This is why I will never be committed to any woman...

They can never be trusted...

Simp men need to be jailed and tortured. Before you do anything for a woman she has to be your wife or have earned that privilege. A woman you set up cannot buy you 300 naira food. Gosh.

okoroemeka:
the op should have used a strong pad lock to lock the shop when she left,then the next day she will just come and pack her things,final full stop

Buy unfortunately he is so Simple minded

Sonnobax15:

This life ain't just balance one bit..

Op, don't send her packing....The truth is that there's no loyal woman out there.....But if you venture catch anyone,hold unto her tight.

Las las, op,your better half go locate you..No force yourself on anyone.....By then, she'll be the one to regret.

you ooze scarcity and also you lack any standard,your ideology would get you fvcked.

My brother… she belongs to the streets now, focus on yourself or getting another babe, you’ve lost this battle

dichvu:
Please i need advise

I have been dating my girlfriend for some years now. she became an orphan recently, so i decided to open a shop for her so she can start earning something for her not to turn herself into something else since no family support. though she also invested all her savings into the business and i supported her also with the little i can. i thank God her business has been doing well and developing gradually. But her behaviour has really change seriously towards me, she hardly dail my number to check on me, she also goes out with any guy or men, she also password her phone, i cant even touch her phone, she will flare up. she will say its nothing that she is just catching fun. i do overlook all this just to make peace rain. something happen yesterday that make feel so bad, i told her im coming to visit in her shop that if any food seller pass her shop, she help order food, so when i reach her side she told me to bring money that she cant use her money to buy food for me, i felt somehow inside with her response. i had to give her the money to get it because hunger dey wire me seriously. so after im done eating, i was gisting with her but she is not responding, she was pressing phone then a called enter and he told the man she is in her shop, that the man should stay at the junction that she is coming to meet him, she stood up and told me to be looking after her shop till she come back, i was really dumbfounded and shocked, i coundn't utter any word as i dont want to talk or do anything silly as people are plenty around her shop. she left me there, i stood up also and leff the shop. i really felt bad and sad. this a person i have really tried my best for since she lost her parent. I'm planning to send her packing from the shop first, but my bro said i shouldnt try it that its childish for me. he said i should chill for now. please i need your advise on how to go about this.

NOTE; i rent the shop for my MUM just to use it as her second shop to store her goods. though the shop is too big, so i told her to let us split it to two my gf can use the other half.

it is well

Lalasticlala

Send that ungrateful bitch back to the streets where she belongs and lock up the shop with changed padlocks she doesn't deserve help at all.

Mercychen:
I don't know why I have the feeling you're not telling the truth about your contribution towards the shop but if truly you got that place for her, then collect it back. Let her go and meet that junction guy to get her a shop. I hate nonsense.

Op, hope you have a life and a job? Biko, stop following a woman for yansh. Get with your life before they use you do shop attendant.

A woman only respects a busy man who doesn't show his face all the time.

Give her time to move but make sure she does.

all what i said is the truth. i really contributed alot for her, both my time and cash. did all the shop arrangement. i'm also a very busy person. I'm coming from bank then i decided to branch her side since it closer.

dichvu:
all what i said is the truth. i really contributed alot for her, both my time and cash. did all the shop arrangement. i'm also a very busy person. I'm coming from bank then i decided to branch her side since it closer.

After all these, she had the mind to treat you like that?
Marry her at your own peril.

My sincere advice, tell her you need the shop back to give to a woman who values and knows your worth.

finishmatter:
WOMEN are INCAPABLE of Love.
They are intrinsically selfish.
Marry them at your peril.

Na so!

dichvu:
thanks

Big mumu

These guys never learn.

finishmatter:
WOMEN are INCAPABLE of Love.
They are intrinsically selfish.
Marry them at your peril.

If a lady tells you she loves you, never believe her.
A lady can cheat on you while claiming she loves you.
A lady can kill you because of love.
A lady can hate you and do you evil because she loves you.

If a lady claims she loves you, it is not always a good thing. Guys be careful!!!

FahBuLous:
This is why I will never be committed to any woman...

They can never be trusted...

Trust a lady at your own peril.

