Thank God you are not a Muslim. From my own experience, if you are sure she does not want to continue. Let her go, never beg anyone to be in your life.

Malawian:


John 19:25-27

In case, you weren't following, the "Mother" in that episode was still the same Virgin Mary.

We Catholics can't come and disobey Christ.

The Virgin Mary been referred in the Bible is quite different from what the Catholic Church made up.


When you’re more into been religious rather than serving God in Spirit and in Truth ,this what happens.

aragon4realz:
I met this girl 4years back and one thing led to another and we started a relationship, things have been pretty well and we love each other very much, we have our ups and down but we makeup for it. I love her so much I could do anything for her and she loves me too in her own special kind of way.

The problem now is that am planning on proposing to her in a couple of weeks, I even stylishly measured her ring size and I have been visiting some jewelry stores to pick the perfect ring for her and also planning some surprise engagement party/get together for her but the thing is that she hates my church (catholic).

She is Anglican by birth but she attends one of the pentecostal churches which I don't want to mention,
we have been talking about this church of a thing for the past 3 months now and she has sworn never to get married in the Catholic Church and I can't leave my church because of this.

I even stopped talking or texting her for some couple of days now but today she texted me saying that "I should do this one thing for her by leaving my church" and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.

Am just confused, what shall I do? I need help

I have been from both Catholic and Pentecostal and these to churches have entirely different modes of worship maybe very few similarities and it can be an issue for sm.

I believe she dated u hoping u will love her enough to see it her way. She clearly knows u love her more than she loves u bt that's not a bad thing if u guys can be objective and nobody takes advantage of the other.

I dont think any body shud be forced or given conditions to leave his or her church for the other when u clearly met them there b4 dating. It shud be by free will and with time if the person feels so. U guys shud try visiting each other's churches and see bt soon or later sm1 will have to compromise to make things work perfectly.

Going to different churches it not a big deal even or else what will u say for couples with different religions like Muslim and Christian.

I was once in similar situation, at d end we parted ways cos I can't leave the catholic church for any reasons, the lady in question I ran into last yr, guess what she is still not yet married, and I asked her if she will married a catholic nw, she said ofcourse yes that ladies don't hv church untill they are married. My advice is move on if she is not ready to switch,

aragon4realz:
I met this girl 4years back and one thing led to another and we started a relationship, things have been pretty well and we love each other very much, we have our ups and down but we makeup for it. I love her so much I could do anything for her and she loves me too in her own special kind of way.

The problem now is that am planning on proposing to her in a couple of weeks, I even stylishly measured her ring size and I have been visiting some jewelry stores to pick the perfect ring for her and also planning some surprise engagement party/get together for her but the thing is that she hates my church (catholic).

She is Anglican by birth but she attends one of the pentecostal churches which I don't want to mention,
we have been talking about this church of a thing for the past 3 months now and she has sworn never to get married in the Catholic Church and I can't leave my church because of this.

I even stopped talking or texting her for some couple of days now but today she texted me saying that "I should do this one thing for her by leaving my church" and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.

Am just confused, what shall I do? I need help

You should have anticipated this before you go this far. If care is not taking and you go ahead marrying her you may have a divided home. She left her mother church,Anglican for a Pentecostal. She can never go back to Catholic.But is there no ladies in Catholic again to marry ? I believe you WL flow better in marriage if you are of same background.
Best of luck.

In case you are still reading OP,... Ignorance is not just a disease, it's a terrible one. Church will take no one to heaven, your life style and works will determine where your soul ends. I don't believe all none christians are going to hell even... God doesn't create to destroy. Therefore, if someone you love is too determined to dump you because of your faith, don't fight it, explain the much you can and gentle walk away if it doesn't work. In all honesty, if she can't accept you because you attend a particular church, get ready for other things she will not accept when you are married. If she steer you now, she will do it again. That doesn't mean you can't take advice from your woman, but not a condition or threat. A man marries a woman, not the other way round. If you were a woman, same would apply to you. My wife was a catholic before I married her, and two of my sisters are happily married to catholic men. A stitch in time saves nine. Talk n take a bow!

Three years ago I met a girl from my ethnic group who had a problem with my church (catholic too). She told me point blank that she couldn't marry me because of that because she can never be a Catholic. Me too as a full bred Catholic with perfect understanding of my faith, I cannot be a winner or any other pentecostal denomination. I let her go. She has an igbo Last name now and is sending me friend request on FB. My point: women are VERY manipulative by nature (especially Nigerian ones). If they get a yard on you by changing a very fundamental part of you like your faith, then you are in for a long life of bending everything you believe in. "Woman no dey get church" is a popular saying in Nigeria UNLESS you meet a man who doesn't have any spiritual convictions yet. My eldest sister married outside the church, and she is a deaconess today, her life, her choice (based on convention).

LET HER GO, SHE ISN'T WORTH THE STRESS AFTERALL!

