I pity ladies claiming that guys should get job first, that's why all of you are roaming, depreciating, emaciating, dying and getting aged daily due to lack of ade ori (crown) yet you claim you're ok. Summarily, I have heard, seen and listened to testimonies of many married men who confessed that it was when they got married that job and total breakthroughs appeared. I will advise you to wake up and pray to get a man that you will start life afresh. Na advise I dey give you na. Am not insulting you ooooo because ''TRUTH is BITTER''

tiwiex:


Wet TLC now? What is the name of the non scrub wet dem marry? What happened to left eye? No be one rich guy beat am black am blue till she got frustrated and got herself killed. Not saying a guy shouldn't hold his own but your defense seems to be killing the argument. I am sure when they look at this song now, the irony in their lives would be quite apparent. Are you talking of a guy going through a rough patch or a guy from a much lower strata whose compatibility is likely to be divergent? I suspect a guy going through a patch. Tomorrow is not far oh. Patience is a virtue ladies.

Look, I can understand a guy going through a rough patch, I mean, who hasn't been through the wringer in life? If I see he has the fire & ambition & I can see that he's really trying to better himself, that I can forgive. What I will not even bother to deal with is, the chronic jobless type that wants to sit & smoke weed all day & expects me to support him financially. That is not going to happen. Not today. Not ever.

A girl once told me i wasn't her 'class' cos her MANFRIEND has got a ride. that statement left my mouth hanging wide open with no words coming out. ironically, this same classy chic is very jobless. so i asked her to define 'class' & which class she belonged to. she couldn't, then i suggested maybe she belonged to 'Ashewo' class...we are still not on talking terms!

Nov15:
Guys with Jobs are good but a guy who is smart and has potentials is better. Some girls may date a guy without job but with brains because they know that joblessness is temporary. Do you know someone can have a job now and loose it after a while. With what is happening in our country now, no job is really guaranteed. I have friends who were working in Banking, Telecoms and Oil sectors who are jobless now due to job cut occasioned by the downturn in the economy.


I will advice that a guy with Job is not neccesarily a guarantee for you to be provided the good things of life. Secondly and most important, as a girl what are you bringing into a relationship. If you are not bringing anything, then just know that you will not be valued by your man.



For me, I finished uni and got a teaching job in a private school. I met this guy one day at the bus stop on my way from school. We got talking and I noticed he was so smart and had a lot of ideas in his head but jobless. I asked him what his plans are as per job. He said he wanted to work for himself. We eventually started dating and to cut the long story short. We are married with kids now for four years. We now have our own school which I manage, We own a logistic and haulage company. we have properties in Lagos and PHC.

Did you notice We own, We have. If you participate in building your home, you can boldly say We but if you came to meet wealth it is always my husband has, my husband owns... The choice is yours ... I rest my case

Case well rested. You may bow and go.

PunkyVeer:


Look, I can understand a guy going through a rough patch, I mean, who hasn't been through the wringer in life? If I see he has the fire & ambition & I can see that he's really trying to better himself, that I can forgive. What I will not even bother to deal with is, the chronic jobless type that wants to sit & smoke weed all day & expects me to support him financially. That is not going to happen. Not today. Not ever.

That weed u mentioned there...... I dey suspect u o. E be like say na the ones wey dey smoke weed you dey like abi u too dey smoke d tin ni? I guess if he smokes weed and works its ok with u.

#saynotograss

juche:
YOUR COMMENTS ON THIS THREAD MAKE U LOOK SO CHEAP, UNREAL, CHILDISH AND IMMATURE. YOUR FATHER WAS THE PRESIDENT OF US BEFORE HE MEET YOUR MOTHER ? LMAO

I am getting worried at our expectations from life. Money, money, money. Do u talk to your fellow ladies who got married based on this? Unless they don't share the info with u, dem no dey find am easy. I am not saying do not marry a rich man. Do so if u meet one but that is not your primary criteria. Your CV is quite impressive though no verification. Still seems you still dey wait for boyfriend. Yo need to tell the guys you meet that you had a 2.1 oh. They provably don't even know else you would have been taken. My assumption is that your listed criteria is required for relationship success. I didn't realize your father even had to play a role.

This seems to be coming shortly after Linda posted that banana house. Hope there is no connection to this mindset by our ladies? I thought her action was going to worsen our women's expectation of wuh a relationship is all about. Maybe I was right. Before una ask, I no get money like that o. But I meet a lot of real ladies and life is beautiful.

