Just like you said in your post,you fought till other guys left..God knows the way you did that so let her also fight..are you inlove with this other lady?i doubt it.berra be sure b4 you sell your happiness for 100k.pele

saweide:
How would I convince the other lady
It seems she felt in love with me too
But u never disclosed my past to her
Before my nagging wife called her on fone telling her to distance herself from her husband
I really like this lady not becos of the money but naturally and by her character
She is humble, submissive, jovial, honest, Godly and which other qualities I can't find in my so called nagging wife

Pls can anyone advice me on how to convince this lady?

Her last word to me was that I should never in my life call her if I don't want to see the wrath of God

Hehehehee..he also said 'he thinks he loves the other babe and she feels the same way

schumastic:
THIS OP IS CONFUSE, AM I THE ONLY PERSON HAVING THE FEELINGS..

YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO YOUR BABY MAMA BUT YOU CALL HER YOUR WIFE,
YOU ARE NOT HAVING ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE LADY THAT WANT TO OFFER HELP TO YOU BUT YOU KEPT YOUR PAST AWAY FROM HER,
YOUR BABY MAMA OR WIFE LIKE YOU CALL HER TOLD YOUR HELPER YOU BOTH ARE MARRIED AND YOU ARE ANGRY,
NOW YOU FOUND OUT YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH THE NEW LADY AND WANTS TO CALL IT QUIT.

OP YOU ARE CONFUSE, GO AND VISIT A THERAPIST

darlingtito:
Hehehehee..he also said 'he thinks he loves the other babe and she feels the same way

HE ONLY FEELS THAT WAY CUS THE BABE SEEMS ESTALBLISHED, THE ONLY ADVICE I HAVE FOR HIM IS FOR HIM NOT TO SETTLE DOWN WITH HIS BABY MAMA CUS IS OBVIOUS THEY ARE NOT COMPATIBLE.

I insist, Most Women are the same...

A lady or guy that can't apologize when wrong is a no no.

I'm sure you saw the signs but chose to ignore cos of mumu love she was showing you.. she even insults your mother, imagine

I really don't know what advise to give cos this one fit send people to kill you if you leave her.

it's better to look well before you leap to avoid stories that touch

if u will follow the proper way of marriage..shes not ur wife..u only had a proceed of fornication with her which is dat child..seek the face of the Lord and go for counsellin to know the right woman for u...a long lastin relationship does not start so awful like yours..just ask her to pack out and find a good woman by seekin d face of the lord..u can take the custody of the child after it all...

D

The first 3 paragraphs put me off. Really? She doesn't have an ambtion, she nags, she disrespects my mum... bla bla bla. And you have been with her since 2011? There is definitely something you are enjoying from her!

#spoiler. I didn't bother reading your whole nonsense.

Any lady that can insult my mom ....can never be my wife...OP are u sure she has not jazzed you?...some insults ur mum and you are staying with her?!...chai...

you've seen the warming signal but you chose to wave it away. next time never wave away a warning signal.

How will you feel in 10yrs time that the child was not even yours? Go for a parternity test without her consent. If the innocent child is truly yours, take the child to your mum...Go out there and work hard for your mum and child. Please, do not marry a bad wife!!!

Bro, u try oooo. Since 2011...that special grace dat has been keeping u is rare ooo. Kip enduring u hear.

I can't just know how some of you erroneously get into some kind of relationship with some witches and you can't walk out of it.

Because she has a child for you abi?
Why didn't you separate since
Brother be honest
You have seen someone else

if she was so bad that you can't tolerate her, how were you able to have sex with her, and even impregnated her?

you don't like her, but you love sex? see your life.

saweide:
Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls

I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career


I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again

She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life

She is living with me presently

The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me

I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns

I told her am enduring the relationship
And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested

Something happened last month between us

I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep
She will check my messages with my friends especially girls

There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping
Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone

She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording
My phone she still have access to my chats and data

I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone

So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it...

So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business
I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had.
Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life

My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married...
Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp

And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me


Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady

Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her.


How should I contact this lady and convince her

Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time

the name of the girl is faith right?

If you want to live long, get your kid from her and plead with your mummy to raise her for you and search for a submissive,understanding,caring,loving,hardworking and above all a PRAYERFUL woman.

Life is short to endure all this hardship in marriage.

You just try and understand her and why shes so disrespectful and all that.Try to patch things up.Forget 100k.If she could treat you like this in five married years,she probably has a score to settle with you.
Try to show her that you are not chyking others,resolve the issue amicably.If it persists,just seperate.

saweide:
Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls

I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career


I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again

She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life

She is living with me presently

The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me

I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns

I told her am enduring the relationship
And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested

Something happened last month between us

I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep
She will check my messages with my friends especially girls

There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping
Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone

She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording
My phone she still have access to my chats and data

I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone

So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it...

