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Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by CaptainG00D: 10:23am On Aug 08, 2018 |
highqueen:
she obviously wants the one with jeep and huge money that will take her as shiit. Queen mu |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by modextus(m): 10:37am On Aug 08, 2018 |
Been through something like this. It didn't take me long to realise nothing would come out from it. But sometimes girls aren't always sure about how they feel for someone who's been really close to them as a result of the many failed relationships they've been into. Sometimes they just need someone who is quite knowledgeable to tell them how they feel based on there explanation of how they see the individual in question.
To me I'll say... You've got feelings for him. Immense likeness I'll call it. Which could evolve to something very beautiful. You can give it a try if you like. I'll advise you do. 7 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iwatch: 10:43am On Aug 08, 2018 |
ritylove: the only thing i feel here is pity i feel he wasted his time and resources on me but still i dont want loose a good friend This is why I hate you women. You don't deserve anything good. 5 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by highqueen(f): 10:44am On Aug 08, 2018 |
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Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Holymann(m): 10:50am On Aug 08, 2018 |
You don't love him but you don't want to loose him Ayam not understanding o 20 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Nobody: 10:59am On Aug 08, 2018 |
The guy is silly and dumb. Tell him you already like the way it is between both of you and would not want to complicate things. It is SIMPLE and the dumb.ass will understand even if it takes him another 4 years He's too slow...gosh! ritylove 9 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Nobody: 11:02am On Aug 08, 2018 |
ritylove: the only thing i feel here is pity i feel he wasted his time and resources on me but still i dont want loose a good friend If he is your good friend, then the time and resources are not a waste. Not all good friends date. |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iwatch: 11:08am On Aug 08, 2018 |
generationz:
please stop telling anybody everything about yourself. its dangerous.
aren't we told to marry our Best friends?
I see this as a result of your immaturity (no offense dear) you are still in the university , by the time you graduate and date more guys you'll realize that not all that glitters is gold.
There's a difference between an Hollywood movie script/ mills and boons novels and reality
this. my dear is reality
when a person becomes too available and ' too there' for us they become undesirable
The guy made a mistake in the art of seduction 101
Right now because of the love he has shown you and his over availability there's nothing left to the imagination again instead of seeing him as Romeo you see him as the elder brother you never had.
if a man can know all your trash and nonsense, good and bad , and after four years still say girl I love you then that man truly loves you.
tell me dear
his he ugly, perhaps you are attracted to handsome guys
his he short? perhaps you are attracted to tall guys
his he poor ? perhaps you are attracted to rich guys
his he soft ? perhaps you are attracted to bad guys.
during those four years has he had a girlfriend? because I know we ladies love guys who many girls want for one reason or the other. its not our fault but a thing of genetics and desirability.
I know your dilemma . He doesn't fulfil your desire in a man.
Seriously how couldn't you see a guy likes you withing four years of knowing him. if its me within a few days of knowing someone I'll know if he likes me,is a players or doesn't even like me.
its in the words, the extra care, the eyes ,the body language etc.
please don't date anyone out of pity
with the time you are taking to think about it , change your thinking pattern . Ask for more time off if its possible. Tell him the time off is for you to make a sound judgement devoid of emotions.
maybe it will even be all through his exams and his final year project so he can focus on that.
not seeing him can make you desire him more.
now reconfigure your brain. start seeing him as a man you can spend your life with . think of how good he has been to you and compare him to your exes in each aspect. see him as desirable too.
If you both were lost on an island and he was the only man there for you to procreate with will you do it? your first reaction to this (in your brain) will tell if there's even a slim chance of being with him.
love isn't a mushy feeling o
love is in action. The mushy feeling you have for someone you just met is infatuations.
eg we love our parents a lot and appreciate them. that doesn't mean every time we see them we have butterflies in our bellies.
so to help yourself you must reconfigure your brain.
it would be a shame if after rejecting him you realize after many years that you should have accepted him and it's too late. I've heard too many stories like this.
trust me attraction is secondary when it comes to choosing a life partner.
the important things include
His spiritual life ( if you are spiritual)
can he take care of you (not only materially ,but emotionally and maybe spiritually ,)
his genotype
his family background . this is very important because if at the end of it all both families don't approve then relationship don scatter be dat. you must know if his family is one you can be married into.
If he ticks all these buttons please hold on to him o finding someone that meets everything like this is rare.
