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bebe2:
Men of these days are so Weak, so my husband cheated, so I will bring a strange man to his living room?

Or go out and come back late or neglect his kids?

Which day I start to fly? Well with some men u can get away with many things.

And all those saying she won't sleep with this or dat,
Pleassssseeee , take several sits. U don't know if she is or not.

Sis,you definitely have a man at home
Pls take care of him...its not easy

Adasun:
dis is someone dat think like a man.exatly what is happening to me.

Da more i beg da more i am being underated

She shouldn't have come back to u. Ur not worth it. Ur pride will be the death of u

Joy1706:
Did he say he caught a man on top of her? On no grounds should a husband cheat, but he did, didn't he?
Why does a woman have to lose cos she's divorced. Sounds like these small NL boys have brainwashed u. Madam abeg I don't have energy this night to deliver u from low self esteem. Carry am dey go like that

for some reason I find ur post quiet funny.

Nollywood no be real life ooo,

U just dey talk theory, experience go teach u .

Oya me and my low self esteem gat to sleep now,.

Gud night.

Kaycee625:
she dey craze ni? To bring a man to your house, thats abomination, if i were you, i would give her a dirty slap in front of the so called man.
If she is tired of being married ahe should go back to her father's house. Rubbish

I love how u small boys come online to form strong man.

Kaycee625:
she dey craze ni? To bring a man to your house, thats abomination, if i were you, i would give her a dirty slap in front of the so called man.
If she is tired of being married ahe should go back to her father's house. Rubbish

I love how u small boys come online to form strong man. Be careful how u go slapping people. U could end up with a knife in ur neck while asleep #justsaying

Sarang:
She won't because she's a good woman.
Your type are the people that remain in an abusive relationship for marriage namesake.
If my husband cheats on me,heaven knows thats the end.
That woman she has a kind heart and this husband of hers is just poo.

Im surprise to see some women still thinks themselves as nothing in this century.

Stop deceiving her pls!!!
that your hubby is your puppet doesn't mean there aren't women who value their men
SMH for feminism

bebe2:
for some reason I find ur post quiet funny.

Nollywood no be real life ooo,

U just dey talk theory, experience go teach u .

Oya me and my low self esteem gat to sleep now,.

Gud night.

oh please that you have low standards does not mean every woman has to. some of us have been married for long and we insist on our value in marriage because we are not doormats and our men know to treat us well. In life you get what you demand for and we wont accept less in the name of Mrs. by force .

Tolatutu:
i don't know how that is a loss, he married and so? if and when the woman is ready to remarry she'll find a correct bobo old or young which ever she likes. women are remarrying better than ever so what's the noise

U dey mind that mumu woman?

cheruv:
Sis,you definitely have a man at home
Pls take care of him...its not easy

Tnk u jare,

I sorry for young men of these days,

Have u seen Wat some young girls are saying here.

Shey here na India wey woman dey pay man bride price

And to think I have 3boys, so na did type dem go marry?

My poor babies

lexiconkabir:
I guess you could also starve your kids, just to get back at your husband.

Doesn't answer my question. Is it not her house too?

xtervaganza:
She brought a guy home? Are you joking?



You have to be joking. I'm married and if my wife comes home with another man I'll kill the man 1st before throwing her out



I would never chest kn her though

She brought a man home and d next thing on ur mind is kill cos of woman u need to grow up man. u still have kid mentality else u rot in kirikiri and d woman u killed 4 will still be in another mans arms wen you in ur new home at kirikiri...........park well and recieve common sense.

bebe2:
for some reason I find ur post quiet funny.

Nollywood no be real life ooo,

U just dey talk theory, experience go teach u .

Oya me and my low self esteem gat to sleep now,.

Gud night.

For some reason I find u quite pitiful. Which one be nollywood here? Something that happens real life. I guess u have tons of experience on cheating husbands. Good 4 u. Not every woman will. Good night to u and ur low self esteem

Every man has become saints on this thread,
How many of you condemning has been with a girl for 7yrs without seeing another girl?
How many of you can bet ur balls u have not cheated before?
The woman is either too childish or too silly to abandon her kids for parties bec her hubby screwed someone else..
The guy has apologised,does she want him to pay with his life?

bebe2:
Tnk u jare,

I sorry for young men of these days,

Have u seen Wat some young girls are saying here.

Shey here na India wey woman dey pay man bride price

And to think I have 3boys, so na did type dem go marry?

My poor babies

Oh! So ur husband bought you via bride price? I get

Tolatutu:
oh please that you have low standards does not mean every woman has to. some of us have been married for long and we insist on our value in marriage because we are not doormats and our men know to treat us well. In life you get what you demand for and we wont accept less in the name of Mrs. by force .

I bet u didn't read the full story before jumping on the band wagon.

I repeat[b][/b] " on no account shud a married woman bring a strange man to her matrimonial home and introduce her husband as cousin "[b][/b]

If u are that type, my dear u are no wife.

Say all u want revenge cheating of any type is wrong.

