CaptainG00D:

Onwere ihe m juru GI last time onweghi ihe isaram?

sorry,Ihe dika gini??

Londonboyrep:
The girl isn't attracted to the guy and believe me nothing will change this ever. Even if she agrees to date him out of pity she will constantly cheat and turn the guy to a doormat..you know the guy who always apologises when the girl is obviously in the wrong? That's the worst way for a guy to live. @ OP just free the guy as you clearly have no feelings for him but just wants to continue enjoying whatever benefits you are getting. Aren't you the same one who posted something along the lines of why can't a Nigerian guy date without sex? Tells me you are simply a user and want to receive without giving..

you just said my mind even if i agree am afraid i might still end up hurting his feelings more after all his kindness but still you cant force love on someone

ritylove:
you just said my mind even if i agree am afraid i might still end up hurting his feelings more after all his kindness but still you cant force love on someone

if u dont love him or cant date him just tell him straight if he wants to die let him die stop punishing the poor guy more

ritylove:
you just said my mind even if i agree am afraid i might still end up hurting his feelings more after all his kindness but still you cant force love on someone

Bia. Can you tell him the truth already even though he will get hurt? He surely doesn't deserve you.

ritylove:
you just said my mind even if i agree am afraid i might still end up hurting his feelings more after all his kindness but still you cant force love on someone

Love nwantiti abi!
Or you can say you are not attracted to him.

See baby girl, we all know this will hurt him.

Can you keep postponing it till he finishes his exam ?

If not tell him u love him as a brother and u don't want to mix things up.

And say something like this "I won't bother if you date some else as long as we are best friends am happy". " Unless you don't want my happiness ".

That is the height of Emotional Black mail!

That's a good man you got there. But u'll never see it. Dont date him. You'll just hurt him and twist him, and make him bitter. Let him go . He's graduating and will soon stop seeing you. He'll meet someone that'd see all the good in him.
As for you, u'll regret it. Definitely. But thats life. And this is one you must experience for your growth. When you realise handsome and rich and swaggy do not necessarily equate good.
Let him go now dear. If you don't you'll ruin it all with your behaviour in the relationship. He'd beg and apologize for things he didnt do till he begins to hate you.

Oh... and give him space. Lots of space. Dont go pulling the concerned bestie act calling and visiting and all that shii. It'll just piss him off. N.... just know he's no longer your bestie. Let him go that way too. Dont try to be a selfish byatch

You go fear fear na

1stNumeroUno:


Hahahaha!

How can a "Heart bender" be straightforward?

He spoke for three hours? Jeez

Did he describe his penis shape and size? I wonder what he was saying for 3 hours....

I have once been in the shoe of the guy,the lady told me that we can be friends for life,i got angry and walked out of the relationship,right now I make my intention know to any lady I like and I try as much as possible to have sex with her that same day I meet her, I don't give money to any lady without sex and I don't invest so much love in my relationship,i chop and go,these holes don't deserve nice guys,the just need guys to dick them hard, ever since I left the girl I have never feel any genuine love for any lady,all I feel is lust

highqueen:

sorry,Ihe dika gini??

Chai!!..Nwaoma ihughi mention mu few days ago
M juru GI si Na a agam abia O.town this month anyi nwere ike ihu?

CaptainG00D:

Chai!!..Nwaoma ihughi mention mu few days ago M juru GI si Na a agam abia O.town this month anyi nwere ike ihu?

lool,not certain of my move. ka anyi na eje.

U are the only reasonable guybon this thread, in short, in the whole of nairaland... Don't mind foolish boiz that will never learn.. Women are selfish beings that is how they were created, it will be foolishness to want to further enrich that greedbof theirs... The way it is with me now, I set the records straight, what I want, u give me, cool, IJ can't give me, I leave u and go my way, and u dare not come close, be use I'll block everything and delete everything about u from me... So that's how I roll now.. Funny enough, I happen to be getting nice females now, very lovely selfless females around me, because I have discarded the useless greedy things around me, and sieve the reasonable usefulones out.. Guys should learn to learn, girls are greedy bitches that worth nothing, don't give your all for them, cause they ll never appreciate.
I bet she doesn't like that guy because she feels he doesn't have enough cash, and maybe a car and good house , so. He can carry her foolish smelly prostituting ass around school.. Useless Girls everywhere.. She will most definitely be a runs girl sef, selling her pussy for money; it. Is their greedy ass that is characteristic of this kinda behaviours , stupid selfish girl..
Mtcheew!!!

nwachukwu9:
I have once been in the shoe of the guy,the lady told me that we can be friends for life,i got angry and walked out of the relationship,right now I make my intention know to any lady I like and I try as much as possible to have sex with her that same day I meet her, I don't give money to any lady without sex and I don't invest so much love in my relationship,i chop and go,these holes don't deserve nice guys,the just need guys to dick them hard, ever since I left the girl I have never feel any genuine love for any lady,all I feel is lust

highqueen:

lool,not certain of my move.
ka anyi na eje.

