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Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Pecoleee345: 6:53am On Jan 20 |
LilMissFavvy: Women will never stop to amaze me......take her along ?? Like she would have take him along if she the one? You people just feel entitled to everything despite them been divorced. 30 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Pecoleee345: 6:59am On Jan 20 |
chicfarmer: God will continue help men. If the scenario was switched and the woman is the one that want to take the boy will your advise still be same. Why are women just naturally wicked and selfish like this?? This same double standard and selfishness is the reason why marriage are joke today. 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by DonXavi(m): 8:35am On Jan 20 |
Hathor5:You are wrong. As a minor the other parent's consent is always required. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Ishilove: 9:29am On Jan 20 |
ChybuzzDD:We hear you sir. Op, as I was saying, keep that child with you till he finishes secondary school to avoid stories that leave the eyes misty. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Pecoleee345: 11:04am On Jan 20 |
Ishilove: Ofcos she has to keep him so she wont loose her source of income (child support). If roles where switched in this scenario....the man would be called all sort of bad name like enemy of progress etc Smh 22 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by pipnator00(m): 12:02pm On Jan 20 |
madam let the boy get that citizenship as early as he can. Plus he can the citizenship while still in Nigeria. If he can't get it in Nigeria, let him travel to his father to get it. Don't be selfish. That's his father, he isn't gonna kill the little boy. While he is there, you can always visit or you can bring him back after he has gotten the citizenship. Knowledge-wise and opportunity-wise, there is a big gap between kids raised in Nigeria and their counterparts outside Nigeria. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by bdon12: 12:10pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee:U are really ignorant... 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by superCleanworks(m): 12:12pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: na better witchcraft dey worry you. is the man not the father? many fathers abandon their child and start afresh with a new woman and new children but here you are trying to give the man a bad name for trying to give the boy a better chance at life. Before nko? Is the boy leaving without your consent? Is he being kidnapped? You just told us that the man made his intentions clear, didn't you? So what are you trying to achieve from this? Na just witchcraft dey worry you. Nothing else. 28 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by ITbomb(m): 12:13pm On Jan 20 |
Give that boy a bright future, don't drag him into your past. What you saw there is the correct wordings to enable the boy to cross. The mother has to consent. Let him go, forget whatever the father is presumably doing, when your son is on his feet, he will find you 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Orlu13: 12:13pm On Jan 20 |
Pecoleee345: are u minding them...see how they are saying she should keep her child as if the child belongs to her alone...without the man, would she have given birth to the boy...nonesense gender, always acting victimized 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Bigseven(m): 12:13pm On Jan 20 |
So even if itโs not the process youโll deny your son privilege of leaving hell called Nigeria ?? Women sha. Whether you like it or not the son will look for his father one day and the better you let him do so now than later cos it wonโt be nice 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by BloomingDale(f): 12:13pm On Jan 20 |
Pecoleee345: As if Nigerian men pay child support. Lol 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by erniok(m): 12:14pm On Jan 20 |
ChybuzzDD:She's not the sole owner! She's not the sole owner!! Now the child can't go without her say so. Who then is really the sole owner? 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by bdon12: 12:14pm On Jan 20 |
DonXavi:Thats why i told d other guy hes unwise. Even if consent was not needed,to process this immigration documents,u need to sweeten on paper so as to get ur case easily approved.people claim fake marriage jst to get papers.i mean its his father n his a minor....u hav to giv consent to travel na in paper.. .nothing wrong wit that. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Justiceleague1: 12:15pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell:Come to your aid,like as in what?! Is the boy going to be with you forever? The process will certainly require the boy to be with his dad nah,haba! Please do not put your hands as a spanner in the works and wheel of progress of your son. The boy will always remember his mother in life. Free that boy from this place called Nigeria. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Justiceleague1: 12:16pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee: Are you now trying to force her into what she is no more interested in? Please apply some wisdom nahh |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by noskcid(m): 12:18pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee:Keep misleading people ๐คฃ 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Adakintroy: 12:20pm On Jan 20 |
Zonefree: You be pickup machine. Na ur work to pick up thing for the untrain eye. And she has the nerve to ask if she is paranoid? |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Agrovet: 12:20pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: As far as he didn't come honest from the onset tells you all you need to know. When your son gets to ages 16-18, then you can reopen the discussion. While divorced, was he active in his duties as a father? Also don't paint your ex husband bad before your son to score a point. Be sincere in all your dealings with your son. God grant you strength, courage and wisdom. Shalom. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by PoliteActivist: 12:20pm On Jan 20 |
*Politeness* You know exactly what he is planning. He wants his son but not you. He has deviced a perfect way. If you allow this, trust me, you'll only be speaking to your son on the phone once in a while |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Babangidapikin: 12:21pm On Jan 20 |
Get a lawyer to advise you ..In as much you want the best for your kid, you should also consider your happiness ... |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by noskcid(m): 12:21pm On Jan 20 |
I cannot drag a child with anyone, if you want to eat him or her alive you are free. If I want to see my child I will see him or her, na the child go even Dey cry, I want to see my daddy ๐ Me wey get doings, na people go dey find us no be we!!! Kill yourself ontop my comment you hear ๐ 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by EEIA: 12:23pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell:No use your bad belle spoil your son very bright future oh! That son of yours will one day blame you for killing his bright future. I tell you. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by AngelicBeing: 12:23pm On Jan 20 |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Justiceleague1: 12:24pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell:Know this for sure,an 18yr old is an adult and won't be treated same way as a minor at the embassy. And again,if you wanna follow the advice of people who will jump at this opportunity at the slightest chance,na you sabi,ooo,just know that the father would've gotten a wife and kids to be thinking about along with what and how to cater for an 18 yr old in Africa ๐๐๐ Continue dey play 9 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Timoleon(m): 12:24pm On Jan 20 |
noskcid: I swear down. The last thing wey any woman fit use against me na to hold with old pikin from me. That pikin go hate her die 5 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by sammirano: 12:25pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee: Is the woman Godly to be divorced you people are wired differently 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Anguldi(m): 12:25pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell:Now, listen and listen good!!! Don't ruin the future of that boy, let him reunite with his father because of the benefits and future. Drop emotions and grudges aside. Dollar is 1,370 . Hunger, inflation and poverty is rife You squatted and gave birth to, you love him unconditionally, JUST DO IT 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Adakintroy: 12:25pm On Jan 20 |
Yes you are paranoid. That boy is going to a quality school to get a quality life. It not about you. If you can give him that life. By all mean go ahead. If not then let the father do it mind you that is his father so he love him as much as you do that's all that matter. Let ur concentration be about him ad his wellbeing. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by wrongnumber: 12:25pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: I understand the bond and love you have for your son. I honestly understand but don't you think if you truly love him, you will want him to have a better education which is a good prerequisite for a potentially better future. So please put the child first and let him go regardless of whatever you are consenting to. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Justiceleague1: 12:27pm On Jan 20 |
Kids will certainly grow and move on. I know of a family in Benin..they sent all their kids,one by one,away to the States...that was before the advent of internet,o.... 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by flexyrule(m): 12:27pm On Jan 20 |
How do you even love a child, without loving the mother? Everyday I look at my son, I feel more attached to the mother. Two beautiful souls! 6 Likes 1 Share |
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