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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 1:51pm On Dec 03, 2018
franchasng:
Story story! As if that's how you ladies marry too undecided

Nigerian ladies are very cunning and wicked to Nigerian guys.

When a Nigerian lady from a rich home wants to date or marry, she considers the financial capability of the guy first before considering his handsomeness.

A broke guy dare not say hello to her because to her it's a taboo.

What about a Nigerian Lady that is working and earning good salary like 250k and above, she will never date or marry a guy earning below 300k monthly, that will be a big taboo for her. She considers men only based on how much money they have and not how handsome they look.

Go to US, UK. Canada, etc, Nigerian guys living there will abandon all the sweet looking chicks there and go back to Nigeria to find a broke, poor girl to marry and spend on her to become slay queen and then take her to abroad to become a modern chick, but Nigerian ladies living abroad will rather remain single till death than come back to Nigeria to look for a guy to marry and when they eventually try to come to Nigeria to find husband, they only target rich guys and guys from rich family to date and possibly marry.

They dare not date or accept to date or marry a Nigerian guy living in Nigeria and struggling to stand financially, it is a taboo.

Also a Nigerian guy earning over 500k monthly will just meet one fine broke girl from poor family and start to date her and shower her with love and gifts, and even assist her family and the next thing, he marries her and turn her life around for good without considering that she was a poor girl, but our ladies will never do same if they are the ones that have the money, so Nigerian guys must wake up.

What is good for Paul is good for Peter.

Guys marry your class only!

Stop stooping too low to marry broke girls when you have made it financially. Apply Nigerian ladies wisdom of going after rich and successful ladies of your class too, guys wake up cool

Me I have made it a priority now never to date or marry below my class.

I cannot date any broke girl, never!

I cannot marry any lady that earns less than 250,000naira monthly.

Marry like Royal families; they marry to keep their royal dynasty stronger and richer not just for love based on physical beauty.

Before u marry her, please check her real financial value and worth. Will she help u grow financially or help u diminish The world is becoming more and more capitalist by the day, so to survive and to build a good future for your kids, think like a capitalist; consider financial worth of your would be wife or fiancé first before u say I do lipsrsealed

Guys go for your class, we need to learn from our ladies to avoid regrets wink

Your advice is classic. Though harsh, but it’s the truth. Your advice should be the go to standard for choosing a spouse. What you explained is called Female Hypergamy. Women tend to marry up, but many men don’t care and then begin to face difficulties. Only sensible men apply this logic.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by AnuliKay: 1:52pm On Dec 03, 2018
There's more to marriage than a person's background. However, i fully understand you and I believe you should go for what you want.


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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by joinnow: 1:53pm On Dec 03, 2018
longrunner:

I understand you brother. It certainly helps to marry a girl like that. I live in Sweden, and [b]3 gfs [/b]here. One is from a very wealthy family, ans the other two arr from upper middle class, and that helps a lot. It's good for me to send money to my family back in nigeria. Sometimes depending on your situation you have to pay attention to these things. Some women will just drag you down. You can't put your family at risk. But of course that you have to do what is best in your environment. If you are not wealthy, it's hard that a wealthy girl in Nigeria will want to marry you, unlike in Sweden. So don't get too choosy also. Life goes by quickly.
Broh I no wan hear story that touch ooooo.
3 at once
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 1:53pm On Dec 03, 2018
lastclaire4:


You are very funny. How will you get to find out her salary? You think a lady will tell you what she earns. I have friends who divide their salary by 4 or 5 when you want to pry into what shouldn't be your business at that stage. At best you get to know later that they don't earn that low.

Based on her industry and grade level, you would be able to ascertain the salary average.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by moyin29: 1:56pm On Dec 03, 2018
yes getting a well to do lady is not the issue, but what happened if tomorrow, she got sacked, will you still love her... please base your search on God's wisdom...and if i may ask are you a christian

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 1:59pm On Dec 03, 2018
MarianaTrench:
OP, I think your fears are in order .

Don't marry a girl from a hungry family otherwise she will overload you with financial responsibilities!

Not overload. She will kill you with financial responsibilities

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 2:00pm On Dec 03, 2018
blackgold2018:
A man RESPECTS a hardworking lady that earns. Trust me the world have changed.
Is only insecure men that marries a house wife.


