aragon4realz:
I met this girl 4years back and one thing led to another and we started a relationship,things has been pretty well and we love each other very much,we have our ups and down but we makeup for it.I love her so much I could do anything for her and she love me too in her own special kind of way.
the problem now is that am planning on proposing to her in a couple of weeks,I even stylishly measured her ring size and I have been visiting some jewelry stores to pick the perfect ring for her and also planning some surprise engagement party/get together for her but the thing is that she hates my church (catholic),she is Anglican by birth but she attends one of the pentecostal churches which I don't want to mention,
we have been talking about this church of a thing for the past 3months now and she has sworn never to get married in the Catholic Church and I can't leave my church because of this I even stopped talking or texting her for some couple of days now but today she texted me saying that "I should do this one thing for her by leaving my church" and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.
am just confused,what shall I do,I need help

A lady doesn't have a church until after marriage. Do not accept to change your church to her own church before she agrees to marry you. It just doesn't make any sense. The only solution now is to apply flexibility and she also must be willing to.adjust to make it happen if she truly loves you as she claims.

My advice: Both of you should leave your churches to a different one. You as a Catholic can and she as a pentecostal can decide one church to attend. That's the best you can do and anything contrary to this is not right at all.

Again, do not accept to leave your church to join her own ooo. If you do so, then you are a real pussy man.

stiffmeister:
I understand her reasons... she must have tasted what it is to be religious and be kingdom minded. she don't want a cold kinda faith in her approach to supremacy. Catholicism is not what she wants... coz she has attain a level of spirituality that she has known the attributes and fundamentals of serving God. Catholic is an orthodox church which still believe in dieties and mediatorships... in marriage spirituality matters most.

When bigotry is wedded to ignorance the inevitable consequence is the product of your baseless diatribe. Again, your lame and dismal description of Catholic Church shows you don't possess the faintest idea of what church teaches. Yes, Catholic Church has a different style of worship which unfortunately irks many pentecostals, and actuates them to make unguarded and unfounded comments about what they barely understand. In the Catholic Church, Jesus is the chief cornerstone and the symbol of highest veneration. Take it from me, we worship Jesus and Jesus alone. You merely joined the bandwagon that traffics ignorance and hatred. A lady you purportedly invested with the claim of "high spiritually" has been in relationship four year which involves sexual intercourse, yet she has "higher spiritual" rating because she worships in a different church, other than Catholic Church. Don't mistake noisemaking and shouting as the only prerequisite for knowing a true Christian and effective means of evangelization. Jesus didn't use these methods during His earthly mission. We have very few orthodox churches today with an unremitting mushrooming of pentecostal churches that claim to possess the ideal way to make heaven, yet we are inundated with societal ills of epic proportions, some of which are perpetrated in churches. If Pentecostalism is the answer as you erroneously claim, salvation gospel which was ordained by Christ and not prosperity gospel, will be their fundamental doctrine. In all this needless fanaticism, I believe that my faith in Christ Jesus, accompany with my good deeds are the only valid visa to secure heaven. Thank you.

2buffagain:

The pope will soon be revealed as the false prophet of revelations...

something tells me to second this sh:t

aragon4realz:

it's not always about the s3x...it's all about compatibility and commitment...but the truth is I can't give up my church for her, she should be the one doing that for me

some once told me "if both of you cannot agree on a simple thing as where to worship, how re you going to agree on bigger situations in future? " it's obvious you two re not meant for each other... so take a walk.

Hmmm religion is a very dicey and sensitive issue that can make or mar a relationship.Let me say this your faith in God is not determined by which ever denomination you go to.That been said the Young man should be wary of what he is getting himself into.This condition that she is giving is being masked under church by the time the real implication of what she is trying to do manifest she would have roped him into marriage.Then manipulation will be in full swing

l am moved to say this though l am shocked at some of the comments l am seeing.Please do not just engage in the vogue of calling anyone from any other denomination an unbeliever.It does not show spiritual maturity

The church you are going does not define you in your in faith in God it is you yourself because when you stand before your maker he will not ask which church do you go to.

sacramento1212:

A lady doesn't have a church until after marriage. Do not accept to change your church to her own church before she agrees to marry you. It just doesn't make any sense. The only solution now is to apply flexibility and she also must be willing to.adjust to make it happen if she truly loves you as she claims.
My advice: Both of you should leave your churches to a different one. You as a Catholic can and she as a pentecostal can decide one church to attend. That's the best you can do and anything contrary to this is not right at all.
Again, do not accept to leave your church to join her own ooo. If you do so, then you are a real pussy man.

Hmm l see wisdom here

It is a good thing that she is leting you know all this before you walk into the lifetime trap.if you can't convince her to to change her opinion and you are not willing to change you religion then it is better you walk away .there is always another good girl you can love.

aragon4realz:

it's not always about the s3x...it's all about compatibility and commitment...but the truth is I can't give up my church for her, she should be the one doing that for me

or you guys can have a mixed marriage.


a middle ground is always possible, it is hard but possible.