I don't blame your girl, Catholic church is scary now and pope Francis will soon resign. But you shouldn't leave your church for her own. What people do is, you both leave your churches and start going to a brand new church just as you both have to move out of where you live and get a new house together.

aiboss:
In case you are still reading OP,... Ignorance is not just a disease, it's a terrible one. Church will take no one to heaven, your life style and works will determine where your soul ends. I don't believe all none christians are going to hell even... God doesn't create to destroy. Therefore, if someone you love is too determined to dump you because of your faith, don't fight it, explain the much you can and gentle walk away if it doesn't work. In all honesty, if she can't accept you because you attend a particular church, get ready for other things she will not accept when you are married. If she steer you now, she will do it again. That doesn't mean you can't take advice from your woman, but not a condition or threat. A man marries a woman, not the other way round. If you were a woman, same would apply to you. My wife was a catholic before I married her, and two of my sisters are happily married to catholic men. A stitch in time saves nine. Talk n take a bow!

God bless you sir.

A deja vu feeling for me. I found myself in this same situation 2 yrs ago. However, I was willing to leave my Catholic faith for her Pentecostal glory, yet it wasn't enough for her.
My advise...Bro do not waiver, cos if u do she will find fault elsewhere to end the rlship.

allanphash7:
How about an atheist?




Can you marry one?

A resounding No, I cant wrap my head around why someone would think there is no God when He shows Himself to us everyday in different ways.

aragon4realz:
I met this girl 4years back and one thing led to another and we started a relationship, things have been pretty well and we love each other very much, we have our ups and down but we makeup for it. I love her so much I could do anything for her and she loves me too in her own special kind of way.

The problem now is that am planning on proposing to her in a couple of weeks, I even stylishly measured her ring size and I have been visiting some jewelry stores to pick the perfect ring for her and also planning some surprise engagement party/get together for her but the thing is that she hates my church (catholic).

She is Anglican by birth but she attends one of the pentecostal churches which I don't want to mention,
we have been talking about this church of a thing for the past 3 months now and she has sworn never to get married in the Catholic Church and I can't leave my church because of this.

I even stopped talking or texting her for some couple of days now but today she texted me saying that "I should do this one thing for her by leaving my church" and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.

Am just confused, what shall I do? I need help

why can’t u both attend different churches,, it’s the same belief at the end of the day,, just the environment n doctrine!! U both hv to come to a compromise, but if she insist then u hv to let her go!! No be only her do church pass!!

This whole rift about the catholic churh doctrines (based on her knowledge) shld not be a problem. They are many people in the catholic church who wil make heaven compared to those in the anglican/pentecostal. Christainity is wat u make out of it. My family church is methodist and gradually entered into pentecostalism.my husband is catholic, i didnt have problems with that, some of d doctrines in methodist church are similar to catholic church.my mums family church is catholic and she advised me to stick to my husbands church and get myself attached to the charismatic arm of the church, catholic biblical instructors etc. Yes, most catnolic churches have these organisations right in the church premises. She can join those arms of the church, yet strengthen her faith in her beliefs.
We are all worshipping or serving one and same GOD. A place of worship shld not be the bone of contention when raising a home. My thoughts though

NotNairalandi:
hahahaha...bro wait a minute, are you referring to Adaeze?

lol...not really

Then find ur Catholic member. Since love is all about church. Both of u are stupid and inmature abeg spare us this shit talk.

candygirl4real:
This whole rift about the catholic churh doctrines (based on her knowledge) shld not be a problem. They are many people in the catholic church who wil make heaven compared to those in the anglican/pentecostal. Christainity is wat u make out of it. My family church is methodist and gradually entered into pentecostalism.my husband is catholic, i didnt have problems with that, some of d doctrines in methodist church are similar to catholic church.my mums family church is catholic and she advised me to stick to my husbands church and get myself attached to the charismatic arm of the church, catholic biblical instructors etc. Yes, most catnolic churches have these organisations right in the church premises. She can join those arms of the church, yet strengthen her faith in her beliefs.
We are all worshipping or serving one and same GOD. A place of worship shld not be the bone of contention when raising a home. My thoughts though

lol pure nonsense

Hw it take concerns us....
Face ur warrant

HRHQueenPhil:
i have d same stance for catholic church, dat lady is a real christian..if u dont stand for something, u fall for anything.do u know i went to mulumba and david cath. church on invite and the moderator was reminding dem of a youth thing dey are having saying comedians and whiz kid is coming..dey shld buy tickets.. whiz kid in church..and chanting THRU mary our mother, we succeed..i agree with ur future wife, i hope u will wake up

very dumb advise.

Menzy86:
Three years ago I met a girl from my ethnic group who had a problem with my church (catholic too). She told me point blank that she couldn't marry me because of that because she can never be a Catholic. Me too as a full bred Catholic with perfect understanding of my faith, I cannot be a winner or any other pentecostal denomination. I let her go. She has an igbo Last name now and is sending me friend request on FB. My point: women are VERY manipulative by nature (especially Nigerian ones). If they get a yard on you by changing a very fundamental part of you like your faith, then you are in for a long life of bending everything you believe in. "Woman no dey get church" is a popular saying in Nigeria UNLESS you meet a man who doesn't have any spiritual convictions yet. My eldest sister married outside the church, and she is a deaconess today, her life, her choice (based on convention).

