Hmmmmmm.

Be careful.

Bros have you seeing her one on one? and what part of Nigeria she from and know her tribe and what they know the tribe for, you can just stay over there and see some one online and begin to propose marriage just like that, have you don any investigation on her? I don't know what is wrong with young people of now are days! you think marriage is a child play? before you do anything think for the generation you are about to bring to life, you and her so you guys don't put them in pain, that's why I said parents of this days are selfish, they don't think for the people they are about to bring to earth, they think for them self alone that's why you see so many breaking home this day, the reasons is this, you see gangster getting marriages to gangsters, try to marry who will understand you when issues come up because is mandatory for issue to come up.

cliqtips:
You frowned at something (people advising OP) only for you to do the same.
Na wa.... of course, he needs people's advise and that was why he brought it to public domain.

Could you point out in my comment, where I frowned at people advising the young man?
I only advised him not to let the advice he receives here have a greater impact on his final decision.
You probably read someone else's comment not mine.

falcon01:
As a Man, you are always gonna be used.
That been said, test her that your stay in UK is abruptly coming to an end tell her some of your things are gone you are broke and only have things for minimal sustainance tell her you are coming back to Nigeria and you don't think you are going back to UK but back in Nigeria you can have a house, marry and sustain yourself. And notice if her attitudes towards you changes, watch how she comforts and consoles you, notice if she's genuinely concerned about your situation, go like 5 days without calling her and see if she's calling e.t.c Note tell her all those things on different occasions, gradually gradually and see if she draws back.

Trust me, she won't change... She would only activate other plans while codedly watching if the Op is trying to checkmate her...

Dont rush things...try return n knw her well

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.


But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

2 months…!



Too early bro… too early!

A woman you haven’t met. You don dey plan marriage. How. Some may be good, but i believe most are looking for how to japa. Once them see say you are abroad they love up fast

Procure a visitng visa for her first,find an excuse not to do the dependant one for now. After two or 3 visits to Uk you can make up your mind. Also do not paint a rosy financial picture. Let her assume you are still struggllng with some aspects of your finances. A ready made excuse is the cost of living issues especialy energy and utilities we are curently battling.

This is my first time ever of giving this kind of advice. I have to do it because a friend of mine is going through hell as a result of a lady he brought into UK in this manner. Think through it well,wish you the best.

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

falcon01:
As a Man, you are always gonna be used.
That been said, test her that your stay in UK is abruptly coming to an end tell her some of your things are gone you are broke and only have things for minimal sustainance tell her you are coming back to Nigeria and you don't think you are going back to UK but back in Nigeria you can have a house, marry and sustain yourself. And notice if her attitudes towards you changes, watch how she comforts and consoles you, notice if she's genuinely concerned about your situation, go like 5 days without calling her and see if she's calling e.t.c Note tell her all those things on different occasions, gradually gradually and see if she draws back.

may God bless you for this wonderful advice.

Listen humility101 if you didn't use this advise you're the chairman of international simps

We never dated...... It's now we are dating and we counting going to two years in marriage.....

Sirchiboy:
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You mean you dated your wife for just 4 months

GEEBITE:
Procure a visitng visa for her first,find an excuse not to do the dependant one for now. After two or 3 visits to Uk you can make up your mind. Also do not paint a rosy financial picture. Let her assume you are still struggllng with some aspects of your finances. A ready made excuse is the cost of living issues especialy energy and utilities we are curently battling.

This is my first time ever of giving this kind of advice. I have to do it because a friend of mine is going through hell as a result of a lady he brought into UK in this manner. Think through it well,wish you the best.

Your friend go dey alright .

They don’t separate/divorce there?

shege45:
let me advise u. When coming back, surprise her, dnt let her know you are coming back. Once you see her, check her phone then you will know if she is only for you. If she says her phone is private and doesn’t give you, just knack am den free am, Cus shez for us

if you do that to 100 ladies all of them will fail the test.

Why do men think they are doing women favor in marriage. She is also taking risk in marring someone she has not met before.. How is sure you truly love her? Both of you are taking risk

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

It's too soon, why not come home and meet her one on one. "Oju lọrọ wa"

danny086:
We never dated...... It's now we are dating and we counting going to two years in marriage.....

