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Profperfect:
Men! Am broken right now . Like I know shits I have endured , covered , forgiven this lady , not to talk of once my lecturer visited our lodge(room) on going outside to get something in few minutes before I got back , they were already on it. She denied but later agreed cause I almost caught them red handed. The lecturer after like a year called me and confessed that his heart is troubling him that am a good person , that I should forgive him , which I did but each time I see him I remember, she has caused me pains , accusing me of not trusting her but she is actually the one doing things to break my trust fir her daily , tell me how do I trust this kind of a person ,

must you Marry this lady ?

Profperfect:
Dear Fam,

Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .

My relationship has not been a rossy one at all, I have my faults (though am not a womanizer or a cheat) God bears me witness, but believe me, the girl I'm dating and almost settling down with after some years of dating has been hell, trust issues, disrespectful, someone who told me she can never respect or submit to me in her life, I have endured and endured her, she always overrides me. I can't talk or complian of her wrong doings , she will react badly, very insulting (countlessly insulted my father and mother but I have never ever retailiated, does care about what I feel or how I feel.

Should I talk of sex? I have never cheated on her for the past 6 years plus since we met (started dating) at a young age at uni and after uni, I respect her even in her absence, but she has mingled with different guys that has cost out relationship, in all these she claims she has done nothing wrong.

The main issue of all right now is that her boss, she once worked for who she was consciously sleeping with inside office once others are not around, always, hotel, even when they (claim) or go to conference or meetings together, knowing that he is a married man, called her yesterday to give her a job offer to return . This is a boss she served years back, even during uni he kept calling and always wanting to have her, during and after NYSC he kept calling her for him to have a bite, same boss she was pregnant for and aborted for him, though she hanged it on her boyfriend as of that time and the guy didn't know . She never told me all these her self, but I won't like to share here how I got to know.

The same man she has been avoiding for years, that she doesn't want to go back to sin or her past life, but just yesterday she even took excuse sneaked out of office and went to see him and accepted the offer, then came back home called me to tell me this and that and before I could talk she said she has accepted it, was shocked and trying to reason why she did that, she asked me if there was anything wrong in her decision, she began to yell at me on phone, as usual I kept mute and ended the call. Please would I be wrong if at this point I take a bow and leave now?

Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

You are wining and dining with a devil. Yet you don’t even have a spoon, talk less of long spoon. If you are not seeing the handwriting on the wall, then I can confirm you are completely blind.

You can still stay in the relationship if the juju she used for you is so strong

Profperfect:
Dear Fam,

Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .

My relationship has not been a rossy one at all, I have my faults (though am not a womanizer or a cheat) God bears me witness, but believe me, the girl I'm dating and almost settling down with after some years of dating has been hell, trust issues, disrespectful, someone who told me she can never respect or submit to me in her life, I have endured and endured her, she always overrides me. I can't talk or complian of her wrong doings , she will react badly, very insulting (countlessly insulted my father and mother but I have never ever retailiated, does care about what I feel or how I feel.

Should I talk of sex? I have never cheated on her for the past 6 years plus since we met (started dating) at a young age at uni and after uni, I respect her even in her absence, but she has mingled with different guys that has cost out relationship, in all these she claims she has done nothing wrong.

The main issue of all right now is that her boss, she once worked for who she was consciously sleeping with inside office once others are not around, always, hotel, even when they (claim) or go to conference or meetings together, knowing that he is a married man, called her yesterday to give her a job offer to return . This is a boss she served years back, even during uni he kept calling and always wanting to have her, during and after NYSC he kept calling her for him to have a bite, same boss she was pregnant for and aborted for him, though she hanged it on her boyfriend as of that time and the guy didn't know . She never told me all these her self, but I won't like to share here how I got to know.

The same man she has been avoiding for years, that she doesn't want to go back to sin or her past life, but just yesterday she even took excuse sneaked out of office and went to see him and accepted the offer, then came back home called me to tell me this and that and before I could talk she said she has accepted it, was shocked and trying to reason why she did that, she asked me if there was anything wrong in her decision, she began to yell at me on phone, as usual I kept mute and ended the call. Please would I be wrong if at this point I take a bow and leave now?

Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

Dude you're behaving like some woman. Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah
I have never used these 2 words but you sound " Choochie Whipped" and a " Simp"
This would have ended when she insulted my parents.
So what are you still in the relationship for ?

Na your type of person vote Buhari into power and still want to bring in Tifnubu. You're a compound fool. I pity your mother cos this isn't what she planned for you.

miqos02:
must you Marry this lady ?

I wonder O. Wonders shall never end !

iLegendd:
God, in Heaven, already knows you're a fool. There is nothing Satan can do about it. I just can't believe a useless man like this who has no self-worth with extremely low self-esteem still exists. You're not a SIMP, you're their Godfather.

Mehn! I hate to cuss people, but I can't hold it. Is it because your dick is too small and you're too ugly that's why you don't have self-respect for yourself? Or, did she put your senses in a bottle? C'mon. You just ruined my day with this post.

You're the type of man your fellow men would want to help get out of this predicament but you'll go back and tell your wicked woman everything like a sissy man who's being controlled.

Lmao...let me bring fire wood so we can roast the guy..

Profperfect:
Men! Am broken right now . Like I know shits I have endured , covered , forgiven this lady , not to talk of once my lecturer visited our lodge(room) on going outside to get something in few minutes before I got back , they were already on it. She denied but later agreed cause I almost caught them red handed. The lecturer after like a year called me and confessed that his heart is troubling him that am a good person , that I should forgive him , which I did but each time I see him I remember, she has caused me pains , accusing me of not trusting her but she is actually the one doing things to break my trust fir her daily , tell me how do I trust this kind of a person ,

A Simpson

You need thorough beating... Please visit indahboski, let him mix anointing with violence to deliver you.

CSTRR:
Her former boss dey use am pour excess akamu.

When the thing full his manhood, he will just call her, get her to spread her filthy legs and then pour inside to relieve himself.

He did sotay she aborted for him.

And he now wants to continue from where he stopped.

That is the kind of woman you want to marry?

And your mama suffer for your head o.

Savage Comment

Profperfect:
Dear Fam,

Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .

My relationship has not been a rossy one at all, I have my faults (though am not a womanizer or a cheat) God bears me witness, but believe me, the girl I'm dating and almost settling down with after some years of dating has been hell, trust issues, disrespectful, someone who told me she can never respect or submit to me in her life, I have endured and endured her, she always overrides me. I can't talk or complian of her wrong doings , she will react badly, very insulting (countlessly insulted my father and mother but I have never ever retailiated, does care about what I feel or how I feel.

Should I talk of sex? I have never cheated on her for the past 6 years plus since we met (started dating) at a young age at uni and after uni, I respect her even in her absence, but she has mingled with different guys that has cost out relationship, in all these she claims she has done nothing wrong.

The main issue of all right now is that her boss, she once worked for who she was consciously sleeping with inside office once others are not around, always, hotel, even when they (claim) or go to conference or meetings together, knowing that he is a married man, called her yesterday to give her a job offer to return . This is a boss she served years back, even during uni he kept calling and always wanting to have her, during and after NYSC he kept calling her for him to have a bite, same boss she was pregnant for and aborted for him, though she hanged it on her boyfriend as of that time and the guy didn't know . She never told me all these her self, but I won't like to share here how I got to know.

The same man she has been avoiding for years, that she doesn't want to go back to sin or her past life, but just yesterday she even took excuse sneaked out of office and went to see him and accepted the offer, then came back home called me to tell me this and that and before I could talk she said she has accepted it, was shocked and trying to reason why she did that, she asked me if there was anything wrong in her decision, she began to yell at me on phone, as usual I kept mute and ended the call. Please would I be wrong if at this point I take a bow and leave now?

Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

at the headline!

reiddecuti:
Don't let her trap u with this emotional game. Ladies are good at it. If u try to play the game with her, u will lose and lose again.

I can't give you any advice. You like everyone of us that have been trapped in this scenario always have q choice, either to leave and have peace of mind or continue and be subjected into bondage.

When I was tangled in my own version of the story, my logical part wanted out and have peace while my emotional part want to stay and be subjected to bondage, pains. Trying to fed my emotional part, I had to talk to a dear friend who said that I have to take a decision before he would give any advice - either I walk which will prompt him to say what he want to say or I stay and face whatever I have coming; on this he had nothing to say.

