Part 1- THE NARCISSIST.
Good day Nairalanders, I decided to start a series to help others in relationships to recognize red flags and seek help where necessary and also avoid placing themselves in such situations.

This series will be like an expose especially on some B personality types like narcissists, borderlines, sociopaths and psychopaths. The continuity of this series will be based on your feedback, so please share and comment, you may be helping someone.

Who is a narcissist? He/she is someone who has an excessive in or admiration of themselves simple. While everyone has some narcissistic Traits so that we have good self-esteem. It becomes pathological when you have narcissist qualities to high degrees and at the expense of others. These are the narcissists I am referring to. We’ll call tem Narcs for short.

Narcs are usually selfish, entitled (believe they are the best thing since sliced bread), grandiose (believe that they are bigger and greater than they are or someone they aren’t), arrogant, manipulative, shallow/superficial and most importantly lack empathy (do not consider other people's feelings). They constantly seek validation and have a need for continuous admiration by all to boost their self-esteem and ego because they can’t draw such from themselves. Any person, thing or environment that provides this ego boost in any form to the narcissist is termed “narcissist supply”. Status symbols like sports cars, wealth, beauty; a yes man or sidekick or arm candy, a beautiful lady in the midst of less pretty ones so that she stands out more and so on are prime examples of narc supply

Narcissism is a spectrum, but we will broadly classify them into two but keep in mind that they overlap. The overt narcissists and the covert narcissists. Overt narcissists are easier to spot. They are usually extroverts. Most CEOs and a certain president who called our country a shithole are prime examples. We all know that arrogant person who doesn’t care for other people’s feelings, or that high and mighty boss who doesn’t care or give you leave because your mother is ill. Or that bf/gf who always want to be the center of attraction, it has to be about them. When in a relationship with such a person they do anything to make themselves look good even belittling you and chipping away your self-esteem so that you want to be like them, it can go on for so long you don’t know what is real anymore. ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS ANYONE!
Covert narcissists are harder to spot, they have narcissist traits but hide it. They are experts of victim mentality, blame shifting, sabotaging and passive aggression. When in a relationship with such a person, you will always feel bad and not know why, everything seems perfect on the outside but something nags you and you can’t pinpoint the problem. If you feel such you might be in a relationship with a covert narc. They will make you feel bad on your birthday, or show fake concern if you are overweight. Some spiritual leaders, marriage counselors and therapists are prime examples, when you got to them they throw it back at you and tell you the problem is your fault. A covert narc may apologize for wrong doing, and promise to change but will go back to old habits soon after.

Narcs are not capable of sustaining deep intimate relationships where give and take is involved. They take and take until the giver is half of themselves. The relationship becomes 11/2 = 1/2 instead of 1=1 and sadly Nigerian upbringing is producing a lot of male covert narcissists.

So the question is should one stay or leave a relationship with a narc? That is entirely up to the person. Narcissists cannot be completely changed because it is a personality disorder. But something can be done which we will address in part 2. Please ask questions and feel free to share personal examples or your ordeals with a narc.
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Thumbs up girl

Lovely topic.


I dated one.
So hard to break up with such people. Guilty conscience will swallow u up.
So manipulative. When I finally decided it's over(after failing more than 10 times to call off the relationship)

The type that will want to see the justification for the extra 10kobo u spent while shopping to prepare his meal as a visitor from far.

His money don't ever go into a project he will Never be the major beneficiary.

I had my pound of flesh when I wanted to leave finally.
As spending his money is not an option unless it's a biz proposition, I brought one to him and he fall for it.
Taking his money was to tell him that I kept calm and cool for long not because I don't know what to do but I was hoping he can change a little.

Tracked me down after my marriage with threats but friends told him to respect himself.
Started stalking me endlessly. All my social media accounts.
This time around we can start from where we stopped but as married people.
The wife is feeling the heat.
He was mad that I can boldly reject him, I mean this guy is hawt and he knows it. He has the qualifications, status and background and babes flock around him.
So he sees himself as Elvis Presley.

So charismatic outside. Even my mum was charmed.

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Saffi Iamplato Victorian chiefjosy livecamp09

Lol. That was smart of you sassysure. It is very difficult to leave them. Where will they get their narc supply from?

sassysure:
Thumbs up girl

Lovely topic.


I dated one.
So hard to break up with such people. Guilty conscience will swallow u up.
So manipulative. When I finally decided it's over(after failing more than 10 times to call off the relationship)LOL.So happy for you. Most of them don't want you to leave. Where will they get their narc supply from?

The type that will want to see the justification for the extra 10kobo u spent while shopping to prepare his meal as a visitor from far.

His money don't ever go into a project he will Never be the major beneficiary.

I had my pound of flesh when I wanted to leave finally.
As spending his money is not an option unless it's a biz proposition, I brought one to him and he fall for it.
Taking his money was to tell him that I kept calm and cool for long not because I don't know what to do but I was hoping he can change a little.

Tracked me down after my marriage with treats but friends told him to respect himself.
Started stalking me endlessly. All my social media accounts.
This time around we can start from where we stopped but as married people.
The wife is feeling the heat.
He was mad that I can boldly reject him, I mean this guy is hawt and he knows it. He has the qualifications, status and background and babes flock around him.
So he sees himself as Elvis Presley.

So charismatic outside. Even my mum was charmed.

funmisticqueen:
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Saffi Iamplato Victorian chiefjosy

My dear , I don't waste my time dating such type of human beings.

Immediately I notice on the first date ? Its over . I can't cope with any man , I hope to date having such mentality. I don japa!!

I dated one like that, he thought he is the only available God's gift to women . Fine . tall 6" 2" ft with a good job and perfect massive duplex home . Intact after the date, I regretted ever meeting up with him. And I told him point blank , sorry Im no longer interested in dating you. He was shocked and angry. But thats it . I just can't swallow such attitudes everyday .

bye bye to such terrible attitude . Give it to somoeonesle biko, I"ll pass!.

