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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Nobody: 9:37am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Something must be very wrong with you. If you're really serious about getting married, can't you look for a woman there in the UK or any other country other than Nigeria? Why won't Nigerian girl act nice when she knew you are in the UK, and she's down here in Nigeria?

My guy, what you are seeing from her now is scripted-action. She's definitely acting. Don't ever try it. A word is enough for the wise!

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by jogsman01(m): 9:46am On Nov 13, 2022
@OP, if you think she's nice, wait till you meet her. Postpone the marriage for now, and if you want to marry her, do it but forget that thought of flying her out.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Sirchiboy: 9:54am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

.
How old are you?

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Menclothing: 9:54am On Nov 13, 2022
Marry her you can't know someone all in a day
Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Ireportlive: 9:55am On Nov 13, 2022
No rules to this game... Just pray about it and seek spiritual guidance

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Franking: 9:56am On Nov 13, 2022
You don't know her.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Nobody: 9:56am On Nov 13, 2022
Well life is a risk ..two months..two years..two decades ... what matters is the values you share together... moreover like Akon you are lonely...but whatever happened to all the lonely Nigerian U.K babes..

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by padi94(m): 9:57am On Nov 13, 2022
Marry in if you want to marry... Don't allow anything stop your happiness.
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Paulheyman: 9:58am On Nov 13, 2022
No one can love you in absentia - power of presence in relationships

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by MrMcJay(m): 9:58am On Nov 13, 2022
You can never fully know a woman until you get married to her. However, with the additional burden of a long distance relationship, you can't even know her at all.
You will learn the hard way.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by generalwo(m): 9:58am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

..... I once met a lady who i thought was the queen of the world at the time....
Her true nature came out when she got pregnant and knew i cared for her and the baby so much...

Long story short, after met her, i lost my job, became a serial debtor and not on good terms with my family....

Guess what, she left with my kid in the middle of all these...

My greatest happiness is that i was never married to her...

Things are looking up now that she's out of the picture (though I still keep in touch because of my kid).

I'm not saying your woman will be like that but just be careful.

At one point in our lives, our worst exes were once the best persons we have met.

Time Nd circumstances change people.

May the heavens not allow you make a grave mistake..... Amen

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Bigman02(m): 9:58am On Nov 13, 2022
Brother I'll advice you to do a loyalty test prank on her...
Or you come to Nigeria Spend some time with her then go back to UK and still do the loyalty test prank...


Still on still you fit be her japa plan.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Toktee(m): 9:59am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

She's pretending,why don't you tell er u lives in togo the ride Keke for survival and see how she will overtake USEN BOT? how can you court a Nigeria lady on phone ahbi internet and be thinking of marrying her?
Ok, we are here to read part two.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Fuckjesusandgod: 9:59am On Nov 13, 2022
Ha! Omase Ile nje niyan. Go ahead and marry her Mr nice guy.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by BarrElChapo(m): 9:59am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.


You can never know but maybe when you’re back you can watch her closely, for now ask questions a lot of questions. Questions reveal true personalities.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by na2016: 9:59am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.


Guy, be extra careful. Any lady can be nice just to come abroad. There are good never married and godly women in this country. Be careful!!

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by HomeTutorsPro: 10:00am On Nov 13, 2022
See as una dey decide somebody pikin fate!
Na so angels and demons dey sidon dey reason our mata for heaven/hell/where ever.
Babe don dey plan for thanksgiving say God don finally butter her bread and una dey here dey pour konkiri for person agbado and ewa.
This is not good oo.


humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.


As for you the man in a dilemma, this is NAIRALAND.
Any advice you receive here should contribute not more than 10% of your decision-making reason.
There are people who court women for years living in same house with them and still see hell after marriage.
There are also people who marry within weeks of meeting and enjoy bliss in their marriage.
Just follow your heart and don't let nairaland rob you off a possible good woman.
I am not saying you should go ahead and marry her.
I am saying she could be a good woman.
Just make sure that trusted relatives check her out thoroughly.
And hey!
December is too early.
Just give it a little more time.
Another 3 to 4 months won't be a bad idea.
All the best.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by bmd1010: 10:00am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

sorry just asking, are there no women there? Or dey don't dare blacks, m just asking
Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Sweetvie: 10:01am On Nov 13, 2022
Okay... Cool down man marriage is not running smiley like they've all said try to test her. I can tell you most girls/ guys is only willing to date/ marry some people bcoz they're abroad... Mind you, am not saying she is part but just be careful this is a lifetime stuff
So cool down and do ur finding, don't rush marriage... Chatting everyday doesn't show you her real self, she only show you what you expect and what she want you to see... And It can also be her true character. My own is just that be careful marriage is for lifetime so choose wisely smiley

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Ulforex: 10:02am On Nov 13, 2022
Is too early bro , just chill for now
Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Ola4lead(m): 10:02am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.



Either you delay it and you’re fast about it, if she will break your heart she will… the best things is follow your mind and do little research about her privately on your own.
Not all girl are wicked or bad and non are angel too. You just need to know that you be get to know each other better when she is there and both of you guys need to understand you will have some little corrections to make.
Thanks me later

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Johel(m): 10:02am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.



Na u Sabi...Sha don't come here crying like a baby that couldn't get biscuits when u chop breakfast.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by Hoelujohn: 10:02am On Nov 13, 2022
GorillaApp:

Good suggestion. Op drop location
You dey find free knacking.
Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by markjay23(m): 10:03am On Nov 13, 2022
You're about to make a terrible mistake bro. Learn from my story. I was with someone for almost a year. Just two months of separation. She don collect from different people and tried to pin the pregnancy on me. Na by the grace of God I find out

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by mokoh(m): 10:03am On Nov 13, 2022
HomeTutorsPro:
See as una dey decide somebody pikin fate!
Na so angels and demons dey sidon dey reason our mata for heaven/hell/where ever.
Babe don dey plan for thanksgiving say God don finally butter her bread and una dey here dey pour konkiri for person agbado and ewa.
This is not good oo.


Then when the guy finally marry the girl and them turn the guy homeless.na sorry u go tell am abi

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by yusufmurry: 10:03am On Nov 13, 2022
Normally a Nigerian girl pretends to love, come be now she knows you are oversea.

Bruh, there is no love there. You will regret it full-time.

slow down things. She no love you

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by bmd1010: 10:04am On Nov 13, 2022
DaddyCK:



is she lightskin? angry
lol idiot.

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by JustPowerApps(m): 10:04am On Nov 13, 2022
When will Nigerian men learn, are there no girls in UK? cheesy

You sha wan impress by force

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by GorillaApp(m): 10:04am On Nov 13, 2022
Hoelujohn:

You dey find free knacking.
You no well o grin

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by SILVERLINES: 10:04am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.


You are not dating her but just mere phone calls and facetime on Facebook.

You are not spending time with her at least 1 month to know her real character

My dear brother I will advise you to spend time, leave with her at least for some time, there are so many demons behind social media and the rate everyone wanna japa from this country is alarming and in that case she may be pretending

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by pstemma1990: 10:05am On Nov 13, 2022
Nazgul:
The mistake you made was telling her that you're in the UK. If you had told her you're in northern Nigeria and she still showed seriousness, you could have concluded that she's into you. Cos no girl who you tell that you're in UK, US or Canada would turn you down. You're like an answered prayer to them.
grin Northern Nigeria indeed

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Re: Can I Get Married To Her Now Or It’s Too Early? by jamesversion: 10:05am On Nov 13, 2022
humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.



This phrase" this is marriage and I don't want to make mistakes" is very laughable.

As if marriage is secret cult that you can't break away from.

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