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Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by vizkiz: 8:14am On Sep 24, 2018 |
chiommy123: You sound like a liability. Saying "because she isn't working" is a very dumb thing. 6 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Lovelypet28: 8:53am On Sep 24, 2018 |
EVILFOREST:My brother have been to one of those countries you just mentioned and trust me they have STAY HOME mums,they cook clean and take good care of the children while the man works,FULL TIME HOUSE WIVES,the only difference is that the family gets huge benefits from the government so the running of the home is not much of a burden for the man of the house so please dont have the impression THEY are all working women,some are still very traditional,look most nigerian men are just lazy,if you cant keep a home,Bleep it dont get married,please dont get married and be expecting assistance from your wife,dont expect it,if you married a sensible wife she knows the role she is meant to play,but dont bank on it, RENT,FEEDING YOUR CHILDREN,SCHOOL FEES should not even be in dispute,you shouldnt expect your wife to even attempt paying for those. Let me tell you a secret my old uncles and even my dad were discussing and said these new generation of men are chickens,no balls,they are not MEN. 6 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Daeylar(f): 8:55am On Sep 24, 2018 |
sassysure:Yeah I agree with you on that, some or maybe few men have the kind of mindset you outlined above, I really don't think that's why all men who live that way do so, some may just not mind taking care of their woman and have no self esteem issues. . Lol, I don't know about them, |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Oyindidi(f): 9:11am On Sep 24, 2018 |
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Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by itsCornie(f): 9:20am On Sep 24, 2018 |
teekay213: Good one,I was about asking same...smh mad ppl everywhere |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by SURElee(f): 9:20am On Sep 24, 2018 |
i Jasen1: eh! Simply give her money to go back to her parents house. why will a lady even leave her family to go co habit with a man sef? Na Africa we dey and we are Africans. Dont give her money to rent a house o! If you do that, and the rent expires, she will come back to you. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by generationz(f): 9:30am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Acidosis: so in other words you are comfortable with a full time house wife? you will never allow nannies and house helps in your home? |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by romenna: 10:10am On Sep 24, 2018 |
chiommy123:the lady is not a wife material, why wait for anoda person to make u get serious in life? 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by anaton(m): 10:17am On Sep 24, 2018 |
ritylove: Nne your nose no be here o! |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by donblade85555(m): 10:23am On Sep 24, 2018 |
emeijeh: only u 1464 likes 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:26am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Girls and backyard marriage! A friend was in a similar situation, this girl have been in his house since November. In July, I had to go to his house to tell the babe that she is excess to requirements to my guy and he wasn't find it funny anymore. She cried but she had to leave! My man, you have to be assertive in your decision except you are comfortable with her presence... 4 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Loversminds: 10:35am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Space is important in a relationship. It normal for you to feel that way, because it also happens between legitimate couple. When a wife does not work and her husband is trying hard to satisfy her, he easily get bored. All you need to do is to sit her down and talk to her, let her know how you feel. |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Acidosis(m): 10:38am On Sep 24, 2018 |
generationz: There is no such thing as a full time house wife. Do we have part-time office wife? Work or no work, a married woman is a "fulltime house wife." We need to stop confusing ourselves with slangs/terms that do nothing but destroy the family structure and lead people to depression and unfulfilled life. Some of these terms include; Fulltime housewife Housewife Career woman Modern woman Modern wife Working class woman Working woman I have even heard "sweet 16 working class wife and mother of 2" Etc. Have you ever seen a nonworking married woman? Have you wondered why men don't bear any of these slangs? Have you ever heard the term working class man? Career man? Modern husband? Working man? Truth is many of these terms were borne out of hatred and oppressive behaviour of women towards other women. You guys don't need to define yourselves by these terms to make a point. Women have been working since time immemorial. Btw, being a "fulltime housewife" at some point in time is no big deal especially when sitting in your house makes economic sense. That being said, I have nothing against househelp/nanny but many of these services have reduced some wives to sex machines. A wife should offer more than sex in the house, she needs to give more to her family (husband & kids). Same applies to the man. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by teekay213(m): 10:43am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Haywhaie:will you marry a Lady that lived a couples live on campus? Yes or No? |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Nobody: 10:49am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Jasen1: Guy you no try! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Nobody: 10:54am On Sep 24, 2018 |
