belcom10:
Buy her gift once in a while, or when you go out buy somethings for her and kids. Like ice cream and rest . May God keep your home.

Thunda Faya yhu for this advice..
Stoopid Vseless phool

Dearlord:


I perceive trust issues with your soul.

Free your mind from all this irrelevant thoughts and see how beautiful your soul will be.

No Sir. You perceived wrongly sir. I don't have trust issues, infact I have this carefree attitude,the guys or people I meet are they ones that takes everything I do to heart. I'm yet to see who has my type of heart.

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

How much do you normally drop for cooking Weekly before u lost your job?

Oga u get wicked wife! The test of true love for a woman is when a man is broke or lost his job and the wife treat him the same as when he was working!! But for a man is when he has a good job but he never cheat and remain loyal to his wife! Sometimes The way u treat your wife when you have your job is when she will reciprocate to you when u are broke! Did u treat her well when you were rich and having your job! If you wife they wear wigs, Mary Kay, eye lashes etc na Jezebel de your house oo!! She will finish her money on demonic material! May God help u, next life u will not marry a slay Queen.

Take this issue to Embelembe, Brekete radio.
Jokes apart, you need to make her see reasons why both of you should support each other in home building.

15k per week!!!!!?
Woo ,, you trying mahn!!..


Just focus on your kids Mr..
Get them stuffs once in a while too,,so they'll cherish and love you when they become teenagers and adults.

Spiker777:

Women are selfish generally,know this and know peace.What about me that is owing the bank loan of 10m and still give my wife 240k monthly for upkeep yet she keep complaining that the money is not enough having even been aware that I’m in big debts?Two weeks ago I just discovered she had a child before we met which she has kept a secret from me and my money has been going to that child,while she keep pressing me for more money.I just separated from her jeje

very good

Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo admonishes women to praise their husbands for their efforts and not only picking on faults.


Nigerian women will always complain and complain.

Mickykarim:


YOU ARE THE INCONSEQUENTIAL LITTLE FELLOW WITH THE SMALL MIND.

You are damn too empty with nothing substantive to offer and remain the dreg of humanity.

Micky take it easy with him. Anyone can air his/her opinion in this faceless forum. You are a matured fellow; abusive and heated argument may derail this trend.
The OP emotion is battered; he needs succour from people in this forum. Your advise is cool and ok. We can learn to choose the words we use here wisely and water down certain harsh words that can lead to unnecessary provocation.

surgevessel:
.....Average Nigerian women want to be in marriage and they expect the single life style they see on Zeeworld and Telemudo to continue..

Stop marrying for yourselves wives of the average Nigerian woman then.

If you know that what you want to share bills in your marriage, it is foolishness on your part to marry for yourselves an average Nigerian woman whom you know won't do this with you.
Marriage is an agreement between a man and woman and if she does not agree to share bills with you then you are nothing but an eejit when you go on to marry her only to complain later that she refuses to do what she never agreed to in the first place.

Lotechi:
Are men still expected to pay all the bills? Bro, I live with my partner, and we split every house bill equally.

Excellent question!

I don't, for the life of me, understand why anyone would choose to carry it all alone to begin with. Marriage is an agreement between a man and woman, a partnership meant to make easier the lives of those involved. But that is far from the reality for many, including the Op, who continue to think they gain something but shouldering it all themselves.

ufotty2001:

This is what am passing through too

Stop putting yourselves through this nonsense only so you can come whine and complain as if beating your chests in what is stewpidity pays.

GloriousGbola:


i have already observed that the op is a story teller

go through the ops profile

this is the op

your move

Your point exactly?

He's a diabetic patient? Yes.

He masturbates a lot? Yes.

Does it negate the fact that he might have had a wife or a family then? Absolutely no!

If you go through his topics, you might have come across one of them where he was looking for a wife as far back as 2013 or where he even put up his phone number for a business deal.

I have been on Nairaland enough to know an agenda driven or Seun-must-chop story and this is not one of them.

Again, you might have to come out in clear terms and tell me why you think this story is pushing a narrative against women.

I've known you since you were using the moniker Ornicus and while you are clearly "Team women empowerment and protection": the classic definition of a male feminist, I believe there are other ways you could do this in real life and not on Nairaland where your actions have inconsequential impact.

In addition to that, it is what it is: men will always complain/throw shots at women and vice versa.

It has been happening before you joined Nairaland and will continue to happen after you leave.

You know what I mean?

PumpumPrince:


brother . has we were discussin earlier, please can i yansh u on Friday after mosque?

You and your father.. I have told you to go yash your father.. Line up all your brothers in your family and yash them.. Thunder fire you there. Fool.

