BRATISLAVA:


Here is a prime example of why deadbeat men continue to be deadbeats and indoctrinate their sons into deadbeat-ism. In fact, the work of deadbeats is to be such trashy people, and then pin their failures to be good parents/fathers on their birthing partners. After all, it's a patriarchal society and it is forgiving of any type of evil men commit. So why not be a deadbeat? Your sins will be forgiven, and even if you are a failure, it is your partner who will accrue all blame at the end of the day. God help that child if it doesn't come looking for you as a man, because you hold the keys to it's life and future.

Definitely not his fault for being a deadbeat father. It's their mothers fault for raising them when their father wouldn't be there. It's as if the children in these situations were blind and dumb not to know their father had no role to play in their life, except that as sperm donor. You really think children are so foolish they need to be told that their father is a deadbeat by their mother? Have you heard that actions speak louder than words? Nigerian men can be quite stupid about that, believing children can't tell these things themselves. They believe it's always a woman doing this or that, when they are actually the ones making themselves look bad to their children.

Maybe the deadbeats partners should've abandoned the child, too, so that later on deadbeats won't accuse her of raising a child alone.

It's not the product of a single mother, but the product of a negligent, toxic man that you are referring to. If you don't want products of single mothers, then make yourselves available as men.

But you won't. It's much easier to blame women for being parents as it covers your failures as fathers.

Loud it bro loud it

Deadbeats dad must reap what they sow

Same goes for any mom that neglects her kids

God cannot be mocked, you sow mango, you reap mango

BRATISLAVA:


It's wrong for men to maltreat their families in the hope that one day they will be forgiven and understood.

You are right to forgive him, for yourself. Not because he deserved to be forgiven. It's pathetic that many men have to drown before they realize their wife and children matter.

He came back home when he was diagnosed that he has cancer of the lungs. I just had to forgive him. I know you're hurt. But please forgive him and take care of him, trust if you don't and he dies, you will one day feel bad you didn't. Just look away and forgive him, please.

dalass:
Hope you do realize that you are not perfect. What you are doing right in your own eyes could be so wrong and may be even termed as wicked in another's eyes. Whatever you do to your father will be returned to you. I come in peace
Have a forgiving heart. Its in the Lord's prayer because God knows we will be offended and we need to heal and peace in our hearts by the forgiveness we offer others.
Some men should put it in mind that there's a future where you will not have the strength, money, position like before and you will need your family like protection around you. Please be wise

Stop dragging God into the muck that is humans abeg!

God said to forgive, but He did not say that after you forgive, sit back and allow the hurt to continue. Your future depends on you making wise decisions in your life now and one very wise thing to do is to run away from that which causes you to hurt. Don't sit back and allow it to continue— doing so is what an imbe_cile would do.

Kobojunkie:
Are the children worse or the parents finally paying for their foolish decisions in life?

You mean we should blame the parents for the decision of children like these?

seunmsg:
You mean we should blame the parents for the decision of children like these?

How do you go about blaming the children when the parents refuse to put aside enough money for their own retirement and care in old age?

Kobojunkie:
How do you go about blaming the children when the parents refuse to put aside enough money for their own retirement and care in old age?

Are we not saying the same thing at the end of the day? My message is clear; parents should make adequate plan for their retirement outside of their children. Parents should stop making their children their retirement plan. Period.

seunmsg:
Are we not saying the same thing at the end of the day? My message is clear; parents should make adequate plan for their retirement outside of their children. Parents should stop making their children their retirement plan. Period.

So, long as you are not suggesting that children today are worse but instead parents are finally reaping the consequence of their foolishness in not planning for their own retirement, sure.

Bethanybethel:
You are right my dad is paying the price for abandoning us with our sick mother. He have some health issues I have decided not to help him, he will suffer until his last breath on earth..