Jesus Christ... I never knew there is a lady out there that think like this in this sort of situation. May God bless you. If many of your ladies think like you, they would not be all over screaming men are scum. The guy didn't open up cos he wanted to know her more. 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by 1stNumeroUno: 11:17am On Aug 08, 2018 |
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Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by CaptainG00D: 11:46am On Aug 08, 2018 |
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Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by ritylove(f): 11:49am On Aug 08, 2018 |
oluwatodimu1: @Rita, there is a huge difference btw liking someone and luving that person. what i dont understand is that are u scared of your secrets he knws (obviously not, i suppose) or he's nt loveable by your standard? True, d guy was dumb (why would i wait 4yrs) even as an introvert, i study & ask her out all in weeks. Guys, this a lesson for all 'caretaker bf' my major problem here is he knows am not into any serious relationship currently i dont have any excuse 1 Like |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Dasherz(f): 11:52am On Aug 08, 2018 |
ritylove: I am a very gregarious or rather should i say a social individual,i keep alot of company but my actual real friends circle is pretty small,i actually never bought this male bestie of a thing from the onset because i felt it was thrash and irrelevant to me, i was satisfied with my girlfriends around,but during my 100 level in the university there was this particular guy i met then i was still a fresher i never knew much about the school he helped me alot with my clearance,getting a place to stay,showing me around school with alot of stuffs too numerous to mention here.
As time goes on suprisingly we started getting very close much more closer than i ever expected he was very nice and caring to me,sometimes he acts like my dad he is the only male friend i have who dares scold me in my wrong doings as time goes on before i could even realize it he was the closest to me among all my friends he was always there for me when i needed someone even when i dont he was there. We became so close i started confiding in him alot,i even told him stuffs i cant tell my mum we got so close he knows almost everything about me,everyone av dated,whom am dating,my breakups,my sex life,my kind of guy,my attitude towards dating,how i reason, even before saying something he has an idea of what am about to say,this guy knows my girlcode to the freaking core there is hardly anything i can hide from him,he has being of great assistance to me always forcing me to read my books and forget social medias,the truth is that he is the major reason for my drastic improvement academically, i was always at the receiving end,there is hardly anything i do for him yet he stayed i realized i needed him more than he needed me.
it all started few days ago as usual we just left from an eatery store heading back home he decided to drop by my place to charge his pc which he was using for his finals project work since there area had light issues,fast forward to when we got home there it goes we were talking as usual then all of a sudden he started saying stuffs how he feels about me all this while but only kept it to himself after hearing him speak for almost 3hours i was totally confused i didnt say anything i just starred at him the whole time till he finished ,noticing my silience he then asked me what i had to say about what i just heared,i had no idea on what to say i was totally confused i have never seen him this serious my entire life,in an attempt to escape the moment and look on his face i told him to give me sometime to dissolve all what i have heard after which he left.
Now am put in one of the most difficult situations i have ever being he is a very nice person,one of the nicest guys i have met yet he treats me better than anyone else, he treats me better than anyone am dating words can hardly explain i like him alot but i dont think i love or have any feelings or so for him this a guy who waited almost 4yrs to ask me out,a guy who knows me better than all my friends,i feel this guy knows too much and am scared he might use that against me one way or the other after all he has done for me i feel i owe him more, i cant look him in the eyes and tell him that i dont love him,i dont want to hurt his feelings and i dont want to loose him either cux he is my bestfriend i dont want to look like the bad person in front of everyone else but pleasing him here means displeasing myself i dont know what to do anymore cux i dont want to hurt anyones feeling, have being avoiding his calls and text cux i dont know what to say please i need a sincere and modest advice here what can i do in this situation i dont want anyones feelings getting hurt. Babe .. you have a guy that cherishes you this much and you are confused? If you can be happy with him then why not? 3 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by ritylove(f): 11:53am On Aug 08, 2018 |
generationz:
please stop telling anybody everything about yourself. its dangerous.
aren't we told to marry our Best friends?
I see this as a result of your immaturity (no offense dear) you are still in the university , by the time you graduate and date more guys you'll realize that not all that glitters is gold.
There's a difference between an Hollywood movie script/ mills and boons novels and reality
this. my dear is reality
when a person becomes too available and ' too there' for us they become undesirable
The guy made a mistake in the art of seduction 101
Right now because of the love he has shown you and his over availability there's nothing left to the imagination again instead of seeing him as Romeo you see him as the elder brother you never had.
if a man can know all your trash and nonsense, good and bad , and after four years still say girl I love you then that man truly loves you.
tell me dear
his he ugly, perhaps you are attracted to handsome guys
his he short? perhaps you are attracted to tall guys
his he poor ? perhaps you are attracted to rich guys
his he soft ? perhaps you are attracted to bad guys.
during those four years has he had a girlfriend? because I know we ladies love guys who many girls want for one reason or the other. its not our fault but a thing of genetics and desirability.