..
How did you meet her

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

U will cry and Ur tears will be sweet...

Don't use Ur brain ooh, soogbo

Oche211:
Abort that mission.

You will regret it. Kai, this girl want to carry you handicap

You guys are soo pessimistic
No one knows her here o but all have negative things to say about her

If she is an igbo girl, run o.

I repeat, if she is an igbo girl, run for your dear life.

I rest my case.

"AND SHE CAN JOIN ME IMMEDIATELY"
The girl see opportunity but you na love you see
Oya sowipe otilo he is gone
I give you 1 year your eye go clear

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

As man to man, listen to my advice for I have over a decade's experience inside the institution called marriage. Marry her if you love her, drop all those panic questions because there is no time the questions you are asking now will disappear in future, it's either you are one asking the questions then or your partner will ask the questions then. Marriage is created for us to help each other, be proud that you are the one about to help her. Pray and go ahead. God will see you through.

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

so you are those abroad boyfriend while she get home based boyfriend doing daily maintenance check on her toto still the main abroad guy takes her away

Don't be a stupid ediot for love!

And why do you want to destroy your life?

Person thats retired hook-up you want to marry! Is there no beautiful women around your place? Why coming back home to pick some gorilla to go and destroy your life

Is like you just want to practically taste how Alimony work

If this is not the work of village people operating in your life!
Why will someone just want to deliberately want to destroy his life?

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

Contact me so I can help you carry out a discreet investigation about her.

You wana settled down to a retire olosho

Why not meet her in person first

And see more of her


She might come to the UK and dis-charge you.

2 months is too early

She comes to your ouse and pretend to your family that she is good

It’s because you are well to do a bit

Had it been you are a Carpenta or still looking for job

This lady won’t give u green light

Be wise and take a good step

Don’t come back here and say rubbish about her in 9 months to come

Besides be careful of edo girl cos my instinct says she is from
edo

Your mumu no too much. Even witch will become nice once dem hear obodo oyinbo.

We got linked up by my uncle,, first time I met her was August 25 2020... And I was like are you ready for marriage and she was skeptical at first and then said yes she is... And I was like then let's make it work... And the rest is history... 1.5 years later be relocated to the UK and we have been cool all the while making it work.

Sirchiboy:
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How did you meet her

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

You want to marry whom you have never met for the First time.. Everything you know about the girl is online...
My God open your eyes

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

You never see person physically,you day say she get the whole attribute, sorry oooo omininoet!!!

imadiyi:

Something must be very wrong with you. If you're really serious about getting married, can't you look for a woman there in the UK or any other country other than Nigeria? Why won't Nigerian girl act nice when she knew you are in the UK, and she's down here in Nigeria?

My guy, what you are seeing from her now is scripted-action. She's definitely acting. Don't ever try it. A word is enough for the wise!

The guy na real mugu

U Dey UK

She Dey Naija

Won’t she behave so good

I don’t know say mugu men like this stil plenty oooo chai

Fit be say na Tinder she meet the girl self

Cos those girls for tinder and fumble na real practicing and retired olosho

Mugu guy

falcon01:
As a Man, you are always gonna be used.
That been said, test her that your stay in UK is abruptly coming to an end tell her some of your things are gone you are broke and only have things for minimal sustainance tell her you are coming back to Nigeria and you don't think you are going back to UK but back in Nigeria you can have a house, marry and sustain yourself. And notice if her attitudes towards you changes, watch how she comforts and consoles you, notice if she's genuinely concerned about your situation, go like 5 days without calling her and see if she's calling e.t.c Note tell her all those things on different occasions, gradually gradually and see if she draws back.

That's not a befitting test because she knows that if you are coming back with £5k you'd still be comfortable so she will play along.

Kobicove:
Slow things down a bit, don't be in too much of a hurry

he can not notice anything as long as he is in UK even if he let it linger for 5 years. Women are cunny.

Bros if you do it you will regret it and if you don’t do it you will still regret it.
Happy Sunday NL’s.