My advice is not here, i know the man you are talking about and i will not say his mind

ikp120:
So you had a fight because nigga no put gold item?

I would have deleted everything about you that same day too.

Don't be offended o, but this is the best that you deserve right now.

I dey tell, what nonsense... coz he no put gold... shior

I dont give a Bleep about him dumping your sorry and nagging ass.

But next time, dont ever stop a man from watching porn because consciously or subconsciously, in this modern digital age, we all watch porn one way or the other.

And how would he even please you during lovemaking if he doesn't watch porn?..

Much Ado about nothing..

O pe ko to Break up pelu ee.. leave thrash for lawma..

Eyin omo yankee yi ti e ti baje ju.


Lalasticlala, any snake topic?

neocortex:
His excuse for breaking up is just an excuse, what
he really wish for is a wife that answers "Yes Sir" to
everything he does and you don't happen to fit that
description.
So, let him go for his type.

Next time, don't put your eggs in one basket.

Are you for real.....? Chimamda Adichie, I hope you are happy now

Banjo24:
Tell your parent who got upset because of Gold to get you a new husband.

If someone can travel down to US just to see you, then he is real.

So because of gold now una clap down on him. They even send you some items to confirm what they brought was cheap. I thought you said your parent don't wanna sell you....?

God bless that guy for me.

Confirm. Be Humble

Ur Mom got embarrassed because of wot ur inlaws could afford to bring to your family . She went as far as sending dem to u to see ow inferior they are. My Sister, someone needs to talk to people like ur Mom, they need to realize that the children's happiness is above all material things. I dont blame the Man, cause it was a tip of the iceberg of how interfering ur Mom wld be in dat Marriage. Good move by your Man, I pray God grant you the wisdom to handle this

ikp120:
So you had a fight because nigga no put gold item?

I would have deleted everything about you that same day too.

Don't be offended o, but this is the best that you deserve right now.

Bro, your comments no dey get joy at all

PatriotTemidayo:


I think she's innocent, she really wanna be with the guy but her parents are playing a smart and subtle rejection intrigue with her mind.

The last sentence was just a different mention entirely.
Anyways if she actually wants him, she should have a better way of addressing it sha make she reason with the Bobo. If Na correct guy n he sees a need to reconsider after the whole drama thing them fit make amends.
No matter how bad it may seem , the two in question will still play the major role in this irrespective of what parents says, Na them go reason how them want am

Someone cannot watch por'n in peace again.

If you fight your man because of por'n, what are you going to do if he cheats? Lies? beats you?

Me and ma woman download por'n together, then we compare the quality of each por'n and together, we make decision on the best sites to download the best quality por'ns.

SammyAx:
I met him in 2010, and I had to leave for graduate school in 2012. We continued dating and he visited me in the U.S as often as he could. After one of such visits, i discovered he had used my laptop to watch pornography. We had a fight, broke up, then made up again.

I am currently studying for my Doctorate and my greencard application (thru sister) is pending, therefore, i cannot travel out of the country now. So last year we decided to do our wedding in the U.S, and he and his family went to my family in Nigeria to pay my bride price.

My dad gave them a small price because he said we don't need their money and he is not selling me. But the problem was that the boxes of items they were to bring for me ended up being all cheap stuff, not even one single set of gold jewelry. My mum was unhappy and embarrassed, and i was terribly unhappy too. His excuse was that they didn't think the stuff would actually get to me since i am far away. My mum actually sent some of the stuff to me to see for myself. So we got into a huge fight and didn't speak for weeks. I later reached out to try and sort out our differences but he now says that he doesn't want to get married anymore.

I am distraught and embarrassed to even tell my family now because i had to fight for him and stand on my decision despite their hesitations. Is this relationship worth fighting for at all anymore? Do I deserve this after all this time?

You killed off your relationship because of your attitude.

Bad for you. Claiming as well educated pains guy alot. Humble yourself with common sense.