You looking for a validation here on this forum won't give you SALVATION. As a man, you take your decision, stand on it, implement it and bear whatever consequences that comes with it and allow us have peace of mind.

NOTE: She's not the special one to you as you think. Free yourself from your cage and mingle with as much ladies as you can then you will appreciate what I'm saying.

So, when you make your decision, reach out to me for your salvation then will I give you what your searching for.

very matured

Profperfect:
Dear Fam,

Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .

My relationship has not been a rossy one at all, I have my faults (though am not a womanizer or a cheat) God bears me witness, but believe me, the girl I'm dating and almost settling down with after some years of dating has been hell, trust issues, disrespectful, someone who told me she can never respect or submit to me in her life, I have endured and endured her, she always overrides me. I can't talk or complian of her wrong doings , she will react badly, very insulting (countlessly insulted my father and mother but I have never ever retailiated, does care about what I feel or how I feel.

Should I talk of sex? I have never cheated on her for the past 6 years plus since we met (started dating) at a young age at uni and after uni, I respect her even in her absence, but she has mingled with different guys that has cost out relationship, in all these she claims she has done nothing wrong.

The main issue of all right now is that her boss, she once worked for who she was consciously sleeping with inside office once others are not around, always, hotel, even when they (claim) or go to conference or meetings together, knowing that he is a married man, called her yesterday to give her a job offer to return . This is a boss she served years back, even during uni he kept calling and always wanting to have her, during and after NYSC he kept calling her for him to have a bite, same boss she was pregnant for and aborted for him, though she hanged it on her boyfriend as of that time and the guy didn't know . She never told me all these her self, but I won't like to share here how I got to know.

The same man she has been avoiding for years, that she doesn't want to go back to sin or her past life, but just yesterday she even took excuse sneaked out of office and went to see him and accepted the offer, then came back home called me to tell me this and that and before I could talk she said she has accepted it, was shocked and trying to reason why she did that, she asked me if there was anything wrong in her decision, she began to yell at me on phone, as usual I kept mute and ended the call. Please would I be wrong if at this point I take a bow and leave now?

Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

you are polluting the atmosphere with this your nonesense story, the country hard you dey hear dey disturb us about love, na money story we need no be woman tori

Fake... so many inconsistencies and there was a similar story to this early this morning, only that one was already married, so I cannot believe there are this many dunses on Nairaland

divinemichael:
If you want to ruin a strong man. Don't attack his head, for his years of experience and knowledge might counter it.
The only way to ruin a man is through his heart. Where his emotions resides. Which is why the Bible says we should guard our hearts.

Many great men are ruined because of the inability to rationally make right decisions even when the situation is glaring, all because they are clouded by emotions.
I've been in this situation before, it is like lovingly holding on to a roseflower with lots of thorns. You must find a way to extricate yourself to avoid a greater evil.

The temporary pain of the separation will be less, compared to the future regrets you will be in later if you still hold on.

It's your choice to make

nice

Profperfect:
Dear Fam,

Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .

My relationship has not been a rossy one at all, I have my faults (though am not a womanizer or a cheat) God bears me witness, but believe me, the girl I'm dating and almost settling down with after some years of dating has been hell, trust issues, disrespectful, someone who told me she can never respect or submit to me in her life, I have endured and endured her, she always overrides me. I can't talk or complian of her wrong doings , she will react badly, very insulting (countlessly insulted my father and mother but I have never ever retailiated, does care about what I feel or how I feel.

Should I talk of sex? I have never cheated on her for the past 6 years plus since we met (started dating) at a young age at uni and after uni, I respect her even in her absence, but she has mingled with different guys that has cost out relationship, in all these she claims she has done nothing wrong.

The main issue of all right now is that her boss, she once worked for who she was consciously sleeping with inside office once others are not around, always, hotel, even when they (claim) or go to conference or meetings together, knowing that he is a married man, called her yesterday to give her a job offer to return . This is a boss she served years back, even during uni he kept calling and always wanting to have her, during and after NYSC he kept calling her for him to have a bite, same boss she was pregnant for and aborted for him, though she hanged it on her boyfriend as of that time and the guy didn't know . She never told me all these her self, but I won't like to share here how I got to know.