Since when have peoples choices make them insecure. Speak for urself. I for one cannot never be an house wife.... Not with the books i've read. Doesnt mean a man who wants his woman not to work insecure. You cant use yourself to judge everyone....
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Kennyprince: 2:00pm On Dec 03, 2018
madampresident:
sorry to say this... I already feel sorry for you. Marry a girl because she is decent not because she or her family is well to do. It is easier to build wealth with a decent lady than to retain wealth with one who the only thing she has to offer is coming from a well to do home.
girls on the other hand dont see things this way! Hmmm
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 2:02pm On Dec 03, 2018
kimbraa:
He's as delusional as you initially suggested. My apologies in advance if you find that abusive. What's the ratio of ladies from well to do families worldwide going down their social strata to marry a man from a poor family? Very insignificant figure if compared to men from the rich homes who would marry from any class. I think it's ok to dream. He may wake up one day in one rich man's house, married to his daughter and being controlled like a puppet. cheesy That's how it mostly ends.

This must be a personal issue for you. Are you from a poor family? Just asking sincerely.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 2:03pm On Dec 03, 2018
blackgold2018:
A man RESPECTS a hardworking lady that earns. Trust me the world have changed.
Is only insecure men that marries a house wife.


Since when have people's choices make them insecure?. Speak for urself. I for one cannot never be an house wife.... Not with the books i've read. Doesnt mean a man who doesnt't wants his woman to work is insecure. You cant use yourself to judge everyone....

A Lady respect a man who has money too. So why should lady who want rich guy a problem?, when the guys also want the same thing! Whatever u and i say here on nairaland people will still marry who them want, rich or poor and run their home how they choose, whether the wife works or not. So save your breathe bro

Peace.
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by adoho(m): 2:05pm On Dec 03, 2018
GodisGood4321:
For a start, I’m not a gold digger nor am mine looking for someone to take care of my bills.

A little bit about myself. I’m 32 and I’m from a humble background and by the grace of God, my hustle don begins to pay. I'm a graduate and works in a popular oil and gas firm with a monthly take-home of seven-digit. But base on the fact that I'm from a humble background and God don give me breakthrough, I'm supporting my families (siblings) and sometimes friends who are still hustling to establish themselves.

So I am a bit careful to date a lady who is the supporting member of her family as well, otherwise, support responsibilities may fall back on me as the man if one marries such lady. And no matter how much one think he earns, too many dependents can weary one progress and a tree can't make a forest. This engineer my desire to marry a girl from a well-to-do family, even if she doesn't earn much, but her family shouldn't be a liability. I have a reservation of being the ‘look-up-to’ person in my family and as well the ‘look-up-to’ person in a wife family as well. While one may be grateful to God for being able to be looked up to, the pressure of demand/expectation may be overwhelming and could slow one’s progress and one runs the risk of not having who to run to when his own need arises because everyone around has always looked up to you.

But the challenge is to see and get a girl from a well-to-do family is hard. Is either I can't find any or the few I meet always an attitude issue and are hardly submissive. Meanwhile, I have seen decent ladies from a humble background who are equally making some progress in their own right, but i lost interest when I get to know of their family background because of my biased to marry from a well-to-do family. Besides the benefit of not having many dependents by marrying from a well-to-do family, I covert the benefit of been related to in-laws who may have some sort of relevance and influence.

I have this feeling I am settling for less than I originally desired when I see decent ladies but they are from a humble background that I do not advance things with them.

Please, I want to know if this my obsession of marrying from a well-to-do family is reasonable or I am taking it overboard. I just want to hear people opinions about my line of thought and be sure I am still in touch with reality and not just be idealism.



You are really not out of order in your thinking bro. I feel you're being emotional about the whole issue. Nowadays I love you doesn't cut it anymore. You have to be critical and logical in your decisions. Especially now you have upgraded yourself to a very good income class. There are naturally some traits that come with people who function at a higher level of income most pass it on to the heirs and they expect their heirs to interbreed within the confines of their own kind. The goal is to multiply and preserve their wealth. You can still find reasonable and God fearing ladies and families within your class.

that said since God has blessed you you can support my hustle so maybe one day I can be like you(smiles)

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 2:06pm On Dec 03, 2018
Saffi:
I love youu kiss


cheesy cheesy kiss
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Boss13: 2:07pm On Dec 03, 2018
zaragal:
Whether u marry a rich girl or "humbled background" lady, u will still have to extend ur hand to the extended family because by marriage her family becomes urs....

