Go and report him at the closest military barracks or installation ask to speak to their quarter guards and explain all this and how your father's death caused a disciplinary vaccum in his life... They would arrange to have your brother picked up and drilled so badly that when ever he attempts to steal he is hunted by a bad mental torture.. after this drilling exercise arrange hospital care, and pastor counseling with family

passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Gambling is the main problem

edoman2016:
maybe he is broke since he has no job. Has your family try giving him monthly stipend? That could work.

LOL You wan add to the problem be that

Trained by single mother, last born,gets what he wants. Those three facts points out to someone that's spoilt, and not taught to be responsible for his life from childhood. When he gets in jail, don't bail him for a month. You can carry food there for him, but ensure he spends some time there.

Pray for him and talk to him....if d guy no gree.....Buy him better phone....and advise him to start yahoo....d guy na tool 4 yahoo...tell him to take his stealing international....d guy go change before he steal from locals... make locals no go do jungle juctice 4 am...
D only way 2 change local thief na make e go international....trust me d guy no go steal local again....

As an senior fellow I advised U should take him to rehab... There is on in Kaduna called bostal training institute... Then prayer coz is the master key...

passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Send him to the Military where he will be adequately disciplined.

Take him to God of Baba Abiye's mountain and his life won't remain the same again.

If you have his number send it for me. I can help him. May he has not seen enough money. Thanks.

Mercychen:
Prayers. Your mum should pray for him.
Then for practical solutions, send him out of that area. Prolly to a family member that is very strict and tough to handle him well. I'm sure you have someone like that in your family.

Why did you have to wait this long to seek solution though? It be would have been much easier to correct him when he was younger.

If na you be family wey dem send am to you go collect?

passionguy:

He has went through lots of counsellings
About strong hand
Who's can handle a 24 year old guy with strong hand with father.

at that age, you can only advice him one last time then leave him to face the consequences of his actions. He still has a roof over his head and will surely meet food when he gets home tonight.

passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Please take him or direct him to nearest Deeper Life Bible Church he would find deliverance for his habit soul spirit and body. His problem is spiritual not ordinary.

Upworkwriter007:
Trained by single mother, last born,gets what he wants. Those three facts points out to someone that's spoilt, and not taught to be responsible for his life from childhood. When he gets in jail, don't bail him for a month. You can carry food there for him, but ensure he spends some time there.

Co Sign

Make e do holiday for 3 months there

Use him for ritual sharp sharp thank me later.

AgentGoat:



If na you be family wey dem send am to you go collect?

Upon all the buhari problem, i go come add useless fellow join body again

Kuku kee me

This na minor case na. He needs serious beating to reset his brain to default setting. These are what you need to do...
Day 1: if e de smoke or drink, give am in excess till e b like say e go die. He'll think its all love, not knowing it's a trap. While doing that pretend as if all is well.
Day 2: set him up, you can drop something for him to steal. Mean while arrange boys for ground weh go carry out the act. Beating him very well n make you break about 2 to 3 bones in his body. Tie him for 3 days without treating his injury, no food, only water(if you wish). After that you make him swear with his life not to try such again.
Thank me later.

Try and Pray for him.

Or get a Police Officer. Arrange with the Police Officer. Let them put him in Prison to sleep there for a week or so and see if he won't change.

When he comes out, he would turn a new leaf. You will see.

Bad idea, he will spoil the image of Nigeria, you don't send people like that out of the country, pls

kingthreat:


Can all your family members unite and help his soul. If he doesn't want to go to school, gather money for him to travel to a country like Turkey to hustle. Or gather money for him to get a shop selling something. After that, he's on his own.

passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Hmm.....He needs strong spiritual counseling and probably a change of environment....

Sending him outside the country won't be a bad idea, that's after he's been counselled here.......... Please don't give up on him...and keep praying

Many good suggestions were made but guy u should understand once a person starts stealing at home and even went outside to steal several times, then you should know your brother is gone. U see thieves hardly repent honestly speaking. Is left for you, u can send him to jail for like 15- 20 years, u will be in peace knowing he is in jail and by the time he is out he above 50years, stealing will not be nice because the youthful strength is almost gone. Because if you don't do this one u will just hear that he was shot by security personel during operation. Best of luck

I am glad you are okay now, stay blessed.

