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JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

Elzazzi:
I will appreciate if mods can move this to FP

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

If your friend is still asking what to do, means he wants to proceed to marry her. It also depends on whether she told him her past or not.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

Rotji:
Women are always the ones that suffer in situations like this.

That his classmate or friend that came to reveal the ladies past, isn't he guilty of the same offence for doing 3some with her yet got the audacity to ask someone not to marry her?! What if it's the other way round and he's the one being exposed for doing 3somes, orgies and all sorts of immoralities and his fiancee is asked not to marry him based on his past?! How will he feel?!

While I'm not saying the lady should be absolved completely, I feel if the guy wanting to marry is a good guy and never engaged in such magnitude of immorality as his to be bride is being accused of he should carry out a very good investigation to verify the allegations then confront the lady with it. A genuinely repented person will always start any serious relationship by coming clean through revealing their past first, if their new partner is meant for them they will see the genuineness of their hearts and give them a chance.

I strongly believe that guy that made that expose actually deserves to marry a lady like this one if she's truly guilty, cos how will you do nonsense with some girls and feel you deserve reserved, innocent and godly wives?!

He's quick to judge her and forgot he was part of her immoral past.

Talk about removing the log in your eye before trying to point out the speck in another's

AuthorMan:
Kiddo, you talk as if you are still sucking on your mum's boobs.
You've got no life experience so you don't know a lot happen under the sun.

You labeled it FAKE as if you are a seer. When you grow up years to come you will know worst things happen.

Zeebuy:
What makes you think it's fake? Abi things like this don't happen in real life? My friend had to call off his wedding years back because of same situation

Cornerstone2018:
Life is so unpredictable, I have seen a man married to a virgin and the marriage is full of pain and sorrow.

JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

JessicaRabbit:
My dear, in the grand theater of relationships, honesty is the leading lady, and it seems she's been backstage for quite a while.

"Your friend's cousin" is faced with quite the Shakespearean dilemma, a tragic tale of past indiscretions surfacing on the eve of matrimonial bliss. Now, my friend, while people can evolve and change, transparency is key. If a partner hides a history as colorful as a disco ball, it raises questions about the foundation of trust.

Sure, everyone has a past, but keeping it a secret until the eleventh hour is a tad dramatic, don't you think? My advice? Open the curtains, let the truth take a bow, and then decide if the leading lady deserves a standing ovation or a polite exit. After all, a marriage built on trust and mutual understanding is far more likely to weather life's storms than one shrouded in secrecy and uncertainty. 🎭💔

JessicaRabbit:
LOL @ the "unbiased female opinion" request. My dear, biases are inherent to the human experience, as unavoidable as wrinkles on a well-lived face. Instead, aim for informed insights, not some mythical objectivity. We all see the world through our unique lenses, and that's what makes our perspectives valuable.

Now to your main inquiry: we have a woman with a past, a fiance with cold feet, and a bun in the oven – a classic recipe for emotional turmoil. But hold on, are we getting the full picture? Where's the woman's voice? Her reasons for withholding her past,

her perspective on the "life-threatening" incident? Judging solely on this one-sided narrative is like critiquing a play after watching the first five minutes.

As I alluded earlier, communication is the lifeblood of any relationship , especially when navigating turbulent waters. If trust is eroding, open and honest conversations are crucial, not pronouncements of "untrustworthiness."

I'll also note here that a child should never be a pawn in a game of love. Bringing a life into a strained relationship might create more problems than it solves. Both individuals need to prioritize their well-being and that of the potential child, even if it means a difficult decision.

netmillionaires:
Funnily, he is still contemplating taking her abroad to start life anew. It is in that abroad that she will turn to a full-time Onlyfan actress.

Ishilove:
Of course she fvcked up. Whoever never fvcked up... you know the rest. May God forgive her.

The one I will not support is if human life/blood is involved.

Let this be a lesson to those who live their lives like there is no future. You live recklessly, without a moral compass to direct you and damn whatever consequences may be waiting for you in the future. Well, the day or reckoning always comes sooner or later.

Yeye shidren

Elzazzi:
I will try and make this brief and please ignore the errors.

I was with my close friend yesterday evening. While we were chilling together, a call came in on his phone. it was his cousin that called telling what had happened and also seeking his advice. Now this is what happened, this his cousin has been dating this lady for about a year I think and he has already proposed to her and even took her to his parents and siblings. He also visited the lady family and did some introduction. Now April this year has been chosen for the wedding ceremony proper and a date has been fixed. This is where trouble started.

My friend cousin created a WhatsApp group for his wedding ceremony, he added all his friends and some of his classmates to this group so they can join hands and make his wedding day memorable. He posted his wedding IV to the group and some pictures of him and the lady, one of his old time classmate recognized her and immediately called him for a private meeting for urgent discussions.


He visited him the next day and this guy told him everything about his fiancée. How she used to be a stripper in Lagos clubs years back and how he and his friends had wild 3some with her. She used to base in Lagos as a call girl but relocated to Abuja and that’s where she met my friend cousin. After all these revelation this guy was in deep pain as he had already gone far with the weeding preparations. Of course his old time classmate advised him not to marry her, but this guy loves her so much and he is in a big dilemma of what to do next. As he thinking of leaving the country and go start life with her elsewhere.

Can such past truly be overlooked?

After my friend explained everything to me, I was just short of words but of course I advised he shouldn’t marry her. What advice would you give him in such a situation my fellow Nlanders ?

Fikkoski:
The handwriting on the wall is not difficult to read.

At this point what advice will one still be looking for?

Sometimes, our stubbornness is the cause of our "had I know".