Just marry a Good girl, who loves and fear the lord. Some rich or well to do background chick comes with a price. Because u might end up being the wife and she the husband, after all....Her father has money.

In life u explore all options and by the way, you compromise at each point in time, if its not for the wrong thing.

You could marry a girl from an humble background and u wont carry as much responsiblity as u think, or God could provide more for you, you both could have a savings for the extended family....joint funds to send home 50/50 or so.... The wife in question will have a job.

You could also marry a rich girl and her family demands alot from u as inlaw.... Or the wife might want to live extravagant when u are trying to meticulous in your spending and save for tomorrow. She came from a rich home and lived extravagantly. That wouldnt change in her husband house.

So my dear, be open...the most important thing to consider is ....The lady, is she a christian??... A good girl and is the family a christian as well....

He be like say u never see inlaw with money, wey go frustrate u with their money join na?? grin. Just slap their daughter and u will build a house in prison....*That was on a little note*

All what you’re saying are hypothetical. There is nothing as a good girl. What’s the meaning of a good girl or even a good man? Please don’t say someone who has the fear of God, coz that’s BS.

Are you saying a Christian family would be considerate not to heap financial responsibilities on their in-law?

Trust me and I say this with FACT, if you marry from a poor home, regardless of your income status, you are digging your financial grave

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by Nobody: 2:11pm On Dec 03, 2018
Boss13:


All what you’re saying are hypothetical. There is nothing as a good girl. What’s the meaning of a good girl or even a good man? Please don’t say someone who has the fear of God, coz that’s BS.

Are you saying a Christian family would be considerate not to heap financial responsibilities on their in-law?

Trust me and I say this with FACT, if you marry from a poor home, regardless of your income status, you are digging your financial grave


Thats your opinion bro...i believe i am entitled to mine.

Btw the guys who married ladies from humbled background and who didnt have his finances wreck. Maybe u can go n help him wreck it for him okay??

Abi na ny force grin cheesy.

Look! How u have it all figured out like u live in everybodys life.

Goodbye jor

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by miib: 2:13pm On Dec 03, 2018
zaragal:



Guy, you just ranting... The reason why people not just ladies...focus on a man's financial capabitlities before marriage is because by default the man is the PROVIDER of the family... Whether the lady has money or not is immaterial, the man takes responsible of the finances of the home. Its now how individuals choose to run their marriages that makes the difference, whether the lady wants to assist or not! But a man is seen to be the one who provides for the family....

A lady can't marry a man who can't take care of her and her kids, same way some guys in the other thread say they cant marry a lady who can't cook. No matter how culture is changes, women still manage the home, men still funds the home. Whether we like it or not...its somewhere at the back of our heads. The men expect the women to be homely...good cooks, great mom, keeps the home blah blah. The ladies expect the men to have a substantial steady source of income. It is, what it is!!

By the way, what do u wanna do with a lady' money if you have yourz??

Don't mind him jare, it seems he has forgotten the man is the head of a family, no matter how we twist am!

The same way a man cannot marry a woman without a womb, a woman that is not homely and the one that cannot cook.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by oshaosha2014(m): 2:18pm On Dec 03, 2018
Your words are gold. The OP should learn from this. All this class nonsense will be tiring and boring after some years in the marriage. Just look for a lady that you’ll never stop loving even after seeing her many bad side and she can do same for you.

Bostonfarms:
Let me tell you a very personal story,my friend was dating a girl from a very humble background ,mind you he's not super rich but OK for a young guy. He meet lady B from a rich family working with good family name very popular family,immediately they got married because he felt she's OK that was the beginning of he's problem, madam refused family members from coming to the house,control started,she wants to live a very high life,my friend been a stubborn guy could not take it,marriage pack up not up to 5months .The other lady got married is blessed with 3kids now,my guy is still there lamenting .Just a quick question what will happen if the wealth is no longer there after getting married to her and responsible falls on her?

