GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

what belongs to your mother also belongs to your father, so technically the property still belongs to your old man. If you could be fighting with your dad because of his and his wife property, then I wonder what kind of relationship your mom and dad hard when she was alive.

immortalcrown:
Your house is not in order. This is all I can say now.

But by right, your father is most entitled to your mother and her property, just as you will be most entitled to your wife's property.

Even when he want to sell those properties? Shut up please

GraciousGod190:

When issues like this are raised, people like you who don't have anything meaningful to contribute other than to abuse will start creeping out from your swampy holes... like bush rats in mangrove deserts.

For your info, I own 2 apartments already... personal I build with my money...not everyone is as lazy as your father.

You are very irresponsible for throwing shades at his father, not quiet surprised that you are having issues with yours because you seem not to value yours. Goat

Make una dey calm down small small kwanu


All this lies nobody change anything in reality

GraciousGod190:

When issues like this are raised, people like you who don't have anything meaningful to contribute other than to abuse will start creeping out from your swampy holes... like bush rats in mangrove deserts.

For your info, I own 2 apartments already... personal I build with my money...not everyone is as lazy as your father.

Thinking ..........................................

pocohantas:


The problem here is, I suspect your parents never had a peaceful marriage. Probably your dad was abusive in one or two ways, hence your willingness to drag property with him. You should get a lawyer.

Someone just said children take over inherited properties. Lucky you!

It's not about peaceful marriage.. it's about women... Thy don't ever love their hubby . It's all about their children.

Men sacrifice alot for the family and. Leave. Properties for children but first in the care of the wife which is not saleale by her till children come of age and agree. Together to sell

Ifa man trust a woman with his life. He is. Done for.. vey selfish gender

Kobojunkie:
Get yourself a good lawyer and stand your ground. Don't allow any of the effort your mother made to ensure the property ended up in your hands go to waste.

According to Nigerian law, the spouse is automatically the next of kin. The child only inherits if its expressly stated in a will or if there was a divorce.
Again, we don't advise families to settle issues in court. Keeping the family together is more important than sharing property.

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying, using God as if your toy!

Actually, the bible said the man and wife are one. The dude was not lying.

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

Don't allow him to temper with your inheritance. Assert your authority. Don't give him the satisfaction of seeing you within that infantile lenses. When you tactfully restrain him from the property, he will surely respect you.

bigpicture001:


It's not about peaceful marriage.. it's about women... Thy don't ever love their hubby . It's all about their children.

Men sacrifice alot for the family and. Leave. Properties for children but first in the care of the wife which is not saleale by her till children come of age and agree. Together to sell

Ifa man trust a woman with his life. He is. Done for.. vey selfish gender

This is not about women loving their husbands except you have comprehension issues which wouldn’t be farfetched. The OP is a man, dragging land with his father- also a man. How then is the innocent woman to blame that two supposedly logical beings can’t agree? My dear, use your head.

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

Guy your mother is your father wife.your mother property is not your business go and do your own hussle lazy man.

Op, you are a true son of your mother.

Some useless first son would have sold those properties and use the money for their girlfriends.

As for the properties,leave them for your old man. How would u feel if your first son drag your wife's property with u?

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GraciousGod190:


How?

Really

I don't agree at all

If I wasn't born, do you think those property would be accessible to him?
Because he married my mother.
It would have been passed down to the closest relative of my mother kindreds

Did your mother gave birth to you on her own. If your mum had shared good history and openess in those properties with your Dad and secured jn thier names, no family of hers can drageven after her demise. Even if you were to be a girl, the property will remain.

And who will pass it down when there is a child and husband

Kobojunkie:
No! The Married Women's Property Act of 1882 in Nigeria allows for women to have and keep property of their own in marriage.

Women have a right to keep property but she is dead. The property goes to the husband if no document proves otherwise.

tctrills:
Actually, the bible said the man and wife are one. The dude was not lying.

The same also informed you that this was as it was in the beginning. We are no longer in the beginning, not since God cursed marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16 ushering in the era of divorce and remarriage.

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

you are not wrong atall, you can let your dad take rent but selling any of the properties is a No No, bet watch out let him not send you message to your mum ou

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

Pls don't ever allow your father to sell shi..shi out of the lands. He may end up giving the procceds to his new found concubine(s).
Put stiff resistance pls.

My bro you are grown up but still a big fo$ol trust so you can hustle and provide for your father your moms property is his too get that straight you don’t have shame at all writing this

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

bro ur right ,but the truth is that, ur sounding selfish some how, because one u should be ur father friend, two by now should have been sending money to ur father, not been greedy of what ur mum left, had it been ur doing very well, u won't have time to start looking for what he trying to do with ur mum's property, is because there is no money,that is why he trying to sale somethings to eat, I will advise u to talk to him, let him know that ur also going to have ur own family and u need this things too, but if he needed money badly, u can spare some for him, and let him know that it won't happen again, so he should manage the one u gave him , but it should be in father and son discussion

DigitalStepdad:
Wetin person no go hia for nigeria self...



But as a man I will be ashamed to fight for my wife's properties with my children unless...

If you and you wife are truly one, you would realize that her property is yours. Its up to the father to decide what is to be done with the property.

GraciousGod190:
Note: I own my own personal house, I build with my money..am not a small boy...so those abusing am fighting over parental inheritance are getting it wrong

The truth is that your family is not in order. As much as you don't want to hear it, the properties belong to your father. Anyone advising you to fight this case with good lawyers is not advising you properly. What if your dad also secures the services of a good lawyer or a better one. If they were legally married it will be difficult to drag it with him.

