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Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by ultimateballer: 9:40am On May 10, 2017 |
SammyAx:You sound so arrogant, together with your family. I think the guy made the right decision. Rubbish 3 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Langbasa: 9:42am On May 10, 2017 |
Sammiejokes:Point u have made...and AMEN TO THAT PRAYER. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by tayorh(m): 9:43am On May 10, 2017 |
1. Your parents don't like the guy. 2. Sign up for anger management classes. 3. Learn to table your issues in a more subtle manner. 4. Let him explain what he doesn't like about you even if he won't come back to you, you can work on the bad ones so as to not make the same mistake again. 5. The guy is definitely crazy about you, travelling to the United States to see you. 6. The guy's parent probably warned him to leave you because you are materialistic. 7. Sit Down, be Humble. 10 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by ChiefSweetus: 9:44am On May 10, 2017 |
Vivly:Lol issa shame im not yuzedo. I bet he got a lot of punny but even one single punny ive not gotten. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by dotedote: 9:44am On May 10, 2017 |
Keep destroying her future. U hear? Continue. I'm sure you're single too and would die to have half of that guy as your man. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by ChiefSweetus: 9:45am On May 10, 2017 |
asokid: Mumu. You wan dig gold wey u no plant. You no see say na gold dey cause all dis wahala abi. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by dangotesmummy: 9:46am On May 10, 2017 |
Sammiejokes:just a gold box is now something too much to satisfy your wife/family In some cultures,I don't want to mention the name of the ethnic group because I'm not here for tribal nonsense. In some ethnic groups where a groom will spend millions of naira on bride Price. Buy expensive wrappers for the brides mother and father, palmwine for brides uncles and other extended family nko? They will call those people gold digger.just box Oyinbos say WHATEVER IS WORTH DOING IS WORTH DOING WELL. so it's either you do it well or you don't do it at all.yes I understand that she is taking a trivial issue seriously but at least COMMUNICATE before coming to a dead end instead of just making an abrupt and rash decision 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Lionessza(f): 9:46am On May 10, 2017 |
SammyAx: What is there to fight for lady ? He has made his decision, do you want him to lie to you? |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Acidosis(m): 9:46am On May 10, 2017 |
dangotesmummy: To want is divine... to always WANT and put MATERIAL WANTS ahead of commonsense is SATANIC. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Adebowale89(m): 9:47am On May 10, 2017 |
you're the cause of your predicament. if the guy love really matter to u. I don't think u should be bother about what is inside the box so far it still follow in line with your tradition in other words, even if at all, you don't like what he brought, there are other way of presenting it to him which I believe he will made adjustment sorry to ask, which tribe are u from in Nigeria? coz am suspecting some foul play |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by nnamdiosu(m): 9:49am On May 10, 2017 |
Hello sis.... From ur story,........ this is the whole crux of the matter. But the problem was that the boxes of items they were to bring for me ended up being all cheap stuff, not even one single set of gold jewelry. Now i don't know ur financial status or his.. but if becos of wrapper and gold ur family got angry with him....... i'll say thats very unfair of u guys. Is it wrapper u want to marry Is he of a good character, nice, accommodating etc? thats what u guys are suppose to be concerned about... NOT WRAPPER OR GOLD OK? You guys probably gave them the wrong picture about ur family.....IF I WAS THEM, I WOULD HAVE RUN TOO. Look over the things i said up, reflect on them. However Don't call him back. DON'T. take it to God in prayers. If he is the one, he will come bk. If he isn't, don't blame ur herself. Everything happens for a reason and a lesson. The next true guy will come along. He too wont be perfect. He may or may not give u expensive wrappers and gold jewelry, but dont put that at heart. Those things can always come later. THEY AREN'T IMPORTANT. You seem a very nice person and good at heart. Don't cry. Don't fret. All is good that ends well I wish you the best in life. Take care. 3 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 9:49am On May 10, 2017 |
ChiefSweetus:You deserve this.