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by miib: 2:21pm On Dec 03, 2018
ZIMDRILL:



if you knew everything you would be a trillioner, you would be here on nairaland

Don't mind him! He is jack of all trades. He doesn't pray pray to marry right.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by CanadianNaija: 2:26pm On Dec 03, 2018
oglalasioux:
Have it at the back of your heart that nature has never gifted any human being with two things at the same time. It gifts you one and takes another thing dear to you.

You may find girls from well to do, strong backgrounds but don't ever expect to enjoy that marriage. The worst condition a man can find himself is to be branded a gold digger by his in laws. Even if you provide everything in your family people will still see you as the parasite. Girls from well to do homes don't have anything to whip them into line unlike the poor girl who will be submissive knowing you are her lifeline.

You can marry a rich girl if you don't mind the shame that comes with it (your respect as the husband is almost zero). Or marry an average girl and savour the love and respect.

One of the reasons Adolf Hitler didn't marry was because he was surrounded by women from rich and influential homes. He was looking for a girl from low humble beginnings because he wanted the joys of companionship.


Hitler was married.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by CanadianNaija: 2:32pm On Dec 03, 2018
donchrisville:
this OP has my mindset...i'm at this crossroad... I cant visualize myself carrying the responsibility of my own family and the responsibilities of my wife's family as well...
These days one has to be careful to avoid several issues in the long run. Love fades beauty fades... financial stability is key in this our present generation...No matter how said it sounds, its our present reality.
most times when men lash out, it might be due to several responsibilities he can barely handle and you start questioning his love for his wife
Even the bible states the woman should be a helper

Why can't your family carry their own burden?

You want a woman without baggage while you have a loadful?

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by miib: 2:33pm On Dec 03, 2018
Bostonfarms:
Let me tell you a very personal story,my friend was dating a girl from a very humble background ,mind you he's not super rich but OK for a young guy. He meet lady B from a rich family working with good family name very popular family,immediately they got married because he felt she's OK that was the beginning of he's problem, madam refused family members from coming to the house,control started,she wants to live a very high life,my friend been a stubborn guy could not take it,marriage pack up not up to 5months .The other lady got married is blessed with 3kids now,my guy is still there lamenting .Just a quick question what will happen if the wealth is no longer there after getting married to her and responsible falls on her?

That is what most of his likes would face.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by naijacentric(m): 2:34pm On Dec 03, 2018
longrunner:

I understand you brother. It certainly helps to marry a girl like that. I live in Sweden, and have 3 gfs here. One is from a very wealthy family, ans the other two arr from upper middle class, and that helps a lot. It's good for me to send money to my family back in nigeria. Sometimes depending on your situation you have to pay attention to these things. Some women will just drag you down. You can't put your family at risk. But of course that you have to do what is best in your environment. If you are not wealthy, it's hard that a wealthy girl in Nigeria will want to marry you, unlike in Sweden. So don't get too choosy also. Life goes by quickly.
bros ur lucky i dey ur back dose women are true lovers not the hungry gurls back home who dont give a damn about love
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by naijacentric(m): 2:38pm On Dec 03, 2018
franchasng:
Story story! As if that's how you ladies marry too undecided

Nigerian ladies are very cunning and wicked to Nigerian guys.

When a Nigerian lady from a rich home wants to date or marry, she considers the financial capability of the guy first before considering his handsomeness.

A broke guy dare not say hello to her because to her it's a taboo.

What about a Nigerian Lady that is working and earning good salary like 250k and above, she will never date or marry a guy earning below 300k monthly, that will be a big taboo for her. She considers men only based on how much money they have and not how handsome they look.

Go to US, UK. Canada, etc, Nigerian guys living there will abandon all the sweet looking chicks there and go back to Nigeria to find a broke, poor girl to marry and spend on her to become slay queen and then take her to abroad to become a modern chick, but Nigerian ladies living abroad will rather remain single till death than come back to Nigeria to look for a guy to marry and when they eventually try to come to Nigeria to find husband, they only target rich guys and guys from rich family to date and possibly marry.