2buffagain:
Why do you people get into marriage-focused relationships that you have no intentions of finalizing properly?

Catholicism is a religion.
Pentecostalism is too, but it is less a typical religion like Catholicism, which relies on too many peganistic traditions that put Christ on the sideline.

Catholicism is a dangerous thing to be into in these last days.
Come out of it.



@bolded. Can you imagine? Case in point...

again be informed.


nothing pagan in Catholicism

Auladimeji:
I will advise her not to accept your proposal.She shouldn't be equally yoke with unbelievers(Catholic; You guys worship images)

Catholics are not unbelievers and they don't worship images.


be informed about something before stereotyping people in ignorance

Ubenedictus:
Catholics are not unbelievers and they don't worship images.


be informed about something before stereotyping people in ignorance

you said it all

Ubenedictus:
again be informed.


nothing pagan in Catholicism

I am very much informed.
"Through Mary we succeed"...Why not just make up your minds and call yourselves Marians instead of Christians.

Anyway not gonna involve in a religious fight though. That yields nothing.

is it a must for you guys to attend same church after marriage? my parents have never attended same church, even the kids

mrblessed:
When bigotry is wedded to ignorance the inevitable consequence is the product of your baseless diatribe. Again, your lame and dismal description of Catholic Church shows you don't possess the faintest idea of what church teaches. Yes, Catholic Church has a different style of worship which unfortunately irks many pentecostals, and actuates them to make unguarded and unfounded comments about what they barely understand. In the Catholic Church, Jesus is the chief cornerstone and the symbol of highest veneration. Take it from me, we worship Jesus and Jesus alone. You merely joined the bandwagon that traffics ignorance and hatred. A lady you purportedly invested with the claim of "high spiritually" has been in relationship four year which involves sexual intercourse, yet she has "higher spiritual" rating because she worships in a different church, other than Catholic Church. Don't mistake noisemaking and shouting as the only prerequisite for knowing a true Christian and effective means of evangelization. Jesus didn't use these methods during His earthly mission. We have very few orthodox churches today with an unremitting mushrooming of pentecostal churches that claim to possess the ideal way to make heaven, yet we are inundated with societal ills of epic proportions, some of which are perpetrated in churches. If Pentecostalism is the answer as you erroneously claim, salvation gospel which was ordained by Christ and not prosperity gospel, will be their fundamental doctrine. In all this needless fanaticism, I believe that my faith in Christ Jesus, accompany with my good deeds are the only valid visa to secure heaven. Thank you.

Honestly, no church denomination is perfect, and every denomination is basically its own religion at this point. that is why religion itself is a cancer. Jesus Christ is above religion. Today we have churches that the Holy Spirit hasn't even been in since 1998. Just people going through the motions and entertaining or carrying out man-made traditions.

It is also unfortunate that pentecostal church has now been thought to mean prosperity church.
The prosperity church should honestly be another denomination on it's own as much of it was spawned by a subtle greed that grew into an idolization of material success.

The catholic church? It evidently has an issue with idols period. Whoever discounts this is just defending culture/tradition, not scripture. God was firm when he expressed He doesn't want idols made of Him or anything in heaven. You don't know what he looks like, neither do you know what Mary looks like...but you just do all that because that's what your church leaders tell you to do...in stalwart defiance of what God dictated. You haven't gone into the bible for yourself to let the holy spirit teach you, by himself, what is expected of you and things to avoid. For one of many examples... if you guys were truly in truth, marriage for priests would be a choice not a mandate to desist (1 Timothy 4:3). You hear the news everyday what that does to these men...

Whatever floats your boats sha, just know that there is a thin line between doing it right and doing it very very wrong with all these churches....and as the last days come to an end...that line gets ever thinner.

As a christian, your paramount concern is not religion...but your personal relationship with God through Christ Jesus. The Holy Spirit will tell you where you need to go when you detach your soul from religionism and yield only to His instruction.
Those who rely on "church crowd", "My pastor/pope says so", etc in these last days will be gravely disappointed when what's coming hits us.
Jesus himself warned of this.
We will have no-one to blame because our pastor cannot answer for us when that day gets real.
So we owe it to ourselves to strip our religious egos/titles/relationships from all this, seek truth SOLO from God's word, and then apply anew as if we knew nothing before.

2buffagain:



I am very much informed.
"Through Mary we succeed"...Why not just make up your minds and call yourselves Marians instead of Christians.

Anyway not gonna involve in a religious fight though. That yields nothing.

mariology is part and parcel of Christian theology, it is funny you seem ignorant of this.


Catholic women are expected to imitate the example of Mary in motherhood, of course though her example and prayers they succeed.

that greeting is used by the Catholic women not even the whole church.

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mezarddinny:
is it a must for you guys to attend same church after marriage? my parents have never attended same church, even the kids

It adds a nice binding effect to the home.