I love NL a lot. Very entertaining.

okitikpo:
you are right, but many guys marry as a hustler and are still happy with their marriage and are still hustling in it. I know a lot of them. Though it is still best to have something tangible doing before going after a lady, but you and I know that sometimes life is not always a bed of roses and there comes the adjustment

yea i know life isn't always in black & white. that's why i added the caveat 'unless the love thing just happens'.

Lol,cNt stop laughing @ dis topic of discussion cos joblessness Is like a disease, am not saying u should be going to an office ooo but @ least have something doing,haba come to think of it u don't have the courage ro search for a job or gget ur hands dirty to make ends meet yet u could summon one to woe a lady abeggi make him pack well

marinepatrol:
one thing remains constant when a man is pushed to the wall with all this bulshit, he ends up always making it some how. its a mans world u cant touch that. we are all destined for greatness its just a matter of time in a shitty country as ours. THERE IS GOD O

Did you say destined for greatness?

Toks2008:

First you got it all wrong..im not a divorcee cos i have never been married and thats a story for another day

Sorry to ask but do you normally speak from both sides of your mouth

naijadeyhia:



That weed u mentioned there...... I dey suspect u o. E be like say na the ones wey dey smoke weed you dey like abi u too dey smoke d tin ni? I guess if he smokes weed and works its ok with u.

#saynotograss

No weedheads, with or without a job. I can't deal with that.

[quote author=StephanieEzeh post=38716693]What's your take? Some jobless guys can be so annoying! Instead of concerning themselves with their life and financial condition, they end up chasing women anyhow as if it's a paid job! . Sending rubbish romantic texts and initiating boring conversations on phone. Go get a job first and come for the girl later. She would appreciate you better. [/quoteLThats good... but your legs and hands ain't tied too, is not bad if you get a job and help the guy out 4 the time being, consider the country's situation as of now, if guys continue waiting for job to come, hhmm time burns fast like gas, this is also commensurate to girls. I know lots of couples I mean lots, that the marriage/ relationship depends on the Wife/Lady... my advice, anybody can kick it off, don't dull

sonofananimal:
are you a NAIJA woman? It is very rare seeing a woman of this country who think straight and with focus.

Don't you worry! That person will not only appreciate you, but cherish you and know that he has found a precious stone that no amount of money can buy.

i dnt lok d way d op tinks,if she cnt date a guy cus he is jobless den a working guy shdnt b datn a jobless lady also

seeker121:
She told me she can't date a broke nigga,so i fixed my problem,now she is back and i told her i can't date a girl without VIRGINITY,so go and fix ur problem .

hahahahaha right on

Toks2008:


Lobatan

First you got it all wrong..im not a divorcee cos i have never been married and thats a story for another day and this nullifies your childish act of attacking my person rather than making an intellectual response.

And i really wonder how some men cope with some ladies who lack sound iq cos that is my greatest turn off in a lady and trust me,you just turned me off..let me stop here.

liar liar pants on fire.... In your mind you have a high IQ.....lol.

I attacked your person because that is WHO you are, your self centered, myopic opinions don't count for anything.

Hypocrite, you are so full of ideas on what the perfect woman should be like but I never hear your ideas on what a good responsible man should be about.

You say people should love for love's sake, yet you will open a thread and tell women what they should do to keep a man from straying...what happened to men loving women for love's sake? Lol!

I bet you don't even take your own advice which you dish out to others easily and think you have a high IQ, really?

vizkiz:


[b]so you preffer a guy with a job who will later spend all his cash on you at the end of each month right?

You reason like a hungry broke girl to me.

And btw, why don't you get a job and stop being a liability to your poor family
What kind of generation do we live in these days? Our women are just so dumb and so dependant that they can't stand up for themselves! This is so annoying and heartbreaking.

Well, I think I now know why most of them chase after "rich boys" and are later used for rituals. Na with this kin thread the thing dey start.

How much did your mumu "RICH" father have when he married your mother?cuz I think if he isn't a broke ass biitch, we would have been seeing his name all over television. You are here talking shiit while your family is suffering and smiling. Almost all your threads are about broke guys but your family lives in a shiit hole here in lagos.