They dare not date or accept to date or marry a Nigerian guy living in Nigeria and struggling to stand financially, it is a taboo.

Also a Nigerian guy earning over 500k monthly will just meet one fine broke girl from poor family and start to date her and shower her with love and gifts, and even assist her family and the next thing, he marries her and turn her life around for good without considering that she was a poor girl, but our ladies will never do same if they are the ones that have the money, so Nigerian guys must wake up.

What is good for Paul is good for Peter.

Guys marry your class only!

Stop stooping too low to marry broke girls when you have made it financially. Apply Nigerian ladies wisdom of going after rich and successful ladies of your class too, guys wake up cool

Me I have made it a priority now never to date or marry below my class.

I cannot date any broke girl, never!

I cannot marry any lady that earns less than 250,000naira monthly.

Marry like Royal families; they marry to keep their royal dynasty stronger and richer not just for love based on physical beauty.

Before u marry her, please check her real financial value and worth. Will she help u grow financially or help u diminish The world is becoming more and more capitalist by the day, so to survive and to build a good future for your kids, think like a capitalist; consider financial worth of your would be wife or fiancé first before u say I do lipsrsealed

Guys go for your class, we need to learn from our ladies to avoid regrets wink
God bless u sir wisdom will not kill u but bros i dont blame naija gurls its out grandfathers n fathers dat spoilt the society we are the ones suffering it as i speak to u i dont want to marry any naija gurl wether home or abroad i had enuf of their troubles. Even our african sisters are better off

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by naijacentric(m): 2:39pm On Dec 03, 2018
ZIMDRILL:


you are too blind to see that, you are the person that you are trying to avoid to marry one day. you said you are supporting your siblings and friends so its ok for you to support your family and friends but the woman you wish to marry shouldnt have family thats needs support from her if she can?

think of it this way right now you are looking after your siblings so its ok if a girl dumps you if she uses your line of thinking ?
woman wrapper shut up

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by naijacentric(m): 2:40pm On Dec 03, 2018
kimbraa:
What you said may seem logically the right thing to do, but since it's not realistic; I term it that you're just ranting. This people are mostly guided by emotion and don't give fùcks about class. Only the creme de la creme of the society marry within the confines of their class to secure financial security.
shut up u av nothing to prove the guy is right

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by jorion(m): 2:42pm On Dec 03, 2018
This op too get sense. Great minds think alike. Marry your class and if in doing so u found love, better. If not, you won't be carrying unnecessary luggage and baggage. Na win win. Infact, a lady with much family issues is a TURN OFF

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by lastclaire4(f): 2:42pm On Dec 03, 2018
franchasng:
That's why I said they can only deceive mumu guys who are not enlightened my brother.

Permit me to brag a bit: I know virtually everything in this life. Sometimes I marvel at the level of things I know cheesy

I know about space explorations u may think I am a NASA astronaut.

I know about things happening in all countries of the world u may think I have lived decades in all the countries.

I know virtually everything about military and war around the world.

I know so much about stock trading; Nasdaq, Dow Jones, NYSE, etc that u may think I work with NYSE.

I know everything happening in the leadership and politics of virtually every country that I can tell you unheard things about every country off hand without consulting internet or book.

Literature nkor, hmm don't go there.

Oil and gas sector, let me shut up lipsrsealed

Transport and haulage sector

Ecommerce and startups

Programming, coding, etc

Offline trading business

Car importation importation from China

With the level of things I know, I can rule any country successfully at my young age smiley

So I doubt if any Lady can fool me seriously unless I decided to ignore.

I know more than FBI, Mosad, KGB, etc.

I always thank God for the high wisdom He bestowed on me....and I always envy the lady I will finally end up marrying cos she is gonna be super lucky wink

So in summary, its very easy for me to know whether she is doing well financially or not.

And in as much as I don't need a dime from the lady I would marry, I must know her true financial worth and what she truly does for a living and possibly an idea of what she earns, if not the marriage won't hold.