The same man she has been avoiding for years, that she doesn't want to go back to sin or her past life, but just yesterday she even took excuse sneaked out of office and went to see him and accepted the offer, then came back home called me to tell me this and that and before I could talk she said she has accepted it, was shocked and trying to reason why she did that, she asked me if there was anything wrong in her decision, she began to yell at me on phone, as usual I kept mute and ended the call. Please would I be wrong if at this point I take a bow and leave now?

Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

How do some people like troubles and problems in their lives for sake of having a relationship? Take a bow? You should be running away and blocking all avenues to her instead of taking a bow! My 2 cents.

MultiDot:
Guy run as though there's no tomorrow, reading through your post I saw myself. I didn't run 16 years ago and today I wished I had because I am the type that doesn't believe in divorce. Guy run as much as your legs can carry you, don't look back!

I sent you a dm

Let me contribute my 2 cents, please walk away honourably.

Profperfect

From your writeup, you seem to be scared of getting on her wrong side. She's opinionated and strongwilled and you're eternally trying to avoid wahala.

A man is the head of the house. If she's not submissive now, she never will. She will keep having her cake and eating it too. Your personality type is the problem and not her. It's as though deep down, you seek acceptance and tolerate abuse because of it. I won't be surprised if you attract toxic and controlling personalities. You may even be a masochist

How's your relationship with your parents? Are any domineering or controlling? Do they tear you down? What of your siblings? Has anyone ever complained you are a weak person? Are you a people pleaser? Do you please people to be liked or is it done out of love?

Her frolicking with her womanizing ex boss isn't the problem. You have to search yourself and find answers. You do know there are ladies who tolerate men who cheat on them, physically abuse them all the time. They refuse to leave them. You seem to be the male equivalent.

Moving forward would mean you dumping her. The problem is that you can't carry it out. You're not just strongwilled to carry it through. Or better stlll, her will is far stronger that yours and she will eventually have her way.

You're scared of her. You know she will go to any length to hold unto you. You're not ready to contemplate the lengths she will go, lest you see yourself in a grave.

A simple advise I can give you is to dump her. Get a restraining order from the courts for her to keep her distance and remain incommunicado. That may be a start. At the end of the day, work on your personality.

stacyadams:
..the guy is a weakling...

I wouldn't say he is a weakling. Instead, I think he has the wrong idea as far as what it means to be in a relationship, and he needs a reorientation of sorts, the best one he can get from counselling, in my opinion.

chariiks:
Bro I understand the pysche behind ur behaviour. Your woman is narcissist .Leave the relationship. There's nothing special about her. The population of Nigeria today is over 100million and you know that the number of women far out weighs the number of women.You have alot of women out there seeking for someone like you and you can't meet them if you seek to appeal to the emotion of someone who doesn't respect you. Sorry to say you are the one in the relationship and not her.

When you go into a relationship guys please don't spend or give her shi-shi. If you do, you will definitely find it difficult to walk out of the relationship because of the money you must have spent on her. Stop impressing that gender with your money because if the see a richer guy, they will just port.

Profperfect:
Dear Fam,

Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .

My relationship has not been a rossy one at all, I have my faults (though am not a womanizer or a cheat) God bears me witness, but believe me, the girl I'm dating and almost settling down with after some years of dating has been hell, trust issues, disrespectful, someone who told me she can never respect or submit to me in her life, I have endured and endured her, she always overrides me. I can't talk or complian of her wrong doings , she will react badly, very insulting (countlessly insulted my father and mother but I have never ever retailiated, does care about what I feel or how I feel.

Should I talk of sex? I have never cheated on her for the past 6 years plus since we met (started dating) at a young age at uni and after uni, I respect her even in her absence, but she has mingled with different guys that has cost out relationship, in all these she claims she has done nothing wrong.

The main issue of all right now is that her boss, she once worked for who she was consciously sleeping with inside office once others are not around, always, hotel, even when they (claim) or go to conference or meetings together, knowing that he is a married man, called her yesterday to give her a job offer to return . This is a boss she served years back, even during uni he kept calling and always wanting to have her, during and after NYSC he kept calling her for him to have a bite, same boss she was pregnant for and aborted for him, though she hanged it on her boyfriend as of that time and the guy didn't know . She never told me all these her self, but I won't like to share here how I got to know.

