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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Xxx123xxx(m): 7:26pm On May 14
Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically. All this grammar because you were jilted. If you were asked to write an essay this long now, you for dey chop pen.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.
Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by torqque7(m): 7:29pm On May 14
Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

Mumu SIMP,gtfoh and jump off a cliff pls..you disgust me. It's I'd.io.ts like this fvcker that give females the guts to do what they do..someone practically told you she isn't feeling your dumb ass anymore and you are here whining like a b.it.ch. A simp is a danger to himself and EVERYONE around him..I hope she videos herself getting fvcked in the ass and send to you.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Wainey: 7:48pm On May 14
Namaster:
You begged.
Your brother begged.
Your father begged.

Dude, your simpleness is GENERATIONAL.

No hope for you.
torqque7:


Mumu SIMP,gtfoh and jump off a cliff pls..you disgust me. It's I'd.io.ts like this fvcker that give females the guts to do what they do..someone practically told you she isn't feeling your dumb ass anymore and you are here whining like a b.it.ch. A simp is a danger to himself and EVERYONE around him..I hope she videos herself getting fvcked in the ass and send to you.
tiswell:
I hate to see stvpid simps and their threads.



When y'all gonna learn?
True alphas are not people who read about redpill online and start calling others simps, but those who had had their hearts broken and shattered, they are people who has made mistakes and come back with a sinister yet calculative moves, true alphas dont insult those who are passing through this stage of romance, cos they know this is a crucial stage in becoming a real Alpha demon.

@Op, i feel ur pain, 7years is such a long time, but you will get over it, i lost my own r/ship of four years in 2020 and e be like say i wan dhie. But here i am totally forgot that a lafy that broke me to pieces existed.
U will also get over it with time.
Just dont invest too much emotions into a relationship again, the only person that will be there for u at all times is urself, so selfishly love urself more than anyone

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Nonexisting1: 8:12pm On May 14
Mumu can't even read a simple handwriting on the wall. I'm yet to see a simp with functional brain and this is just another disappointment. Continue begging her while the other nigga keeps fuccking her at will and sometimes even turn down her advances. Ediots that keep disgracing manhood everywhere.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Auxtan(m): 8:21pm On May 14
Bro I think the greatest indicator of any love being over is when the lady now disrespects the partner at will. If I will be honest with you I will advice you be the one to end the relationship yourself before she ends it for you. Don't go back begging her after. I know you will be severely hurt but time heals all wounds and you will be fine afterwards. Try and convince yourself she's just not meant for you.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Auxtan(m): 8:30pm On May 14
Lonestar124:
Maybe man pikin don spend tire on top of the girl, you do not see where he wrote he nurture her right from university..the op never tell us wetin dey pain am most in this issue cheesy


Omo, I can relate grin
Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by chatinent: 8:34pm On May 14
not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Auxtan(m): 8:35pm On May 14
finallybusy:
Somebody should teach me how to do long relationships. After I chook prick once, love don reduce. By the fifth encounter, I need a new face to warm my bed.
Na spiritual wife dey worry you.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by chatinent: 8:35pm On May 14
Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now.

What is fcked cannot be unfcked.

Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by chatinent: 8:37pm On May 14
You cheated, she caught you. She's cheating, you are catching her.

But only you is sober realising you are being played.


Move on chairman make penis mah rest.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Auxtan(m): 8:39pm On May 14
Caspry5:
7 years. I think this relationship has been through the university and nysc stage with one or two years of ASUU strike grin.
I don't really advice women doing long term relationships. It's never in their favour if it goes south. She should move on with her life. You are not ready to do the needful. You should get a new banny. You have nothing to lose too
What do you mean he has nothing to lose? Do you think investing 7 yrs of his life to a girl is a joke? grin
And lastly, he might clocked the right age to settle down now.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by tochez24(m): 8:44pm On May 14
Namaster:
You begged.
Your brother begged.
Your father begged.

Dude, your simpleness is GENERATIONAL.

No hope for you.

I stopped at 'i begged her' bro ⚠️

The dude is not ready to be a MAN yet#

Once any man accepts a cheating woman on earth back for what ever reason, just know he has LOST her respect and love forever!!!!

Every sane woman in this world psychologically knows that it's only a low value male that will take a cheating woman back💯💯

Truly his simping is generational.... Even his father begged a bitch lol 😆😆😂😂😂😂

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by jesmond3945: 9:00pm On May 14
Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.
the greatest way to know a cheater is when she accuses you of cheating. You are lucky you know now if not na wedding cards you for see. End it now, block her and start again. To be frank 7 years is too long to date someone.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by jesmond3945: 9:04pm On May 14
Lukmanraji:


That fateful day, my dad called me as usual and asked of my gf. Then I told him that she's fine but we're not cool at the moment. So I explained how I hurt her and he told me he's going to call her by himself.

