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Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by generationz(f): 3:01pm On Aug 11, 2018
iwatch:
who?
the new lady you call once in 50 years
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by nwachukwu9(m): 3:36pm On Aug 11, 2018
Op what was the outcome?this is the best thread I have read
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iwatch: 5:29pm On Aug 11, 2018
generationz:
the new lady you call once in 50 years
ok. She does not complain.
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by generationz(f): 5:59pm On Aug 11, 2018
iwatch:
ok. She does not complain.
maybe she dosent like you that much. if a lady loves you she will want to be around you or hear you more often. sorry
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iwatch: 6:48pm On Aug 11, 2018
generationz:
hmm no offence but I tend to be quite suspicious of people who tell me with their mouths that they are nice people ( bad experiences)

the truth is we can't be too careful
Just to correct something.. I don't go about telling someone I am nice. My actions is enough to do that and like they say, action speaks louder than words.

Technically speaking, if I was bad but claiming to be nice, the girl that called me recently wouldn't have called nor will the ex from years ago do everything such has wooing and offering sex. The ex from years back may not be desperate but the pain of not finding anything close to me. I mean, I was not selfish, never thought of solving her problem and expecting sex in return, never took advantage of her. We never had sex but other guys did all these and she saw I was the only one who gave genuinely and purely from the heart. She did beg me for everything she did.

I am also aware that women know who was good to them, the one that really love them, even though they often act unappreciative at the peak of their emotional outburst and anger with the nice guys... in their solitude, they reflect on this things. It doesn't matter if they have dated 100 guys, they know the one who really love them.

Also note, this has nothing to do with just girls cos I am not one of those guys who is ONLY good to girls. I know what a friend did to me when we were room mates in school; you know the way people treat you when it looks like you have no future because they judge you by current events and outlook (just as the ex from years back did) but God knows I had a type world view unknown to most people and I worked on my life using that (call it plan B).

So it happened that this former room mates needed to do his international passport with time running out for sealing a job with an oil company. Guess who made sure it didn't fail? the same me he had regarded as a redundant and hopeless person with no future while those he banked on failed him. I sent the money a week before the date he gave me. Since then, he changed the way he treats me.

My principle is, treat everyone equal (no one knows tomorrow) and it makes me a little servile in the process, not that I am stupid but I just love the feelings of making people happy. You don't need to thank me, the fact that you are happy and the smile on your face makes me feel unprecedented form of fulfillment that words can't explain.

However, I don't show this nice of me to every girl anymore... if a girl ever sees it, she should consider herself lucky but sadly, they often abuse it when they see it as such has been my experience.
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iwatch: 6:49pm On Aug 11, 2018
generationz:
maybe she dosent like you that much. if a lady loves you she will want to be around you or hear you more often. sorry
lol... she does like me. I saw it. Let's just say I am not really being emotionally invested like I used to...
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by generationz(f): 7:33pm On Aug 11, 2018
iwatch:
lol... she does like me. I saw it. Let's just say I am not really being emotionally invested like I used to...
OK if you say so
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by generationz(f): 7:39pm On Aug 11, 2018
iwatch:
Just to correct something.. I don't go about telling someone I am nice. My actions is enough to do that and like they say, action speaks louder than words.

Technically speaking, if I was bad but claiming to be nice, the girl that called me recently wouldn't have called nor will the ex from years ago do everything such has wooing and offering sex. The ex from years back may not be desperate but the pain of not finding anything close to me. I mean, I was not selfish, never thought of solving her problem and expecting sex in return, never took advantage of her. We never had sex but other guys did all these and she saw I was the only one who gave genuinely and purely from the heart. She did beg me for everything she did.

I am also aware that women know who was good to them, the one that really love them, even though they often act unappreciative at the peak of their emotional outburst and anger with the nice guys... in their solitude, they reflect on this things. It doesn't matter if they have dated 100 guys, they know the one who really love them.

Also note, this has nothing to do with just girls cos I am not one of those guys who is ONLY good to girls. I know what a friend did to me when we were room mates in school; you know the way people treat you when it looks like you have no future because they judge you by current events and outlook (just as the ex from years back did) but God knows I had a type world view unknown to most people and I worked on my life using that (call it plan B).

So it happened that this former room mates needed to do his international passport with time running out for sealing a job with an oil company. Guess who made sure it didn't fail? the same me he had regarded as a redundant and hopeless person with no future while those he banked on failed him. I sent the money a week before the date he gave me. Since then, he changed the way he treats me.

My principle is, treat everyone equal (no one knows tomorrow) and it makes me a little servile in the process, not that I am stupid but I just love the feelings of making people happy. You don't need to thank me, the fact that you are happy and the smile on your face makes me feel unprecedented form of fulfillment that words can't explain.