Hmm ok o,
Curving abi?

To me-I think u just found ur husband dear.. Please don't loose him.. He is indeed a real man. He will live to adore u all through his life time.

generationz:



please stop telling anybody everything about yourself. its dangerous.



aren't we told to marry our Best friends?



I see this as a result of your immaturity (no offense dear) you are still in the university , by the time you graduate and date more guys you'll realize that not all that glitters is gold.


There's a difference between an Hollywood movie script/ mills and boons novels and reality

this. my dear is reality


when a person becomes too available and ' too there' for us they become undesirable

The guy made a mistake in the art of seduction 101


Right now because of the love he has shown you and his over availability there's nothing left to the imagination again instead of seeing him as Romeo you see him as the elder brother you never had.

if a man can know all your trash and nonsense, good and bad , and after four years still say girl I love you then that man truly loves you.



tell me dear


his he ugly, perhaps you are attracted to handsome guys

his he short? perhaps you are attracted to tall guys

his he poor ? perhaps you are attracted to rich guys

his he soft ? perhaps you are attracted to bad guys.


during those four years has he had a girlfriend? because I know we ladies love guys who many
girls want for one reason or the other. its not our fault but a thing of genetics and desirability.




I know your dilemma . He doesn't fulfil your desire in a man.

Seriously how couldn't you see a guy likes you withing four years of knowing him. if its me within a few days of knowing someone I'll know if he likes me,is a players or doesn't even like me.


its in the words, the extra care, the eyes ,the body language etc.



please don't date anyone out of pity


with the time you are taking to think about it , change your thinking pattern . Ask for more time off if its possible. Tell him the time off is for you to make a sound judgement devoid of emotions.



maybe it will even be all through his exams and his final year project so he can focus on that.


not seeing him can make you desire him more.

now reconfigure your brain. start seeing him as a man you can spend your life with . think of how good he has been to you and compare him to your exes in each aspect. see him as desirable too.


If you both were lost on an island and he was the only man there for you to procreate with will you do it? your first reaction to this (in your brain) will tell if there's even a slim chance of being with him.

love isn't a mushy feeling o


love is in action. The mushy feeling you have for someone you just met is infatuations.

eg we love our parents a lot and appreciate them. that doesn't mean every time we see them we have butterflies in our bellies.


so to help yourself you must reconfigure your brain.


it would be a shame if after rejecting him you realize after many years that you should have accepted him and it's too late. I've heard too many stories like this.


trust me attraction is secondary when it comes to choosing a life partner.

the important things include

His spiritual life ( if you are spiritual)

can he take care of you (not only materially ,but emotionally and maybe spiritually ,)

his genotype

his family background . this is very important because if at the end of it all both families don't approve then relationship don scatter be dat. you must know if his family is one you can be married into.


If he ticks all these buttons please hold on to him o finding someone that meets everything like this is rare.

Too much sense will not kill you.

LordsApostle:
I bet she doesn't like that guy because she feels he doesn't have enough cash, and maybe a car and good house , so. He can carry her foolish smelly prostituting ass around school..
Mtcheew!!!

Your IQ tho



Just for clerification purpose

I bet she doesn't like that guy because she feels he doesn't have enough cash, and maybe a car and good house , so. He can carry her foolish smelly prostituting ass around school

The dude in question doesnt come from an average nor poor family talkless of not having enough cash or being broke in person, not everygirl you see is after the little change you feel you have in your pocket, besides he drives not one but two cars he may not have a home of his own but atleast his rented apartment is far from what you can ever dream of having if you continue with this mentality of yours

what am trying to say is that i grew up in an environment where am hardly move by all this trash you mentioned here if you like own an entire estate or garage of cars with all the money in the world if a girl doesnt love you she doesnt love you except you want the one called fake love please dont be decieved.

ritylove:
the only thing i feel here is pity i feel he wasted his time and resources on me but still i dont want loose a good friend

you are confusing me with all this ur talk I swear. Stay one place nah. Tell him biko so I can know his fate.

ritylove , kindly tell him you ain't interested anymore. Let the feelings die , everybody faces the emotional trauma, everyone dispatches and decamps., the wait for what the future beholds but in all, flee sexual Immorality

tunize:

you are confusing me with all this ur talk I swear. Stay one place nah. Tell him biko so I can know his fate.