I think every parent will intervene in such situation when their child is having an issue in their home.
let me tell you what will happen. Your babe would only come back to you if this current man leaves her. Even if you marry your babe now, she would not be 100 percent in.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Caspry5: 9:15pm On May 14
Auxtan:

What do you mean he has nothing to lose? Do you think investing 7 yrs of his life to a girl is a joke? grin
And lastly, he might clocked the right age to settle down now.
He has everything to lose if he continues na grin. The banny don dy eye another man already. Its already gone

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Sapasenator: 9:22pm On May 14
Jaycobbs:
At the risk of stating the obvious:

1. She's done with you
2. You deserve someone better
3. You need to respect your relationship and keep things clean with other ladies

Nigga, dem no tie your placenta to this woman. There's over three billion women in this world.

3,000,000,000!!!

Chances are, you'll find one that respects you if you can wipe your tears and remove your eyes from this one.

Louder!

May God continue to bless you with wisdom.

Even King Solomon could not have dished out wiser words.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by advanceDNA: 9:24pm On May 14
Jaycobbs:


grin grin

Love dey make people mumu o.

I've been in love before. But— this one isn't even about being in love. Nigga has lost his self-respect.

Like. Totally lost it.

This one na mumu on a normal day....nor be love cause am

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by advanceDNA: 9:27pm On May 14
Lukmanraji:


That fateful day, my dad called me as usual and asked of my gf. Then I told him that she's fine but we're not cool at the moment. So I explained how I hurt her and he told me he's going to call her by himself.

I think every parent will intervene in such situation when their child is having an issue in their home.

U don't know when to count ur losses eh?
U are simping and U even dragged ur old man into it....
Man ....this babe doesn't love u again....it not the guy that's confusing her as u think.....she doesn't just love u anymore......

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Pray(m): 9:33pm On May 14
Let it go. Be free
Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by MaziObinnaokija: 9:34pm On May 14
sad is this how your FATHER begged your MOTHER b4 they married and gave birth to you LOOKMAN angry angry angry sad? Why are u nowadays young men so DUMB and FOOLISH @the same time angry undecided?.Imagine this disgraceful LOOKMAN that 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♂️ 🏃‍♂️ like a Cheetah 🐆 😕 😒 😳, to meet a GIRLFRIEND and apologise shocked undecided while Auntie Basirat is doing her own sad.


U are a complete SHAME to men and dey should carry u on the table and flog the stupidity from u

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by sslcrypt: 9:36pm On May 14
WITH all due respect you are a good for nothing useless simp.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Jokerman(m): 9:36pm On May 14
I hate reading foolish threads.

GF of 7 years... Lord of the rings 😂

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by BeeBeeOoh(m): 9:39pm On May 14
shocked

What you need now is nothing but a thorough beating and planking. Dazzol!

Nonsense and Ingredients angry

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Odjirigho: 9:39pm On May 14
70 year old man...
YiuuubeeMumu undecided
Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by sslcrypt: 9:39pm On May 14
Lukmanraji:


That fateful day, my dad called me as usual and asked of my gf. Then I told him that she's fine but we're not cool at the moment. So I explained how I hurt her and he told me he's going to call her by himself.

I think every parent will intervene in such situation when their child is having an issue in their home.

It even gets worst. You have to involve your dad? She will despise you even more.

Are you not cold hearted to be dating a lady for 7 years? Even if she didn't have any plans with that guy, you just sent her away completely.

Move the on with your damn life

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by gift2xl: 9:40pm On May 14
Heaven just smiled on you, congratulations move on.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Nonexisting1: 9:41pm On May 14
tochez24:


I stopped at 'i begged her' bro ⚠️

The dude is not ready to be a MAN yet#

Once any man accepts a cheating woman on earth back for what ever reason, just know he have LOST her respect and love forever!!!!

Every sane woman in this world psychologically knows that it's only a low value male that will take a cheating woman back💯💯

Truly his simping is generational.... Even his father begged a bitch lol 😆😆😂😂😂😂
He begged, his brother begged, his father begged and I'm sure if his grandfather and great grandfather were alive, they too would have begged. Simping is a genetic disorder.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by PeterObi4LP: 9:41pm On May 14
OP let me open up to you... She is seeing someone else already. She's just looking for the appropriate and excuse to leave you. So do the needful apology to her for talking dirty with another girl. If she still show same attitude, let her go. You can't keep a lady whose mind is made up!

Why date for too long? Na Una dey do Una self. My best friend now wife were friends for 4yrs, enter relationship for 1yr, got married same year.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Z115: 9:41pm On May 14
Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.
but you and papa no try o at all. How u n ur papa go deh get girl wet no love u again. Let her go or he expecting more heart breaking. M

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Akinbahm(m): 9:41pm On May 14
You walked towards your man to help in begging a girlfriend... very very pathetic.

If you accept that girl back into your life ehn then your brain needs overhaul factory reset.

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Hezmatosky: 9:42pm On May 14
Na now I heard Goliath side of the story, what happened between him and David.
Them never blow whistle pimmmm David don carry stone friiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii kpom for uncle Goli forehead. My brother OP e good like that? embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed tongue tongue

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Re: My Relationship Of 7 Years Is Going Down. I Need Help!!! by Pat081: 9:42pm On May 14
Na who get girlfriend dey worry but we who get girlfriends no dey worry and please who can break down the long story down for me

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