Amotolongbo:
Many men do not know when to act as a boyfriend and also when to act as a husband.
A boyfriend is a boyfriend and should not be confused for a husband.

Anything you do as a boyfriend or girlfriend is done kindheartedly and just have the mind that it is an investment that may end up being a bad one and move on.
I invested on my man cos I was in the position, thank God I do not regret that anyway

If you know that you can’t withstand having a bad investment, don’t spend on your gf or bf
There is no law binding gf and bf. It is all affection and any investment in it isn’t different from charity.

here we go again ,we are the one producing bad seeds in our community not the economic ,so a child brought up with love and upright surrounding decided to date a lady ,so it's best to to put in much love because ,he is not married to her ,I don't blame guys who go oversea and make money and catch a lady with 2 to 3 months of dating put ring for her finger ,,,and after she gives birth ,and slight provocation ffrom the woman na better beating end am ,all the time we see abusive marriage ,,,, pretty lady you are among those indirectly shouting for one , everything is a chain ,if a man can out of his over happiness decided to share his joy and finance with you what stops you from doing so too ? I am just shock by your comment I swear

Don't worry bro just move on that girl na bitch
The mistake we men do is when we love this woman dont let them see you finish once they see you they will play with your head .Nigerian ladies no be they there again in the next 2030 10 years time all this ladies will regret it .
If you notice woman in Nigeria her now God diggers
The next set coming will change it all so the old hoes will be running for where to hide and who you marry then .

Mercychen:


After all these, she had the mind to treat you like that?
Marry her at your own peril.

My sincere advice, tell her you need the shop back to give to a woman who values and knows your worth.

and later everybody go day shout say marriage, relationship na scam ,it's is we that are the scam ,this is why guys hardly help with the Dept of their heart ,,,,, nothing is free in life , relationship is not free ,some men are ready to pay the price but some women still fumble ,na waooo

dichvu:
Please i need advise

I have been dating my girlfriend for some years now. she became an orphan recently, so i decided to open a shop for her so she can start earning something for her not to turn herself into something else since no family support. though she also invested all her savings into the business and i supported her also with the little i can. i thank God her business has been doing well and developing gradually. But her behaviour has really change seriously towards me, she hardly dail my number to check on me, she also goes out with any guy or men, she also password her phone, i cant even touch her phone, she will flare up. she will say its nothing that she is just catching fun. i do overlook all this just to make peace rain. something happen yesterday that make feel so bad, i told her im coming to visit in her shop that if any food seller pass her shop, she help order food, so when i reach her side she told me to bring money that she cant use her money to buy food for me, i felt somehow inside with her response. i had to give her the money to get it because hunger dey wire me seriously. so after im done eating, i was gisting with her but she is not responding, she was pressing phone then a called enter and he told the man she is in her shop, that the man should stay at the junction that she is coming to meet him, she stood up and told me to be looking after her shop till she come back, i was really dumbfounded and shocked, i coundn't utter any word as i dont want to talk or do anything silly as people are plenty around her shop. she left me there, i stood up also and leff the shop. i really felt bad and sad. this a person i have really tried my best for since she lost her parent. I'm planning to send her packing from the shop first, but my bro said i shouldnt try it that its childish for me. he said i should chill for now. please i need your advise on how to go about this.

NOTE; i rent the shop for my MUM just to use it as her second shop to store her goods. though the shop is too big, so i told her to let us split it to two my gf can use the other half.

Can you please stop using the term my girlfriend.... Can't you see the handwriting on the wall?

One of my old but wise patient once told me that: the best way men interpret love from women is when they show respect to men, in return men will definitely show love , I asked" isn't the lady also fit to get respect from the man?" He said it's same thing," love would synonymously tag along with respect. Once a woman is respectful, she would earn love from her partner.

In a way I believe him, judging from this thread. If that's the formula for love...maybe, just maybe, we would have less issues in relationships and marriages .

Females, make we dey farabale sometimes too, you can't be ungrateful to an helper and expect to eat your cake alone, Omo them go collect cake from you o .

