Ekun igbere, you better call a meeting with yourself and yourself by yourself before we see thread 'my child looks like my colleague' and then dna test begin with money wey u no get. Na so my ex been dey do with one guy wey she say na her village person, wan open office for my head i quietly waka go marry na that guy she still marry last last. To whom brain is given sense is expected.

You're dating a 33+ with penile mileages and emotional baggages.
How many times will we tell you to avoid 33+?
SIMPle man

thegroomspa:
Hi friends...

You know what is happening but want us to convince you that you're wrong. At 34, the lady should know what she wants in life. This is the sort of behavior one would expect from a 19 - 23-year-old lady and not a 34-year-old. If you dare to break up with her, your guy would sex her (that's if he isn't already) and dump her, after which she'd return to you because you're the waste manager that loves trash.

Your guy himself isn't respecting boundaries. Move far away from both of them. You too, learn to draw the line between friends, colleagues, and girlfriends. You shouldn't even introduce your woman to your friends anyhow not to talk of colleagues. Dump that hoe and then draw boundaries.

general111:
See ba!!
That girl likes your friend..
When a girl likes a man, tthats how she behaves around the man...
Do not marry her, else she may just be sleeping with him under you.
Or wait for her to get over him..
Another angle is this, your girl is not emotionally matured and cannot commit to a man.
If she is over this guy, she will definitely fall in love with another guy

You wrote from a bank of sense...
She's not emotionally matured truly like I told her.

Shoodboi:


You know what is happening but want us to convince you that you're wrong. At 34, the lady should know what she wants in life. This is the sort of behavior one would expect from a 19 - 23-year-old lady and not a 34-year-old. If you dare to break up with her, your guy would sex her (that's if he isn't already) and dump her, after which she'd return to you because you're the waste manager that loves trash.

Your guy himself isn't respecting boundaries. Move far away from both of them. You too, learn to draw the line between friends, colleagues, and girlfriends. You shouldn't even introduce your woman to your friends anyhow not to talk of colleagues. Dump that hoe and then draw boundaries.

Thanks you have spoken well...

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and we have not mated, since we met ourself...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever about her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




I was so pained

"I'll kill myself," "I can't do anything without you," and "I will hurt myself because of you if you leave me" are many girls or women's gimmick to strike well into the hearts of BETA and MUMUPUSSY guys.
I could remember being told like that, but local man has no emotion to feel pity for them.

Gentlechika:
U dated a 34yrs lady for only 3 months and u concluded she's ur missing rib? My guy, a 34yrs beautiful single lady without a relationship must be so for a reason. Marriage Is like a lifetime contract, and in my opinion, 3months is just too quick for you to conclude that she's the chosen one.
You messed up big time. Learn to put your emotions in Cheeck. You should have played dumb and see how things unfold between them. But now you have blown your cover. If I were you in this case, I'll just call in game over.
My personal advise for you is, channel more energy in becoming the best you can be. The sole benefit of a married man, is just offspring. Women are generally self-centered, all they care about is what matters to them. Shalom.

34yrs old lady make him date her for 2yrs?? No be wickedness

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It's really hurts you may not understand...

Quit. Quit. Quit. If you value your future and peace of mind, quit. I know what I'm talking about. What if your friend was another man she met out there and not someone you knew, who would have stopped her from going the whole distance with him?

At 34, no wonder men have been using and dumping her.

My problem is with that person you call friend. How is he your friend please? You yourself are emotionally immature. You cannot meet a person for few weeks or months and start calling them names like "my best friend","my missing rib", "my betterhalf". You trust too much sir. And what is it with introducing your girl to your colleagues? Don't you have boundaries? By now, you should know its time to call it quits, withdraw yourself from that relationship. It's over already.

You met her at 34




You sef why you go punish yourself like this?

Sweetplum:

And you didn't bother to see her so that you can v real confrontation to discuss your fears and that confrontation ll be your evidence if your fiancee is actually hitting on your friend.
You can't accuse a woman without evidence.
All you v said are suspicion.
I don't tolerate cheats be it a fellow woman or from a man.
I preach equality in relationships.
But your action may trigger what you v been expecting. If your girl actually has any infatuation for your friend, you neglecting her ll make her turn to him.
It happens if it's a male too so no boy should come here and say am supporting a girl cos of my gender.
Or any slowpoke here to come & bash women as if men don't do stupid things.

mumu

You should have left her to continue falling in love with your friend till you got the evidence needed

She's not FOCUS
instead of you feeling bad, they say time will tell....just thank time that revealed how weak and gullible a lady she's to you.
You have the right to do whatever u feel is good to you BUT listen, is not a good thing for a 34yrs old babe to loose guide so fast without Money and temptation from this lust world.

