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Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Advancedman(m): 2:59pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Flexherbal: I disagree the son must be a wicked devil and completely irresponsible as well as a national disgrace to the world. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by MARKone(m): 3:00pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
lexy2014: I have a friend who is in his mid to late 50's who visits Nairaland very often, not everyone you see, will have someone offline line to confer with, or he might just want to broaden the scope of advise he would have gotten offline and align it with the ones he'll get here, more especially from people his son's age. 3 Likes |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Donvinci(m): 3:01pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
You don't want your son to enjoy you now that you're alive abi? [/quote] So the father no fit live freely abi .. na your type Dey kill him papa cos na your papa |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Blastedholligan: 3:02pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi:Mehn, this is so disheartening to even read. I'm so sorry about this sir. Why is he being oblivious to what is happening around him? I wish I had the best answer to give but I'm not a father so I won't know how to act in this situation. What I feel you can do best is reach out to any of his closest friend in confidence and tell him what's happening then ask his friend to speak to your son. If I were son's friend, the kind talk I'll tell him ehn, he might not even want to be friends with me anymore. I'm so sorry about this sir. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Nobody: 3:03pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
tensazangetsu20:You don't have sense 1 Like |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Donvinci(m): 3:04pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
The current situation of the country made him to still be living under your roof. Don’t frustrate him and make him misbehave. He’s still a good boy unlike some sons who are jobless and shameless. Give him more time to look for a better job and let him move on[quote] As a man is not until you start earning huge before you have positive impact in your family’s life. I’m very sure the op is not demanding all his salary from him just the little he can give |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Blastedholligan: 3:05pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Richy4:this make sense. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Panda7(m): 3:05pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
economy hard but atleast he should be kind to his pop man. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Great0ne1: 3:06pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
JONNYSPUTE:Very good question. After doing my son my son, you want him to learn what you might never have bordered to imbibe in him, at a young age. Parents know this. Your children are not your pet. You are there to prepare then, for life challenges ahead. If you fail to do this, you have failed as a parent 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Desusi: 3:08pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
MALIGNANTGuest:Thanks, brother.l enjoy your gist, tell me more! |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Paramount01(m): 3:09pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
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Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by faithfull18(f): 3:09pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
KingAzubuike:Sorry to disappoint, having a sense of responsibility isn't genderic and not every woman lives on handouts, you need to change your mindset. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by JaskanFactor: 3:09pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
please feed him, university is a lie. People should help thier children open shop or start trade and use university as fallback, and not as the main option. This days with online universities you can run shop and do school 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by 77up(m): 3:09pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Your son is selfish |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Ybaby: 3:09pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi: He needs to leave your house. Never mind him helping you ... he needs to stop being a parasite first. Send him to Lagos to hustle. He is a man now ! |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Kobicove(m): 3:12pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi: Ask him to start paying rent for the room he is occupying in your house...that is how it's done in advanced countries! |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by shege45: 3:13pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Beremx:did you read it well? He is not chasing him. He only needs him to contribute to the house from the little proceeds he gets from the teaching job |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Lanretoye(m): 3:15pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi:Lord have mercy,rich people give their children jobs upon graduation,furnished houses and cars for their wedding and continual support to make life eazy for them cos they know the economic realities even when it is almost not affecting them. We poor people want the jobless children to feed their immediate family,parents,relatives and inlaws,make life more miserable for the poor children...I really understand how you feel,if u can do well to help him get a good job,why not or why can't you.sincerely speaking there is a great difference between when you gave birth to him and now thats why u see alarming rate of fraud,killings for rituals and all sort. My opinion:pls do not victimise him or cause rift between you and your son.try to encourage him,admonish him,advise him to get a form of skill or the other while he finds his balance.there are so many paying skills like computer and phone repairs,tilling or what ever he wishes to learn.when he start to feel more comfortable, he will atleast stop depending on you.its a relief if is not reciecing from u...dont mind all these yahoo boys that flaunt expensive cars and appearances,the ritualist wey most of them know pass their age. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 3:19pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Flexherbal:He lack home training, it's disrespectful to tell father to be sitting down and discuss issue with son on what son should naturally grown to do |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Oloripelebe: 3:19pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Leave that boy jare,na im papa house he dey |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Kingcalls: 3:21pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Golan007: Face reality |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Kobojunkie: 3:22pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
