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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 7:36pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Eberechi24:Na so you hate me reach, ewo |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Tecks10: 7:37pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
jorion: Money is not: peace of mind is. Yes, girls being after money has been the order of the day recently, but that doesn't mean everyone is like that. There are still some good ones left. OK, I have a question for you. What if a man's source of income starts dwindling even when he's married to a girl from a well-to-do home? Do you think she would be able to cope? It all depends on personality! And not from being from a rich or poor home. Please let's change our mindset, poverty or no poverty won't change who we truly are. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 7:38pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Boss13:Ah, I have finally found a role model, respect sir |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Zieina(f): 7:39pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: Ta. 2 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Tecks10: 7:43pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
jorion:No troubles bro! My sisters are wise too and we ain't so rich, but they are doing well. They didn't put anyone in trouble. That you've seen and heard terrible experiences doesn't make everyone ,same. 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Zieina(f): 7:44pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: Didn't I say it? Hmm 2 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Zieina(f): 7:45pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: Didn't I say it? Upon all your brag you're a sissy. Real, well grounded men don't marry up. To your level is understandable but to marry above your level is quite irritating to hear. |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by pocohantas(f): 7:46pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
lastclaire4: Will you also tell her your salary? because from personal experience...guys are even more averse to that question. Once you ask a Naija guy that question, his gold-digger alarm comes on. 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by jorion(m): 7:46pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Tecks10: The probability of a man's wealth dwindling is higher when he marries a broke lady from a broke family. I have worked as a home lesson teacher for all sorts of families just after my nysc. If you see the way poor men's wives address them, you will hate marriage. Don't even try to make that mistake of thinking money is not a critical part of marriage. The best way to have peace of mind is to continually spoil your wife or home with wealth, she will forever be loyal 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by mhizbel(f): 7:51pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
zaragal:This is the most sensible thing I've read since I opened this thread. 2 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 7:54pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 7:57pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
jorion: Most quarrels amongst poor families is money. Most quarrels amongst rich families is the other woman. Money is the most important ingredient for sustainable marriage not love. My advise is for young men. Please ladies, I’m not trying to be an A-hole, but the advice I’m giving these men is what I will tell my son. In fact I will be brutal with him if he comes home with a poor girl. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 7:58pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Zieina:not necessary na, haba Yeah you maybe right....you know sometimes nature humbles us for a reason....but the possibility of that happening is very rare cos I don't even date below my par anymore no matter how beautiful the girl maybe talk more of marrying, so how will the marriage even happen, maybe spiritually, i doubt still I am a very careful kind of guy...I don't keep girlfriends....and if I ever keep, you dare not cook for me or come to spend weekend....I don't even have the gut to allow any lady stay in my house while I am away...scares me. So even with juju, it won't work cos something have to bring us closer....unless God Himself decides that He wants me to settle below and He must speak to me directly not through any agent....I must hear and see clear signs, if not, my dear sister, the possibility is very slim 2 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 8:07pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Boss13:My mentor, preach on sir...tell them. Money is the major ingredient of today marriage cos we are in a capitalist, monetized world....without money love can never be sustained. Guys should always remember, that your 300k or 500k monthly income cannot sustain you + broke/unemployed wife + broke in-laws demands + your own parent's upkeep + kids (when kids start coming).....it will weigh you down. That's why you see guys that bought a car while single, after they marry, they keep driving the same car for 5yrs and above no change, no new building project, no new business startup, just to eat, pay house rent, pay children school fees, and the year ends and the cycle continues till kids become teenagers, then graduates and daddy and mummy have no business or company or tangible investment for them to inherit and start life with....they continue with the suffering daddy and mummy started with again and it goes on and on till God knows when. These things are not the hand work of village witches, it is the hand work of Nigerian men indirectly encouraging Nigerian women to be lazy and dependent on men alone, it has to stop for Nigeria to grow and progress as a nation 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by jorion(m): 8:12pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: Give this guy 2 bottles of COLD GULDER 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Zieina(f): 8:18pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: I believe in equality so I agree with you. I just hope you stick to your desires cos it would be funny if afterall the bravado u end up with a palasa. 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 8:21pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: There is no 2 ways about this. I know the level of peace of mind that I have. Nobody is knocking on my door asking for school fees or handout or forcing me to train. I concentrate on my family alone. If my in-laws are coming, I treat them with respect because they are well to do. They don’t ask for anything financial or trouble my life with non-financial issues. My discussion with my father in law is business related, even at his age, and not how to pay medical bills. I admire him and want to keep hustling like he is doing at an old age. Even there is subtle competition and it pushes you to aspire to be MORE. If my in-laws call, I don’t dodge calls because I know they are just checking up on me or want to hear my voice. I don’t say this to brag - far from it. I consciously chose my wife from the various ladies I wanted to marry. You may not have the opportunity to choose your parents, but don’t make the mistake in choosing your in-laws. 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 8:23pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Dee9977: Nobody can force you to take on her parents responsibilities... men do these things by themselves Mostly the alpha males..nobody can force you to pay your wife sibling school fees of give her parents money |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 8:24pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