I swear this small girl is just confusing everybody

ritylove:

Your IQ tho



Just for clerification purpose

I bet she doesn't like that guy because she feels he doesn't have enough cash, and maybe a car and good house , so. He can carry her foolish smelly prostituting ass around school
I know two you very well,I have always thought it get these but just know that there is God.I will remind you.....
The dude in question doesnt come from an average nor poor family talkless of not having enough cash or being broke in person, not everygirl you see is after the little change you feel you have in your pocket, besides he drives not one but two cars he may not have a home of his own but atleast his rented apartment is far from what you can ever dream of having if you continue with this mentality of yours

what am trying to say is that i grew up in an environment where am hardly move by all this trash you mentioned here if you like own an entire estate or garage of cars with all the money in the world if a girl doesnt love you she doesnt love you except you want the one called fake love please dont be decieved.

I know both of you too well,I have always thought it will get to these.I will remind you....

ritylove:
my major problem here is he knows am not into any serious relationship currently i dont have any excuse

Its not a reason to consider him; but since u guys has been friends, how many gfs has he had? if none, then u have to thread cautiously cos i have experienced that 1st hand and trust me u wont like d reaction.
Explain to him calmly that your friendship with him is more important to you that having a relationship with him which may end up tearing u guys apart.

Mrtitanic:
I swear this small girl is just confusing everybody

bros the thing nor get as e be.

tunize:

bros the thing nor get as e be.

she doesnt even know what she wants confused set of beings

oluwatodimu1:

Its not a reason to consider him; but since u guys has been friends, how many gfs has he had? if none, then u have to thread cautiously cos i have experienced that 1st hand and trust me u wont like d reaction.
Explain to him calmly that your friendship with him is more important to you that having a relationship with him which may end up tearing u guys apart.

You Bleep guys?

Admin401:

You Bleep guys?

Nope, i'll pass

oluwatodimu1:

Nope, i'll pass

Then what did you mean by the bolded?

how many gfs has he had? if none, then u have to thread cautiously cos i have experienced that 1st hand and trust me u wont like d reaction.

Admin401:

Then what did you mean by the bolded?

i witnessed a similar scenario; the guy attempted sucide

oluwatodimu1:

i witnessed a similar scenario; the guy attempted sucide

Wow. Thats rough.

ritylove:

Your IQ tho



Just for clerification purpose

I bet she doesn't like that guy because she feels he doesn't have enough cash, and maybe a car and good house , so. He can carry her foolish smelly prostituting ass around school

The dude in question doesnt come from an average nor poor family talkless of not having enough cash or being broke in person, not everygirl you see is after the little change you feel you have in your pocket, besides he drives not one but two cars he may not have a home of his own but atleast his rented apartment is far from what you can ever dream of having if you continue with this mentality of yours

what am trying to say is that i grew up in an environment where am hardly move by all this trash you mentioned here if you like own an entire estate or garage of cars with all the money in the world if a girl doesnt love you she doesnt love you except you want the one called fake love please dont be decieved.

.. So what exactly do you want in a man? He has all the good qualities yet you can't love him. Go search your soul,you re confused.

ritylove:
the only thing i feel here is pity i feel he wasted his time and resources on me but still i dont want loose a good friend

.. You re evil.You don't love him yet you allowed him waste all his time and resources on you.Stop all this you don't want to loose a gud friend,you re only scared that if he leaves you,all the goodies you get from him will be over. My advice,don't date him,wait until a woman beater handles you.

You know what... No one has an answer for you on this platform. Each with his or her own experience(s). But I'd advice you to either wait a while to see if you can grow to love him, or you both move on. To be candid, its important to go into a relationship with someone based on LOVE. If you agree to date him now out of pity, you will be doing him injustice because you wouldn't be entirely truthful to/with him. Saying NO because you do not share the same feeling as he does doesn't make you a bad person. Sit him down and talk, perhaps, this is the time you can really be of help to him....by being HONEST. Let him know your position. He'll hurt, YES, but in the long run, he'd come to appreciate that. A lot of people will tell you otherwise but babe, I'm saying this for a reason.....Nothing as good as dating/marrying for LOVE...for the right reasons