I know your dilemma . He doesn't fulfil your desire in a man.
Seriously how couldn't you see a guy likes you withing four years of knowing him. if its me within a few days of knowing someone I'll know if he likes me,is a players or doesn't even like me.
its in the words, the extra care, the eyes ,the body language etc.
please don't date anyone out of pity
with the time you are taking to think about it , change your thinking pattern . Ask for more time off if its possible. Tell him the time off is for you to make a sound judgement devoid of emotions.
maybe it will even be all through his exams and his final year project so he can focus on that.
not seeing him can make you desire him more.
now reconfigure your brain. start seeing him as a man you can spend your life with . think of how good he has been to you and compare him to your exes in each aspect. see him as desirable too.
If you both were lost on an island and he was the only man there for you to procreate with will you do it? your first reaction to this (in your brain) will tell if there's even a slim chance of being with him.
love isn't a mushy feeling o
love is in action. The mushy feeling you have for someone you just met is infatuations.
eg we love our parents a lot and appreciate them. that doesn't mean every time we see them we have butterflies in our bellies.
so to help yourself you must reconfigure your brain.
it would be a shame if after rejecting him you realize after many years that you should have accepted him and it's too late. I've heard too many stories like this.
trust me attraction is secondary when it comes to choosing a life partner.
the important things include
His spiritual life ( if you are spiritual)
can he take care of you (not only materially ,but emotionally and maybe spiritually ,)
his genotype
his family background . this is very important because if at the end of it all both families don't approve then relationship don scatter be dat. you must know if his family is one you can be married into.
If he ticks all these buttons please hold on to him o finding someone that meets everything like this is rare.
thankyou very much for this really appreciated 1 Like |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Mrtitanic(m): 11:58am On Aug 08, 2018 |
all this people sha how many of you will advice your sister to date or marry someone she doesnt love |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by dammygoody(m): 12:00pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
generationz:
please stop telling anybody everything about yourself. its dangerous.
aren't we told to marry our Best friends?
I see this as a result of your immaturity (no offense dear) you are still in the university , by the time you graduate and date more guys you'll realize that not all that glitters is gold.
There's a difference between an Hollywood movie script/ mills and boons novels and reality
this. my dear is reality
when a person becomes too available and ' too there' for us they become undesirable
The guy made a mistake in the art of seduction 101
Right now because of the love he has shown you and his over availability there's nothing left to the imagination again instead of seeing him as Romeo you see him as the elder brother you never had.
if a man can know all your trash and nonsense, good and bad , and after four years still say girl I love you then that man truly loves you.
tell me dear
his he ugly, perhaps you are attracted to handsome guys
his he short? perhaps you are attracted to tall guys
his he poor ? perhaps you are attracted to rich guys
his he soft ? perhaps you are attracted to bad guys.
during those four years has he had a girlfriend? because I know we ladies love guys who many girls want for one reason or the other. its not our fault but a thing of genetics and desirability.
I know your dilemma . He doesn't fulfil your desire in a man.
Seriously how couldn't you see a guy likes you withing four years of knowing him. if its me within a few days of knowing someone I'll know if he likes me,is a players or doesn't even like me.
its in the words, the extra care, the eyes ,the body language etc.
please don't date anyone out of pity
with the time you are taking to think about it , change your thinking pattern . Ask for more time off if its possible. Tell him the time off is for you to make a sound judgement devoid of emotions.
maybe it will even be all through his exams and his final year project so he can focus on that.
not seeing him can make you desire him more.
now reconfigure your brain. start seeing him as a man you can spend your life with . think of how good he has been to you and compare him to your exes in each aspect. see him as desirable too.
If you both were lost on an island and he was the only man there for you to procreate with will you do it? your first reaction to this (in your brain) will tell if there's even a slim chance of being with him.
love isn't a mushy feeling o
love is in action. The mushy feeling you have for someone you just met is infatuations.
eg we love our parents a lot and appreciate them. that doesn't mean every time we see them we have butterflies in our bellies.
so to help yourself you must reconfigure your brain.
it would be a shame if after rejecting him you realize after many years that you should have accepted him and it's too late. I've heard too many stories like this.
trust me attraction is secondary when it comes to choosing a life partner.
the important things include
His spiritual life ( if you are spiritual)
can he take care of you (not only materially ,but emotionally and maybe spiritually ,)
his genotype
his family background . this is very important because if at the end of it all both families don't approve then relationship don scatter be dat. you must know if his family is one you can be married into.