jorion: He deserves more than that. What he is saying is GOLD to young unmarried men. If you make the mistake, you can never correct it. Even if you divorce, that woman is still part of your family through the children she would give birth to. I know this because I’m married and 97% of people I know are married too. Don’t marry a poor girl - Avoid it at all cost. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 8:25pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Zieina:I really don't wish to....not because I am proud or trying to be an AH, but because I want a secure future for my kids and I want a lady that will sincerely partner with me in what we call marriage and create an enduring, lasting home and investments for our kids so they don't end up in the struggling cycle of this world. Have you ever imagined how difficult its going to be for children born in the next 20yrs to secure a promising job, considering how hard it is for graduates all over the world now Even in developed nations like US, UK, only those in medical sector and maybe cyber world are still getting good jobs, so think of 20 - 30yrs to come when our kids will become adults That is why every single guy and lady now must start now to plan ahead for their kids...think of owning a thriving business, company, investment, and what have you that they can inherit and kick start life with while working on their own dream. Marrying below may hamper all these moves and dreams....so that's why....its not cos I hate anybody or any class....of course if I was as rich as Dangote, I will definitely not consider my future wife's financial worth cos mine alone can take care of her shortcomings 7 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by CanadianNaija: 8:29pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
oglalasioux: When he married is beside the point, you came to a public forum and said Hitler didn’t marry which is not true. Point of correction also, he and his wife didn’t commit suicide the day of their wedding. Yes they were barely married for Upto 40hrs before they died, but it was not the same day. You should probably brush up on your HItler history. 3 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 8:30pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
kimbraa: You're a 100level student of UNIBEN You're a kid who doesn't know how these things work ,I think you should focus more on your studies. 4 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 8:34pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
wizkidblogger:I no pray for that kind one oi |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 8:34pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
zaragal: The same thing the lady will do with his money even though she has her own money 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 8:35pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Boss13:I am bookmarking this page sir, you are amazing, thanks for all these facts and counsels you have been giving us freely here, thank you so much I have a friend who lost his job shortly after he married, but what saved him was that he married a girl from a well to do family, so his in-laws didn't have the ability to give him another job but they have money so they lent him 5million naira which he used to invest in his business he was doing by the side while working, and today, this guy owns a fast-rising small company that now execute contracts worth around 10 - 30million. As if that's not enough, his in-laws want to sponsor their daughter; my friend's wife to travel to Canada for masters....what else is sweeter than this And on the other hand, I have another friend who married a first daughter from a poor home and you need to see how my guy's finances is going down due to numerous demands from his in-laws.....he pays school fees for some of the wife's sisters, pays their house rent at times, send monthly stipend and whenever he refuses to spend, his wife starts to cry and this makes him weak....but as his close friend, my guy is dying in silence and regretting already Nigerian single guys and ladies must begin now to learn that giving birth without planning is disastrous....don't plan to give birth hoping that one rich uncle or sibling or friend will train your children for you...it is not a taboo not to marry or not even give birth.... Giving birth out of faith and hope that God will train them is what kept Nigeria the way it is today....it is what is holding Nigeria down...and making us to hear so many stories of financial related crimes as people are struggling to meet up with poor family pressures while in the cities, we as modern Nigerian youths must work hard to change all these anomalies 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Zieina(f): 8:42pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: May God grant your desires. Also pray to marry from a good family. Some families, rich or not, will wreck you. No matter what you decide for yourself, never marry a girl whose parents are controlling. Study her parent's personality traits. You should be fine. P.S- Are you igbo though? Cos the way you go about this thing. 3 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Zieina(f): 8:44pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
franchasng: I beat my chest this is a igbo family. Yorubas don't live like this. 2 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 8:47pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
One more thing, if you're a man who doesn't support feminism/gender equality but you hope to or want to share bills with your wife ..God will punish you in ten folds You can't be claiming alpha male and dictating to her while still reaping the fruits meant for only sane beta males like me. 5 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 8:48pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
CHoccolaTE: You are right 2 Likes |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by mhizbel(f): 8:50pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Well... My pastor taught me this: 'Find your purpose in life,, pursue it with passion and you will find your spouse in the process of doing this... ' 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by franchasng: 8:50pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
Zieina:Check my posts here on Nairaland, I am Pro-Igbo....indirectly a tribalist when it comes to politics, so yes, I am full blooded Igbo with friends cut across Nigerian tribes, and nations I have Yoruba friends who are also in similar marriage mess...its not about tribe...its about choice... My friend that married a girl from well to do family, my sister....the wife is a living angel...so respectful....the way she respect my guy and even us makes me wish to marry oh....despite that she is from rich family, she is so down to earth....also the one from poor family is also amazing oh I must be honest too....just the poor family background sha due to her dad died when they were young God will help us sha....I know its never the making of some girls to be born poor....but just that our Nigerian ladies are wicked....once they have money they are wicked to guys....majority of them are, I come in contact with many of such prideful, disgusting single ladies and sometimes due to their useless attitudes and how they carry their stupid self, I just wish to treat every lady I see anywhere with the same manner, cos ordinarily, I am a very considerate and compassionate person, if u want to get me weak, work on my emotion....make me feel pity for you and I will become your mugu but if you act arrogant or like you know a lot, then you are in soup with me 1 Like |
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by oglalasioux(m): 8:51pm On Dec 03, 2018 |
CanadianNaija: You win, abeg. I've not eaten to start dragging the difference between upto and less than as written on Wikipedia. |
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