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Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by treads(m): 9:50am On May 10, 2017 |
if truly u love him,you should have accepted anything he offers. material things #goldjeweries# should be a minor thing...I think you're too harsh on him and learn to settle every dispute privately without telling your parent..his still our man |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by lovethchioma(f): 9:50am On May 10, 2017 |
Why is everyone here insulting the lady? Someone came to seek for advice and instead of giving her what she seeks.. you guys turned it to insults. Once one person says something every other person that comments will just follow the same. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Odumanudo: 9:51am On May 10, 2017 |
One word "incompatibility". If after 7 years you still do not understand what up-set your man, then something is terribly wrong. You did not state the financial status of your man, that would have helped in shaping my advice as regards the gold jewelry issue. Please do not allow your parents taste or cravings determine your own standard. Please put down your idiosyncrasies- attitude about being in USA, PHD in view, from a wealthy home, uncontrolled temperament and budding feminist activism. No real dud would want his pride to be taken away; not for love or money. Hold an all embracing talk with him and promise to respect his opinion and standing in life. Bet you, your man will run back to you. 3 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by dotedote: 9:51am On May 10, 2017 |
Was it also the mother that asked her to turn the porn matter to an issue ? Op needs to be talked to. Swallow all ds ya yeye pride and live simply. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by sben2308(m): 9:54am On May 10, 2017 |
neocortex: If in dis dispensation u could say this that its just an excuse den I say u r more dillusional dan OP herself 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by lilyheaven: 9:54am On May 10, 2017 |
praisehim:If she wanted a gold , she could have saved money to buy some for herself, after all some Ladies buy some of the the things to cover their husband. If she really love her husband, she won't be looking at material things. I believe at her level, she is more than that. 2 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by RexEmmyGee: 9:55am On May 10, 2017 |
If you dont want your marriage to end up like that of Mercy Aigbe, dont marry him 2 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by gbegudujo: 9:55am On May 10, 2017 |
Babe my wife said; you are too proud, saucy and arrogant. 2 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by sben2308(m): 9:55am On May 10, 2017 |
lovethchioma: It's not an insult but an advise which she asked for herself.... |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by dangotesmummy: 9:56am On May 10, 2017 |
tayorh:1.possibly 2.unnecessary 3.agree 4not necessary. Do a self examination yourself. You don't need anyone's opinion to evaluate where you're wrong. The next man might not think the same way.people are different and what annoys people differs 5.kini big deal.he came OF HIS OWN ACCORD.HE WASN'T FORCED OR EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATED.he could have communicated with her via Skype,phone calls, text messages, whatsapp video calls or messages.I mean there are many ways of communicating to others in another country. This is 2017.ICT is everywhere so don't make it look as if he did her a huge favor. He felt like going that's why he went if he didn't want to go nothing will make him to 6.did she say she's the vain or materialistic type whobis always asking her boyfriend for everything 7.msheewwww.so because a relationship didn't lead to marriage that is what made her not humble. Smh 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by NoToPile: 9:57am On May 10, 2017 |
Reading all the comments make me wonder if people didn't read the part where she said he and his people went to pay her bride price. She's married already, in the eyes of God. So what's with the he doesnt want to marry again. He has married you already OP, if he now wants a divorce its another thing entirely. Which one is marriage, the one where you wear gown ? 2 Likes |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by BISIXCLUSIVE: 9:57am On May 10, 2017 |
IamAirforce1:she sound like a gold digger, the guy wakeup instantly.
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Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by SURElee(f): 9:57am On May 10, 2017 |
PatriotTemidayo: Kisses! Kisses!!! Blessings on blessing for the detailed step by step response. You nailed it. So I can't add anything to it. She who has ears let her hear for no degree and wealth buys a good man or happy home at the end of the day. If na lie I talk make we ask the self made Linda with her wealth, sebi she say she fit buy husband? Or why Lilian Esoro run commot from man wey get money? 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by dotedote: 9:57am On May 10, 2017 |
It's only a worthless bastard that stays in a relationship where he's treated like a worthless bastard. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by dangotesmummy: 9:58am On May 10, 2017 |
gbegudujo:egbami. Has your wife lived with her,worked with her or knows her that personally for her to reach that conclusion. Does she also know the guy in question |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Odumanudo: 9:58am On May 10, 2017 |
neocortex:Please put your eggs in 20 "amanode" baskets. This is what you can come up with? 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by lilyheaven: 9:59am On May 10, 2017 |
beautiful232: Someone that will buy gold and diamond for her. |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by marklele(m): 9:59am On May 10, 2017 |
OP READ THIS. 1.Anyone who wants to enjoy love must play the role of a fool sometimes while applying wisdom or intelligence when necessary. Pretend you never knew what he got you where not gold. tell your parents you don't care if it is gold or not since you love him. 2. Humility is very important both in relationship and in other aspect. Bring yourself down for your man and you will enjoy him forever. Don't always fight him with words as a woman is always calm and organises, that is why we say they have a big heart and can calm any situation down. 3. Appreciate and support what ever he gives you or if you are financially balanced than him, support him and humbly plead with him to get you what you want even if he says noo, don't be annoyed, still appreciate and support his decision, later he will give you a gift you never imagined. 4. ladies are supposed to be our Babies not our OPPONENT to fight with. please be the baby and allow him to take care of you the way he likes, if he is defaulting, cry to him and tell him and he will change. AFTER NOW, SEND HIM A MESSAGE OF APOLOGY AND EVEN CALL HIM, FORGET WHO IS RIGHT OR WRONG IF YOU TRULLY LOVE HIM. USE A SOFT VOICE TO TALK TO HIM FROM NOW ONWARDS, ADD PRAYERS TO IT AND HE WILL COME BACK |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by aribisala0(m): 9:59am On May 10, 2017 |
CuddleMe:I don't agree with this one. If you live outside Nigeria don't watch porn on another person's laptop it could cost them their job,reputation or prison depending on their profession especially if it is used for work. We can all see the grief Hillary Clinton went through. I have nothing against people watching porn but if you do it in the USA be almost sure it is recorded against your name unless you take professional steps to hide it. So if that sort of thing is going to happen in my name I should have a say. If you are applying for a Green Card you don't want to be doing careless things Every other thing is just vanity,that the items he bought were cheap? OP just revealed a side to her background that will make many men run.Any man that marries her marries trouble 1 Like |
Re: After Dating For 7 Years, He Called Off Our Engagement. by Nobody: 9:59am On May 10, 2017 |
SammyAx: So OP you only create account just to post this. Ok. btw I think everything u need to know is on the first page. Either you love the guy in which case you should humble yourself before the Lord and ask for forgiveness with promise never to act drama for him again OR you just face your book. 1 Like |
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