sylvez: Abso.fuçkin.lutley |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by JONSYN7154: 10:58am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Welcome to Abuja marriage. You have gotten yourself a wife. That's what's happening here in Abuja. congratulations bro. Invite me for child dedication 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by emeijeh(m): 11:05am On Sep 24, 2018 |
donblade85555: ..... and counting 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by jired: 11:09am On Sep 24, 2018 |
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Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Henrypraise: 11:26am On Sep 24, 2018 |
ritylove: Lolzz @piece of trash, How do u want him to get rid of her? Like a bag of beans? |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by generationz(f): 11:29am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Acidosis: so you have never heard of house husband sit at home husband baby daddy etc it wasn't until the start of the 1900's and mid 1900's that most women had to take on predominantly male roles because most of their husbands , sons and fathers were out in the first and second world wars. not to forget the american civil war of the 1800's it would surprise you to know that jobs like secretary, hairhostess, etc were filled by mostly men. it wasn't until the second world war that vacancies were put out for women to fill up these rolls end mass. let's not forget that women had to fight to become doctors, senators, heads of states, lawyers, bankers, judges, pilots etc and even for the right to vote . all these roles were predominantly occupied by men all that didn't happen in the 13th century. all these things took place just about a hundred years ago in the western world Even Africa and Nigeria as a whole is still getting used to these things and still battling gender bias against women. The world let alone Africa still has a long way to go getting used to the 'working woman' these werent terms created out of jealousy by other women but out of a agenda to support 'girl power' and squash gender biases in every industry there is nothing wrong if a man chooses to marry a full time house wife. yes A woman in this modern age who chooses to sit at home to to take care of her home and family without any business or job at hand is a full-time house wife. Even those full time house wives won't argue with you when you call them one Don't be like those hypocritical men who tell their wives that sitting at home full time taking care of the kids is the best for their marriage. after the woman has spent a chunk of her life with only marriage being her achievement , you begin to chase working class chick or compare the wife to those high achieving ladies breaking glass ceilings . 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by victorian(f): 11:40am On Sep 24, 2018 |
Lovelypet28: God bless you! Men of these days are no different from the women, they are labelling as lazy. Women sef are now hustling more than men. |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by jattopeter(m): 11:41am On Sep 24, 2018 |
sassysure: You believe that part that talked about her parent in this story? |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Acidosis(m): 12:05pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
generationz: Sorry the agenda of the so called "working class modern classy chic" we have today on the social media is far from promoting the girl child or girl power. I have a very independent mind I would not support or encourage caging everyone into this "working class box" and belittling women who decide to stay home to take care of their children with derogatory clichés. Who doesn't know the term "full housewife" is meant to belittle this category of women, some of whom are products of circumstances such as unemployment and underemployment? I have seen way too many pregnant women pursuing buses and okada in the name of working class. I have seen very distasteful incidences that ordinarily should be criminalized in a working nation. In a saner clime like Germany, there no such things as private daycare. Government regulate the limited ones so more women have no choice but to stay home and nurture their wards. Marriage is not by force. If you can't do it, leave it, that's why movements like feminism are easier pursued in such countries because these women know very well that they can't eat their cake and have it. Here in Nigeria, we've allowed previous bitter experiences to shape our thought process. Some of you want your potential MIL dead because of "previous experiences". You want to build houses without their husband's knowledge following "previous experiences". The reason some are working isn't even because they love the job but to enable them save enough because when Papa Nnamdi died, his extended family punished Mama Nnamdi and sent her packing. These illustrations are just a few of those things shaping these drives, no trust, no real or positive explanation whatsoever, yet we always claim we love each other. About the hypocritical thing, trust me, I don't even compare myself with anybody. I have my dreams and aspirations and I expect others including my wife to have theirs. If her dreams correlate with an ideal family structure, I will strongly and ultimately encourage her. Contributions don't always have to be monetary by the way. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Partnerbiz(f): 1:03pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
Lovelypet28: Your old uncles are mistaken. They were born when things were easier with good economy too and even less expectations from men. You should read "Squeezed" and understand that it's even a global issue and not just a Nigerian issue. My lectures used to talk about how easy it was to secure jobs upon graduation in their time. If your uncles were born now. They probably would be ants ants even. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by generationz(f): 1:16pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
