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Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Izonedexter(m): 6:02pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Queendera:I must admit I'm quite surprised hearing this from a lady.infact u were so on point I had to put my phone down to give this piece a round of applause.if more women could only let go of negative preconceived notions on men I believe we would all have an accurate view of reality.
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Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Sixfeetbelle: 6:16pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
lebron7: I don't really fault Op for not seeing the error of his ways because he's a typical example of how Nigerian men are. They don't understand the concept of rape and giving consent. Once the hole is warm and wet, dem go just dey knack dey go. Dear men, if the lady you're with is not actively participating in the sexual activity like spreading her legs for better drilling, or touching her boobs or touching you and kissing you, Oga press pause and find out what's going on. 3 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Sixfeetbelle: 6:25pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
BRATISLAVA: That's a guy behind that moniker. Have come across their posts couple of times to deduce with accuracy that the person behind that particular moniker has a dangling between their legs 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Qatar2022: 6:43pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Sunwa1:Did you even have a single sense at all? A lady that say such a thing to you that you're professing marriage to |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by SkengRay: 7:41pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
You admitted to raping the lady bro. Dss suppose carry you 5 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by BRATISLAVA: 7:56pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Sixfeetbelle: By his fruits you will know him. Give them some time and they will go (m) or without. I've only seen 2 of their posts, but they reek of reckless youth, simpering feminity or concealed testosterone. The latter is likelier. 2 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by advanceDNA: 8:04pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
etrange: Defend??...lol...this of funny...i only looked at it from an side different from urs..... Every matter can have different angles , because We all look issues differently.....sometimes based on how we feel, our personal past experience, or others' experience... The angle i view it from is that if a woman went thru a traumatic and horrible experience called rape, which is what rape is.......the post-rape behaviour shouldnt involve continously dating her rapist ...... Now..here are a few of the post-rape outcomes i noticed in this story... 1...she tagged her boyfriend a future rapist of his own child ...a bit extreme..but yeah...an agreeable conclusion for a woman who just went through a traumatic and horrible experience Outcome 2: She's still dating the rapist.... My point all along is ...both outcomes are a mismatch ....if she sees the dude as a potential child rapist...how is she still relating with him let alone dating him, to the point of him proposing. I was expecting a more extreme outcome to follow tagging him a potential child rapist like an arrest because it isnt like she ddnt want anyone to know she was raped... Which was why i felt like the babe is trying to make the nigga feel more horrible than the face-value of the outcome of the supposed rape scenario..... |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by BRATISLAVA: 8:07pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
etrange: It's called rape apology. He will defend self-confessed rape on the altar of male "rights". He knows more than the OP. He is omniscient. Watch as he does mental backflips to try and prove a dash of crooked sentiment masked as logic as the enlightened truth known to the select few such as himself. Most of these boys are unlearned and backward. It's like that Nigerian guy caught by citizens while trying to lure and have sex with 16 year old. There's no defense their clouded minds didn't come up with for why the man was right. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by siofra(f): 8:31pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Queendera: You're not a woman and you will never be Fuçking rape apologist. 3 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by etrange: 8:33pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA: I never expected you to see it from my POV. Our submissions are both more opinionated than factual. And one thing with opinion is that it varies from one person to another. However, I expected to simply acknowledge the possibility that the OP actually had sex with the lady without her consent. That's one singular possibility you're shying away from and that makes your submission very biased because the story has a lot of pointers to that possibility. You think that tagging someone a rapist and still dating the person is a mismatch because you understand how serious the allegation is. But somehow you don't think it's a mismatch to propose marriage to someone wrongly accused of rape knowing how serious such an allegation is? Sir, it's very obvious you only see what you want to see. 5 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Jamesbiodun(m): 8:38pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Na when you reach German gate your eye go clear, person that is not even a virgin is manipulating you |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by advanceDNA: 8:40pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