LET HER GO, SHE ISN'T WORTH THE STRESS AFTERALL!

u said it right. See me oo. Is she a gold?

oyejideogunjumo:
You should have anticipated this before you go this far. If care is not taking and you go ahead marrying her you may have a divided home. She left her mother church,Anglican for a Pentecostal. She can never go back to Catholic.But is there no ladies in Catholic again to marry ? I believe you WL flow better in marriage if you are of same background.
Best of luck.

she is likely to dance from one church to another in nearest future.

Shugavee:
why can’t u both attend different churches,, it’s the same belief at the end of the day,, just the environment n doctrine!! U both hv to come to a compromise, but if she insist then u hv to let her go!! No be only her do church pass!!

they can't pray together and they say family that prays together stays together. So they would be division.

oyejideogunjumo:
You should have anticipated this before you go this far. If care is not taking and you go ahead marrying her you may have a divided home. She left her mother church,Anglican for a Pentecostal. She can never go back to Catholic.But is there no ladies in Catholic again to marry ? I believe you WL flow better in marriage if you are of same background.
Best of luck.

you don't choose who to love...fate does that to you

Slamjamz22:


Bros so na church wan spoil una happiness.... We are really taking this religion thing too far...���

see me see trouble oh...some way I don arrange finish, church wan come scatter am,I don tire oh

my dear I blame u for 4 yrs didn't u see d signs dat she won't leave her church for u Am born Anglican married to Catholic don't just ordinary Anglican but strong one if is to be Catholic na Rev. sister I go be but wen my husband came he knew my faith in Anglican he told me ' nnem I will wed u in Anglican church but can't go to Anglican with u, u r free to go but not me,' my husband younger sister is a Rev sister for u to know he came from strong Catholic too but I asked him if anything will happen if he weds in Anglican church he said he will stop holy communion. d love I have for him is greater Dan any church an I couldn't love where I will go dis church while my husband will go another wen d kids coming nko? so I converted to Catholic today I still goes to faith clinic in Anglican church but am a Catholic. by now make up ur mind on what to do. let her go she is crushing on one brother in her church

Find another wife brother. And don't try to convince her because it's useless, in the end you will regret it. Same thing happened to me. My wife was pentecostal and I am Catholic. She is a staunch hater of Catholic church. She reluctantly accepted my proposal after many begging. The decision which i'm still regretting today. Because after our wedding, I realised that she never loved me but her believe. Leave that girl and find a woman who will accept you and ur believes.

herich:

From emekuku down to mbaise, are 95% Catholic.
If Anglicans, assemblies of God's church and other few churches, in that area, tell you wetin them use their eye see in those days,,, in the hands of
their brothers, sisters, uncles, fathers.(Catholic) before they were able to succeed.

Which means I'm saying the truth,abi?

allanphash7:
Can you tell me that thing which is greater than LOVE?





If none the she doesn't love you for real because if she does love you she won't choose her faith over a fuvcking faith



Love is the real GOAT




Faith/Religion just dash your hipe on someone/something that gives you happiness




I vigorously SMH when i read things like this because people of religious faith are so myopic



Fuvck religion..... Fuvck faith






Really angry on you both

you should be

chiommy123:
I think that lady really loves you and not just that she also cares for your soul. You will be making a dangerous mistake by leaving her

another dumb advice

aiboss:
In case you are still reading OP,... Ignorance is not just a disease, it's a terrible one. Church will take no one to heaven, your life style and works will determine where your soul ends. I don't believe all none christians are going to hell even... God doesn't create to destroy. Therefore, if someone you love is too determined to dump you because of your faith, don't fight it, explain the much you can and gentle walk away if it doesn't work. In all honesty, if she can't accept you because you attend a particular church, get ready for other things she will not accept when you are married. If she steer you now, she will do it again. That doesn't mean you can't take advice from your woman, but not a condition or threat. A man marries a woman, not the other way round. If you were a woman, same would apply to you. My wife was a catholic before I married her, and two of my sisters are happily married to catholic men. A stitch in time saves nine. Talk n take a bow!

this is my biggest problem right now so am still reading....this is one of the best advice I have received thanks...I will go ahead and propose to her and also make it clear that we will be wedding in the Catholic Church when the time comes,if she says no,I move on

Love conquers all. But it seems your love for each other does not. Look for someone else.

Why should she give up her church for you when you can't do same for her? That's really selfish and this may be the reason why she wants to leave you.

aragon4realz:

it's not always about the s3x...it's all about compatibility and commitment...but the truth is I can't give up my church for her, she should be the one doing that for me

aragon4realz:
and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.

why be confused? You already have the answer to your planned proposal. Better save up the money for ring and party for someone whom you guys align your difference quite easily with. Incase you don't know, this church thing is just the starting point of your differences and once you guys get married, more stuff like this will crop up and it will really be one hell of a problem to be in