My Kobo advice to you is to let God be the one to deal with him (I believed he is reaping it already) and not you paying him back so as not incur curse to ursef and ur lineage. God won't deal with u dt ur dad was wrong but based on ur own course of actions to ur parent.

Baddosqqi:


He came back home when he was diagnosed that he has cancer of the lungs. I just had to forgive him. I know you're hurt. But please forgive him and take care of him, trust if you don't and he dies, you will one day feel bad you didn't. Just look away and forgive him, please.

I'm not the poster who wants their father to suffer, though I can see reasons why they would want that.

Kudos to you for forgiving him. Hopefully you will extend that kindness to as many as require it. It's not easy forgiving a person who doesn't deserve it and will never ask for it. But for your healing, it's a good step.

Topshow2010:
My Kobo advice to you is to let God be the one to deal with him (I believed he is reaping it already) and not you paying him back so as not incur curse to ursef and ur lineage. God won't deal with u dt ur dad was wrong but based on ur own course of actions to ur parent.

Where did God state this?

Please and please do quote from the Old Law of Moses, the National Constitution of the Nation of the Nation of Israel, which God gave only to Israel in the Land of Canaan - Deuteronomy 30 vs 15 - 20 -

Topshow2010:


My Kobo advice to you is to let God be the one to deal with him (I believed he is reaping it already) and not you paying him back so as not incur curse to ursef and ur lineage. God won't deal with u dt ur dad was wrong but based on ur own course of actions to ur parent.

Liar

Fear God abeg

Bethanybethel:
You are right my dad is paying the price for abandoning us with our sick mother. He have some health issues I have decided not to help him, he will suffer until his last breath on earth..

this is exactly what brings generational curse. You can not take that father hood from him. You also do not know how many options was left for him before he chooses to abandoned ur mother as you claim.
Above all try not to pay evil with evil

toxtimmy:
wrong... wrong ... and wrong... tomorrow na una go be the first to go church and sit in front row and speak in tongues and forget to read the first page and chapter of the bible that preaches forgiveness.

how can you be a christian that wants to go to heaven without practising forgiveness...

Let me define the word un-forgiveness for you... Un-forgiveness is like taking poison and hoping someone else dies for you taking the poison.

this is your time to shine and let the angels in heaven dance , and have a big party and celebrate your act of forgiveness.

forgiveness is not like an ON switch that you can flip to turn, its a process that either one has to go through on their own and shown through therapy or teachings by someone

forgiveness process is like falling in love, you fall in love becoz someone has told you to, at process that happens either through your desires or how someone treats you

Most people they with have to heal or accept what happened then they forgive

deavicky:
1.this is exactly what brings generational curse. You can not take that father hood from him.

2. You also do not know how many options was left for him before he chooses to abandoned ur mother as you claim. Above all try not to pay evil with evil

1.Stop lying ! Being a sperm donor doesn't confer on anyone godhood.

2. So he may have had a valid reason to abandon his own children, leaving them in the dark, is what you are trying to say here?

Baddosqqi:


Okay agreed you're provoked. Women can actually make you misbehave. Whatever the case may be, I plead on his behalf. Don't let him die helplessly. Forgive him.

WHEN will you people ever take responsibility for your misbehaviour? When?!?!?! Are you people so weak-willed that women control your actions and behaviours? This disgusting mindset that you can behave anyhow because you can conveniently blame women for your bad behaviours has to stop! A REAL man owns up to his fuckups not shift blames

Jennyclay:
If you choose to distance your emotions from your children, good for you. If you choose to be emotionally attached to your children, good for you.

What ever you sow is what you reap.

First ever sensible quote from Jennyclay

Let us be careful in all we do or say, stand aside and check both your parents life. It will help you but standing for one and you did not find out the truth it will still back fire. Am Onwe Godspower

ChukwukaEze:
My guy if anything happens to that man, you will take the responsility you think you are running away from, in his death. You think you can change your paternity. You are indepted to him NOW in the same way you think he was to you. No go help your DADDY. Guy no vex me oo

He will take responsibility for the man's foolishness? I guess you never experienced such sha. Some fathers can be ruthless and WIC.ked and even transfer it to mumcy

Jennyclay:
If you choose to distance your emotions from your children, good for you. If you choose to be emotionally attached to your children, good for you.