Come on, don't think we guys are that dump to go for a broke girl like you, all we wanna do is furck you and look for a nice girl with potentials to wife. A girl who wouldn't hide behind a faceless moniker to type shiit. [/b]

Report your location, yout deserve a plate of nwkpobi and one crate of Orijin.

You murdered that biatch!!!

HaneefahRN:
I can date a guy if he is jobless for the time being, what I look out for is the positive potentials in him. Of course he has to be intelligent, ambitious, knows what he wants and work towards it. I'll support him and I'm an optimist, I know things wld work out well with God and hardwork.
But if he is the type that laze around, proudly dependant and expects a job to fall from heaven without working for it, and a dumbo, I can't even spare a 2nd glance at his side.
Personally I'm not the type of lady that expects or depends on a guy financially or materially, I pride myself on that. Why wld I av to make it a burden on a guy tht isn't my husband my financial needs, but the guy must'nt be stingy too though. Even if the girl doesn't ask he cld set up a treat for her when he can afford to.
The but is I can't marry a jobless guy, cos I can't imagine how he wants to cope with the responsibilities marriage brings without a source of income

hmm well said.

ideyhere:


Sorry to ask but do you normally speak from both sides of your mouth

yes he does, obviously! The liar! .... I don catch am. @toks2008. Mr. High IQ!

I'm totally gobsmacked going through this thread. can't believe some girls still have this mentality. If he doesn't have a job now,then he's not good enough for you? Then you guys will turn around n complain when ure objectified? double standards everywhere. I can't stand lazy people,guys n girls inclusive and I'm sure nobody does. what if a guy meets you with all the money in the world n after marriage,he loses it one way or another,does that signify the end of the relationship or marriage? whatever happened to other core values? sad to see that money is fast becoming a basis for marriage. sad

jornie:

i'm sorry but...

I loved this move "Office Space" righttttttt.

ideyhere:


Sorry to ask but do you normally speak from both sides of your mouth

You know what?

Its pretty difficult to come across sincere people and when you meet such,it becomes so difficult to flow with them.

I am a man of my words and when i say something today and you see me say something slightly different tomorrow,before you conclude please ask questions. I am as consistent as the day and night in my words.

I was broke once and I went for all em girls..... I ain't broke buh I don't want em girls... See if you think some guys will make money and come back for you, the guy should have a brain the size of an atom. The only guys that come back just want the puna. If una want don't follow who God is sending for you.....



Secondly, who wants to get richer.... holla me.. it's not one of those get rich quick schemes

zeestunner:
I think you look broke that's why you attract broke guys like you because if you are rich you appearance like ur kinda hair,cloths and car will scare broke guys they will know they can't afford you. Soo sistah upgrade urself and big boys go de see u. Fresh guys like me and many guys here aint got time for broke bitches too I no wan take up ur papa role. U gotta b rich or ur papa rich I have a big future ahead so I will need every dime I have to plan and package I no need disttraction like gimme money for hair or am hungry that u broke girls always bring. So madam park well

Bros, Na u summarise am. These so called made girls no even get bf not to talk of rich one. Like attracts like. Rich people love to hook each other up. You summarised it with simple sense. I wonder y ur likes are so few.

I am a lady and I'm in support. A guy doesn't have to swim in riches. It starts small and if you stick to someone with little money but a whole lot of potentials and a hardworking spirit, believe me or nah, when the money comes, he wouldn't play with you. It's quite appalling that my fellow girls go with 'money' all the time, and if someone just tries to help, he becomes a 'maga', makes you nothing short of a gold digger

Largas:


Most made guys around here were once average or "hustlers", very few of them were born with silver spoons in their mouth.

It's good to be nice to people, especially when the guy or girl has potentials to make it in life and he is hard working and smart.

Hardworking people always eat the fruits of their labour, you can eat it with him if you support him morally or otherwise when he needs you most.

Toks2008:


You know what?

Its pretty difficult to come across sincere people and when you meet such,it becomes so difficult to flow with them.

I am a man of my words and when i say something today and you see me say something slightly different tomorrow,before you conclude please ask questions. I am as consistent as the day and night in my words.

Nawa to you ooh... Then in primary school they taught us that the main distinguishing factor of a question is that it ends with a question mark. Now I ended that post with 3 question marks just for clarity because I knew you would want to twist the issue around. Yet you were unable to see it... One of these days breeze must everly blow and we go see fowl nyash. I rest my case...

vizkiz:


[b]so you preffer a guy with a job who will later spend all his cash on you at the end of each month right?

