₦airaland Forum

pocohantas:
Why you come dey quote me since as you no wan marry me and you no want make I marry you?

SmartGadgetz:
Lol, you are now being funny. grin.

Communication first first, understanding second second, love third third then marriage.
Don't forget

SmartGadgetz:
Come to lekki, sagontedo. Lemme pick you up just for fun.

Edusouls:
Your sister is being too choosy, you don’t tell me all the men coming her way has unbearable faults or all of them are jobless and broke? The thing is that most Nigerian women suffer from the same disease, dreams of an unreal perfect man that is out there waiting for them to meet one day, if your parents don’t talk sense into her on time am afraid she would end like the others, ASAP getting to her near menopausal age still single.

oliviacute:
but it's the runs girls that are getting married every Saturday, life is really not balanced.

pocohantas:
Communication? Check
Understanding? Check

Love? I no want love wahala. Love wey nearly kill me many years ago.



Sangotedo? Hian! This one na LDR. Before I cross traffic to reach there, we done breakup.

pocohantas:
I am showing you women that would appreciate your 1k. Go propose to them.

pocohantas:
Communication? Check
Understanding? Check

Love? I no want love wahala. Love wey nearly kill me many years ago.



Sangotedo? Hian! This one na LDR. Before I cross traffic to reach there, we done breakup.

SmartGadgetz:
[s]Realistically, ladies flex during their prime time then expect the same best of men during their older time to marry them. Who does that? [/s]

Best is to use that their young, attractive and beautiful times to settle down when men are lurking around them.

It's their nature, that's why there is a saying that women are hypergamy generally.

As for men, their power and charms never fade provided that there is constant inflow of money, different kind of women will always come for them because of their well to do essence. Women don't want to suffer a bit so they chose an advantageous man over and over again without thinking twice bout their decision.

Sadly, Love in relationships is fast fading away. Much less in percentage compared to the older times of our parents. everyone is calculating to give themselves the best of what life have to offer for them - both man-woman relationships and otherwise.

Brightw278:
I disagree, marriage is not overatted, it has always been the building block that held our community together

SmartGadgetz:
Realistically, ladies flex during their prime time then expect the same best of men during their older time to marry them . Who does that?

Best is to use that their young, attractive and beautiful times to settle down when men are lurking around them.

pocohantas:
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Edusouls:
Most Nigerian girls (90%) girls suffer from a very bad disease called ( doupi) meaning dreams of an unreal perfect individual. They choose, and choose till they start getting near their menopausal age then reality sets in, this disease I have researched to be the cause of so many single women out there getting old. Nigerian women should put hands together to fight this devastating disease..

Eriokanmi:
Keep low and you'd get who/what you want.

How many guys want to marry into one room apartment with a separate kitchen ? How many gals want to endure with a few men who wish to marry into a room apartment with the description above? Everyone is just chasing shadows. Men too are busy craving a lifestyle which is often a mirage, before they think of getting married.

In my case, once God approved of our union with proofs even from more than one man of God who barely knew each other, we proceeded. I married my wife into a room with a separate kitchen outside. Once it rained in those days , we'd be busy diverting erosion away from the kitchen.

Today, we've achieved everything man has come to earth to achieve. I've dined with world leaders including Barak Obama on a special invitation to Washington DC. As I type this message, I'm inspecting my new edifice in lagos (the best in the whole estate). God has also blessed us with intelligent and God-fearing children all in a boarding secondary school in one of the best schools in Lagos.

My salary was 11k while my wife's was almost same when we got married. Barely a year after we got married, I began to change jobs like clothes and always with official cars, brand new to cap it all.

Money isn't everything when it comes to marriage too otherwise, DJ Cuppy wouldn't have been looking upandan for blind dates. It's God's institution. Try it and see things fall in pleasant places for you. Pray for your own and it would come, don't look at that pocket before you take a decision on this.

Harddiskng:
@Pocohantas, All prejudice aside you know that the bolded is true. A case in point is my cousin, i have talked about her once or twice. When she was young and beautiful she used all the guys that came her way to catch trips. Now that is getting less beautiful by the day, she is now serious about getting a man.

