frozen70:


You dont force people to marry rather you encourage them to marry

So, you can seat with her on a good day and tell her that you are waiting for a day you will walk her down the alter and that day will be one of your happiest day on earth

I think this is a polite way of letting her know that you want her to get married

Lastly, you have to be careful so that you don't create problems with you and her in the future, no body will support you for being confrontational because it's her business

are you married

Oloniyan:
The earlier we Africans realised that marriage is a personal business the better we will all become.

Not everybody is built for the mental stresses of marriage.

My brother, allow your sister to live her life

Personal definition of marriage is cultural and my learned friend below got it right but the teacher objected and marked him down

I really don't understand why some people wont mind their own business. Let your sister be. She know what is good for her. Focus on your life dude and let her decide whatever she want for herself.

Stargurl20:
You rendered me speechless.
Me wondering if this is how my own younger bro will be thinking of beating me up in few years time. Olagbara o

how old are you

IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

The bolded ruined your story.
You must be outta your mind and perhaps looking for curses.

Don't cause someone depression o. Rather introduce her to your responsible single friends make nature take it's cause.

IntelChief:
Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

Your head is no correct for this your senseless yarning..

Instead of you to be proud that you have a focused sister, you are here spitting rubbish. She should be ashamed of having a senseless person like you for a brother. Instead make you send dey plan your japa move, you think it's easy to japa after marriage? You want her to tie her life down in this country wet no get head.

You're an enemy of progress

Wonderful, nothing person no go read for nairaland.

If all the ancestral marriages led to you being this dumb, maybe your sister wants to break the curse.

IntelChief:


All my ancestors both male and female got married. It won't be in my time that either me or any of my siblings will not marry

Shokoloko:


Please go physical and teach her a lesson. You can even murder her so that she will not only be old, she will be dead and old.
Next post!

Omo see Premium Wotowoto for OP

God no go lemme carry personal matta come here o … People dey vex I swear

BossDante:


Your head is no correct for this your senseless yarning..

Instead of you to be proud that you have a focused sister, you are here spitting rubbish. She should be ashamed of having a senseless person like you for a brother. Instead make you send dey plan your japa move, you think it's easy to japa after marriage? You want her to tie her life down in this country wet no get head.

You're an enemy of progress

Bros, I weak, I have read lots of trash on this forum. This guy's post tops first 5.

IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

it's better for her to be single than to rush into marriage or a relationship with the wrong guy.

However what I do in such situations is ask the girl what type of man she fancies then ask how she plans to get or meet such a man, what actions she's taking and how it's been working or not working sofar then I give her some tips or even referrals.

If she's not ready, she's not ready. Pray for her on your own, and get her to visit a counselor that can help. Honestly, it ain't good at that age!

IntelChief:


Then let her at least take the guys approaching her serious. What is hard in that?

And what if the men coming after her aren't serious but only there to sex her to quench their konjiness.....


You can only pray for her and or make her change location and begin to see people of different tribes as a chance to make a difference.

bisqit:
then why is everybody getting married

In Nigerian, almost everybody wants to get married or are getting married because of "what our society demands". The society demand of marriage is coming from our culture and religion.

But the truth still remains that marriage is not meant for everyone irrespective of what society is calling for. When people that are best single get married due to societal demands, most of the time, the marriages are full of troubles and mostly result into divorce and dysfunctional family and children.

The dysfunctional children from such marriages will go on to negatively affect the society at large.

Such a child, if she was your younger sister you wouldn't even be asking for advice you would have beaten her to comma.

How I wish you had at least discussed with her first before bringing up the matter here. You also mentioned something about getting physical with her, is it to beat advise or sense into her or what? 32 is not too old or young for marriage, just let your sister know that money and comfort in life are not ends in themselves. Man of the family, your's too is ahead of you, I hope you will make a better example

IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

Instead of you to focus on how you can stop being a burden to your hard working sister you’re here carrying her personal life and decision to work on her own self on your head like gala. You are an idïot and a very stûpid one at that. Thrash. Abeg gettat.

nedekid:
Wonderful, nothing person no go read for nairaland.