Dump her sorry ass, she's a community property.

For a starter, I don't like that your colleague he is an asshole... You better draw a btwn you and him, he is not a friend.
Second, That your girl is not a wife material... To literally be flirting in front of you, 34? She just looking for someone to marry. Tho' you act to quick but that doesn't rule out the fact that she has a crush on that colleague...
And you are so stupid to allow urself to be emotionally blackmail...she want to kill herself? She should go ahead. You love her? Go ahead an get marry don't just come here to open another thread " My wife is sleeping with my colleagues" or " my first child is not mine"
Am sure that ur colleague doesn't even need to toast(woo) her b4 she will accept and that sex that you did not do he will continue for you.

The truth is that she be oloso..she is just using u as a ticket to marriage cos time no they her side..if she were to be 20+ she won't even look at u..

thegroomspa:
Hi friends...

Can't sleep tonight cos of whole lot of thought going on inside of me.

Let me be brief, please permit me.

I was posted to another state on work related matter, there I meet this pretty lady. I am 35 yr she's 34 so [/b]we got along her kind behavior and her openess captivated my heart and after 3 months [b]I said to myself I think I have found my missing rib.

Things were looking good, am actually based in one of the state in the north where am being posted from Abuja and what happens is my company sends personel from Lagos to come assist me and the person sent stays for 2month after which another person comes to replace him.

Anytime I have a colleague sent from Lag and my fiancee visit I do introduce her to my colleague as my person to be...two of my colleagues who have seen her before going back to Lagos have told me she will make a good wife.

I love and cherised her so much even when my job doesn't really pay me that much due to the part of the country where I found myself I still try to squeeze the little I have just to make her happy though she's not too demanding...

A month ago, a personel was sent from Lag on hanging out, my fiancee called me on phone I asked her where she was and told her to come see me where I was with my colleague cooling off after a busy day. She came and I introduced her to this guy they exchanged pleasantry but because we were done as at the time she arrived we dashed out immediately.

She returned back home while I and my colleague took a tricycle to our place of rest.

As we got home I noticed the mood of my guy
changed, on trying to know why he said mehnnn I like your woman she's my kind of woman...I laughed it off.

So we have meet at different places together, until the unusual began happening....my girl will call me up and will be asking after my guy on a daily basis.

She did it to a point one day, she called told me I should tell my friend she asked after him that even if she knows I was not going to tell my friend that I should tell him she's greeting him the same way my guy disturbs me about her.

One day she called me while she was at work and am off, asked me if she could bring food for me of course I accepted though she does that occasionally.

As she arrived we sat in company lodge we discussed for sometime...and only God knows how many times she was asking after my guy.

My guy was not around at the same time I wanted to know what happens when my guy returns from the gym...

Before then I took my laptop and was operating while I wanted to see if my instinct is on point. while on the laptop my guy came in, from the gym they both greeted and on the guy teasing her on what to offer her or to take her out my fiancee was so engrossed that she never knew when she told me openly she missed my guy....

I stopped reading when I saw these.
There's a reason she's unmarried at 34. There is a reason men avoided her until she clocks 34.
You're a fool to think you've found the one. For this mistake you have done, may you never find peace in your life.

Michelle70:
u have not mated kwa? ona be farm animals ni?

Well u could just let her go.

Farm animal? Lol..

ruggedtimi:
34yrs old lady make him date her for 2yrs?? No be wickedness

my point is, deciding to spend the rest of your life with a lady u met in just three months, is quite Hasty. This is supposed to be a once in a lifetime decision and one needs to be very careful not to get it wrong. And nobody is saying he should date her for 2yrs.

It's well...if I talk now, they will say I'm bashing women, so I will rather mind my business.

jayworld15:




"I'll kill myself," "I can't do anything without you," and "I will hurt myself because of you if you leave me" are many girls or women's gimmick to strike well into the hearts of BETA and MUMUPUSSY guys.
I could remember being told like that, but local man has no emotion to feel pity for them.

epitome of an alpha male. Any man that can control his emotions, can't be manipulated. Emotions makes us think with our heart not with our head. And, this is one of women's greatest weapon. God bless you baba.