One of her old suitors actually came back and confided in me about his intention. I consider him my brother (once our bond of friendship is strong you become my brother).

I reminded of when this girl was beautiful was the prize every one around her wanted, how badly she treated him, so she was so non-chalant, he couldn’t get through to her. She didn’t consider him in her prime, why is he considering her in when he is in his prime; great job, a car, sweet house, everything is going super well for him. I told him point blank that he deserves better. There are more beautiful and sensible babes and my guy-man reasoned with me

Trust me i told my cousin about this event, she cried her eyes out. I could see the anger in her eyes, but she knew the repercussion if she moved mad against me.

You can’t eat your cake and have it.

Harddiskng:
@Pocohantas, All prejudice aside you know that the bolded is true. A case in point is my cousin, i have talked about her once or twice. When she was young and beautiful she used all the guys that came her way to catch trips. Now that is getting less beautiful by the day, she is now serious about getting a man.

One of her old suitors actually came back and confided in me about his intention. I consider him my brother (once our bond of friendship is strong you become my brother).

I reminded of when this girl was beautiful was the prize every one around her wanted, how badly she treated him, so she was so non-chalant, he couldn’t get through to her. She didn’t consider him in her prime, why is he considering her in when he is in his prime; great job, a car, sweet house, everything is going super well for him. I told him point blank that he deserves better. There are more beautiful and sensible babes and my guy-man reasoned with me

Trust me i told my cousin about this event, she cried her eyes out. I could see the anger in her eyes, but she knew the repercussion if she moved mad against me.

You can’t eat your cake and have it.

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By the way even from my set way back in university, there are girls are not so fine (but they are really smart), they got married almost as soon as they were done with NYSC.

All these girls are still happy married, funny enough is the boss-chick, boss-bit*h that have trouble finding husband, even when they do the marriage doesn’t last up to two years.

SmartGadgetz:
You are just being funny .
Stop please.

Afriqan:
Even as a man, I sometimes feel for ladies, but you can't settle down out of pity.

It's majorly the economy that has prevented a lot of well meaning guys from settling down. A lot of Nigerian women will tell you they love you, but if there is no money, there won't be respect in the relationship, that's why most guys are just staying single nowadays.

But with God, all things are possible. Marriage is a beautiful thing.

valves:
You need to understand intersexual dynamics. ladies (and guys too) have a timeline, but most are oblivious of it until much later in life when it's almost too late.

Ladies are at their peak period when they are between ages 18-24 (for some it extends to 26). At this stage they are approached by all kinds of guys, obviously because they are young and beautiful, but this attention they get makes them to feel like they are on top of the world, like goddesses and gifts to humanity. Among those approaching at this stage are people who genuinely want to settle with them for life, but they are not ready to forgo all the attention they are getting from the other guys. They basically want to explore and date different people.

When they approach ages btw 28-34 they realise that they are no longer as attractive as they used to be and are not getting the attention of guys as before (this is the epiphany stage). Then they become desperate to settle down but most guys/suitors have already gotten married or switched their attention to much younger ladies. So the top guys they were interested in during their peak period are no longer available to them. Most ladies at this stage will still adamantly refuse to lower their standards and settle for someone who isn't (in their minds) "up to their (unrealistic) standards", and they keep aging while waiting for "Mr Perfect."

For guys the story is different. Guys peak around 32-36 years. At this age they have worked very hard and made money, are financially independent and ready to settle. But most of them will settle for ladies who are younger (ladies in their 20s), only a handful will go for ladies in their 30s.

Also, our generation is losing it. Some ladies find it hard to keep a man because they do not know their roles as women. They have consciously or unconsciously become hard-core feminist. Reality is most men don't want to settle with such ladies.

Summary is no lady will truthfully say that guys (well-intentioned guys) never approached them in their twenties (peak period). But they are on top of the world at this stage and belive they have all the time in the world and can attract anyone just because they are young and beautiful.