etrange: ..i dont undertsand how serious the allegation is?? Lol....u can assume weteva u like....if u were not trying to see only what u want, u would have seen i just a devil's advocate.. which i do In other news.....If u want me to see that the allegation is serious to u....dont date ur rapist after raping you |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by seanwilliam(m): 8:40pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Queendera:Bro, wish I can like this 1000 times |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by siofra(f): 8:42pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA: Cognitive dissonance. 2 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by etrange: 8:51pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA: @bolded, I don't know where you read that. I literally said the opposite. It's obvious you're arguing just to have a say, not because you're processing the conversation logically. Of course she shouldn't date or marry someone that raped her. She dated him, but has her doubts about marrying him. A doubt she never hid from the OP. A doubt she has always expressed. And that explains why the OP hasn't gotten a yes from her even though it's been weeks since he proposed. On the other, which innocent man proposes to a lier who accused him of something as serious as rape? Shouldn't we also say "you shouldn't propose marriage to a girl who deliberately accused you wrongly"? If you can't get yourself to say that or ponder on it, then you're burying your head in the sand here for obvious reasons. 2 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Magnoliaa(f): 8:54pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA: And why is he proposing marriage to a liar and a blackmailer? Is a false rape allegation not as serious as rape itself? So if you think no rape has happened here, why is the guy proposing marriage to a such a woman? If a woman accused you of something as serious as rape, you're telling me that your logical reaction would be to propose marriage to her? Why exactly? 4 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Magnoliaa(f): 8:59pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA: And it is quite sickening. You expect a woman who has been raped to cut off ties with such a man, but you CANNOT under that such a man who has been falsely labelled a rapist should cut off ties with the woman. 1 Like |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by seanwilliam(m): 9:02pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113:please stop saying this . Me and you know that that’s a typical Nigeria girls reaction if they’re getting laid for the first time. They do this so you can assume they’re not cheap and hoès. And please don’t even try to defend this, cos as regards women in that aspect , I can boldly say I have more experience more than you x100000000. If he raped her , she would never agree to go into relationship with him and trust me, she would do him dirty ! Op sounds like a very emotional person( quite different from simp) and the girl in question is trying to capitalize on that and manipulate him to her advantage . I can bet my life that this same girl will have one night stand with random SOJI guy for street and won’t even try that rubbish . @sunwa1, Please next time, 1.if you have sexual interest in a woman, ensure you throw it in the middle of convo on WhatsApp first , and she must verbally agree. Doing this would have prepared her ahead( even though she knows deep down her mind). , if a mature woman who’s not your fam or business partner agrees to visit you alone, she’s already concluded in her mind to fhuck u, it’s left for you to package yourself well . 2. If a woman comes around , if she’s giving you tough time (actually most of them do this to see your reaction and how desperate you are , don’t fall for the game) if she resists after all your effort , then two things dey involved, A. She no like u B. She one size u up whichever it is , don’t fall for it anymore! enter bathroom and soapy with her pic in mind, come back to her and discharge her without mercy. Whatever she says afterward is non of your business, don’t contact her again and let her do the chasing . 3. I honestly understand the situation you found yourself, but it’s what it is, you need to be smarter next time, cos na your fellow guy like the one above will testify against you that you raped her when he deeply knows that you didn’t . 4. Please kill that scarcity mindset, I swear woman plenty die. As in die! . Now my brotherly advice to you is 1. Know that she’s manipulating you , she’ll always bank on this anytime she wants to deal with you . 2. Now that you understand the game , careful discharge her. Start by withdrawing the attention and support by 90%. Do not declare verbally to her you’re not interested anymore but do this with your reaction , make it so subtle that , she’ll be so confused and wonder where the problem lies. 3. Please and please stop sleeping with her, comot your mind, u no go die if you do. Look for another girl and start a new relationship . Don’t marry that girl or you’ll die before your time! May God be with you . YOU DIDNT RAPE her, I repeat you do not rape her. She’s just being manipulative. 1 Like |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Magnoliaa(f): 9:02pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA: And don't propose marriage to your accuser after accusing you falsely? Like, what don't you get in what she's trying to make you see? 2 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Magnoliaa(f): 9:05pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
