The guy abroad may have promised them 100k, so as soon as the alert entered they sorted out their needs.

Involving the police nah, the mistake is from you bro. Give them time plenty of it before you will see your money.

If you're looking for whom to blame, put it on Buhari. He made things difficult that a whole father in law to be is begging you for using mere 100k that entered his account through your own mistake.

grossintel:
Like I earlier stated, I'm disappointed but at the same time their is almost nothing I can do. So for now, I'll have to play the waiting card, all my beneficiaries are family members but after what happened I quickly deleted her dads account number so I'm sure I won't make that mistake again.

AGAIN, have a lot of projects at hand and needed some funds to keeps things rolling until I'm done with them. I try not to take too much so I'm not tied up and burnt out, but as this happened I'll probably take up more offers than I should which isn't good. I could let it go, cause from the look of things they know I can't force them or u shouldn't force them since I'm serious with their daughter. But what they don't know is their daughter is broken, not only is she disappointed she feels embarrassed by their actions. I know this because I'm very close to her, all she's thinking about now is how to repay the money even though I won't let her go through the hustle right now.

In all these ave come to the conclusion that humans are humans, we blame politicians but if given the same opportunity we will most likely do worse. As terrible as it sounds, I'll never trust them with money again, not now not ever. I've also conclude the money is lost, so when she talks about it and say they will pay back, I just tell her if and when they do she should let me know. But she shouldn't say they will or try to make me believe they will because it will only make me feel worse if they don't.

I'll just manage what I have for now, Easter flexing was almost guaranteed but now ave lost the mood for that completely.

I understand you. Atleast, the fund sent to them was used wisely and not for flexing as you intend using it for easter.

For your babe, I am trying to picture what and how exactly she is feeling but yet, I cant figure it out cause i have never had parent who did that before and how people (especially their children) reacted.

Tell her not to bother herself that its being destined to happen that way. Doing this, will make her calm down and free from worry & disdain for her own parent.

Again, are you good on coding? What program do u use for your website projects?

Nazgul:
This is a very serious case. But I'll blame her parents, even if they were expecting someone abroad to send money, credit alerts comes with a sender name, as long as the sender name on the credit alert didn't correspond with the name of the family member in diaspora, they had no right to touch the money.

But would you crucify them for that? There's so much hunger and suffering in the land that the word "integrity" seems alien to most Nigerians.

My advise is for you to consider what some posters have been saying here. If she's worth it, just go ahead and propose to her and that money can be used as introduction, her father on the other hand will be lenient with you on bride price considering what he put you through.

If she isn't worth marrying, well you'd just have to forget about that money and move on, see it as your payment for all the sex she's been giving to you, cos you stated it clearly that her parents are currently in a pitiful financial state, meaning asking them to raise such money back for you is like driving them to an early grave via stroke and other depressed related afflictions.

Suggesting I take it as part of the bride price money keeps cracking me up and I don't know why. You're not the one who will detect what the list would look like or would you go telling her uncles her parents owe you.
The only advise I have for them is never to do this again, because you can easily land in trouble with EFCC or risk going to jail. Wasn't it on the news the other day about the man who was sentenced to jail for spending 1m mistakenly sent to him?
I know their is hunger in the land but doing this as a family isn't a good thing at all.

And next time be very careful whenever you're doing a transfer, this is one area I don't joke with, I confirm the sender name on my bank app before submitting, if you had done that, it could have saved you all this stress.

Usually I always cross check, but then again humans make mistakes.

Kate06:


I understand you. Atleast, the fund sent to them was used wisely and not for flexing as you intend using it for easter.

For your babe, I am trying to picture what and how exactly she is feeling but yet, I cant figure it out cause i have never had parent who did that before and how people (especially their children) reacted.

Tell her not to bother herself that its being destined to happen that way. Doing this, will make her calm down and free from worry & disdain for her own parent.

Again, are you good on coding? What program do u use for your website projects?

I wouldn't say I'm very good at coding anyway, I learn everyday but well experienced. I'm very good at fronted, work with mainly Bootstrap and WordPress. We can link up, and share future projects if any. Thanks alot.

