CaptPlanet:



I kindda like your attitude about the whole thing. First you have to understand that cigarettes contains nicotine ( the substance that makes it addictive) and it's very difficult to quit so you're in for a huge task

If you really want to help him, I suggest you take some drastic measures.

Let him know that you won't visit him if he'll smoke with you around and if he does, leave his house ASAP/ do things he don't like, if he calls you let him understand that you can't stand the habit and if he really loves you, he should respect you. Deny him candy if u must (men love candy and we'll do anything to get some) That should at least cut down his smoking with you around (it's difficult but you gotta stick with it)

When this starts to work, spend more time with him, he'll reduce the way he smokes and also dispose of every packs of cigarettes around the house. Allow him some space to smoke (he can't quit abruptly)

Talk to him about it all the time, better yet NAG about it, men despise nagging. Get info on the adverse effects of smoking and show it to him, u can get pics of affected lungs off the Internet and show him. It'll stick in his subconscious mind, that should help.

Make him open up to you (men hide alot) esp how his day went, get him to trust you, don't judge him when he tell you difficult stuff, act like it's no biggie, you chics have your way with men so you should know how to get him to release all that worked up stress/emotion from a hard day.

Gradually reduce his average sticks a day (make charts with him), if he burns like 15 sticks a day, you could make it 5 a day if you go about it the right way. You can give him a treat once or twice a month, you know what he likes, like nice meal, warm bath together, seduce the living daylight out of him....use your imagination.

Finally you can get him e- cigarettes , they're healthier and more environment friendly.


PS: get him to eat a lot of fruits, let him go for detox.

I hope this helps.

jumanche:


Actually, my boyfriend is a very good man. He is very down to earth and respectful. He will never ever punch me. He helps around the house, he cooks for himself and even helps do my hair. He is perfect. Its just sad that he has this addiction. Please do not insult him.

This is the reason why I am confused about the smoking because that's his only flaw. Its a really bad flaw but he's a very good man and i wish I could help him.

wizard007:
Too many negative energy on here, I've always known nairaland is the worst place to seek advice from, they are all hypocrites, save for CaptPlanet.

Nice one coming from a guy, if you love him and he's truly a good man as you defended him earlier from castigation, then you should look into helping.

Take strong measures, test his love for you between his addiction and yourself. No sane man would choose vices over a good woman. Read CaptPlanet quotes everytime it will help you a lot.

CICERO09:
3packs a day nd he hasn't turned to smoke i don't believe it

agarawu23:
dump his ass and move on. He is addicted so therefore stopping him is ganna be a big job for you. I hate smokers

shejane:


Wow did I tell u my story? Cos u just listed all the things I did with mine... impressive... @ op if he's good to you then don't leave him, u can help him if he really loves u... Nobody says is gonna be easy but uav to do it. It wasn't easy with me but I did it..sometimes I cough so real and so bad (acting)around him about d smoke so he stop smoking around me and I started spending more time with him. Is a gradual tin sha, he still smokes but he can go days without it.

missgray:
You know few years ago I would say same thing. Trust me if you are in her shoes u wouldn't say the same thing. I bet if the person in question is your brother, a close relative or even a good friend you won't type this ish. Everybody got their flaws, the guy in question was once an innocent like you probably did what you wrote there but then that's not an excuse to smoke. Most smokers already know all the effects smoking has on them but wouldn't quit. I was stunned when I asked a friend of my that smokes if he has gone for check up, he said " oh yeah my doctor said am fine" .They are addicts that doesn't mean you should hate them, i mean if you love them you should try to make them stop or reduce their intake which isn't easy either way. I think the op already knows what to do cos it's her life and maybe her future we are talking about here.

UjSizzle:

You're a sweet girl

In addition to what CaptPlanet suggested, you can search for useful tips on the internet preferably from chronic smokers who have successfully quit. It's going to be difficult honey, but it's possible to make him stop if he's cooperative.

Still for the sake of your health, don't stay in the same environment with him once he pulls out a stick. It's important he doesn't smoke around you.

"Social smoker" lol I wonder what he calls an addict then.

Menace2Society:
U came here to talk about me right? How many times i'm I gonna tell u that i will stop it the moment u say i do

agarawu23:
dump his ass and move on. He is addicted so therefore stopping him is ganna be a big job for you. I hate smokers

litaninja:
Are you dating a guy or a chimney?

Emeskhalifa:

ogar sir, u either say "so stopping him.... or therefore, stopping him......"

it's wrong to say "so therefore"

pls take note

jumanche:
....After we met, It turns out that he's a chain smoker. He takes at least 3 packs of cigarettes a day. After a month of dating him, I just couldn't take it anymore. After we visit each other, I reek of cigarettes. My clothes, my purses, my hair, the bed-sheet. Everything stinks.

I talked to him about this. I told him that the smoke stinks everywhere up so bad and that I have to wash my clothes after I visit him. He got really mad and we didnt talk for days.

agarawu23:
in conclusion, the op should continue with him

jumanche:


Actually, my boyfriend is a very good man. He is very down to earth and respectful. He will never ever punch me. He helps around the house, he cooks for himself and even helps do my hair. He is perfect. Its just sad that he has this addiction. Please do not insult him.

This is the reason why I am confused about the smoking because that's his only flaw. Its a really bad flaw but he's a very good man and i wish I could help him.

jumanche:


Actually, my boyfriend is a very good man. He is very down to earth and respectful. He will never ever punch me. He helps around the house, he cooks for himself and even helps do my hair. He is perfect. Its just sad that he has this addiction. Please do not insult him.

This is the reason why I am confused about the smoking because that's his only flaw. Its a really bad flaw but he's a very good man and i wish I could help him.

missgray:
I didn't say so, honestly I don't make decisions for people when it comes to their relationship, I believe they've made their decisions even b4 asking, all I do is tell you what I think about it and let you make your decision. You should have placed yourself in her shoes b4 concluding for her i think.