What ever you sow is what you reap.

gbam!

seunmsg:


Are we not saying the same thing at the end of the day? My message is clear; parents should make adequate plan for their retirement outside of their children. Parents should stop making their children their retirement plan. Period.

even if they do have a retirement plan, I don't see anything wrong in taking care of parents, they took care of the children when they were young, part of their monies went into the needs of the children.

adedayoa2:
even if they do have a retirement plan, I don't see anything wrong in taking care of parents, they took care of the children when they were young, part of their monies went into the needs of the children.

Nothing wrong but don't intend for your life to be a planned Burden on your children just because your birthed them. That is you intentionally shackling them when you can choose not to.

Kobojunkie:
Nothing wrong but don't intend for your life to be a planned Burden on your children just because your birthed them. That is you intentionally shackling them when you can choose not to.

it is when you don't have plenty, you see your parent as a burden, may our children not see us as burden.

adedayoa2:
it is when you don't have plenty, you see your parent as a burden, may our children not see us as burden.

Look around you in Nigeria. How many people have plenty to handle the medical bills and expenses to caring for an older parent when they don't even know when their next meal is coming from?

Pray that you don't make yourself a burden to your children instead.

Kobojunkie:
Look around you in Nigeria. How many people have plenty to handle the medical bills and expenses to caring for an older parent when they don't even know when their next meal is coming from?

Pray that you don't make yourself a burden to your children instead.

I have looked around me, and I see people who can take care of themselves and their parents, despite their parents having more than they do. It is just a norm to them, it is not a burden.

adedayoa2:
I have looked around me, and I see people who can take care of themselves and their parents, despite their parents having more than they do. It is just a norm to them, it is not a burden.

Really? So stories we hear of poverty is all a myth then?

SPAMBOX7:
I am his supporter but this one wey he cap na comfam trash. Besides why he sounding like he's scared of female manipulations.
Something wey men don dey detect from miles away. Na when you detect am and you no come counter that's when you fail. I hope all is well with this Eric atm tho

Lol bro. I'm also his follower too and I'm a member of his telegram channel.. that guy is literally worshipped like a god in Kenya. His followers swallow everything he says hook,line and sinker

GloriousGbola:


The real irony is that the ediat is using a picture of MLK as his dp.

Lol.that guy Eric is a very popular figure in Kenya. Infact he's the "Rollo tomassi" of Kenya. His followers who are widespread throughout Africa literally worship him on Twitter be and his telegram channel

Father4all:
So a man without millions in his Akant can't f*ck and have children again? Sometimes, you can't believe everything that comes from internet. Some people were neglected but they later turn successfully well in life. Life no balance

And that in turn justifies the neglect they suffered?

Sepviour:
I can say I am a victim of such
My parents raised me well, but there was nothing like emotional enlightenment or support.
So when I left the house it affects me, till tomorrow I still suffer from it

Please consider getting professional mental health counseling this year so you can wrap up those wounds of your past and get them to heal soon. That way you can move past them to enjoy life too.

ghiloman28:
If you capable on helping him I think you should do. Everything we become today is by the grace of God. I pray he find helper

Stop using God's name to lie abeg!

mansoor093:
You don't really need that, try as much to help your father, no matter what the past is.

Do Good to your parents, so God can be Merciful to you.

When did God state His mercy depends on any of what you claim? This New Year, try to stop using the name of God to trade what are lies born of your personal delusions abeg!

hopexter:
What you sow is what you reap.

Technically, couldn't it be said then that the Father is reaping what he sowed? Why do you wish for her to interfere?