If you are a lady in your 20s (especially mid 20s) pls while you are getting all the attention from guys try and identify a potential suitor to settle down with. The older you get the more difficult it becomes.

BigBashiru:
I hate when marriage is called an "institution"....its a nightmare in which guys have to cope with greedy selfish women

SmartGadgetz:
Love you bruh. But don't hurt your sister anymore. She is still beautiful regardless.

FutureIsFemale:
[s][/s]It's the other way round. Men are the ones begging women for marriage. Some now prostrate to propose.

lalasticlala seun mynd44 Dominique justwise rule 2.

pocohantas:
Yenyenyen! They ignored guys in their prime. But when your gf breaks up with you to marry a ready man, you will come crying on Nairaland.

Some of you here have been dating your gfs for years without marriage. If they leave you now, another wailing go start.

You marry early? All Naija women want is marriage. They don’t build themselves.

You say make you stand before marriage? Double wahala. Evening newspaper, borehole pussy. Edede! Who go marry this one?

Abeg make una getaut!

pocohantas:
But Sangotedo is far. Isn’t that after Ajah ? Not so sure sha. They have very fine duplexes in that area, but I heard robbery dey high there.

How do you cope with traffic and the security situation?

Eriokanmi:
Keep low and you'd get who/what you want.

How many guys want to marry into one room apartment with a separate kitchen ? How many gals want to endure with a few men who wish to marry into a room apartment with the description above? Everyone is just chasing shadows. Men too are busy craving a lifestyle which is often a mirage, before they think of getting married.

In my case, once God approved of our union with proofs even from more than one man of God who barely knew each other, we proceeded. I married my wife into a room with a separate kitchen outside. Once it rained in those days , we'd be busy diverting erosion away from the kitchen.

Today, we've achieved everything man has come to earth to achieve. I've dined with world leaders including Barak Obama on a special invitation to Washington DC. As I type this message, I'm inspecting my new edifice in lagos (the best in the whole estate). God has also blessed us with intelligent and God-fearing children all in a boarding secondary school in one of the best schools in Lagos.

My salary was 11k while my wife's was almost same when we got married. Barely a year after we got married, I began to change jobs like clothes and always with official cars, brand new to cap it all.

Money isn't everything when it comes to marriage too otherwise, DJ Cuppy wouldn't have been looking upandan for blind dates. It's God's institution. Try it and see things fall in pleasant places for you. Pray for your own and it would come, don't look at that pocket before you take a decision on this.

FutureIsFemale:
[s][/s]It's the other way round. Men are the ones begging women for marriage. Some now prostrate to propose.

lalasticlala seun mynd44 Dominique justwise rule 2.

Fiscus105:
My brother you don't know what's happening outside oooooooooooo

Many don't do the 3, yet no man to walk them to isles

You and me know how we guys treat women with disdain most especially when it's time to get married. I know what some guys subjected ladies to, let us stop giving unnecessary excuse

pocohantas:
Yenyenyen! They ignored guys in their prime. But when your gf breaks up with you to marry a ready man, you will come crying on Nairaland.

Some of you here have been dating your gfs for years without marriage. If they leave you now, another wailing go start.

You marry early? All Naija women want is marriage. They don’t build themselves

You say make you stand before marriage? Double wahala. Evening newspaper, borehole pussy. Edede! Who go marry this one?

Abeg make una getaut!

Harddiskng:
Bruh the truth had to be said.

If its was anybody else, i for just lock-up but me and this guy don go way back. He was my blad. It was his choice, I couldn’t leave my him without my truth, I owed him that atleast.

pocohantas:
Yenyenyen! They ignored guys in their prime. But when your gf breaks up with you to marry a ready man, you will come crying on Nairaland.

Some of you here have been dating your gfs for years without marriage. If they leave you now, another wailing go start.

You marry early? All Naija women want is marriage. They don’t build themselves.

You say make you stand before marriage? Double wahala. Evening newspaper, borehole pussy. Edede! Who go marry this one?

Abeg make una getaut!