The goal of the kids is to leave the house eventually so naturally I wouldn't care what church they decide to go when they become of age...as long as they stay in the WORD and guided by SPIRIT.

aragon4realz:
I met this girl 4years back and one thing led to another and we started a relationship,things has been pretty well and we love each other very much,we have our ups and down but we makeup for it.I love her so much I could do anything for her and she love me too in her own special kind of way.
the problem now is that am planning on proposing to her in a couple of weeks,I even stylishly measured her ring size and I have been visiting some jewelry stores to pick the perfect ring for her and also planning some surprise engagement party/get together for her but the thing is that she hates my church (catholic),she is Anglican by birth but she attends one of the pentecostal churches which I don't want to mention,
we have been talking about this church of a thing for the past 3months now and she has sworn never to get married in the Catholic Church and I can't leave my church because of this I even stopped talking or texting her for some couple of days now but today she texted me saying that "I should do this one thing for her by leaving my church" and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.
am just confused,what shall I do,I need help

Whats the big deal with the church u both attend anyway I am beginning to feel both of u don't love each other that much as u say because if u do u will both come to a compromise.. I guess u were born into the catholic faith while she probably was born an Anglican. So this is what u should do since ur both trying to build a home together leave ur family churches & decide on a place where both of u can truly worship together.

If that idea no work bros abeg leave church wedding ro tradition... No be force to wear suit & tie.
Me am still looking for that girl when put honey for my mouth say make i no lick am....

Elayna!!!

dairykidd:

Whats the big deal with the church u both attend anyway I am beginning to feel both of u don't love each other that much as u say because if u do u will both come to a compromise.. I guess u were born into the catholic faith while she probably was born an Anglican. So this is what u should do since ur both trying to build a home together leave ur family churches & decide on a place where both of u can truly worship together.

If that idea no work bros abeg leave church wedding ro tradition... No be force to wear suit & tie.
Me am still looking for that girl when put honey for my mouth say make i no lick am....

Elayna!!!

It goes beyond a place of worship.
These people basically have different belief systems.
Not as different as christian vs muslim...but different enough still to cause core rifts.

As much as our beliefs are somehow attuned to true christianity (denominations are weird), I would hate if my wife was a catholic and felt the need to start putting up shrines to Mary in my house because that is what her denomination says she should do. That simply won't fly with me...

So it is wise that they check it now before getting into a union of fights.

Love and religion...greastest scam of all time,infact politicians dey learn work for where love and religion dey.

2buffagain:


It goes beyond a place of worship.
These people basically have different belief systems.
Not as different as christian vs muslim...but different enough still to cause core rifts.

As much as our beliefs are somehow attuned to true christianity (denominations are weird), I would hate if my wife was a catholic and felt the need to start putting up shrines to Mary in my house because that is what her denomination says she should do. That simply won't fly with me...

So it is wise that they check it now before getting into a union of fights.

True hence i suggested they come to a compromise by having a common place of worship.. I don't see how else they can avoid the friction which is already building

Lalasticlala...another story for your attention

dairykidd:


True hence i suggested they come to a compromise by having a common place of worship.. I don't see how else they can avoid the friction which is already building

They can avoid it by calling it off.
Some fights are just not worth getting into. You can go into a fight of preference, not a fight of core belief.
It's almost like marrying an Ifa worshipper if idols and shrines are gonna be around the house. It's just not happening.

Unfortunately they didn't start this conversation early enough in their relationship and address the various elephants in the room until 4 years later.

I feel they were just not dating with marriage in mind, just fun or convenience.
They are now just getting to the age where they think of marriage, hence the revelation that they are heading diff directions.
In which case, best they break it off and go find more compatible matches.

That people mindlessly dated for years is no guarantee that they should end up marrying each other.

2buffagain:


They can avoid it by calling it off.
Some fights are just not worth getting into. You can go into a fight of preference, not a fight of core belief.
It's almost like marrying an Ifa worshipper if idols and shrines are gonna be around the house. It's just not happening.

Unfortunately they didn't start this conversation early enough in their relationship and address the various elephants in the room until 4 years later.

I feel they were just not dating with marriage in mind, just fun or convenience.
They are now just getting to the age where they think of marriage, hence the revelation that they are heading diff directions.
In which case, best they break it off and go find more compatible matches.

That people mindlessly dated for years is no guarantee that they should end up marrying each other.

Yeah u are right though.. Its probably best they go separate ways

Make I just comment

2buffagain:


It adds a nice binding effect to the home.

The goal of the kids is to leave the house eventually so naturally I wouldn't care what church they decide to go when they become of age...as long as they stay in the WORD and guided by SPIRIT.

what binding effect abeg?


the importance nigerians give to church is sickening, going to same church has not been proven to prevent cheating or divorce, the wife fit dey gbensh pastor sef, at op, you better don't let one church that can scatter in a day break your relationship


is it not same God you people claim you are serving?

aragon4realz:

it's not always about the s3x...it's all about compatibility and commitment...but the truth is I can't give up my church for her, she should be the one doing that for me

. Gbam you are the man and the head so she should join you.

OK

zinnydan:
She doesn't love you,unless she attends jw

Why only jw?

Look for another girl then.