First of all, would you allow material things to deprive you from your own happiness? Secondly, is this guy himself is financially OK? You mentioned you always fight with him, that alone could piss him off or got him tired of the relationship. There is always ups & down in every aspect of life, you are the home maker, call him and express how much you still love him. in addition demonstrate sign of submissiveness to him through conversation. We men are not much different we dont want too much nagging. Most important thing, every insult from a woman is like a bullet in our body. I believe its can still work. Sorry for any error. Form oracle.

SammyAx:
I met him in 2010, and I had to leave for graduate school in 2012. We continued dating and he visited me in the U.S as often as he could. After one of such visits, i discovered he had used my laptop to watch pornography. We had a fight, broke up, then made up again.

I am currently studying for my Doctorate and my greencard application (thru sister) is pending, therefore, i cannot travel out of the country now. So last year we decided to do our wedding in the U.S, and he and his family went to my family in Nigeria to pay my bride price.

My dad gave them a small price because he said we don't need their money and he is not selling me. But the problem was that the boxes of items they were to bring for me ended up being all cheap stuff, not even one single set of gold jewelry. My mum was unhappy and embarrassed, and i was terribly unhappy too. His excuse was that they didn't think the stuff would actually get to me since i am far away. My mum actually sent some of the stuff to me to see for myself. So we got into a huge fight and didn't speak for weeks. I later reached out to try and sort out our differences but he now says that he doesn't want to get married anymore.

I am distraught and embarrassed to even tell my family now because i had to fight for him and stand on my decision despite their hesitations. Is this relationship worth fighting for at all anymore? Do I deserve this after all this time?

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

Abeg you deserve a Medal.

dangotesmummy:
my God.where did you get all these from

How do you people get to judge and conclude on a person's life history based on what she typed here? So it is wrong for a woman to WANT because she's a woman.SHE CANNOT WANT? After all you men say I WANT A HARDWORKING WOMAN
I WANT AN INTELLIGENT WOMAN
I WANT A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN


but a woman should not want or know what she wants because she's a woman.seriously. smh

I will SLAP you and your stüpid-àss feminism this early morning, heavens be damned!!

Who said or even insinuated her desires arent valid? Definitely not me. But guess who is the one creating thread on being dumped? If she wants let her fück offff and want someone else and not complicate a poor guy's life.

Her dreams and desires are valid, and so is her boyfriend's.. and his desire right now is for her to fück offf!! Because he's tired of the bulllllshitttttt!!!!

Please next time dont carry your problems into a thread. If the patriarchy has dealt with you, it is not me, ChiefSweetus that put glass ceiling or overruled bigamy. Stick to the topic, Wonder Woman!

PatriotTemidayo:


There's something about Rich and highly educated folks, they want to spread their superiority complex like carpet.

I was dating a girl like that that thinks because she was doing her Phd here in Canada she should be worshipped. One day I just told her it's over, she almost gave up.

SammyAx:
I met him in 2010, and I had to leave for graduate school in 2012. We continued dating and he visited me in the U.S as often as he could. After one of such visits, i discovered he had used my laptop to watch pornography. We had a fight, broke up, then made up again.

I am currently studying for my Doctorate and my greencard application (thru sister) is pending, therefore, i cannot travel out of the country now. So last year we decided to do our wedding in the U.S, and he and his family went to my family in Nigeria to pay my bride price.

My dad gave them a small price because he said we don't need their money and he is not selling me. But the problem was that the boxes of items they were to bring for me ended up being all cheap stuff, not even one single set of gold jewelry. My mum was unhappy and embarrassed, and i was terribly unhappy too. His excuse was that they didn't think the stuff would actually get to me since i am far away. My mum actually sent some of the stuff to me to see for myself. So we got into a huge fight and didn't speak for weeks. I later reached out to try and sort out our differences but he now says that he doesn't want to get married anymore.

I am distraught and embarrassed to even tell my family now because i had to fight for him and stand on my decision despite their hesitations. Is this relationship worth fighting for at all anymore? Do I deserve this after all this time?

