ponti93:
No matter how much it hurts.. . A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage... As for those talking about sex... Sex in a relationship is nt meant to be a bargain... Its smetin enjoyed by both... Nobody used each other... You don't expect him to not have sex until he has learned everything about her then decide that she is the one for marriage... Relationships are meant to be a journey from day one you learn... As it goes you get to know if you are staying forever or not.

lilbest4:
there's nothing special about her pants actually they both enjoyed it

samguru:
For mature minds only.

I need your advice on how to dumb a lady which I don't like but we have been dating in the last 5 months.
She was introduced to me by a friend and since then I thought the relationship can lead to marriage but my instinct keeps telling she is not the one.

I have had sex with her anyway but her antecedents is something to worry about as she has been married and the marriage crashed without a child.

I have also married with a male child but the marriage crashed due to crazy intolerable behaviours of my ex.
This lady has shown some signs which my ex possessed and I don't want to experience such marriage again.

Please how do I dump her without having any feeling of guilt.

Please feminists should keep off this thread.

BafanaBafana:
I let a lady like that go some weeks ago. Very nice and pretty. But she had some traits which I have seen and don't like in women. She is still hurting but she will be fine. I miss her too.
I told she is nice and the prettiest girl I ever dated but I am not convinced she is the one for me to marry because I loose my peace whenever I think of settling down with her. So it's best I let her go now so I don't end up breaking her heart later, which will be more difficult for her to bear.

Youngzubi:
Nairaland is not the best place to seek for advise on this issue, i'm not trying to say nairaland isn't a good forum to share problems but i do tell you that you won't be getting anything suiting at all. Some will frustrate you while the remaining will keep on quoting anyone who tries to criticize your mistakes. Yes, you actually made a mistake sir,according to what you wrote up there i guess you're a mature man holding to the fact that you already had a wife and a kid before, remember this if you're a Christian, since your wife is not dead anything you do with any other lady both sexually is a sin and unacceptable before the lord, you can't even marry that your so called girlfriend because you already had a wife no matter what the level of misunderstanding between you and your wife might be she is still the one heaven recognize as your partner, So bro i will advise you to talk to that lady you had sex with, apologize to her and make her understand that you guys ain't meant for each other, she might feel heartbroken but the right thing must be done by taking the right steps, don't just end things with her roughly or casually cos she's a human and blood also flows through her vein but anything you do with her sexually is a "SIN" because you have a wife.

So sir do go back and reconcile with your wife after you must have end things with that your woman friend and please don't have sex or anything sexual with her again since its clear to you now that it can't work out between you two.

My opinion tho.

Amhappy:


Sorry to quote you. Sex is not supposed to be engaged in without commitment. What you said is because we are disobedient children. Our Father mandated sex to be within marriage. The main reason OP is feeling guilty is because he has joined his body to that of this lady and I tell you that's why the lady will also feel bad when she hears op. Relationship can exist without sex.

Youngzubi:
, you can't even marry that your so called girlfriend because you already had a wife no matter what the level of misunderstanding between you and your wife might be she is still the one heaven recognize as your partner,
So sir do go back and reconcile with your wife after you must have end things with that your woman friend and please don't have sex or anything sexual with her again since its clear to you now that it can't work out between you two.

My opinion tho.

pepigeorge:


Who said when u sleep with a woman.. U must stick with her...
Grow up, this 21st century.. Women dish out sex like biscuits these days... There's is nothing sacred about it

dreamworld:

So all the guys that slept with you go married to u
?

Amhappy:
Thou shall not commit adultery. Take this commandment serious in the future. You are adults, leave sex out of it till commitment.That said, there's no way she won't feel hurt. So just tell her. Have a heart to heart discussion. Bring up your past failed marriages. The high rate of broken marriages,killer spouses etc and why one should not make a mistake again. Life is too short and you don't want to waste her time. Blablabla. The earlier, the better.

I hail thee, experience they said is the best teacher. Lol

IamD18:
All of a sudden her antecedents became something to worry about after shifting her pant.

ponti93:
are you saying that their are no relationships that were started and ended without sex... Of course there are... And i can tell you one or both partners still hurt over it... I hav such experience

ImaIma1:
Why did you sleep with her when you knew somewhere at the back if mind that it won't work?

Why didn't you think of all this incompatibilities and hindrances before you got into her panties?

You want to have your cake and eat it. Now you want to run and you are looking for an easy landing.

Deal with this yourself! Why didn't you come and ask us if you should sleep with her? You wanted to taste and see. Scammers everywhere parading as boyfriends/lovers.

IamD18:
All of a sudden her antecedents became something to worry about after shifting her pant.

IamD18:
All of a sudden her antecedents became something to worry about after shifting her pant.

samguru:
For mature minds only.

I need your advice on how to dumb a lady which I don't like but we have been dating in the last 5 months.
She was introduced to me by a friend and since then I thought the relationship can lead to marriage but my instinct keeps telling she is not the one.

I have had sex with her anyway but her antecedents is something to worry about as she has been married and the marriage crashed without a child.

I have also married with a male child but the marriage crashed due to crazy intolerable behaviours of my ex.
This lady has shown some signs which my ex possessed and I don't want to experience such marriage again.

Please how do I dump her without having any feeling of guilt.

Please feminists should keep off this thread.

Saffi:
Stupid fools just to open pant and run away. You know how to open your big mouth for sex, but to be a man and tell her how you feel is a problem. I don’t understand this generation, bunch of loser men.

GreenArrow2:


Abeg go siddon one side. Talking as if getting a lady to spread her legs requires some special kinda commitment these days.