You reason like a hungry broke girl to me.

And btw, why don't you get a job and stop being a liability to your poor family
What kind of generation do we live in these days? Our women are just so dumb and so dependant that they can't stand up for themselves! This is so annoying and heartbreaking.

Well, I think I now know why most of them chase after "rich boys" and are later used for rituals. Na with this kin thread the thing dey start.

How much did your mumu "RICH" father have when he married your mother?cuz I think if he isn't a broke ass biitch, we would have been seeing his name all over television. You are here talking shiit while your family is suffering and smiling. Almost all your threads are about broke guys but your family lives in a shiit hole here in lagos.

Come on, don't think we guys are that dump to go for a broke girl like you, all we wanna do is furck you and look for a nice girl with potentials to wife. A girl who wouldn't hide behind a faceless moniker to type shiit. [/b]

I think av said this before, you guys should marry outside naija... all this girls are money mongers, when ever I see a Nigerian girl I see liability and irresponsibility even to my own sis, I think it's in the blood, common there er many beautiful girls all over the world e.g Ethiopia Seychelles even Philippines I swear they will gladly accept you without fadin... travel out and see how they like naija boys, make una deh here they disturb una sef, I will never marry a naija girl never!!!, Thieves.

Toks2008:


I have heard this copyright lyrics many times but in reality na lie.

im not debunking your claims but ladies use this line a lot.

Don't mind her, she want to start fooling herself here. Even though she means it, it is better she keep it to herself.

repogirl:
liar liar pants on fire.... In your mind you have a high IQ.....lol.

I attacked your person because that is WHO you are, your self centered, myopic opinions don't count for anything.

Hypocrite, you are so full of ideas on what the perfect woman should be like but I never hear your ideas on what a good responsible man should be about.

You say people should love for love's sake, yet you will open a thread and tell women what they should do to keep a man from straying...what happened to men loving women for love's sake? Lol!

I bet you don't even take your own advice which you dish out to others easily and think you have a high IQ, really?

This is exactly why i have consistently written that out of 10 Nigerian ladies,maybe only 2 are intelligent and over and over again i have been justified.

Now if i may ask,can you do yourself one favor and quote every post i made on nairaland that is presumed to be questionable and i will enlighten your immature mind.

I am not surprised or angry with you no matter what you write cos it only shows the world how myopic you are which is not healthy for you socially.

So my sister stop making mockery of yourself and acting like a lowlife pepper seller on a public forum.In the real and logical world, people bring facts to the table and i repeat, go and dig out any false post i have ever made on nairaland since 2007 and put it here so that you can get the desired answers.

My advice for you,get matured,learn how to communicate intellectually and before you attack the personality or life of anyone,think twice so that you will not be seen as a nonentity.

So im still waiting for the result of your findings. All these toddlers sef.

vizkiz:


[b]so you preffer a guy with a job who will later spend all his cash on you at the end of each month right?

You reason like a hungry broke girl to me.

And btw, why don't you get a job and stop being a liability to your poor family
What kind of generation do we live in these days? Our women are just so dumb and so dependant that they can't stand up for themselves! This is so annoying and heartbreaking.

Well, I think I now know why most of them chase after "rich boys" and are later used for rituals. Na with this kin thread the thing dey start.

How much did your mumu "RICH" father have when he married your mother?cuz I think if he isn't a broke ass biitch, we would have been seeing his name all over television. You are here talking shiit while your family is suffering and smiling. Almost all your threads are about broke guys but your family lives in a shiit hole here in lagos.

Come on, don't think we guys are that dump to go for a broke girl like you, all we wann a do is furck you and look for a nice girl with potentials to wife. A girl who wouldn't hide behind a faceless moniker to type shiit. [/b]

sheet... Had to create an account to like this

olowookerekemi:
i dnt lok d way d op tinks,if she cnt date a guy cus he is jobless den a working guy shdnt b datn a jobless lady also

yea. That's the truth

400billionman:


Its very simple. Girls and their oversized sense of entitlement.

Just toast a girl today, if she likes you, her next question is, " Can you take care of me " ?

Me be like, " Are you gold " ? " Have your parents not been taking care of you before now " ? Nah me go come make you rust..

"Take care of her". What kind of silly statement is that?
Those girls are worthless.

StephanieEzeh:
Don't be a fool! I work.

you work as a GOLD DIGGER... Judging from ur post