Acidosis: You have seen pregnant women pursue buses in the name of working class or becuaee they know that if they don't work them and their children run the risks of starvation. Considering the fact that in this same Nigeria many men are just sperm donors and the wives are solely responsible for the upkeep and upbringing of the children but choose to stay in the marriage just to save face. You think if most of these women have the choice they wouldn't choose to sit at home to be full time house wives to their man There is absolutely nothing wrong in using different terms to separate both categories of women ; working class women and fulltime house wife. If as a lady you find it derogatory then why find something doing to keep you busy even if its a small business. Nobody knows tommorow whet if your man looses everything Many Nigerians will tell you amazing stories of how their moms became the pillar when the dad lost everything. What if the woman chose to be a fulltime house wife. Its very convininent to be that but in the long run very dangerous Personally I can't sit down for a whole day waiting for my man to provide salt, pqnt and sanitary pad for me I'm someone who would like a mab who would beat his chest that he can be responsible for everything , but their is just this beauty to it when you as a lady too can contribute one or two things. Even if you don't what happened to being able to afford a massive gift like a car for him on his birthday. I also know my first duty as a wife is to keep my home and take good care of my man and I won't let my dreams and hustle dome in the way of that Please we all know that joggling being a mum and a working lady ain't easy so let's continue to give these women the accolades they deserve This conversation started when you said the op didn't love the girl becuaee she was a a full time house girlfriend and failed to contribute to the upkeep You have forgotten that love means different things to duffernt people you can't force your opinion on others What one man calls argumentative in a lady another calls feisty. The perfect picture of an ideal women is one who doesn't talk back at her man, listens more and speaks less , can cook clean and worships her man. But you will be surprised that these girls get dumped and cheated on everyday. Men will wtulk chase lady tigers because in a way the drama kinda spices up the relationship while the other one might be seen as boring. Some men will get tired of a woman whom they can't show off her achievements to their colleagues while others want to dominate the lady I know you had a soft spot for this because your mom was a full time housewife ( please I don't mean it in a derogatory way). Your parents have been married for long and you have built a picture of an ideal marriage around what you saw while growing up 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by tosyne88(f): 1:24pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
Sit her down and talk to her to find something tangible doing instead of her sleeping all day & waiting for u to put ur d**k in her Pu**y everything night. |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Anfieldboss: 1:34pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
Once a girl starts sleeping with you, she feels entitled. You don't sound like a bad person, but honestly I don't see how you can make her leave without hurting her feelings. The best you can do is encourage her to get a job. You have just added an extra responsibility to yourself bro. |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by Acidosis(m): 2:04pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
generationz: Love does not mean different things to different people. People just choose to define love differently in their own selfish way. Love is pure, love is tolerant, it is sacrifice, it is understanding. The moment you begin to love someone because... then you don't love. Love don't carry any clause! It is noncontractual. Please note that love is not the same as relationship. You can love someone genuinely without going into a relationship with them (for many reasons), and many people go into relationship without genuine love.
My mom stopped being a full time housewife in the early '90s (over 20 years ago), so my stance are without sentiments. As a matter of fact, I have advised her recently to quit her job because I don't see the need for working while a f00lish boy of a governor won't pay her timely. By the way, is it not reasonable to build a picture of an ideal marriage around people (not only my parents pls) who have been married for long? You want me to emulate Tonto Dike and Churchill? 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by seangy4konji: 3:09pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
Abuja girls.. Guess you are new in the system..the moment she comes over two times and you knack each other?gradually she start leaving pants and bra in wardrobe...if you give extra space and the pussy is sweet,in no time she has moved in..to chase her would be hell... Guy jaapa. |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by clemz85(m): 4:03pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
emeijeh: Best comment of the year! 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Ask My Girlfriend To Leave My House After 3 Months? by tehilah92(f): 4:52pm On Sep 24, 2018 |
hmmm, am a girl and i live with my boyfriend, we have been together for five years now, i started living with cos i just got a job and his house is closer than my sister's house, even at that i go home every weekend, we share the expenses, i pay for dstv sub, nepa bills, beverages, he brings money for stocking the kitchen and we are both saving cos i want to rent my own apartment, cos even if he wants to marry me, he won't marry me from his house, Bros i know say i be girl but you go try commot that girl for your house else you no go fit save anything you go just dey run round circle. 4 Likes |
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