However, I don't show this nice of me to every girl anymore... if a girl ever sees it, she should consider herself lucky but sadly, they often abuse it when they see it as such has been my experience.
hmm quite long

but like I said earlier actions speak louder than words. even Adolf Hitler will tell you he is nice. I would even trust someone who says 'hey im not such a good person' than someone who's always saying ' I'm nice'


don't blame me I learnt the hard way.


just like I don't 100% believe what others say about another until I have one on one experience with you to judge your character


life also taught me this lesson


besides people change

you might have been nicer then when you were innocent ,but due to bad experiences become for example a player
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iwatch: 9:01pm On Aug 11, 2018
generationz:
hmm quite long

but like I said earlier actions speak louder than words. even Adolf Hitler will tell you he is nice. I would even trust someone who says 'hey im not such a good person' than someone who's always saying ' I'm nice'


don't blame me I learnt the hard way.


just like I don't 100% believe what others say about another until I have one on one experience with you to judge your character


life also taught me this lesson


besides people change

you might have been nicer then when you were innocent ,but due to bad experiences become for example a player
yeah, I did try to be a player at one time and yes, I have changed but what changed about me is that I don't give excessively anymore, only give a lady what I can afford to loss lol.
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by LordsApostle: 5:46am On Aug 12, 2018
generationz:
the new lady you call once in 50 years
PM me
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by DjClassik: 7:25am On Aug 12, 2018
lilmax:
from what I gathered from this crap

he's not very intelligent, during my days of this bestie thing, I used girls like tissue,they are so vurnerable.... but I don change grin



well now we know why girls are being treated like trash.....
and thats how they will use ur daughters like tissue papers
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by lilmax(m): 8:04am On Aug 12, 2018
DjClassik:
and thats how they will use ur daughters like tissue papers
of course, that's if they are dumb.....bestie fire

all you have to do is guide them as a father that's all by telling them they need to be independent financially and mentally

a wise girl knows the effect of any action , for example what exactly does she need a best friend for? a guy for that matter grin

so oga I'll guide them by giving them common sense... but if they fail to adhere to it, then they can be used till eternity grin not my fault but theirs

I'm no hypocrite, that's something you should understand

peace
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by dingbang(m): 12:52pm On Aug 12, 2018
You are a very wicked soul.
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by generationz(f): 12:53pm On Aug 12, 2018
LordsApostle:
PM me
for?
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Nobody: 1:45pm On Aug 12, 2018
ritylove:
I am a very gregarious or rather should i say a social individual,i keep alot of company but my actual real friends circle is pretty small,i actually never bought this male bestie of a thing from the onset because i felt it was thrash and irrelevant to me, i was satisfied with my girlfriends around,but during my 100 level in the university there was this particular guy i met then i was still a fresher i never knew much about the school he helped me alot with my clearance,getting a place to stay,showing me around school with alot of stuffs too numerous to mention here.

As time goes on suprisingly we started getting very close much more closer than i ever expected he was very nice and caring to me,sometimes he acts like my dad he is the only male friend i have who dares scold me in my wrong doings as time goes on before i could even realize it he was the closest to me among all my friends he was always there for me when i needed someone even when i dont he was there. We became so close i started confiding in him alot,i even told him stuffs i cant tell my mum we got so close he knows almost everything about me,everyone av dated,whom am dating,my breakups,my sex life,my kind of guy,my attitude towards dating,how i reason, even before saying something he has an idea of what am about to say,this guy knows my girlcode to the freaking core there is hardly anything i can hide from him,he has being of great assistance to me always forcing me to read my books and forget social medias,the truth is that he is the major reason for my drastic improvement academically, i was always at the receiving end,there is hardly anything i do for him yet he stayed i realized i needed him more than he needed me.


it all started few days ago as usual we just left from an eatery store heading back home he decided to drop by my place to charge his pc which he was using for his finals project work since there area had light issues,fast forward to when we got home there it goes we were talking as usual then all of a sudden he started saying stuffs how he feels about me all this while but only kept it to himself after hearing him speak for almost 3hours i was totally confused i didnt say anything i just starred at him the whole time till he finished ,noticing my silience he then asked me what i had to say about what i just heared,i had no idea on what to say i was totally confused i have never seen him this serious my entire life,in an attempt to escape the moment and look on his face i told him to give me sometime to dissolve all what i have heard after which he left.

Now am put in one of the most difficult situations i have ever being he is a very nice person,one of the nicest guys i have met yet he treats me better than anyone else, he treats me better than anyone am dating words can hardly explain i like him alot but i dont think i love or have any feelings or so for him this a guy who waited almost 4yrs to ask me out,a guy who knows me better than all my friends,i feel this guy knows too much and am scared he might use that against me one way or the other after all he has done for me i feel i owe him more, i cant look him in the eyes and tell him that i dont love him,i dont want to hurt his feelings and i dont want to loose him either cux he is my bestfriend i dont want to look like the bad person in front of everyone else but pleasing him here means displeasing myself i dont know what to do anymore cux i dont want to hurt anyones feeling, have being avoiding his calls and text cux i dont know what to say please i need a sincere and modest advice here what can i do in this situation i dont want anyones feelings getting hurt.
ur the biggest fool ever. Hoe
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iwatch: 3:42pm On Aug 12, 2018
generationz:
for?
ignore the troll
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by generationz(f): 3:46pm On Aug 12, 2018
iwatch:
ignore the troll
you know him?
very sick
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iwatch: 4:29pm On Aug 12, 2018
generationz:
you know him?
very sick
I don't know him nor care to.
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by DjClassik: 6:29pm On Aug 12, 2018
lilmax:
of course, that's if they are dumb.....bestie fire

all you have to do is guide them as a father that's all by telling them they need to be independent financially and mentally

a wise girl knows the effect of any action , for example what exactly does she need a best friend for? a guy for that matter grin

so oga I'll guide them by giving them common sense... but if they fail to adhere to it, then they can be used till eternity grin not my fault but theirs