It also appears your dad is not a reasonable man, otherwise you wouldn't be dragging it with him in the first place even if it was explicitly stated in the will that you own it.

Mindlog:
To prevent the father from selling, the OP has the option of getting the court to get the father to undergo mental capacity assessment. Relatives do such to block the liquidation of inheritance on frivolities especially by an elderly beneficiary who may be externally influenced.

As long as the deceased is also survived by offspring (s) and of adult age, the surviving spouse can not unilaterally choose what to do in administering the Estate of the deceased.

Abeg, how true is the claim made below..

tctrills:

According to Nigerian law, the spouse is automatically the next of kin. The child only inherits if its expressly stated in a will or if there was a divorce.
Again, we don't advise families to settle issues in court. Keeping the family together is more important than sharing property.

All of you saying gibberish. So if father died now. Mother is entitled to his property. But if mother died. Na pikin own property. You guys are foolish

GraciousGod190:


How?

Really

I don't agree at all

If I wasn't born, do you think those property would be accessible to him?
Because he married my mother.
It would have been passed down to the closest relative of my mother kindreds

Under which law?

pocohantas:


This is not about women except you have comprehension issues which wouldn’t be farfetched. The OP is a man, dragging land with his father- also a man. How then is the innocent women to blame that two logical beings can’t agree? My dear, use your head.

He's right to a large extent in that it is not right that a man is expected to split his property with his wife and a woman is relieved of such a duty.

Why would a woman bequeath her properties to her child when her husband is alive? Would you say the same if a man bequeathed his property to his child leaving his wife with nothing??

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

If your mother made her husband (your father) her next of kin, then her properties belongs to him ( your father) but if she made you her next of kin then her properties belong to you.

In the absence of a will or a next of kin, I feel the properties belong to your father since he is your mother's legal spouse (a man and his legally married wife are one and vice versa) or you may seek legal opinions (lawyers) on the matter.

My brother, don't fight your dad over the property. Let him continue to collect the rent but get a lawyer to restrain him from disposing off the properties since you said he lives a frivolous life. Your mum left the property, your dad will also leave it one day! But don't allow him to sell any of the properties. Besides if you have other siblings, call a meeting and share the properties with your father. Also be sure to take care of him since he trained you. That he trained you shows that he's a very responsible father.

Kobojunkie:
Get yourself a good lawyer and stand your ground. Don't allow any of the effort your mother made to ensure the property ended up in your hands go to waste.

Why you stupid like this?

Kobojunkie:
A woman is allowed to own her own property even in Nigeria... and since your mother bequeathed her property to your, your father has no right to touch any of it unless he can legally prove ownership was handed him by your mother instead.

Don't let anyone deceive you with lies.. stand your ground. Get a good lawyer and don't let your father waste what belongs to you abeg!

You have a point but the right question should be: who is the next of kin to the late woman? Did she write a will? These questions clarifies the squabble ok.

If the above questions can't be answered and the husband married her legally with certificate, he definitely has more right to the properties oh!

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

Better don't let your father kill you over your late mum properties. So far you are okay, leave the properties for the desperate father!

bigpicture001:


It's not about peaceful marriage.. it's about women... Thy don't ever love their hubby . It's all about their children.

Men sacrifice alot for the family and. Leave. Properties for children but first in the care of the wife which is not saleale by her till children come of age and agree. Together to sell

Ifa man trust a woman with his life. He is. Done for.. vey selfish gender

So OP's father so love the late wife that he wants to sell some of the land she left behind without the knowledge of his adult son?

pocohantas:


This is not about women except you have comprehension issues which wouldn’t be farfetched. The OP is a man, dragging land with his father- also a man. How then is the innocent women to blame that two logical beings can’t agree? My dear, use your head.

Who left the property to the boy..? A man or a woman...?

Who made it solely incare of the boy..? Man or woman...

Do men acquire property in their lifetime..? Yes.. do most of them will to the wife..? No!

But do the wife have major roles to play in thier lifetimes concerning the property will by husband's to children in the demise of the husband's..? Answer is Yes!

That means even though men to willfully will roperties to wife's cuz of fear of re marry, they still include thier wife's in major roles in same property management in her lifetime , in her exit of which children take full control...

Women can never do that!

They hate men, only care about thier child!

SmartyPants:


Under which law?



He's right to a large extent in that it is not right that a man is expected to split his property with his wife and a woman is relieved of such a duty.

Why would a woman bequeath her properties to her child when her husband is alive? Would you say the same if a man bequeathed his property to his child leaving his wife with nothing??

At what point did she bequeath it to her child? The child on his own decided his father is extravagant and not financially responsible. Face OP and his father.

bigpicture001:


Who left the property to the boy..? A man or a woman...?

Who made it solely incare of the boy..? Man or woman...

Do men acquire property in their lifetime..? Yes.. do most of them will to the wife..? No!

But do the wife have major roles to play in thier lifetimes concerning the property will by husband's to children in the demise of the husband's..? Answer is Yes!

That means even though men to willfully will roperties to wife's cuz of fear of re marry, they still include thier wife's in major roles in same property management in her lifetime , in her exit of which children take full control...

Women can never do that!

They hate men, only care about thier child!

And rightly so…

Same way your mothers only care about you and not your fathers. Isn’t that why you can kill any woman that insults your mother? Because she loves you so much, that she hated your dad at the same time. At least now you see how such love starts. Mothers sacrifice a lot while fathers are doing oringo, just like OP’s father. He is a man thankfully, so let’s take his opinion of his father as the truth. Men don’t lie.