I am the boss, I decide who to marry, when to marry and how to marry. I have paid my dues and so no lady can do shakara for me, na my turn to do shakara now, na God do am cool

Lol I am laughing cos when your type finally meets the girl they don't hear anybody. Let's see how it goes and remember to update us here.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by naijacentric(m): 2:43pm On Dec 03, 2018
zaragal:
Whether u marry a rich girl or "humbled background" lady, u will still have to extend ur hand to the extended family because by marriage her family becomes urs....

Just marry a Good girl, who loves and fear the lord. Some rich or well to do background chick comes with a price. Because u might end up being the wife and she the husband, after all....Her father has money.

In life u explore all options and by the way, you compromise at each point in time, if its not for the wrong thing.

You could marry a girl from an humble background and u wont carry as much responsiblity as u think, or God could provide more for you, you both could have a savings for the extended family....joint funds to send home 50/50 or so.... The wife in question will have a job.

You could also marry a rich girl and her family demands alot from u as inlaw.... Or the wife might want to live extravagant when u are trying to meticulous in your spending and save for tomorrow. She came from a rich home and lived extravagantly. That wouldnt change in her husband house.

So my dear, be open...the most important thing to consider is ....The lady, is she a christian??... A good girl and is the family a christian as well....

He be like say u never see inlaw with money, wey go frustrate u with their money join na?? grin. Just slap their daughter and u will build a house in prison....*That was on a little note*
you are a wise n a good lady i wish dose yeye nairaland ladies can be like u. God bless u
Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by hahn(m): 2:44pm On Dec 03, 2018
GodisGood4321:
For a start, I’m not a gold digger nor am mine looking for someone to take care of my bills.

A little bit about myself. I’m 32 and I’m from a humble background and by the grace of God, my hustle don begins to pay. I'm a graduate and works in a popular oil and gas firm with a monthly take-home of seven-digit. But base on the fact that I'm from a humble background and God don give me breakthrough, I'm supporting my families (siblings) and sometimes friends who are still hustling to establish themselves.

So I am a bit careful to date a lady who is the supporting member of her family as well, otherwise, support responsibilities may fall back on me as the man if one marries such lady. And no matter how much one think he earns, too many dependents can weary one progress and a tree can't make a forest. This engineer my desire to marry a girl from a well-to-do family, even if she doesn't earn much, but her family shouldn't be a liability. I have a reservation of being the ‘look-up-to’ person in my family and as well the ‘look-up-to’ person in a wife family as well. While one may be grateful to God for being able to be looked up to, the pressure of demand/expectation may be overwhelming and could slow one’s progress and one runs the risk of not having who to run to when his own need arises because everyone around has always looked up to you.

But the challenge is to see and get a girl from a well-to-do family is hard. Is either I can't find any or the few I meet always an attitude issue and are hardly submissive. Meanwhile, I have seen decent ladies from a humble background who are equally making some progress in their own right, but i lost interest when I get to know of their family background because of my biased to marry from a well-to-do family. Besides the benefit of not having many dependents by marrying from a well-to-do family, I covert the benefit of been related to in-laws who may have some sort of relevance and influence.

I have this feeling I am settling for less than I originally desired when I see decent ladies but they are from a humble background that I do not advance things with them.

Please, I want to know if this my obsession of marrying from a well-to-do family is reasonable or I am taking it overboard. I just want to hear people opinions about my line of thought and be sure I am still in touch with reality and not just be idealism.


If you are looking for rich ladies go to places like Lekki, eat and drink at expensive restaurants, join a club like Ikoyi club and make friends with rich people. BY the time you make friends they will invite you for occasions where rich people attend and then from there you can meet other rich people and ladies.

DO this and soon your circle will be more of rich people then it won't be too difficult to find a rich lady.

Good luck

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by miib: 2:50pm On Dec 03, 2018
goodnewscliff:
Its very possible to marry frm a well to do family with decent wifable characters!!!!! Infact na broke ass gals naim get useless character pass ohh... U don know what poverty can do to these girls......
Go for better babe thats hardworking and know how to do financial management joor.......

Yeye! Like the one you married.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by CanadianNaija: 2:50pm On Dec 03, 2018
GodisGood4321:
For a start, I’m not a gold digger nor am mine looking for someone to take care of my bills.

