Chai, Nne e bana moto ndi oshi (igbo)
Wallahi kin shiga motan barayi. (Hausa)

She should just walk away

You are in trouble

soulglo:



You are not and probably not ever his main girl friend. You are the side chick and you have been available for ten years. I can't belive you are still talking about love. He is never going to marry you because there's no need to marry you. Even after he is married you will still be here talking about I love him and I just delivered triplets. I don't understand women like you who just want to gloss over his doggish ways and then complain later. Please stay there and keep supplying him with a steady supply of what you are supplying him with. I'm not worried about him snapping at all. It is you that will likely snap and do crazy things when you find out he is getting married. Respect yourself and if you want to get married, drop the zero and give a hero a chance

I guess you are not aware that there are a thousand and one people who don't believe in marriage.

Oyetboy:
op at what age did you guys started?

We started when I was 19 and he was 28

faceless04:


Lol....I don't have a ring on my middle finger, he never proposed or said anything close to that.

for 10 freacking years? Then u most be the lost world.
now I begin to understand y ur name is faceless, in other words u ae not fine abi? Btw you registered yesterday And u made fp today? At ur 1st topic. Hmmm.

Step out of d relatnshp after u mst ve boldly told him to his face ur walkn out if he dosnt perform marital rites on u. Den get ur fmly involved so as to check his exceeses. Stick arnd n u will only get messed up in such a view as his

Date a babe for 10 years and ya got no plan to marry her? U deserve a good meal garnished wif rat poision.

faceless04:
I read a story here where an angry guy shot a couple at their wedding reception because the bride left him for another man and this kept me wondering if my boyfriend can actually do same...........here is my story.

rate of unemployment.

I forgot to mention that he is not the faithful type, though he doent flaunt it to my face but I just get to know about it one way or the other.
I really need advice on what to do,because even though I still have a soft spot for him, I don't want to continue with the relationship.

the problem with you ladies is u don't use your brain when you people are in lust,that's no love,see let me tell you a man gave you a straight answer like that and you are still stuck with him I really pity you,let me prefer a solution.
Firstly called him tell him you want to settle down and as you can see,you guys are different entities,he did not believe in marriage and even if he marry you I foresee a breaking home and those innocent kids will suffer,Secondly tell him you need a time to see think if you want to spend your entire life with someone who does not believes in marriage and pls cut all communication,change your phone numbers,change your locations and in a space of six month you will have gotten a new beginning,stay with him and becomes history just as the story of the disgruntled lover who shot those couple on their wedding day

*Draws her ears*
Op Op Op!!!
Hw many tyms I call u
Ten Years
Them use top bond gum u for d relationship shebi
He should go nd get a contract baby maker.
Move on with ur lyf, u deserve better than a man who jst wants a baby making machine

[size=30pt]QUIT!!! Its long overdue[/size]

10 years?

Una be twins? And now you are wondering why he hasn't propose to you! My dear whatever he told you that made you date/stay with him this long was his proposal.

What happened to your pride and dignity? 5 years is even too long to date someone. The earlier you quit, the better. You need some fresh air

BaebieHot:
Op, No offense but God will punish that BF of yours.
I will add 'in Jesus Name' and round it off with a perfect 'AMEN'

Op I really don't know what u are doing with a guy for 10 years o. That is sheer madness.
Let me date a guy for 3 years and he does not marry me first, I will show him my waffi madness cos seriously, I don't knw why I shld be with someone for that long and u will come and start yarning rubbish.

Leave the guy jor, he is making noise.
As a precaution sha, better start telling ur parents and everyone who cares to listen the threat he has made o.

According to your post, you ain't dating. Give me a year, I swear I will marry you!

I've always said it, one of the best ways of testing compatibility is checking to see what you guys both agree and disagree on.

OP, please move on and look elsewhere. Ten years is too long for dating as such. Even Jacob did his for seven years and you guys have surpassed him! Abeg, report the issue to people and report to the law that a threat has been issued against your life. He'll be invited, questioned, and would be asked to sign an undertaking. It is well.

faceless04:


Our heart doesn't ask who we want to fall inlove with. Love is not something we can control else I wld have left him years back. I'm ready to leave him now but my body is willing but my heart Is weak. I know I can do without him but I can't help it when he comes around begging. I really need a relocation where I will never set my eyes on him again but that is totally out of the question.

Non-material love culture.

faceless04:
I read a story here where an angry guy shot a couple at their wedding reception because the bride left him for another man and this kept me wondering if my boyfriend can actually do same...........here is my story.

I've been in a relationship with this guy for 10years nw (yes, 10years). It all started in 2005 when we met, fell in love. He was and is still my first and only love. I was enjoying the relationship until 2years ago(though we've had our share of misunderstanding, I wldnt want to go into that) when I started thinking of settling down. I indirectly asked him if he had any plan of marrying me and I was shocked by the response I got. He said he doesn't believe in marriage, that everything is about understanding. I can move in,start producing babies for him but he can never carryout any marriage rites.

I thought he wasn't serious until last year when I asked him thesame question, he gave me thesame answer. But this time, I told him that I don't Share thesame view with him and that we need to go our separate ways. Since then he has been warning me that he will kill any man I get married to, that he cannt stand seeing me with another man........