Just let him know you have payed for her daughter, you re waiting for his invitation for your family... Always make sure you check before you SEND... LESSON FOR FREE

grossintel:


I wouldn't say I'm very good at coding anyway, I learn everyday but well experienced. I'm very good at fronted, work with mainly Bootstrap and WordPress. We can link up, and share future projects if any. Thanks alot.

Share your telegram username, thanks.

Forget the money bro. It's hard but forget it.

dominique:
They're pastors, prospective in-laws and broke for that matter, oga just forget about the money. Collect whatever they return and count your losses.

I will not say wetin Dey my mouth to you this morning for this thing Wey u talk ..



That is stealing !!!!

Just tell him u have paid from his daughter's bride price just incase... But u funny oo.... That man go like u die..

Wetin Dey make me boil is the fact that people on here are supporting anc justifying the girl’s family .. they have no reason to spend that money ! They intentionally did it. If I was the one , I would never take that family serious again . Let’s assume the op is not doing well financially small, where him one see 100k to fund the client work ?



And most of y’all here no get 40k for acct you’re here talking as if The money nah 1k.




100k is very small to flex but hard to gather in this kind economy .. the girl’s father is a thief coupled with him wife .. if my girlfriend tries that with me and dem no refund the money ( u self hear yourself nah , this is a client money not my own money o) wetin I go talk to her head , she go curse her own parent no be small .. and na that kind family no Dey joke with money if it were to be there own ..

Sorry @ Op, but collect your money !!! Haba..

I can let it go if it’s my own money I mistakenly transferred by myself , but this one , lai lai
Nonsense !

Kate06:


Share your telegram username, thanks.

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grossintel:
Sadly it's the only reality I'm faced with right now. I'm pained but ave learnt an expensive lesson.

Who spends that much in 24hrs on food in nigeria? How big is their family?

It is from little things that integrity is tasted.moreso being a clergyman,he should have verified who sent the money.

I once was paid double salary,i waited and no debit,i escalated the issue as much as i could but interestly majority advised me to chop and clean month as per national cake..The entire 4 mths it took for the money to be retrieved,i wasnt at peace.

Anyone supporting them has a big problem.Its nothing until it happens to you and you are in dire need of that fund right away.

Mrscarter:


Who spends that much in 24hrs on food in nigeria? How big is their family?

My dear, I tire. A family of 6, but just 4 at the moment cause the rest are away for various reasons. But that was really fast, I even learnt they paid Tithe from the money in church. All this happened in less than 24hrs. I finally spoke with her Mom this morning, I intentionally didn't want to pick yesterday cause I was very angry. She kept pleading that they used the money for food, drugs, house expenses and tithe in church. The last one really made me laugh , I just asked them to send back what's left before they use it for seed faith, they shouldn't start borrowing cause I know things are hard . Honestly, country is hard, the temptation is real but it's well.

Mrscarter:


Who spends that much in 24hrs on food in nigeria? How big is their family?

Food is just to make it look presentable. I can comfortably tell you that the money was used to settle various debts and the rest was used for food. It's so sad that so many Nigerians are currently wallowing in severe debts. A friend of mine stopped picking up my calls since last month, he borrowed some money from me to settle his family's needs, I later discovered that I'm not the only one he's owing he borrowed from other friends as well.

As bad as I felt, I knew that that's the current situation with most households in Nigeria. So if you mistakenly pay in any excess money into their account, it will be withdrawn in seconds cos there are so much needs awaiting attention.

Rumor has it that the average Nigerian has less than 50k lying dormant in his account. And as embarrassing as that sounds, it's the blunt truth.

lilvicky68:

If money enter your account and nobody call you to acknowledge the money..you no go spend am?

Within 24 hours?That person must have a dubious mind.

That's bride price subscription in advance.

Minus am from her bride price

grossintel:
Really? What happened to integrity? A good name is better than riches? I understand the temptation was real but I'm highly disappointed. Even if you are going to use money you're not sure of the source, why not make some calls or wait a couple of days!