Just to put ur mind at rest, I do not condone cheating in any way.

we no longer greet,she hardly talks to me,she cook when she wants
to.once she did not cook,i had to buy fud for da kids. [/quote ] But OP u Bleep up o!

That not withstanding, I don't think starving the kids was called for. Personally, I don't see how the kids got into ur infidelity issue with ur wife. Ur wife guffed in this case, big time.

[quote ]Bt it got worse,she now comes home late and even brought a guy
home.and when i saw dis guy in da sitting rum,he introduce me asher cousing[

But OP again! Na for ur matrimonial home u dey cheat on ur wife? Cos I feel ur wife is overstepping her bounds. Agreed, making u jealous should be part of the antidote to reset ur perverted brain, but bringing a man into ur house(ur=u and ur wife) and introducing u as her cousin is way off her limit for me.

That not withstanding, swallow ur pride and apologize, make her see reason why she has to comeback to her right senses, since she voluntarily lost it.

But OP u Bleep up Sha o!

Joy1706:
Doesn't answer my question. Is it not her house too?

Aunty, thats not the point here, i support everything she is doing, where i have reservations with her is starving her kids and bringing a man into the house, haba! you on the otherhand supports everything she is doing, so i'm now asking you, can you starve your kids just for the reason of getting back at your husband?

Joy1706:
For some reason I find u quite pitiful. Which one be nollywood here? Something that happens real life. I guess u have tons of experience on cheating husbands. Good 4 u. Not every woman will. Good night to u and ur low self esteem

Dis pikin u no go let me sleep?

Dis is nit my job ur mom shud teach, use style gist her this scenario and see Wat she says.

Just learn from this once u marry other men are out of bound. Simple. If u have issues there are other ways of handling not bringing another man in.

What do guys learn in church?

It this one point we are arguing about sotay, u Don curse me tire. NEVER BRING ANOTHER MAN TO YOUR MATRIMONIAL HOME. just agree it's a no no and Dis argument will be over.

lexiconkabir:
Aunty, thats not the point here, i support everything she is doing, where i have reservations with her is starving her kids and bringing a man into the house, haba! you on the otherhand supports everything she is doing, so i'm now asking you, can you starve your kids just for the reason of getting back at your husband?

Dats exactly Wat I said oo, and this joy1706 been acting constipated about it. Haba I fear some women oo

bebe2:
Dats exactly Wat I said oo, and this joy1706 been acting constipated about it. Haba I fear some women oo

yeah, i saw the conversation, the op has tried(if all he said is true), 6months of malice, doing the house chores, he became the wife of the house, what else does she wants, his life?

bebe2:
U need to nip this in the bud before it spirals out of control.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

R u scared of her? How can she be making silly calls and inviting strangers to the house?

U better sit her down and sort things out.

Call her tell her u messed up, and u sorry and it will never happen again, tell her u love her and want things back to how it used to be? She shud tell u Wat she wants you to do to fix it.

If dat doesn't work, tell her to move out. End of story.

Damnnnnn! You re more of a man, than ..., as for you guys insulting the man, most of you re guilty of the same, or would do the same when married. I am not in support of cheating, i don't believe in hypocrisy either. He has admitted he was wrong, he knows it, asked for advice, only for you guys to be condescending the man like you are saints.Hypos all around.
Thumbs up lady.

bebe2:
Dis pikin u no go let me sleep?

Dis is nit my job ur mom shud teach, use style gist her this scenario and see Wat she says.

Just learn from this once u marry other men are out of bound. Simple. If u have issues there are other ways of handling not bringing another man in.

What do guys learn in church?

It this one point we are arguing about sotay, u Don curse me tire. NEVER BRING ANOTHER MAN TO YOUR MATRIMONIAL HOME. just agree it's a no no and Dis argument will be over.

Ur first paragraph in ur first post sold u out.
If u had said this from d onset, argument for nor dey.

OTEGA1:
She brought a man home and d next thing on ur mind is kill cos of woman u need to grow up man. u still have kid mentality else u rot in kirikiri and d woman u killed 4 will still be in another mans arms wen you in ur new home at kirikiri...........park well and recieve common sense.

Bringing another man home is the worst offence from the lady. As matter of fact, this is a show of disrespect at its peak.
As a man I rather prefer been alone than staying in a relationship that I could no longer command my respect. If I'm the husband, here is how I will react after she has brought a guy to my house.
(call her and sit her down)
sweetheart, it has been long since we got a misunderstanding, bearing myself a witness, I have tried my possible best to plead with you and assuring you that such will not happen again. I knows how it hurts you, please try your best to forgive me.
You are my wife, I'm very sure you knows the action you perform as a retaliation to our misunderstanding that portrayed lack of love and respect. You have not been doing your domestic activities the way you should. You always make suspicious call in my present. You always return late from work not caring about my reaction. All this action of yours I overlooked them bearing in mind that with time things will get to its normal. Now it has escalated to a point that you have the impetus to bring a guy to my house in my presence!!! With this action of yours,do you consider how I feel about it and It's implications?
Now let get things right, and let stop this acting.
Will you like this relationship to continue? YES OR No I need your reply between now and tomorrow. Don't forget that your actions has now make divorcing to be an option provided I'm concerned.

bebe2:
I bet u didn't read the full story before jumping on the band wagon.