Infact, I can't write down how the past year has been. I still love him and there is no doubt that he loves me too. But the big problem is that we are so so different, our views and vision are wide apart. I knw I can just forget about him and move on with my life but he wldnt let me be. He is always there at my door step, my office, giving 20 missed calls. Sometimes, I just wish I can relocate and start a new life, but I can't leave my job,not with this high rate of unemployment.

I forgot to mention that he is not the faithful type, though he doent flaunt it to my face but I just get to know about it one way or the other.
I really need advice on what to do,because even though I still have a soft spot for him, I don't want to continue with the relationship.

Mtchew!!!!!!!

Story for the gods

I can see there is a conspiracy to annoy people first thing in the morning. Yesterday it was the baby mama, today this.
No advice, if as an adult you don't see the need to think straight and help yourself na you sabi. Stay another 10 years endure his cheating and rudeness, birth his kids along with other women. Keep hope alive.

Fear of the unknown. U are the one holding urself and stil asking us what will u do. If u had said u cant live without him, i wld have said u have a problem, so leave him; he wont do u anything.

faceless04:


Super active

tested?

elantraceey:
10 years kwa

Op give him an ultimatum that if he doesn't want to marry you , you'll leave him , if he truly loves you as you say he keep his marriage view aside and do the needful.



#SAYNOTOTIMEWASTERS

very bad advice from experience men don't respond well to ultimatums and it shows desperation even though you truly are instead she should just simply walk away except she has no iota of independence and she is practising a parasitic relationship

Relocate far away from him and save some money to open a shop

Lepetitechic:
Poster, I really can't help but wonder what you both did for 10yrs.. "bump pelvics" alone? How your partner feels about marriage is something most people learn In the first/second.. third year at most of dating that person. You just kept going along with it didn't you? You should have talked about things like this even learn how he feels about having kids so you don't get the surprise of your life later*sigh* anyhoo, since you realized you both are on two different sides of the relationship coin and you called it quits and he is threatening to go Jack the ripper on anyone else you meet who gets serious with you, my advice for you is, tell people about it, if possible file a complaint at a local police station, avoid him like a plague, just cos he's a doctor don't mean he's stable, he could just find read like smart ways to be on top of you. Take self defense class if you must, but protect yourself and pray he finds someone else. Next time love, go on dates, talk about stuff, not just bedroom bounce alone.

P.S 10 years is not Okay to be a girl(without-a- future-with-him)friend.

For the first 6years, I was busy with school. I schooled in a separate state from where we reside. It was when I finally came back from service that I started hinting him about marriage.

Criously, who dates 4 up to 10yrs....datz crzy mehn...my advise may not be the best option so I'll suggest u go 4 what you deem best....what u want isn't what he wants abi...den screw that relationship ish and move on with your life

I kno opposite attract but this is madness. There are people who don't believe in marriage and are currently in a relationship, with kids and happy, but this right here is murder waiting to happen. It's better to be single and happy than taken and unhappy.

For 10good years the man as being enjoying the pecks and trills of a married couple
So, he felt there is nothing more to explore in you that's why he didn't commit to marry you.



But, una try oooooo making that boyfriend and girlfriend relationship last for that long.


Am sure you definitely know that not all relationship leads to the altar and yours for now won't be an exception
But lady am sorry to bust your bubble because ure just and EXTRAL TYRE for the moment trills and not for a committed relationship

BaebieHot:
Op, No offense but God will punish that BF of yours.
I will add 'in Jesus Name' and round it off with a perfect 'AMEN'

Op I really don't know what u are doing with a guy for 10 years o. That is sheer madness.
Let me date a guy for 3 years and he does not marry me first, I will show him my waffi madness cos seriously, I don't knw why I shld be with someone for that long and u will come and start yarning rubbish.

Leave the guy jor, he is making noise.
As a precaution sha, better start telling ur parents and everyone who cares to listen the threat he has made o.

madam stop ranting it is scientifically proven that you people loose your brain when you are in love,so don't blame the OP,but the guy wicked shaaa,knacking a punna for 10good yrs and now engaging her not to talk of marrying her,so watin go remain for ur husband wey go marrry you,sometimes I pity we young guys that want to marry,most of these babes are apere ajase

My question is how old are u op? cos wen a lady starts getting to 25-28 despiration will start to set in but I will neva in my entire life encourage a lont term rlsthp.

report to the police please!

faceless04:



We started when I was 19 and he was 28

@ 19 you had no business being in a relationship if not for oju kokoro wey dey worry u @ that tyme..... The bros @ 28 den shld be employed and had sum cash to splash........ Now I see where the problem is

#Guiltypleasurez

He is one of those that doesn't believe in marriage. Its not as if there is anything wrong with him. Make his threat known to family and quit if you can't come to terms with him.

Whaat? Ten good years? you tried o. And you even asked him his plan for the relationship late. Since, he does not believe in marriage rites, just leave him and move on with your life.
As per the threats, if he continues, inform your people, his people and the police. They will warn him to desist.

Where una dey go? wey una never reach.