This thread is currently making my Sunday a fabulous one …

This is Netflix wotowoto standard

IntelChief won’t like todays date in history .. omo make Una no make this guy hate him sister o

Emperor88:

I love this .. same way not everyone will have or deserves to have kids.

You are right. Not everyone will or deserve to have children.

It's best for some people themselves, for the children and for the society at large if they remain childless.

garriAndsugar:
Are you married OP?

Of course the idiot isn’t. All he knows how to do is beg this same sister for financial assistance. Instead of him to focus on his own life issues he’s there thinking of how to fight the person that feeds him because she has not found a man she likes.

I understand family inherited poverty which induces unnecessary fear of the future that sometimes make us focus all our life on financial pursuit do make people to make some irrational and sometimes drastic decisions that do later afffect their lives negatively, we must strive to balance things and not end up living a regretful life by following imported cultures we see as modern or civilized.



No matter how civilized we Africans try to form or claim or portray, we are more of family oriented people and no amount of civilization can take that away from us, and that is one reason every Nigerian man or woman no matter his or her level of educational qualification, financial success and exposure still crave for marriage as a way of completing their life.


Op I understand your pains but please don't go physical or confrontational with your sister about she getting married. In as much as you really care about her future, remember she is an adult that have her life to live and will be solely responsible for her decisions and actions.


As for taking guys coming to her serious, what I think is that those guys approaching her may not be her spec and that could be the reason she is forming uninterested. Take it from me, once your sister finds a man that have 50 percent of the qualities she fancy in a man, she would commit.



Best you can do for her is to put her in your prayers for guys of her taste to come for her.



To those saying marriage is not necessary to live a fulfilled life, you guys maybe right but I am yet to see a fulfilled Nigerian man or woman who died single without ever getting married or having children.



Always remember your old age when your strength will start failing, loneliness sets in, no matter how rich you are and how many domestic workers you have, they can never be compared to having your own children, grandchildren coming around to see you and spend time with you. You can't even get the same care your children and grandchildren would give you through domestic workers.



There is this level of joy my aged parents express whenever they see me or any of my siblings come around, or whenever they see any of their grandchildren and great grandchildren pay them a visit.



So as you club around town now and flexing your youth and thinking that all that matters is making money without balancing it with having honest, solid plans for marriage and building a happy home/family, remember old age will definitely come. You are a Nigerian, an African and not an American.

Look at this idiot. You want to go physical with your elder sister who You said supports You financially over an issue that is absolutely non of your business?! Ode!

Helpout12345:


In Nigerian, almost everybody wants to get married or are getting married because of "what our society demands". The society demand of marriage is coming from our culture and religion.

But the truth still remains that marriage is not meant for everyone irrespective of what society is calling for. When people that are best single get married due to societal demands, most of the time, the marriages are full of troubles and mostly result into divorce and dysfunctional family and children.

The dysfunctional children from such marriages will go on to negatively affect the society at large.

but most will argue its becos of old age?

IntelChief:
She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

You think because you are “the man” in the family you can decide to “do and undo”? I honestly don’t know where all these small boys, aka Gen-Zs, have their comprehension of life from!

You want to bite the finger that feeds you because you carry one small thing under your yansh!!

Ode!

You sound like the child that you are. How can you say that you want to go physical with your elder sister because of marriage? What about asking her respectfully in a very relaxed moment to know her plans for herself? Meanwhile she doesn't owe you an explanation.

IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

MufasaLion:
WTF is your business? She's an adult and she's fulfilled! What's norms to you, your mother and everyone else, is not norms to her!

I'm glad I have nobody like you as a sibling. Disgusting thing!

I mean, the very guts of him!

I wonder why no one was telling him he has taken leave of his senses.

What da freaking hell is that last paragraph?

What do you plan on achieving by telling her something she knows more than anyone else on earth - her age!

madridguy:
Since she has a good job with flourishing side business can you dm her number

Sharp guy ...

With your mouth

IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

Go physically with her and teach her some lessons? That's your breadwinner oooo, you bread loser is planning to beat up your breadwinner. Please don't come here and beg for us to come and bail you at the police station after she locks you up. But, what makes you think you can even beat her just because you have a dicck? After teaching your Breadwinner lessons, don't come here to beg for money and food.

Yeye "Church Boy" who is also a Woman Beater

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