Stories wey dey nairaland nowadays fit affect person mentally..upon all d free lesson n shared experiences by previous simps,some genetic mumus no go still learn.

captainking:

Reading your post sir.

How can you tolerate all these from your gf.. Or fiancee??
You respect her right.. And you must demand to be respected.

That's all I can say for now.

Gosh you're so blessed, respect is something that is earned and demanded, if she can't give you what you rightly earned and give back in return, walk away is a simple answer.

OP thanks for telling this guy straight up.

[s]

larryking540:


here we go again ,we are the one producing bad seeds in our community not the economic ,so a child brought up with love and upright surrounding decided to date a lady ,so it's best to to put in much love because ,he is not married to her ,I don't blame guys who go oversea and make money and catch a lady with 2 to 3 months of dating put ring for her finger ,,,and after she gives birth ,and slight provocation ffrom the woman na better beating end am ,all the time we see abusive marriage ,,,, pretty lady you are among those indirectly shouting for one , everything is a chain ,if a man can out of his over happiness decided to share his joy and finance with you what stops you from doing so too ? I am just shock by your comment I swear

[/s]you just want to quote and post, nothing else

JohnOkolo:



Gosh you're so blessed, respect is something that is earned and demanded, if she can't give you what you rightly earned and give back in return, walk away is a simple answer.

OP thanks for telling this guy straight up.

You are right.. Thanks a lot bro..
As long as we respect someone.. They must respect us back in reciprocation. If they do not.. We demand it or change it for them.. No time letting oneself to be disrespected by someone we respect..
Blessings bro

In the words of Mosdii

Nigerian girls are useless........all of them

dichvu:
all what i said is the truth. i really contributed alot for her, both my time and cash. did all the shop arrangement. i'm also a very busy person. I'm coming from bank then i decided to branch her side since it closer.

But you said she invested her life savings... ethically she owns shares in the shop so you might have to return her investment if you want her out of the shop.

She doesn't love, like, or respect you so you have to leave the relationship (even though she left a long time ago). She will try to pet you and manipulate you to stay in the relationship but you need to respect yourself and leave. Do the right thing though and give her back her investment!

That is a sign to backtrack. She will not change after marriage, rather, she will become worse.

dichvu:
Please i need advise

I have been dating my girlfriend for some years now. She became an orphan recently, so I decided to open a shop for her so she can start earning something for her not to turn herself into something else since no family support.

Though she also invested all her savings into the business and I supported her also with the little i can. I thank God her business has been doing well and developing gradually.

But her behaviour has really changed seriously towards me. She hardly dail my number to check on me, she also goes out with any guy or men, she also password her phone, i cant even touch her phone, she will flare up. She will say it's nothing that she is just catching fun. I do overlook all this just to make peace rain.

Something happened yesterday that make me feel so bad. I told her I'm coming to visit her in her shop that if any food seller pass her shop, she should help me order food. So when I reached her side she told me to bring money that she can't use her money to buy food for me. I felt somehow inside with her response. I had to give her the money to get it because hunger dey wire me seriously.

So after I'm done eating, I was gisting with her but she is not responding, she was pressing phone, then a call entered and he told the man she is in her shop, that the man should stay at the junction that she is coming to meet him, she stood up and told me to be looking after her shop till she comes back. I was really dumbfounded and shocked, I coundn't utter any word as i don't want to talk or do anything silly as people are plenty around her shop. She left me there, I stood up also and left the shop. I really felt bad and sad. This is a person i have really tried my best for since she lost her parents. I'm planning to send her packing from the shop first, but my bro said i shouldnt try it that it's childish for me. He said I should chill for now. please I need your advice on how to go about this.

NOTE; I rent the shop for my MUM just to use it as her second shop to store her goods. Though the shop is too big, so i told her to let us split it into two, my gf can use the other half.

ku asedanu ooo . your reward is in heaven

You are dating yourself.

I suggest you leave the shop for her and everything you bought for her. You had already made the mistake of investing in someone with the genes of harlotry. Count your losses and move on.

Don't EVER deceive yourself into thinking she'd change. No one changes character overnight.

And next time, love with your heart and your head, give 70% with your head so that you won't be manipulated. And if you break up with her, you won't die.