I'm confused

oluwakekz:
Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired right now.

She may not be cheating on you. You are insecured. Not a bad thing to get a job through an ex

Mods shouldn't just rush topics without scrutinizing headlines. Look at thread name.

Is it that nobody read the part the guy said she passed the night at her ex place? How on earth do you lot still call him insecure, and what would've been going through your heads if you were in his shoes? I don't have a problem with her ex giving her a job/still being in contact with him.

oluwakekz:
Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired right now.

In your topic you referred to your fiancée as a man.
That aside, you will never know peace if you continue with her as long as she sees the boyfriend almost every day. It is either she gets another job or you quit with her.

My fiancée got a job with the help of his ex....
Topic doesn't tally with the story. Check your pronouns.

Auladimeji:
Which stupid mode.I don't why so guy feels like god.If she's jobless, won't you call her leech.
Now answer this question; If your ex girlfriend connects you to a job,will you tell her or decline the job.
You don't have any right to control her.
You are not her husband

why are you so pained?

SillyeRabbit:
When you are dating a girl, always ask questions to the core and frequently check her Whatsapp chats. You are nothing but coward if you can't tell your babe to see her chats online. The issue is why did she sleep at her ex house without telling the current guy she is dating? Op, she's not innocent at all.

I too don't think she's innocent. She had no business passing the night at her ex bf's place. She should have objected to that idea, even without the fiance knowing what was up.

oluwakekz:
Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired right now.

kikikik I won't lie to you .your gf is cheating on you with her ex

kimbraa:
Is it that nobody read the part the guy said she passed the night at her ex place? How on earth do you lot still call him insecure, and what would've been going through your heads if you were in his shoes? I don't have a problem with her ex giving her a job/still being in contact with him.

I didn't even see the part that his girlfriend passed the night at the EX's place. Very likely the Ex screwed her big time. I am sorry for this guy because he's dealing with a cheat if all he posted here is exactly the way it happened.

So you came to nairaland to read about 10 questions to ask your gf,after that you now come back to say you needed advice that you are now confused you dont know what to do, please do you want the thunder that will strike you cooked or boil?

My only problem is her passing the night at her ex place, nothing wrong in ex helping out with a job connect, but she committed many crimes.o o.

1) Not telling you the whole truth about the job interview

2) Sleeping over at her ex house (only God knows the amount of straffing that pussy would have gone through..knowing very well, she needs a job and may feel a need to reciprocate)

3) Even when she got the job she didn't tell you the whole story, until you asked...

Honestly why is relationship this hard.

Why make decisions that you know is wrong or something you won't accept and expect someone else to be cool with it..

Why the heck will someone's GF spend the night in her ex BF crib..

Which kind rubbish be that.

Bad advisers everywhere. only cheaters will justify her for still keeping in touch with her ex and even passed a night in his house because of job interview without your consent. Her action is not justified for whatever reason. Guy, dont mind some stupid cheaters here on nairaland, they will always support their co-cheaters anytime. Remember, never marry out of pity and never marry a woman you don't trust. that's it.

oluwakekz:
funny how most people get this all wrong..... How do we build trust if there's no true communication..... To me, I don't think its healthy visiting your ex without telling me and passing night there (its two weeks )

You dont mean it TWO GREAT WEEKS... WOW .... d Guy don blow your babe Pah..........lmao.... just take heart eh bro sorry ooooo... abi na my eye ni ur girl don de pass night for her ex place for the past 2 weeks wow.... God ss Great and you are just getting to know Heyah Thy Lord is Your Strength ...

[quote author=oluwakekz post=69950807]Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired




You are not yet married to her and you are policing her like this! That she is no longer in a relationship does not mean she should not flow with the person anymore haba! Was it a do or die affair? Maybe you should as well learn here that you don't shut the door total when walking away from any relationship no matter the event that lead to separation..
Want you to know she is interested in you to tell you that.. Do you expect her to be telling you about every calls she receive? Grow up my brother, allow her space.. The job is for una too.. Just be free and allow her. Don't try to force yourself on her but apply wisdom in all ur dealings. Jah guide.. Oh yak ndi.oooo.AmeM?

i dont have a problem with her ex getting her a job but i have a problem with her sleeping over at his place and not telling you. that's a red flag...

Ask more direct questions. Ask her what happened when she slept in his house overnight. Ask her if she is willing to stop contacting him. Ask her how she will feel if you had slept in your ex house overnight while you are having relationship with her.

And so?

Let people make their decisions! Let them live! They ain't your responsibilities! When you guys split now, what is next for her? A life of begging, because of one lame insecure fella she mistakenly fell for!

VampireeM:



Yes the gal didnt tell him earlier, so what does he want us or the gal to do? The mistake has been made. If he ain't comfortable with it he knows what to do. People shouldn't go about seeking truths they can't digest

I love that.

Have you paid dowry on the woman's head?

Your possessiveness is like xxxxxxxxx

sacramento1212:


I didn't even see the part that his girlfriend passed the night at the EX's place. Very likely the Ex screwed her big time. I am sorry for this guy because he's dealing with a cheat if all he posted here is exactly the way it happened.

It's obvious she's cheating, and who would be comfortable working with an ex? She would have told him of her movement if she wasn't...why sleep in your ex house? Would she say nothing happened the night she slept there? Or he slept with her, then gave her the job in exchange. I won't be surprised if that was what happened. Telling him later was an attempt to blackmail him with his own words.

I promise you she is 4cking him and soon, she will leave you for him

My brother for the sake of tomorrow, delete the thought of ever wanting to marry her. Take this advice

Hhehehehhehehehhe is the only advice I can give.
Ex return crazy!!
But bros ooooh I keep contact with my ex's but dey dont come to sleep in my house or I doing like-wise. The ex helping her secure a job is not a problem its normal after all dem don know dem don know u cant change that. But the issue is the fact that she is sleeping in the ex hux that I dont get. She might be lying she might be saying the truth #road wen person don pass before to pass am again nor dey hard#. Just man up and watch her attitude and everything closely.
Ex can sabi spoil relationship last last na to leak clean mouth......girls and all this ex factor.

Seanjay:




You dont mean it TWO GREAT WEEKS... WOW .... d Guy don blow your babe Pah..........lmao.... just take heart eh bro sorry ooooo... abi na my eye ni ur girl don de pass night for her ex place for the past 2 weeks wow.... God ss Great and you are just getting to know Heyah Thy Lord is Your Strength ...

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dejol88:
My brother for the sake of tomorrow, delete the thought of ever wanting to marry her. Take this advice

So true, believe me bro she is not for you

oluwakekz:
Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired right now.

lol she is cheating on you with her ex:nothing is wrong meting your ex and all that shit, but why did she hide it from you? Something is definitely wrong here be wise

When your supposed girlfriend/fiancée is still having romantic phone chats with her exes and keeps telling you she's not cheating, just forget it.

This is complicated. You know what? Just sack her, either from the work or your life, you chose where you want to sack her from.


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