ChybuzzDD:I disagree! There is nothing selfish about that choice, and you would know this except you have been indoctrinated,foolishly mind you, into believing it a thing of honor to bear kids. 2. He can If he intended for those 3 humans to remain his slaves and property. 1 Like |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by basty: 3:25pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Deliverance case noted. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Kobojunkie: 3:25pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Samuelriano1:According him respect simply because his age is indicated as 60? You meant the same way you all foolishly accord your presidents and politicians respect because of their age even as they continue to pillage your futures and that of your children and grandchildren? It is highline you all get over that nonsense. Focus less on age and more on the request. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by newoffer: 3:26pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
I started paying rent as at 12 year old. When I was 18 my parent had their own house so they move. I started paying the rent in full while my elder brother, a pleasant lazy dude will sleep while I comb the whole Lagos for opportunity. Chase the son out. I have one under my roof. Whenever he is bouyant he will go corner go chop... |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Emmanuel30a: 3:26pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
You dont mention how much your son is earning from the multiple part time teaching. You may as well try all your best in assisting him to get a suitable and especially gainful job. He has being living with you for 29 years & you definitely have no problem accomodating him all those years. Show some concern toward his being independent. Show it through passionate advice, sharing of experiences, exposure,etc. Normally and logically, no graduate would or should want to be living with his or her parent. He may have tired staying with you and might just be taking his time to be independent.Dont forget people may decide suicide because they have no one to confide inside and outside and because they have no place to hide or hide where they can slide. What about ride and bride? Some people can decide suicide because they have no ride and bride while some because they have not become a bride or are no longer a bride. Give him some pride to hide beside your side or your behind. He maybe uncomfortable financially. |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by abeniagbon(m): 3:26pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Desusi:sell the house, he will gain senses... I have feeling he is claiming first son things |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Carlyboi(m): 3:27pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Esthered: The things you said bout your cousin are just so funny I was compelled to leave a comment cos I wasn’t planning to do so...he would make a best seller if he should write a book on excuses...unfortunately people are just different you know our thoughts,personality and drive just vary in degree and kind!you just have to keep encouraging and tolerating him hopefully things get better for him someday soon..and reduce the rallying too that might show him the need for him to make his own money or have a source of livelihood! |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by lexy2014: 3:27pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
MARKone: u said he "visits". Is visiting the same thing as coming to ask for advise? Is the visitation of your 50year old friend to nairaland for the purpose u stated above? How will a 60year old not have anyone to confet with? Kindly explain |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Kobojunkie: 3:27pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
PrimadonnaO:I would but it has been a while for me and such movies. But I do know there are lots of movies out there to help parents understand how to become friends with their adult children, this while still helping train them for better life out there. 1 Like |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by Flexherbal(m): 3:29pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Advancedman: You must agree with me that some youth of these days need rehabilitation. 1 Like |
Re: My 29-Year-Old Son Still Wants Me To Be Feeding Him After Graduating by CorperKola: 3:29pm On Mar 13, 2022 |
Naijanascam:It depends on how you look at it Dangote's daughter was just made a non executive director in his company and she has been an ED in his group coy for a long time. Same for Adenuga and numerous other rich people. I doubt it was their sterling academic qualifications that got them these apointments. And like it or not his current life status is a reflection on you too, how well u performed your duties as a parent in preparing your children for life in general and adulthood in particular. I find it funny how poor people always flip their responsibilities or at least responsibilities their rich counterparts will bear without complaints on their own children. Rich poeple still buy houses for their children or open businesses for them if they dont want their children to work directly under them And some leave billions for their children as inheritance, let alone one house. Those ones too dont have 2 heads. Everyone knows how the economy is If you put too much pressure on him He may end up taking out his frustrations in life on you, it may end with u dead, stabbed or something. So be very careful 2 Likes |
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