If he ticks all these buttons please hold on to him o finding someone that meets everything like this is rare.
Oh! Father!...Op, finish reading this and just close the thread! That's all! 15 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Burgerlomo: 12:01pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
ritylove: the only thing i feel here is pity i feel he wasted his time and resources on me but still i dont want loose a good friend 10 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by IamPlato(m): 12:02pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
ritylove: my major problem here is he knows am not into any serious relationship currently i dont have any excuse ... You Better Come Up With Something You Might Love Him Later when He Loses Interest, that Can Be Regretful. Because That Kind Of late Love can Be Strangely Strong 1 Like |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by IamPlato(m): 12:03pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
iwatch:
This is why I hate you women. You don't deserve anything good. ...
Take It Easy. E never Reach like This na 2 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by highqueen(f): 12:36pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
CaptainG00D:
U no talk abi?
Lol,sorry I was busy.
afternoon. |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Nobody: 12:59pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
ritylove u can't hide forever.. When we will be telling u girls no such thing as a babe having a male bestie u girls will want to bring all forms of explanations to back ur claims... See u now Anyways if u say u have never ever for once had a hunch or some sort of giveaway hint about ur bestie's suppressed feelings for u all these years then na major trouble u done enter. Firstly, thank God now u know his real reason for being ur bestie all those years. Secondly,truth is that things can never be the same again for the both of u. He has meditated & prememditated on his actions & has weight the positive & negative outcome so believe me my dear things will start getting real funny. You should be able to look him in the face & tell him the truth about how u feel about him which isn't the same way he feels for u. Its not going to be easy for u to do it.. But u gotta do it cos no one else will help u do that. He will be hurt definitely but believe me he is properly prepared for whatever u have to dish out to him.. How he takes it after is what matters.. Meaning no matter how mature u guys go about it that friendship will never be the same again.. I personally avoid girls with male besties if i plan on being serious with her because of the many complications that comes along with it. You have to do what u have to do but be ready to say goodbye to ur friend/ secret admire... Gluck with it 4 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iwatch: 1:07pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
IamPlato: ...
Take It Easy. E never Reach like This na hm |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by generationz(f): 1:07pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
ritylove: thankyou very much for this really appreciated you are welcome dear |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by CaptainG00D: 2:34pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
highqueen:
Lol,sorry I was busy. afternoon. NNE nawa o Achokwanum iju GI something. |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by highqueen(f): 2:38pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
CaptainG00D:
NNE nawa o
Achokwanum iju GI something.
ga n'iru. |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by CaptainG00D: 2:41pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
highqueen:
ga n'iru. Chai!!.. Icho ichiputam ukwu n'iro abi?.. mana ebea dikwanu open . Ana eme ihere . 2 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by highqueen(f): 3:08pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
CaptainG00D:
Chai!!.. Icho ichiputam ukwu n'iro abi?.. mana ebea dikwanu open .
Ana eme ihere .
lool. |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Bimpe29: 3:10pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
Pray fervently over it. |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by CaptainG00D: 3:10pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
highqueen:
lool. Onwere ihe m juru GI last time onweghi ihe isaram? |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by dennel(m): 3:30pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
Erase your fears n say yes to the poor guy; m sure he knows you probably out of a relationship now n he must have bn waiting for this time a longtime... At the look of tns, m sure you like him! No woman wud hangout n find it easy gisting all day long with a guy she doesn't feel anything for! You not completely sincere... It wud be fun 3 Likes |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by LordsApostle: 3:54pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
ritylove: the only thing i feel here is pity i feel he wasted his time and resources on me but still i dont want loose a good friend that is whey u were laughing when I asked u to send me a message abi ? Now I understand better... Anyway, just so u know, me no dey for all those stupid childish play.. If I'm down for u, I tell u Wat I want, if u gree fine, if u no gree u simply fvck out of my life, no time to waste on anybody my dear... 1 Like |
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Londonboyrep(m): 3:56pm On Aug 08, 2018 |
The girl isn't attracted to the guy and believe me nothing will change this ever. Even if she agrees to date him out of pity she will constantly cheat and turn the guy to a doormat..you know the guy who always apologises when the girl is obviously in the wrong? That's the worst way for a guy to live. @ OP just free the guy as you clearly have no feelings for him but just wants to continue enjoying whatever benefits you are getting. Aren't you the same one who posted something along the lines of why can't a Nigerian guy date without sex? Tells me you are simply a user and want to receive without giving.. 9 Likes |