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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Terrence99: 10:16pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
24brains:At 24? Na una dey spoil pikin. That boy will get killed in a short while if he continues like that. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by jadyclem(m): 10:16pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy: You can never change anyone that hasn't seen the need for change. Infact, the more you try to make them change, the more they would resent you and do those things you advise them against doing. Look, your 24yr old brother is already an adult and if at 24 he can't advise himself and decide what he really wants to do with his life, there's nothing you or anyone else can do to help him. One more thing, you guys should stop bailing him out from the consequences of his misbehaviour. The sooner you guys start allowing him to suffer squarely the consequences of his bad behaviour, the better for all of you. He's already given your family a bad name, so allowing him suffer for his wrong doing won't make any difference to the bad name he's already given you guys. 5 Likes |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:17pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy:Who keeps bailing him out? That person is the one who you should be telling this story to so he/she gets a clue. What happened to "You do the crime, you serve the time"? 3 Likes |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by unmask: 10:17pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy:he is doing drugs |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Terrence99: 10:17pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Jerryherd: Best advice yet. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:18pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Victerica:Cognitive psychotherapy? |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by SeriouslySense(m): 10:18pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
I think how children are brought up, early in Life can help them deal with peer pressure, wayward ideas, that seem appealing but are harmful. Bring up a Child, in such a way that his early life is full of wisdom, good games, self-expression in arts, morality as shown in religious books or stories, and a healthy family, that loves and encourages each other. This will help the child have self-worth, and sufficient wisdom, with the social skills to navigate the terrain of the world. In fact, in early childhood, the influences of maternal and paternal care, the social settings, and the quality of relationships, helps that child as he or she grows up, in a Junlge. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by GboyegaD(m): 10:19pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy: Don't give up. Find some people in the area to threaten to give him some shi shi forever to reset him when next he acts stupid and follow through. Just call an area bros or uncle he respects. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:19pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy:You mean say wetin him dey already do never damage family image enough , na to serve the punishment for his crimes go affect family image pass? |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Swealy: 10:20pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Probably he likes the attention his getting maybe una try give am space and see how he reacts, if he does worse then it's definitely attention probably he feels inferior but if not prepare for the worst |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by fof1: 10:20pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy: He is on Drugs... so he steals to feed his Quest. Two things to help U...Get help from a Genuine Chosen Pastor or Assembly near You. Secondly...report him to NDLEA for Rehabilitation. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Coolgent(m): 10:20pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy:Forget the family imagefor now cos your brother has already spoilt it, take good care of your Mother and move on with yoir life |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Coolgent(m): 10:21pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy:Forget the family image for now cos your brother has already spoilt it by stealing in your neighborhood. take good care of your Mother and move on with your life |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:21pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
paulolee:At 24? Which kain counseling that one go be for a 24-year old adult , "how to be a responsible human being "? |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:22pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
edoman2016:So, when people are broke, they turn to a lascivious lifestyle? |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by witworth(m): 10:23pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
But you are doing almost the same thing too, life itself na risky gamble and everybody na thief. Na only cheating some people no dey do, afterall nobody is 100% honest. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by diedwithnipsey(m): 10:24pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Is he a member of the Vikings confraternity?? That is the most notorious unrepentant criminals I know. "loot but don't be caught" as they cap shakespearian jargons wey dey mislead our 14 15 n 16 yr old. Uhuru passionguy: |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Jorge91: 10:24pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy:Prayers or advice cannot solve anything, Na man Dey decide. He should be locked up for a longtime for his crimes. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Cornerwealth: 10:24pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy: I feel for you bro and it's quite sad the advise some are giving here which is really bad and evil. Some people are pure psychopaths on this forum, and i feel ashamed some are telling you to even kill him, harm him, set him up or just forget about him. Shame on you if you advised him to do any of that, you are even worse than his brother. Have you located him now? The first thing is to find him and take him somewhere far from the vicinity. I can pm you and i'll let someone talk to your Mom, someone who has been in the same shoes before and you'll be surprised how easy it will be for your brother to change his life. Don't listen to evil people and don't be perturbed by people who say prayers don't work. I'll be here waiting to hear from you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:24pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy:He ought to experience first hand the penalty for his actions and in full. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:25pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Mercychen:And if he goes to continue the same life style over there, then what? He is a 24-year old man, not a child or a teenager that sending him to to strict and tough family member would make a dent in his behavior. 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by OdogwuEkeke(m): 10:27pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Don’t bail him next time. Tell him there is no money for bail, let him spend sometime there so he can really understand his actions. passionguy: |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Idaytesj29(m): 10:28pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy: Your family may have to move on. You guys refused to take the hardline with him when he started showing little signs of these bad behavior. He is on the road that they don't usually return, until he meets his end he is not likely to stop. Watch out for when he becomes a strong crime lord locally which will mark the begining of his end. Sorry, I may be too blunt. 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:28pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy:A 24-yr old man is on the run, so what do you think you can do? It is too late to do anything. Let the pieces fall where they may. He laid his bed, it is time for you to let him lie in it. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:30pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
kingthreat:The decision has always been his. The family enabling him avoid punishment didn't help at all. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by SeriouslySense(m): 10:31pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
To help your brother, you need something practical, maybe if there was a place where he can meet people who were like him before and have recovered, who can talk to him, it may help. Another way you can help him practically help is to talk with him, ask him whats going on, why he is doing what he does if he can be honest, then there is a possibility, that you can understand to some extent what is going on inside his thoughts, this will help in forming an appropriate response, Don't apply any solution without finding out what is going on, inside his head. You have to work with him to some extent, understanding will help in forming a suitable response, without understanding his thinking, you are mostly going to hit the rock 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Victerica(m): 10:31pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: U have a problem with that? |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:31pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
kingthreat:Doesn't turkey have stricter laws for crimes than Nigeria? You send him there and he might end up spending the rest of his life sitting in a jail somewhere. |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by vickin407(m): 10:32pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
passionguy: I went through this phase but later came out of it myself, stole from parents,neigbour ,shops whenever i go to buy things, gambled alot too but all of a sudden i became a responsible person and now the breadwinner of my family living the life i want to outside the country. for your information my parents did all praying, slept in church for deliverance but i was still having that urge to take from people. just keep praying for him thats all and he comes out of it a better person. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 10:32pm On Sep 03, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: My brother the thing tire me. Maybe someone who's a soldier in the family would do. |
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