And since you can understand what he is going through, then your insight is more valuable.

eddie1211:
Bro/sis, there's nothing God cannot do, his case is not even worse than mine, but am now a testimony, I lavish Money, stole, lie, do allot of bad things that me self come tire I couldn't stop it I continued for long my mom has paid a Dept of almost two million naira in less than two months not the on she has been paying oh I even scammed allot of people, I have been arrested allot of times but she bailed me again and again still I didn't change I have been beaten allot of times by soldiers, police but nothing I continued doing it for good 9 years everyone in my family gave up on me but my mom continue paying dept but the day I encounter God that's the day I change my sister make una do something about your brother quickly it might be a Fair play for you but times going for him many times it's not his fault, I can even tell he has been doing it since he was young many times it's a spiritual problem that you guys didn't pay attention to pray for him take him to fire praying church, am not a member of mountain of fire but that's were I got my deliverance, your brother can change it's just being used to destroy the name of your family and end it. And give him advise every single moment, keep his hands busy, teach him how to pray and fast, he will change

He needs an intervention.

Contrary to Nigeria’s 18-35 , a youth according to UNICEF is 10-24. He is no longer a child. Stop babying Him the way Nigerian Leaders are babying people even above 35, which is why we are so stunted in our growth.

You people need to let Him know that He is now responsible for His life and will wash your hands off any responsibility for Him.

However, if He is willing to make a change for the mutual benefit of everyone, especially Mummy, your doors are always open .

Until then, assist Him to move out of the House with immediate effect. And be ready to make your peace with whatever actions He takes and the consequences thereof.

passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

He's gone. There's nothing you can do about it. Hand over his matter to God and rest. Console your mum for me.

passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Na aj you dey

MARKone:
Back then, a man I know had a son about the same age as your brother, the son gave him a lot of heart ache, he son steals, a drug addict, spend most of his time in brothels, was an all round bad boy, he gave the man a hell of a problem, and made him a public ridicule. In all this, each time the son is arrested by police, the man goes to pay money to kill the case and bail him out, the man developed grey hairs and was always looking frail. One day, news got to the man that his son have been arrested by SARS for Armed robbery, that he should come to the station, he went the next day, where he was briefed on what happened, then there were more repeated visits to the station, some back and forth. Police was like, he should bring money, so that they'll see how the case would be sorted out, that the longer he stays there, they more likely he would be taken outside in the night and shot. Baba go home, gave it a thought, called the policemen and told them to do whatever they want to do, and never went back to the station. Some months later, news reached the man that they've killed his son...
I'm not saying that's what you guys should do o , just that some family have a thin threshold of endurance for a Black sheep of the family.

I swear, I've heard this story before.

Only one person

passionguy:

As a mother my mother will not take it

Who would you prefer to die, your mother or your brother?

In this case, it was the appeal of living bad that captivated him, it took something serious such as a close encounter with death to bring him back to his senses.

Elliot2:
This life na pot of beans sha. That your bro could turn out to be a better person, or even worse. I have seen a lot. My one of my distant cousin bro who was acting like your bro was killed by police last year. Another was a terror to the community until a pastor saw his vision that he would die the next time he goes on operation with his gang. Presently, dude is a very strong christian. My small nephew who joined delinquent boys after I left home for school and there was no one to monitor and stop him. When I heard it, I adviced him but he wouldn't listen, so I stopped worrying about him. One fateful day, he got terribly drunk after a bet he had with his friends. When he got too high and passed out, his friends left him suffocating on his his vomits. He was lucky some good Samaritans brought him to us. After that ordeal, he just cut of those friends and left the community. Presently, dude is an hardworking fashion designers making cool cash for himself. Dude is even the one advising his former friends in the village to leave the unproductive life they are living.

[quote author=passionguy post=105402123]My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on...

How does your brother treat animals? Is he cruel to them? If he is, then he is what is called a psychopath; there is no cure for such people. They are essentially irredeemable bad seed and must be discarded by society.

Una never serious
Call some people to catch him and beat him up ...tie him and flog the hell out of his life

Then lock him up always his eyes go clear

The guy is next to become a prisoner soonest if care is not taken

passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Gamble? Omo, that stuff is just like drugs. You need an experienced counsellor or social worker to handle his case. Don't rule out any causal factor. It might be anything but do not, I repeat, do not tag it so much on spirituality, it will worsen the social problem.

The fact remains, he needs to meet any of the above mentioned persons for proper intervention and if necessary, psycho-educate him. Then, it will be confirmed, what exactly brought him thus far into gambling. That alone is enough to sell every and anything around him. He ruins life without stress. Gamblers live on "hope" and "assurance" which never come to light.

It's no joking matter at all. 24 is above teens and to get him off all these requires intensive effort and family relationship.

Power of gambling addiction

There is need for all this gambling stuffs be it football betting, virtual Betting, lotto or any kind of gambling to be banned in this country
Those behind these games seems to be manipulating their clients spiritually though I can't scientifically prove my claim but once you engaged in those things and you are not much strong spiritually you whole life is messed up
I have been a victim

What you brother needs now is steady source of money and spiritually help

Gambling addiction is his problem