I repeat[b][/b] " on no account shud a married woman bring a strange man to her matrimonial home and introduce her husband as cousin "[b][/b]

If u are that type, my dear u are no wife.

Say all u want revenge cheating of any type is wrong.

Just to put ur mind at rest, I do not condone cheating in any way.

Don't bother explaining anything to anyone, your statements are clear enough for any intelligent minded person . It's a different thing if they were dating or have no kids.The man messed up big time i concur,but that drama was way off, if real.

bebe2:
Tnk u jare,

I sorry for young men of these days,

Have u seen Wat some young girls are saying here.

Shey here na India wey woman dey pay man bride price

And to think I have 3boys, so na did type dem go marry?

My poor babies

Don't mind the "young girls" jare...that's what feminism is doing to them.
As a man,I believe that the woman should be treated with respect while at the same time stamping my authority at home...that authority means that she can't contemplate doing "stupid" things bkos the consequences would be far more than she can carry.
The opinions expressed by those girls tackling you were same expressed by a friend on Facebook,under the guise of feminism. After reprimanding her,her fellow ladies made her understand that life wasn't as she thought it is.
Another thing those girls fail to note is the effect of culture... In African culture, a woman belongs to either her father or husband, and you know what comes with that kinda stuff

AfroKnight:
Look, this woman is taking things too far. After your apology she's now behaving like she doesn't need the marriage. You married a very foolish woman who thinks like a teenager. Her game will backfire and nobody will console her. What stupidity!

She is lucky she has a man that wants her. If she knew she didn't want the marriage any longer why did she come back? Why couldn't she stay in her father's to play her childish games. Rubbish.

At some point, revenge becomes senseless. Some women don't have sense.

Seconded

Op. You are lucky she didn't kill you after finding out. Women of today are becoming more violent.

Your wife bringing a man home is the game changer. No matter what you have done, she shouldn't have done that.

Your punishment for cheating is divorce. If she can't forgive then she needs to divorce you.

If she refuses to divorce you and still acting funny such that it's affecting the kids wellbeing. Means she is no longer interested in the marriage. Initiate divorce by yourself as your punishment.

Rather than living in the same house with wife turned strange fellow or housemate. Afterall, marriage is not by force. She should leave the marriage.

Go and cheat no more. My Gf knows am cheating.

cheruv:
Stop deceiving her pls!!!
that your hubby is your puppet doesn't mean there aren't women who value their men
SMH for feminism

Sorry you are so wrong.
Not really a feminist just someone who has dignity.
I respect men..thats what the bible said to do.
But men inturn should love their wife.
A loving husband will not cheat on their wife.
If this is your idea of feminism then you are still a long way Mr.
I won't be any man's punching bag..mba nu.
No man will be my rag as well.
It is called respect.

If she is really starving her kids thats wrong.
Somehow I tend to believe she is not cheating at op.
You know cheaters normally think they are being cheated on.
What more,I don't even believe op's story cos he might be saying it to cover face.

My advice is:
You can divorce if you are not ready to endure,and bring home another woman who will render your kids useless.

Or continue making peace.
Your wife is not an angel.
No one here can tell how much she really trusted you,who she caught you with(maybe her friend) or where you were caught(maybe in the same matrimonial bed) but I still think she came back for her kids and for that reason,she is a good woman.

No one knows how the story goes.
I will not judge except I hear from the other person's side.
I don't believe you op. Sorry

"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" ... Bro... you turned a good woman rotten. Actions speak louder than words....why waste time talking? ...for her to not cook and basically neglect her kids is a clear sign that she doesn't care period. Take this to the bank..... she is getting back at you by screwing almost every Tom, Dick or Harry out there. I know it doesn't make sense to you...but it makes a whole lot of sense and brings a whole lot of satisfaction to her. If you cherish your life.....bow your head in shame and just move on.

uckennety:
Ur a wrong no doubt!but I v learnt neva to beg a woman!try tlk to her say ur sorry!if it continues!my brother let her bE!sEnd ur children to day care,or boardinG house!allow her have HER Fun wid whoEver!then as 4 a divorce!end d whole shit!two wrong makes no ryte!!!tnxz

You are immature.

Op you need time alone with your lovely wife. Take a break with her. Just you and her alone. I repeat ALONE.
Be honest with each other.2-5 days tins. You can get some family members to stay with the kids if they are quite grown up like 4years.

Otherwise she should drop 1 of her breasts at home.

in life we should always try to take advantage of every situation no matter what happend,there is always a positive part...now this issue can actually reignite your love life... u know what your wife loves best ,do it ..everyday buy her all tinz she loves, take her to the moon ,if possible ....confess all your crimes and be a good man henceforth