Spiker777:

Women are selfish generally,know this and know peace. What about me that is owing the bank loan of 10m and still give my wife 240k monthly for upkeep yet she keep complaining that the money is not enough having even been aware that I’m in big debts? Two weeks ago I just discovered she had a child before we met which she has kept a secret from me and my money has been going to that child,while she keep pressing me for more money.I just separated from her jeje

Why did you marry a woman who can't help you with paying bills, if that is what you wanted out of marriage? Let's start asking these simple common sense questions.

Cutehector:
Even if it takes me 10years to find a sensible woman, i will strive.

That is the commonsense thing to do.

Most women have been brain washed, thinking that its the man's responsibility to take care of the home, Things and events have changed. .marriage now is partnership....if a woman is not ready to partner with u, my Guy leave her.
Back to the matter, the current econic situation in the country and the world at last have made it know to us all, that marriage is partnership, your wife is being selfish, to you and the kids, 60k per month is some couples take home pay and they still survive, so what will u do when ur kids are no in higher institution?....if she cant support u, my Guy leave her, to me i will act as of i dont have a wife, i will single handedly go to market and buy all Things needed at home and give her money to Cook food....Since she is not listening to ur Pastor, i guess a family meeting should be held, from there as a man take ur decision...u can act as a man with put a wife

zakkxx:
Oga u get wicked wife! The test of true love for a woman is when a man is broke or lost his job and the wife treat him the same as when he was working!! But for a man is when he has a good job but he never cheat and remain loyal to his wife! Sometimes The way u treat your wife when you have your job is when she will reciprocate to you when u are broke! Did u treat her well when you were rich and having your job! If you wife they wear wigs, Mary Kay, eye lashes etc na Jezebel de your house oo!! She will finish her money on demonic material! May God help u, next life u will not marry a slay Queen.

Test of true love?

ROFLMAO

Raalsalghul:


Your point exactly?

He's a diabetic patient? Yes.

He masturbates a lot? Yes.

Does it negate the fact that he might have had a wife or a family then? Absolutely no!

If you go through his topics, you might have come across one of them where he was looking for a wife as far back as 2013 or where he even put up his phone number for a business deal.

I have been on Nairaland enough to know an agenda driven or Seun-must-chop story and this is not one of them.

Again, you might have to come out in clear terms and tell me why you think this story is pushing a narrative against women.

I've known you since you were using the moniker Ornicus and while you are clearly "Team women empowerment and protection": the classic definition of a male feminist, I believe there are other ways you could do this in real life and not on Nairaland where your actions have inconsequential impact.

In addition to that, it is what it is: men will always complain/throw shots at women and vice versa.

It has been happening before you joined Nairaland and will continue to happen after you leave.

You know what I mean?

If you beleive any of the different stories the op throws up as threads, I have a bridge to sell you. I have been on Nairaland since 2006,for your info, and I have watched it evolve.

I am familiar with people like the op, who throw together silly threads for clout

I have also watched the gender wars devolve from matured potshots between adults to malicious lies by small incel boys poisoned by redpill nonsense.

The fear vagina women threads are easy to recognize

I also recognise you as the new breed of troll who gets his rocks off on misogyny, so I am not particularly suprised that you would defend a fellow bro in arms

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

You are not sir! Besides, the fact you quickly got over the job loss and found something doing, you are a man! Time for you and your wife to have a heart-to-heart discussion about contributing towards the finances of the home so that you don't quickly grow old and die early of high BP (God forbid!). My 2 cents.

Oga, you just have to revisit the issue of home management once again which includes finances with your wife since the cost of maintaining a family now is indescribable. Any virtuous woman should support the man in building the family rather than investing in new clothes and shoes all the time just to prove an irrational point. It takes divine wisdom to survive in this country now. family work is divisional.

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

You dey over try... Thank God I no get this kind woman as wife

Alaye fear woman even though you dey give her milli milli every week, dem go still complain...

The future is what again

Smh

okuwehcris:
I will say you are by saying he's trying to break his home. Most times when you speak out, it help you solve the problem as a man.

When you pile up the pain, it tends to aggravate into something bad. Sometimes as a married person speaking out doesn't cause a break up, but rather you will get insight from reasonable people.

Like most people and even you have advice he discusses the issue with her and clear his mind.

@Mickykarim You simply trying to BREAK your own home by bringing this to the public square that does not possess the requisite for THOUGHTFULNESS. A field occupied and filled with the BRAINLESS. Including, people without the EXPERIENCE for this. Some of them might not have either a HOME WIFE and or UNMARRIED. They do not know what a home is and its DEFINITION.

YOU ARE COURTING MORE TROUBLE MY FRIEND.

Go resolve whatever is going wrongly in your home with your wife. Desist from bringing your dirty linen into the public. According to you you have endured and managed this well all this while.