Your guy deserve an award.HE traveled to the US to visit you and came bck to 9ja and you are complaining of gold ok nah chey U see as man hard for USA . U fit dey 5 years easy no one go price your market . This is fact.
So my dear u better return to 9ja. And fight for your man .
Some things are just better than silver and gold . B4 another sharp smally take your place . .

SammyAx:
I met him in 2010, and I had to leave for graduate school in 2012. We continued dating and he visited me in the U.S as often as he could. After one of such visits, i discovered he had used my laptop to watch pornography. We had a fight, broke up, then made up again.

I am currently studying for my Doctorate and my greencard application (thru sister) is pending, therefore, i cannot travel out of the country now. So last year we decided to do our wedding in the U.S, and he and his family went to my family in Nigeria to pay my bride price.

My dad gave them a small price because he said we don't need their money and he is not selling me. But the problem was that the boxes of items they were to bring for me ended up being all cheap stuff, not even one single set of gold jewelry. My mum was unhappy and embarrassed, and i was terribly unhappy too. His excuse was that they didn't think the stuff would actually get to me since i am far away. My mum actually sent some of the stuff to me to see for myself. So we got into a huge fight and didn't speak for weeks. I later reached out to try and sort out our differences but he now says that he doesn't want to get married anymore.

I am distraught and embarrassed to even tell my family now because i had to fight for him and stand on my decision despite their hesitations. Is this relationship worth fighting for at all anymore? Do I deserve this after all this time?

I have not read any other posts yet.before I do just confirm you are Ibo right?

neocortex:
His excuse for breaking up is just an excuse, what
he really wish for is a wife that answers "Yes Sir" to
everything he does and you don't happen to fit that
description.
So, let him go for his type.

Next time, don't put your eggs in one basket.

you severely lack your moniker.
Chimamanda-àss motherfuckress!

ChiefSweetus:
OP sounds like a silver spoon entitled petulant nag with snobbish mother who didnt work hard but became proud when her gentle husband hit gold.

Mother wants society wedding with Chief & Mrs Bleep's rich and handsome son.

OPs boyfriend is selfmade. His monthly earning is about 600k right now.. but they dont know he's going to be way more successful in 10yrs. Even if they know, they dont care.. they want their sweet and intelligent USA PHD daughter to marry into old money or "pedigree".

OPs boyfriend is finally realising the truth. There will be no happiness with an insatiable horror of a mother in law.. and a naive nagging entitled sanctimonous princess bride who doesnt even suck dïckkk.

His ego has kept him in the relationship thus far because he enjoys his friends telling oboy your babe set.. fine girl, rich family, even if she no sabi cook baba una go hire maid.

Also, OP is Roman Catholic and boyfriend isnt.

If I'm wrong on any of these I'll delete my NL.

Yuzedo Yuzedo. Your love for Old money new money debates always stands out. Why does her story sound so familiar to you?

Fight over Indecency and no gold item? You should help support d guy and not stand with ur family against him just because of material things... You need to loosen up biko. So 7 years down d drain like that. Chimu

eyah sorry oo...


Long distance relationship is a fragile relationship, and so many people fail to understand that, it is very easy for one to opt out because He MUST be getting attention from female folks around him, trying to please him, (even a 'almost broke' dude with average obasanjo look do) and someone somewhere is making him sad...

So try not to pick quarrels as often as you are displeased about a thing.

Wish you the best, i know how painful this experience is.

Hey! You screwed it #justmoveon

dangotesmummy:
exactly my thought. If you fight to make him committed you Will keep fighting and begging for him to be committed or stay committed. You don't want anybody to make you feel like he's doing you a favor for marrying you

Was there any point in the over hype girl post where she said the guy is not committed, a guy that flies to US just to see his babe deserve an award, am sure the guy is not a gold digger and has something going for him, no man wants a wife that nags on trivial issues and make him feel cheap. The guy better run for his life and up his game, the family has indirectly rubbish him. Am sure wherever the guy dey, I pray God enlarge your hustle and give you a good lady with better family. Amen

walex2:
My advice is not here, i know the man you are talking about and i will not say his mind

say your mind since she brought it here

Emmahunk:
Engaged to a guy for guy for SEVEN YEARS!
What were you thinking?

that was her own fault

First year she wasn't able to identity whether the relationship was worth it it not
Second year her brain wasn't still functioning
Thrird year she didn't know what she wanted out of life and her relationship
4,567!!!!!