A little bit about myself. I’m 32 and I’m from a humble background and by the grace of God, my hustle don begins to pay. I'm a graduate and works in a popular oil and gas firm with a monthly take-home of seven-digit. But base on the fact that I'm from a humble background and God don give me breakthrough, I'm supporting my families (siblings) and sometimes friends who are still hustling to establish themselves.


But think about this, you come with a shitload of baggage. Yet you want to marry a woman that doesn't have these, do you think such women want to marry men like you with the amount of baggage you described up there?

Women like you described, will not understand why a sizeable portion of your income would go to others every month, and i guess you will want hers to remain intact.
It may be more realistic for you to marry close to your class abit, someone that may understand your struggles.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by cherriex(f): 2:51pm On Dec 03, 2018
franchasng:
That's why I said they can only deceive mumu guys who are not enlightened my brother.

Permit me to brag a bit: I know virtually everything in this life. Sometimes I marvel at the level of things I know cheesy

I know about space explorations u may think I am a NASA astronaut.

I know about things happening in all countries of the world u may think I have lived decades in all the countries.

I know virtually everything about military and war around the world.

I know so much about stock trading; Nasdaq, Dow Jones, NYSE, etc that u may think I work with NYSE.

I know everything happening in the leadership and politics of virtually every country that I can tell you unheard things about every country off hand without consulting internet or book.

Literature nkor, hmm don't go there.

Oil and gas sector, let me shut up lipsrsealed

Transport and haulage sector

Ecommerce and startups

Programming, coding, etc

Offline trading business

Car importation importation from China

With the level of things I know, I can rule any country successfully at my young age smiley

So I doubt if any Lady can fool me seriously unless I decided to ignore.

I know more than FBI, Mosad, KGB, etc.

I always thank God for the high wisdom He bestowed on me....and I always envy the lady I will finally end up marrying cos she is gonna be super lucky wink

So in summary, its very easy for me to know whether she is doing well financially or not.

And in as much as I don't need a dime from the lady I would marry, I must know her true financial worth and what she truly does for a living and possibly an idea of what she earns, if not the marriage won't hold.

I am the boss, I decide who to marry, when to marry and how to marry. I have paid my dues and so no lady can do shakara for me, na my turn to do shakara now, na God do am cool

Oga well done but don't be too proud, I know almost everything about everything too, I am a typical Virgo, I have a bookshelf full of books from religion (Christianity, Islam, Bhudaisim, Hinduism, Kabbalah, etc) authors, plants, animals, world history and almost everything u mentioned, but sorry to burst your bubbles, you still don't know it all, you haven't figured it out all and the foolishest (no word as such, by the way) of all things will still damn you, do not boast of your wisdom, it's not a wise thing to do, a lot of us are born with wisdom, insight and high intuitions,some of us can predicts things and it occurs with exact precision, just try and be humble.Anyways your future wife go hear am.

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Re: I desire to Marry A girl from a well-to-do family But... by blimeyVic(m): 2:56pm On Dec 03, 2018
Hello Mr.
No!! You are not a gold digger, and you aren't being too selective either. Your major problem is that you have some of characteristics of past Nigerian leaders, especially the ones that have led Nigerians into poverty.

OP, I'm not sure, but are you sure that you don't have a consumption mentality.

According to you, your monthly earning is as high as 7 figures, and you are 35 yrs. By my deductions, you must have being employed for over 3yrs on that salary scale. Then what else are you waiting for?

The only criterion you need to tick good, before walking down the aisle with any lady , no matter the size of her family, is that of her moral soundness.

Does she have a good and strong character?
Is she willing to learn?
Does her attitude change towards you when she hears gossips about you?
Does she join gangs of haters and gossipers to witch-hunt others?
Does she stick to being good, irrespective of who is dishing out the fake or real news to turn her against you?
Does she erroneously see sex and good food as the main things that make you happy?
Is their a good level of communication between you two?
Does she love the concept of having a lovely home over having a comfortable house to live in?
Can she spend 24hrs, alone, enjoying the happiness she produced by herself? (VERY VITAL)
Can she make herself happy?

If yes, then handling external hits on your finances is only a matter of your intellectual prowess.

With love in your heart, you can teach every single one of your dependants to fish instead of constantly giving them fish.
Finding a good woman is though. Make the right choice today.

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