So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business
I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had.
Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life

My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married...
Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp

And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me


Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady

Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her.


How should I contact this lady and convince her

Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time

Bro...u a re a playboy

post=52098225:
You have only told us her demerits there must be some merits or if not you for done leave her since ... abi she jazz you ?

abi o

saweide:
Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls

I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career


I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again

She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life

She is living with me presently

The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me

I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns

I told her am enduring the relationship
And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested

Something happened last month between us

I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep
She will check my messages with my friends especially girls

There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping
Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone

She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording
My phone she still have access to my chats and data

I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone

So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it...

So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business
I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had.
Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life

My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married...
Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp

And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me


Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady

Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her.


How should I contact this lady and convince her

Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time

Oga,the only question I have is; Why do you love her?

I would love to hear from both party.
But from what you have said. Don't think your socalleed nagging wife would remain like this, people change.

As your babymama, what have you done personally on your path to express your love. e.g Gift, Going out together, show her to your friend.

Nevertheless nothing is holding you in that relationship, not even the child, you can leave her and care for your love child(never abandon for any reason).
Don't feel a soothsayer or a prophet will help issues, no one can ever predict this future of yours, You can only make it work or leave it to negligence.

Pray to God and give her some time and she will change . As for that 100k you missed , you should have told your closed girlfriend of yours that you have someone in your life at the earlier stage i guess maybe she was already falling for you .

I read this one confirm say true true Otumokpo de

Baawaa:
If your post is real,you know yourself than anybody around you,so do the right thing at the right time,one way or the other you have lady that is nursings your child,haba!Moreover, you have been together for good 5 years,why now all these allegations?Mind you, 100 thousand Naira cannot solve your problems.calm down,do the needful

oga that post is real.stop doubting everything.

For this same nasty behavior I just left my girl last week. She has the same attributes and nature of your baby mama. She argues too much.. Nags more than buharis government,,, always right,, talk too much... In fact u can never correct her. The only time we are friends is during sex. In fact we even quarreled at times during sex. She is so some how. Ahhh.. God forbid.. My brother, I warned her, advice her, begged her to change but at d end she refused. Next for me was to walk out before I die young. If I mistakenly married her, I will be beating her everyday and u know the implications. My brother am out of her life for good and already have a girlfriend now who listen to voice of reasoning and homely. Pls run away.. U just cannot cope with her if eventually u two are married. Run o... Run oo

You're an opportunist! You exhibited both predaceous and leechlike opportunism against your baby mama and your prying lady friend, respectively.

Altruism, honesty, civility and reciprocity are some major hallmarks of a good leader, but you lacked them.

You don't deserve mercy.

You don't know to put a password on your phone?

op u can still get back that babe that blocked u on whatsapp. u can start by sending her a very long message explaining what you are facing with the baby mama. if that should work, dont bring up the money issue for business. for your baby mama, tell her u are not sure about the wedding plan unless u see changes in her behaviour. you have to be serious about this decision. then again if she doesnt change the issue of who is to keep the child will arise which will be a different ball game entirely.

Initially, when reading this, i feel sorry for you.
Towards the end, with the other woman and #100,000, i'm a bit more conscious.

Finally after reading a few comments, i realised that your story is too negative for someone who has been in a relationship for 5 years: saying the only two positives you can identify are her teaching skills and that she cares for her child.

It seems like you've already made up your mind and have written a biased story solely blaming the woman just to have some justification.
I can not take sides without hearing the other side and what made her how she is now but all i can say is to end it for both your sakes.
If you can no longer find any positives in her, it would not be fair to keep her at the side while you chat up more, as you said "humble, submissive, jovial etc." women.

Seun don get traffic sha...





OP, just tell her to carry her wahala and go or you carry your own and go...

There is more to this than amidst the eye.... Op this a desperate attempt to convince yourself (not us) as to why you should quit! I understand that women can be ridiculously vile when the want to, but I think you want to victimise urself so you don't look irresponsible. I also know loosing 100k and prolly a good bleep can make you see her as the devil, but omo Na ur wife she be Na. You have plans to marry her next year abi? She was protecting her own home. That's what mothers do. Meanwhyl I think your problem is financial not emotional. Allow her a bit of space to cheat....that is the easiest way to get rid of a woman! With money, that woman can be someone's dream girl remember how you fought off guys, if she didn't mean that much to you, you wouldn't have bothered.