The same man she has been avoiding for years, that she doesn't want to go back to sin or her past life, but just yesterday she even took excuse sneaked out of office and went to see him and accepted the offer, then came back home called me to tell me this and that and before I could talk she said she has accepted it, was shocked and trying to reason why she did that, she asked me if there was anything wrong in her decision, she began to yell at me on phone, as usual I kept mute and ended the call. Please would I be wrong if at this point I take a bow and leave now?

Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

How do things turn sour like this in marriage?
Honestly,its so scary.
My candid advice to you is for you both to part ways biko.

Profperfect:
Thanks bro. This is a real life situation no lies . I accept all the shades , I swallow all the insults , a person that is always open to correction . Thanks once again . I have heard you

Your MUMUISM is a chronic one. I never knew a man can be foolish. I'm honestly sorry for your parents. What!

Let me just tell u the blatant truth. U don't seems to believe in urself that u will find a better lady than the one I have at hand. I will strongly advice u to let go unless u are willing to die young and regret all the rest of Ur life. My 50 kobo

Profperfect:
Dear Fam,

Please help me out(advice) on this , I am writing at this odd hour because I have lost my peace and I can't close my eyes and sleep .

My relationship has not been a rossy one at all, I have my faults (though am not a womanizer or a cheat) God bears me witness, but believe me, the girl I'm dating and almost settling down with after some years of dating has been hell, trust issues, disrespectful, someone who told me she can never respect or submit to me in her life, I have endured and endured her, she always overrides me. I can't talk or complian of her wrong doings , she will react badly, very insulting (countlessly insulted my father and mother but I have never ever retailiated, does care about what I feel or how I feel.

Should I talk of sex? I have never cheated on her for the past 6 years plus since we met (started dating) at a young age at uni and after uni, I respect her even in her absence, but she has mingled with different guys that has cost out relationship, in all these she claims she has done nothing wrong.

The main issue of all right now is that her boss, she once worked for who she was consciously sleeping with inside office once others are not around, always, hotel, even when they (claim) or go to conference or meetings together, knowing that he is a married man, called her yesterday to give her a job offer to return . This is a boss she served years back, even during uni he kept calling and always wanting to have her, during and after NYSC he kept calling her for him to have a bite, same boss she was pregnant for and aborted for him, though she hanged it on her boyfriend as of that time and the guy didn't know . She never told me all these her self, but I won't like to share here how I got to know.

The same man she has been avoiding for years, that she doesn't want to go back to sin or her past life, but just yesterday she even took excuse sneaked out of office and went to see him and accepted the offer, then came back home called me to tell me this and that and before I could talk she said she has accepted it, was shocked and trying to reason why she did that, she asked me if there was anything wrong in her decision, she began to yell at me on phone, as usual I kept mute and ended the call. Please would I be wrong if at this point I take a bow and leave now?

Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

exposition:
You don't need to take a bow!
Don't even tell her you're done, let her figure it out herself!

you have said it all.....let her be

If u like no leave dat girl focus on ur life be der deceiving ursef.......better find anoda lady .....
I wonder y u dnt see d red card all dis while abi na luv dey do u like dis

Eniitankorede:
You are wining and dining with a devil. Yet you don’t even have a spoon, talk less of long spoon. If you are not seeing the handwriting on the wall, then I can confirm you are completely blind.

This one is a finished man. His condition seems irredeemable. His type always ends up in early grave. I only pity his parents.

Nigerianization:
Why should your naivety be pushed to front page? Bro, you are heading to Golgotha.

Golgotha ke. he wont reach Golgotha, Christ wont let his stupidity allow him reach same place He was crucified. Nonsense person

Profperfect:
Please help me push it to the front page. She is a Nairalander too, she sees nothing wrong in the wrong things she does. Let the world hear my story and correct me if am wrong on taking the decision.

Correct you so you will continue to walk through the valley of the shadow of death abi.

so is this how you will be bringing your matter to public space? I mean, why hang around a babe that makes you do this? of all the billions of babes in the world.