Am in the u.s, do you want true love? he wasnt meant for you. move on

SammyAx:
I met him in 2010, and I had to leave for graduate school in 2012. We continued dating and he visited me in the U.S as often as he could. After one of such visits, i discovered he had used my laptop to watch pornography. We had a fight, broke up, then made up again.

I am currently studying for my Doctorate and my greencard application (thru sister) is pending, therefore, i cannot travel out of the country now. So last year we decided to do our wedding in the U.S, and he and his family went to my family in Nigeria to pay my bride price.

My dad gave them a small price because he said we don't need their money and he is not selling me. But the problem was that the boxes of items they were to bring for me ended up being all cheap stuff, not even one single set of gold jewelry. My mum was unhappy and embarrassed, and i was terribly unhappy too. His excuse was that they didn't think the stuff would actually get to me since i am far away. My mum actually sent some of the stuff to me to see for myself. So we got into a huge fight and didn't speak for weeks. I later reached out to try and sort out our differences but he now says that he doesn't want to get married anymore.

I am distraught and embarrassed to even tell my family now because i had to fight for him and stand on my decision despite their hesitations. Is this relationship worth fighting for at all anymore? Do I deserve this after all this time?

breadandbutter:



Look at this gold digger looking for free opportunity to travel to the USA. Shameless man

kettle calling pot black
u think travelling to america is now problem

SammyAx:
I met him in 2010, and I had to leave for graduate school in 2012. We continued dating and he visited me in the U.S as often as he could. After one of such visits, i discovered he had used my laptop to watch pornography. We had a fight, broke up, then made up again.

I am currently studying for my Doctorate and my greencard application (thru sister) is pending, therefore, i cannot travel out of the country now. So last year we decided to do our wedding in the U.S, and he and his family went to my family in Nigeria to pay my bride price.

My dad gave them a small price because he said we don't need their money and he is not selling me. But the problem was that the boxes of items they were to bring for me ended up being all cheap stuff, not even one single set of gold jewelry. My mum was unhappy and embarrassed, and i was terribly unhappy too. His excuse was that they didn't think the stuff would actually get to me since i am far away. My mum actually sent some of the stuff to me to see for myself. So we got into a huge fight and didn't speak for weeks. I later reached out to try and sort out our differences but he now says that he doesn't want to get married anymore.

I am distraught and embarrassed to even tell my family now because i had to fight for him and stand on my decision despite their hesitations. Is this relationship worth fighting for at all anymore? Do I deserve this after all this time?

I pity for the guy if he eventually marry you,he should run as fast as he can from this impending doom.

LePrezident:
Lol. So OP picked a fight with her bf because he was watching porn? Smh. Not because he was caught cheating o, because he was watching ordinary porn that 99.79% of men watch including pastors? OP must be a drama queen.

How many pastors do you know that watches porn

madone:
I think u re too pushy and u have a nag for picking a fight over trivial issues ,maybr na too much book.sweet heart no african man will stick to a lady that argue and fight everytime with big big grammar. Gold was not in the wedding item u got angry.i think ur guy just tire for ur tomuch drama.listen girl in nigeria here a guy that travel to u.s to see his babe deserves worship from other ladies and am sure he has seen a worshipper... Not a fighter

and who said Gold is usually part of the items presented for engagement, what part of the country are u guys from.

I did my wedding and was not asked to bring any gold item. Except this was spelt out clearly in your list.

To be honest it is difficult to say where the problem is from but i dont think the issue is far from materialism.


Always think about the marriage and not the wedding this is the mistake most ladies make.

I almost broke up with my fiancee during courtship cos of this kind of issue, but thank God, it was even her own parent that called her to order.

The real truth is, OP and her family dey do anyhow sef, and the guy saw the future then ran for his life.