What if the friend overseas had promised to send the money through a friend and the next moment your client money land in the account.
But OP how many times have you knocked that your girlfriend?.
Count that money as compensation to her father for all the knacks not paid for.

Dear OP, please exercise patience with them. You don't initiate Transactions without verification of beneficiary before inputting your PIN. If by Tuesday, no show from them, visit your bank and complain of erroneous transfer.
Please be careful next time, you're lucky it's someone you know. If it weren't, it may have been difficult as recall of funds no dey easy.
If I were in the shoes of your babe, I'll try to raise the money and save them the shame. Why is she putting it on them?
It happened I agree but in their situation, they need the money. I'll look for ways to raise and repay you. It's her fault so she should take responsibility.
You are also indulging her. I pray that she doesn't give you the account number of a stranger next time.
What if the dad was deceased and the account has a deceased freeze on it, would you be disappointed in the family?
This should even let you know the kind of woman you have and the extent she'll take responsibility for her acts than leave you to go haywire blaming the wrong people and having issues in the future.

Bride price 10percent paid

Since it seams u love your girlfriend, there is no need to involve the police that is if you truly see her as the person u be getting married to in anytime.

When you ready for marriage just make sure you have the money deducted from the bride price to teach them a lesson not to try such silly behavior with you in future.

I will advise you to be very careful of this kinda family because they certainly not saying the truth.
Pls make sure you relocate to another city or a place far away from your wife family if you wanna have a peaceful marriage

The gods thank you for your sacrifice

Consider it as part payment of her dowry

Why would a guy be sending money to his girlfriend's father once in a while.... Which kind simp full Nigeria like this

SmellySperm:
shey someone up there has adviced you to use the money as your bride price already...

she's all yours now bro

U better know what you are doing, date who go fit help your condition

grossintel:
My brother, I won't! Even if I would, I'll wait a couple of days or call people I know could send it. I have clients who do that sometimes and I always try to find out who sent it and what it's for.

You are good person

I see this hitting fp so lemme sit here snd read comment

grossintel:
So one of my clients wanted to transfer 100k to me for a subscription fee, for some reasons I didn't want him to send it to my main account so I told him I'll send him an account to send the money to.

My girlfriend was with me, so I asked if I could use her account and she agreed. (PS: I use her account number a lot and we've been dating for a long time so I trust her with such amount) . So I told her to send me her account number, but she was watching a movie and requested I check my bank app beneficiaries. I checked and reluctantly copied the account number without checking properly seeing the account name had her surname on it, I didn't check the rest.

My client transferred the money and almost 24hrs my girlfriend still didn't receive the money so I contacted him and he sent a screenshot of the transfer which I forwarded to her. Immediately she saw it she shouted! That's her dads account number, I know I used to send her money through he's account some years back so I saved he's account details. She quickly called him and that's when she heard the shocker.

He said he thought it was he's friend abroad, so they used the money to buy food stuff and what is left is 40k or less, her mom was even pleading if they can send the 40k. My GF has been crying and begging that I should give them time to raise the money or I should sell her phone. Her entire family members have been calling me and I refused to pick, I just want my money back complete.

How can you use money you didn't verify the source in less than 24hrs? Her Mom is a pastor and Father is an elder but this is stealing! Did you call your friend abroad to ask before using the money? Her dad is retired without pention so I know for sure they don't have a way of raising the money.

After much pleading I asked her to tell them to send the 40k and send the rest before the week runs out, that's when they told her they can't do transfer and it has to be on Tuesday. At this stage, I just concluded they spent all that money, I'm trying to stay calm but at the same time not be foolish. My friend is asking me to involve the police but this will certainly hurt my relationship. Please how should I follow this matter, I need mature advice please. 100k is not something I can dash anyone right now.

That's all I needed to hear.
They mean they can't remove 60k from the weekly offering to replace it?

It’s called initial payment for Dowry so chill...You didn’t loose anything but you made upfront payment. You can even negotiate for a discount when you go for final payment