TOLERANCE WITH ENDURANCE, MY FRIEND.

Wish you well as you continue to understand your wife with RESOLUTION to keep your FAMILY.

YOU GOT IT VERY WRONG AND IN LINE WITH MY ASSERTIONS THAT MOST PEOPLE ON THIS FORUM DO NOT GET IT RIGHT AND INCAPABLE OF GIVING ANY REASONABLE MEANINGFUL ADVICE TO ANYONE.

I DID NOT ADVICE HIM. WHAT I DID WAS TO POINTIFICATE ON HIS ERRORS MISSTEPS AND BAD JUDGEMENT TO BRING HIS FAMILY MATTERS TO A FORUM FILLED MOSTLY WITH EMPTY SHELLS.

People who are incapable of a HOME and or without one.

ABANGWABOI:


Have no pity for Weaklings like you..
Got so annoyed reading how pathetic you are.. infact you are a Stoopid Vseless simp phool..
Don't quit that shame if a marriage.. stay put cos you don't want your children to be raised in a broken home..
I just pray say she kee you and start enjoying your wealth and fucvkin sma boys in your house..
Ozour.

Maturity is when you read or hear something that moved you so much and you dont allow your emotions derail your sanity.

How about dropping your comments without wading insults??

You can do better bro.

If your wife is working and not supporting financially that is wickedness, and that is if you are contributing in doing the house chores, you can't expect her to do all the chores and still contributes in paying the bills. This is where most Nigerian miss it. My advice, call your wife and have a heart to heart talk with her, and see if she can tell you why she think you should shoulder all the financial burden when she has a job.

My candid advice is that you should file for a divorce if you both are legally married because if that car is your only source of income she will eventually leave you.
You can't continue to be with her at this moment. It dangerous for your health considering the work you're into now since you've lost your job.
If you both are not together anymore she'll definitely know what you've been doing in her life. Nothing will happen to your kids bro.

Spiker777:

Women are selfish generally,know this and know peace.What about me that is owing the bank loan of 10m and still give my wife 240k monthly for upkeep yet she keep complaining that the money is not enough having even been aware that I’m in big debts?Two weeks ago I just discovered she had a child before we met which she has kept a secret from me and my money has been going to that child,while she keep pressing me for more money.I just separated from her jeje

Damn, chief how are you holding through?

What is she now saying?

Are her family members trying to rejoin you back?

Deborah98:
No Sir. You perceived wrongly sir. I don't have trust issues, infact I have this carefree attitude,the guys or people I meet are they ones that takes everything I do to heart. I'm yet to see who has my type of heart.

you need to address what you do asap, I know you can't please all but doing your things to the extent of people around you taking it to their hearts are unfair Nnem" Biko! Think about it

Kobojunkie:
Stop marrying for yourselves wives of the average Nigerian woman then.

If you know that what you want to share bills in your marriage, it is foolishness on your part to marry for yourselves an average Nigerian woman whom you know won't do this with you.
Marriage is an agreement between a man and woman and if she does not agree to share bills with you then you are nothing but an eejit when you go on to marry her only to complain later that she refuses to do what she never agreed to in the first place.

Okay, you have a point, but look at it from this perspective, do you know that we sometimes send money to our wives parents, siblings and close relatives as responsible African husband without putting our wives in the know??.

I have done that times without number, I sponsored siblings entire fee and project, support even sibling's husband who had problems with his business..

Look as Africans we treat our wives family as our family. That is Africa for you.

There is no difference when I'm referring to my wife's parents and my parents. I use location to specify who among them..

There is no limit to what we do to our wives families as Africans, most of which were not in agreement before the marriage as well. where we get it complicated is adoption of western lifestyles into our various homes..

Isn't it embarrassing to find some women searching on google 'is it right to host family members in your home for more than a week' I ask, why would you even reason in that line in the first place?

There is so much around marriage and African style than our women understand..

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

You are doing bad because you've not told us everything

surgevessel:


Maturity is when you read or hear something that moved you so much and you dont allow your emotions derail your sanity.

How about dropping your comments without wading insults??

You can do better bro.

Gosh.. what you wrote there is disgusting..
How can you allow a woman control you let alone to this extent..
A woman you pay her bills.. you haven't heard about the Adage "He that pays the Piper dictates the tune" ??
In your case.. you pay the Piper but you have no say when and how he would perform the tunes..

Look at how you tried to correct and challenge me for insulting you but you don't have an inch of such balls to control and challenge that Asshole you call a wife..
I felt migraines reading that post.. how can a man be so weak to that extent.. Gosh, you would be miserable till the day you grow some balls and either send that cvnt you call a wife away or leave her yourself for good.