siofra: I swear to God! And he does that a lot. From thread to thread. And he's aware of what he's doing, as you can see him admitting to playing a devil's advocate, which make it all the more pissing. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Magnoliaa(f): 9:09pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA: And she might have stayed in the relationship with him, if she was under-rating her feelings and experience? Like, wtf is this logic sef? You think something doesn't have validity just because a person is still staying there? So many black people are still living in America, by your logic, that means racism doesn't exist because THEY ARE STILL THERE? Nairaland is toxic, but you're still here. Transportation is costly but you're still entering buses to your place of work or buying fuel for your car. If people HAVE TO leave a place for it to count as truth to you, then nobody in the country really has to be doing anything? 1 Like |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Nobody: 9:12pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
There is a way your DNA will so ADVANCE that little comprehension will be impossible. and you end up sounding ADVANCELYstupiid 2 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by advanceDNA: 9:12pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
etrange: And i say again in a different way.....if i was raped...i wont be seen 100 foot near the rapist.. ..but if i am still dating the rapist then its my fault the rapist probably thinks things can just go back to normal and then go ahead to propose.....which is why the rapist is now wondering why i am calling him a potential child rapist, yet still comfortable dating him, but expressing subtle doubt..... to u.... that "subtle doubt" not even an outright refusal is the proof of the trauma and horrifying experience she went through in the hands of her rapist... To me.....staying the fvck away from him or even arresting him is my own acceptable proof of trauma and horrifying experience |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Magnoliaa(f): 9:14pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Persephone1: Shocking things we see on Nairaland everyday. 2 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by advanceDNA: 9:15pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: Yawn!!! Nairaland and horrifying/traumatic rape experiencee is what u are comparing together?? Lol....Mayb u should ask yourself what kinda logic that is... |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Nobody: 9:17pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: Especially romance section. . One of the reasons I don't engage guys in discourse here. They won't see REASONING even if it is dancing KEREWA on their nose . They are always right. 1 Like |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by advanceDNA: 9:17pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: If u make ur rapist feel like what happened means nothing by continuously having him around and dating him....he wont go ahead to think its okay to propose |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by seanwilliam(m): 9:18pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
ThatrealestApex:The only way to get out of that mess is to change and man up! He doesn’t need to declare openly that he’s no more interested, but as a guy there’s a way I discharge woman I don’t want again . 1. I’ll stop calling her , not totally. If I do call her 10 times a week, I’ll turn my call to 1 flashing 2. If she calls I’ll only return it after 48hrs and I’ll still claim to be busy 3. If she comes around, I’ll first masturbate so I’ll be able to fully control myself and will never create the space for sex to happen anymore ( i can decide to visit my friend that time ) 4. If she asks if there’s any problem, I’ll tell her no that I’m going through a lot that with time I’ll be good. All these will make her craze, cos 1. She won’t hold you to any word that you discharge her without reason 2. She’ll feel you don’t worth it since you’re now miserable ( refer to no 4) 3. She’s feel you don’t find her sexually attractive again ( this pains woman more than cheating on them self) See bro, attention withdraw is the number way to chasing off a woman. Cc Sunwa1 |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Magnoliaa(f): 9:19pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA: You answer me. Your DNA must be so twisted that you can't see the parallels I am drawing from the end result of your logic. If you believe it is a lie, that she has not been raped BECAUSE she is still with the man, are all those scenarios I've pointed out also LIES because people are still on Nairaland, travelling to America, entering buses and buying foodstuff in Nigeria? 4 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Autobot05: 9:20pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Sunwa1: Rapist 4 Likes |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by seanwilliam(m): 9:21pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
Guys, this is a wake up call, Next time a girl visits you , the moment she says No, wether she means it or not, pls discharge her and never ever contact her again . Y’all can see how they’re calling him a rapist of which all of them know that it’s a typical behavior of naija girl you’re laying for the first time ( mostly ) |
Re: She Said She Can't Trust Me With Our Daughter If We Marry. by Magnoliaa(f): 9:22pm On Apr 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA: Why the fuvk would you want to stay with a woman who has accused you of rape, RetrogressedDNA, no matter how she makes you feel? You don't think she'll do something more outrageous tomorrow? If a woman levels an accusation as serious as that to you, is that what YOU would do? 2 Likes |
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