Sweetplum:

And you didn't bother to see her so that you can v real confrontation to discuss your fears and that confrontation ll be your evidence if your fiancee is actually hitting on your friend.
You can't accuse a woman without evidence.
All you v said are suspicion.
I don't tolerate cheats be it a fellow woman or from a man.
I preach equality in relationships.
But your action may trigger what you v been expecting. If your girl actually has any infatuation for your friend, you neglecting her ll make her turn to him.
It happens if it's a male too so no boy should come here and say am supporting a girl cos of my gender.
Or any slowpoke here to come & bash women as if men don't do stupid things.

calm down nobody is bashing any woman, but at 34 she still exhibits and possesses Olosho skills, Imagine not asking about my welfare and be bombarding me with questions about my friend, maybe they have a past together and wants to reunite...

@Thegroomspa just call that your friend, tell him you want my woman right, she's available to you now, connect the both of them, atleast you will be doing both parties a great service to humanity...

Sweetvie:
For a starter, I don't like that your colleague he is an asshole... You better draw a btwn you and him, he is not a friend.
Second, That your girl is not a wife material... To literally be flirting in front of you, 34? She just looking for someone to marry. Tho' you act to quick but that doesn't rule out the fact that she has a crush on that colleague...
And you are so stupid to allow urself to be emotionally blackmail...she want to kill herself? She should go ahead. You love her? Go ahead an get marry don't just come here to open another thread " My wife is sleeping with my colleagues" or " my first child is not mine"
Am sure that ur colleague doesn't even need to toast(woo) her b4 she will accept and that sex that you did not do he will continue for you.

God bless you... You are among the few ladies on NL who say things as it is instead of taking side like some of your female counterparts all in a bid to justify their imaginary feministic narrative...

jeromestarks:

I stopped reading when I say these.
There's a reason she's unmarried at 34. There is a reason men avoided her until she clocks 34.
You're a fool to think you've found the one. For this mistake you have done, may you never find peace in your life.

It hasn't gotten to this na

Slynation:
God bless you... You are among the few ladies on NL who say things as it is instead of taking side like some of your female counterparts all in a bid to justify their imaginary feministic narrative...

Amen. Thanks
Why would I take side when I know it wrong.
I talk/ type from my own view, even if the person is my closest friend sef I'll still you truth whether you're wrong or right coz I hate rubbish and I don't like when someone else accept rubbish too

thegroomspa:
Continue...

She went back to work, and later that day evening I started receiving a message on Whatsapp from her friend I once meet asking want happened between I and her friend...

On explaining things to her, she said there was nothing wrong that if I love her friend enough that shouldn't be an issue...

I was so angered that I stopped replying to her friend...

Then my girl started texting me on Whatsapp apologizing and at the same time swearing with her life that she can't sleep or do anything that her head and her heart are heavy...

I became afraid so she doesn't hurt herself, I then replied her and fixed a place to meet her after work...

We meet and I pointed out everything she burst to tears saying it wasn't true that it's not what I think and was swearing with her life...

I told her I forgave her...

This month made it the 7th month and we have not mated, since we met ourself...I initiated it to ease up a little bit...we've made love twice now...

But I still feel insecure when ever about her and don't trust her...

I feel like quitting...




I was so pained

If you feel like quitting… then quit…

You already made up your mind.. stop seekin Validation here

Its called love at first sight. Its magnetizim. You can't fight it... Just leave them. Its not something you fight her over. Just talk it out and tell her to pursue her heart. Your own too will come. Look, I've been happily married for almost 10yrs and I am fully convinced that there is one person created by God for everyone. She may have just stumbled on her person in that your friend. Let them be. Your own too will come and when it does, you see those sparks flying between them both? Your own too will come.
Cheers.

Sweetvie:
Amen. Thanks
Why would I take side when I know it wrong.
I talk/ type from my own view, even if the person is my closest friend sef I'll still you truth whether you're wrong or right coz I hate rubbish and I don't like when someone else accept rubbish too

If every lady is typing like this on NL, this platform would have been very peaceful for everybody...

Slynation:
calm down nobody is bashing any woman, but at 34 she still exhibits and possesses Olosho skills, Imagine not asking about my welfare and be bombarding me with questions about my friend, maybe they have a past together and wants to reunite...

@Thegroomspa just call that your friend, tell him you want my woman right, she's available to you now, connect the both of them, atleast you will be doing both parties a great service to humanity...

You gave the guy the wrong advise. You boys don't realise when they say you v to man up. Most women are emotional stronger than you this Slynation. The op should ask his fiancée those questions not her cos he's the one that's suspecting. Dey use your brain.

Baronthecelebri:
mumu

Dull brain.

thegroomspa:


My dear I feel so disrespected cos I can't imagine doing such to someone I claim to care about.

Not supporting anything even her actions but you are not ready to marry or even have a serious relationship