviour? Y do u care about smokers yet no smoker care bout yo ass?

Smarter than me? In Nigeria or where? Pleeease.
I wish i wont have to beg God for forgiveness if i type what is in my mind

funmisticqueen2:
guy pls note this feedback

Some things said here I'm guilty of and I'm learning. Especially the beard twitching thing. I do it sometimes

PrinceMajestic:
u know hw many Nigerian president smoke n even smoked weed? Your govnors, senators n most politicians all smoke. So are they not responsible because the rule u n run ur civic life? Very foolish to condemn a man for smoking, what bout a man who doesn't smoke but will easily rape n kill u

guy, no defend wetin no follow.
How many governors actually take decisions and map out policies? How many are thinktanks? Government is run by principal officers, not helmsmen.
Smoking and drinking and other firms of addiction impair decision making and critical thinking, and puts one at risk of indiscriminate behaviour.

AntiChristian:
Prologue
Sometimes I wonder why God in the Bible approved things he does not want to happen! Abraham sleep with Hagar, his wife's slave and God (not Satan) gave them Ishmael. Later God gave Sarah Isaac. Then God sent Hagar and Ishmael away making Isaac the promised Child!

This shows that the son of a slave is lesser in worth than the son a freeborn in God's eye! There was no sin on the part of Hagar or Ishmael.
And why does God approve the fertilization if He would later reject the kid?

Slavery in the Bible

1. The following passage shows that slaves are clearly property to be bought and sold like livestock.
However, you may purchase male or female slaves from among the foreigners who live among you. You may also purchase the children of such resident foreigners, including those who have been born in your land. You may treat them as your property, passing them on to your children as a permanent inheritance. You may treat your slaves like this, but the people of Israel, your relatives, must never be treated this way. (Leviticus 25:44-46 NLT)

2. The following passage describes how the Hebrew slaves are to be treated.
If you buy a Hebrew slave, he is to serve for only six years. Set him free in the seventh year, and he will owe you nothing for his freedom. If he was single when he became your slave and then married afterward, only he will go free in the seventh year. But if he was married before he became a slave, then his wife will be freed with him. If his master gave him a wife while he was a slave, and they had sons or daughters, then the man will be free in the seventh year, but his wife and children will still belong to his master. But the slave may plainly declare, ‘I love my master, my wife, and my children. I would rather not go free.’ If he does this, his master must present him before God. Then his master must take him to the door and publicly pierce his ear with an awl. After that, the slave will belong to his master forever. (Exodus 21:2-6 NLT)

Notice how they can get a male Hebrew slave to become a permanent slave by keeping his wife and children hostage until he says he wants to become a permanent slave. What kind of family values are these?

3. The following passage describes the sickening practice of sex slavery. How can anyone think it is moral to sell your own daughter as a sex slave?
When a man sells his daughter as a slave, she will not be freed at the end of six years as the men are. If she does not please the man who bought her, he may allow her to be bought back again. But he is not allowed to sell her to foreigners, since he is the one who broke the contract with her. And if the slave girl’s owner arranges for her to marry his son, he may no longer treat her as a slave girl, but he must treat her as his daughter. If he himself marries her and then takes another wife, he may not reduce her food or clothing or fail to sleep with her as his wife. If he fails in any of these three ways, she may leave as a free woman without making any payment. (Exodus 21:7-11 NLT)

So these are the Bible family values! A man can buy as many sex slaves as he wants as long as he feeds them, clothes them, and has sex with them!
4. What does the Bible say about beating slaves? It says you can beat both male and female slaves with a rod so hard that as long as they don’t die right away you are cleared of any wrong doing
When a man strikes his male or female slave with a rod so hard that the slave dies under his hand, he shall be punished. If, however, the slave survives for a day or two, he is not to be punished, since the slave is his own property. (Exodus 21:20-21 NAB)

5. You would think that Jesus would inspire Paul and the New Testament to have a different view of slavery, but slavery is still approved of in the New Testament, as the following passages show.
Slaves, obey your earthly masters with deep respect and fear. Serve them sincerely as you would serve Christ. (Ephesians 6:5 NLT)

6. Advise for Christian slaves
Christians who are slaves should give their masters full respect so that the name of God and his teaching will not be shamed. If your master is a Christian, that is no excuse for being disrespectful. You should work all the harder because you are helping another believer by your efforts. Teach these truths, Timothy, and encourage everyone to obey them. (1 Timothy 6:1-2 NLT)

7. Finally Jesus's ending notes
The servant will be severely punished, for though he knew his duty, he refused to do it. “But people who are not aware that they are doing wrong will be punished only lightly. Much is required from those to whom much is given, and much more is required from those to whom much more is given.” (Luke 12:47-48 NLT)

the concept of slavery as understood by us today is not the same as was prevalent in Israel at the time of Exodus and leviticus. It could be the same word, but the undeestanding is different.
Picture this: would it make sense for an all-knowing God to bring His people out of egypt with a heavy hand, then allow them undergo the same harsh treatment in the hands of their very own brothers? Does that add up? That shows you that the understanding and application is not the same as Europeans coming to African to steal and sell human beings.


The kind of slavery prevalent then was most probably slavery which came about through inability to pay a debt.

finalboss:
A better question would be why would a loving God kill children in the first place.

This is what the bible says.

(4 Kings 2:23-24)

2.So the waters were healed unto this day, according to the saying of Elisha which he spake.

23 And he went up from thence unto Bethel: and as he was going up by the way, there came forth little children out of the city, and mocked him, and said unto him, Go up, thou bald head; go up, thou bald head.

24 And he turned back, and looked on them, and cursed them in the name of the LORD. And there came forth two she bears out of the wood, and tare forty and two children of them.

If I thought that story was anything more than a myth, I would be aghast. How could modern Christians believe in a God who would do this to little children?

Some people realise how embarrassing this passage is for theism and seek to mitigate the impact by saying that the victims were youths or young men, not little children — as if that should make a difference.

Although I believe this event never really happened, I do not support a religion that would delight in a story about the divine killing of little children

God is too omniscient to allow things happen just by chance. I know you arent a christian, but this does not make God any less who He is.

I'm not going to rationalize anything to make you feel better or to justify anything. You may feel this is too harsh, but it does not matter.

So a child sees someone he doesnt know, and because he is a child, begins to taunt him? just like that? They even gathered in groups to mock him, for no just cause?

it speaks volumes of the training of those children, and the fact that it would serve as a deterrent both to the parents of the children and others is glaring. God choosing that mode of punishment is his prerogative, and cannot be for nothing.

believe if you like, you choose not to believe, your cup of tea.

CHoccolaTE:
Mr man carry your frustration and bitterness from my front, I didn't address you.

I don't care whether he copied it or whatever. He has brains and he edited it to his taste. He deserves accolades and his write ups are soo true and relatable. I have no business with wherr he stays or whatever.

I am concerned about the message. Plus I have a hard time believing that over 100+ articles were all copied.

vincentjk:
That's why we keep giving credit to ubunja the great

Whether he's a Zimbabwean o
A Nigerian o
A south African o
I no wan know but I enjoy his write ups

More ink to your pen sir ubunja

That ubunja guy is just something else. Tells truths no one can fault

JONNYSPUTE:
..Both of you are saying the same thing but in a different way. Martinez39,ubunja and all the other guys preaching redpils has never adviced any male here to be wicked and cruel to females,rather,they should make use of their brains. Just like what you said. The thing is that alot of people here especially simps and females misunderstood them.

Exactly bro