I'm no hypocrite, that's something you should understand

peace
so does gals u bleeped are idiots rite?
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by lilmax(m): 6:53pm On Aug 12, 2018
DjClassik:
so does gals u bleeped are idiots rite?
ya
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by zyzxx(m): 3:07pm On Aug 13, 2018
ritylove:
you just said my mind even if i agree am afraid i might still end up hurting his feelings more after all his kindness but still you cant force love on someone
you dont no the reality of life yet, what is love? you think that feeling that is unstable ?

love is action my dear you have to face the reality and talk to yourself, finding a guy like him will be hard and you cant eat that love you are talking about ooo
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by nwachukwu9(m): 3:47pm On Aug 13, 2018
Rittylove what is the outcome?
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by McEphiks(m): 4:16pm On Aug 13, 2018
samysmoothfresh:
"............after hearing him speak for almost 3hours........"


babe that guy must really love you o..........................3 hours?..........................seriously?
........what did he say in particular that lasted almost 3hours?



"................he's the nicest guy i've ever met........"



this is why some ladies will forever remain dumb, heartbroken, frustrated and single
God has given you "the nicest guy you've ever met", instead of you to grab him now, you dey ask stupid question


later when you meet a yoruba demon, you'll (and your fellow women) start screaming and wailing "men are scum"



"...............this is a guy that waited 4yrs to ask me out......"


aunty, he is not a "guy" cos no real guy will wait 4yrs to ask a lady out


he,(your bestie) is simply a pùssy



".........he knows too much & might use it against me one way or......."



hahahahaha...........SMH



& lastly, this is a nice script / story.


where did you get it from?
Fada Laud. I wan die for laf
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by Blonchilli(m): 6:09pm On Aug 13, 2018
iwatch:
according to her dude has 2 cars. Stop this money bullshiiii. If a girl no love u, e no love u b that. She go just chop ur money and give another guy the pussies without collecting 2naira
True though
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by swaggprofessor(m): 6:23pm On Aug 13, 2018
iLegendd:
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Today, I decided to check it out. Thank God I did. Everyone is trying to proffer you a solution, but all I'm thinking is how we can turn this thread to a book that will help men and women scape this predicament.

This is an opportunity for you to become an author and make money from your story. If you're interested, privately let me know. Have a nice day.
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Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by swaggprofessor(m): 6:42pm On Aug 13, 2018
generationz:
hmm quite long

but like I said earlier actions speak louder than words. even Adolf Hitler will tell you he is nice. I would even trust someone who says 'hey im not such a good person' than someone who's always saying ' I'm nice'


don't blame me I learnt the hard way.


just like I don't 100% believe what others say about another until I have one on one experience with you to judge your character


life also taught me this lesson


besides people change

you might have been nicer then when you were innocent ,but due to bad experiences become for example a player
Its obvious u r falling for dis nigga cos u r secretly highlighting some of his qualities n then like d comment above u r asking implied questions so his answers can help u best understand his person. But pls carry d romance comot for hai, make una chat privately biko i don tire to read una long nonsense.... Mtcheeeewwwwww
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by iLegendd(m): 7:33pm On Aug 13, 2018
swaggprofessor:
I am interested in making money from stories. chat me up on whatsapp with dis number
Yes, Boss. I'm about to send you 200 messages.

Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by prettysassygirl(f): 7:41pm On Aug 13, 2018
Just try dear,best friends love always lasts till the end,open up your heart,u just might fall deeply for him.
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by generationz(f): 8:40pm On Aug 13, 2018
swaggprofessor:
Its obvious u r falling for dis nigga cos u r secretly highlighting some of his qualities n then like d comment above u r asking implied questions so his answers can help u best understand his person. But pls carry d romance comot for hai, make una chat privately biko i don tire to read una long nonsense.... Mtcheeeewwwwww
I hope you mentioned him too because I'm obviously not talking to myself.
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by swaggprofessor(m): 9:29pm On Aug 13, 2018
generationz:
I hope you mentioned him too because I'm obviously not talking to myself.
N u obviously agree that u r falling.....
Re: My Bestie Is Now Asking Me Out by generationz(f): 9:41pm On Aug 13, 2018
swaggprofessor:
N u obviously agree that u r falling.....
lovedoctor ,

falling for someone I haven't met in person naa
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