I can't !

victorian:









My dear , I don't waste my time dating such type of human beings.

Immediately I notice on the first date ? Its over . I can't cope with any man , I hope to date having such mentality. I don japa!!

I dated one like that, he thought he is the only available God's gift to women . Fine . tall 6" 2" ft with a good job and perfect massive duplex home . Intact after the date, I regretted ever meeting up with him. And I told him point blank , sorry Im no longer interested in dating you. He was shocked and angry. But thats it . I just can't swallow such attitudes everyday .

bye bye to such terrible attitude . Give it to somoeonesle biko, I"ll pass!.

I can't !

gbam. But there are some coded ones. How is home in this election period

Which is "... should one stay or leave a relationship with a narc?" if your spouse is narcissistic, don't walk away. Run!

funmisticqueen:
Lol. That was smart of you sassysure. It is very difficult to leave them. Where will they get their narc supply from?

Leaving them should not be difficult. Their narc supply is not anyone's business.

Don't forget to write about the control freaks?

This one na ladies matter.

So in short you just described Women?
Check it out:

funmisticqueen:
Part 1- THE NARCISSIST.
Good day Nairalanders.

Who is a narcissist? He/she is someone who has an excessive in or admiration of themselves simple. .

Narcs women are usually selfish, entitled (believe they are the best thing since sliced bread), grandiose (believe that they are bigger and greater than they are or someone they aren’t), arrogant, manipulative, shallow/superficial and most importantly lack empathy (do not consider other people's feelings). They constantly seek validation and have a need for continuous admiration by all to boost their self-esteem and ego because they can’t draw such from themselves. Any person, thing or environment that provides this ego boost in any form to the narcissist is termed “narcissist supply”. Status symbols like sports cars, wealth, beauty;.
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mynd44
lalasticlala
Ubunja
Victorian
Saffi
Highqueen

I see you have brought the dictionary definition of Narcissism that has veered from the original story of Narcissus. I will counter this your thread with a Miseducation on the same topic before sunset.


I will respond deeply also just now in your thread. Let me book space underneath this message.

Booked Space.

Nice topic.
They will automatically make you feel worthless.

ubunja:
So in short you just described Women?
Check it out:



I see you have brought the dictionary definition of Narcissism that has veered from the original story of Narcissus. I will counter this your thread with a Miseducation on the same topic before sunset.


I will respond deeply also just now in your thread. Let me book space underneath this message.

We didn't expect you to earn salary, feed yourself or your daughter, get investments and attend business and career programs.

The emboldened is what we expected of you.

sassysure:
Thumbs up girl

Lovely topic.


I dated one.
So hard to break up with such people. Guilty conscience will swallow u up.
So manipulative. When I finally decided it's over(after failing more than 10 times to call off the relationship)

The type that will want to see the justification for the extra 10kobo u spent while shopping to prepare his meal as a visitor from far.

His money don't ever go into a project he will Never be the major beneficiary.

I had my pound of flesh when I wanted to leave finally.
As spending his money is not an option unless it's a biz proposition, I brought one to him and he fall for it.
Taking his money was to tell him that I kept calm and cool for long not because I don't know what to do but I was hoping he can change a little.

Tracked me down after my marriage with treats but friends told him to respect himself.
Started stalking me endlessly. All my social media accounts.
This time around we can start from where we stopped but as married people.
The wife is feeling the heat.
He was mad that I can boldly reject him, I mean this guy is hawt and he knows it. He has the qualifications, status and background and babes flock around him.
So he sees himself as Elvis Presley.

So charismatic outside. Even my mum was charmed.

You rock girl, they are very manipulative and don't easily let go, I dated one, though we both are not married, he looks for ways to get back to me, even using marriage as a bait lol, ever notice they are always good looking with the right physique, I mostly feel they are full of themselves and have esteem issues so what better way than to show the world what they really are not.

ubunja:
So in short you just described Women?
Check it out:



I see you have brought the dictionary definition of Narcissism that has veered from the original story of Narcissus. I will counter this your thread with a Miseducation on the same topic before sunset.


I will respond deeply also just now in your thread. Let me book space underneath this message.

ladies and gentlemen please feel free to watch a narcissist at work. This here is a prime example of how narcissists work. They take what you say, twist it to their own version and throw it back at you. This is called downgrading and gaslighting. Some like ubunja are so good you don't even know what is real and what is not anymore. Master manipulators

I am awaiting your clapback thread

Martinez39:
Leaving them should not be difficult. Their narc supply is not anyone's business.

Don't forget to write about the control freaks?

borderline personalities. Sure thing boss, coming soon

Biglittlelois:


You rock girl, they are very manipulative and don't easily let go, I dated one, though we both are not married, he looks for ways to get back to me, even using marriage as a bait lol, ever notice they are always good looking with the right physique, I mostly feel they are full of themselves and have esteem issues so what better way than to show the world what they really are not.

the plain truth. They then use superiority complex to cover it up

Preshy561:

We didn't expect you to earn salary, feed yourself or your daughter, get investments and attend business and career programs.

The emboldened is what we expected of you.

lol

Preshy561:

We didn't expect you to earn salary, feed yourself or your daughter, get investments and attend business and career programs.

The emboldened is what we expected of you.

just marry a rich man already and allow us to breathe.

ubunja:
just marry a rich man already and allow us to breathe.

still gaslighting

funmisticqueen:
still gaslighting

what does that even mean?

ubunja:
what does that even mean?

google it o

NO ONE GETS LAID MORE THAN A NARCISSIST
So the problem is with you women. Busy denouncing this character but spreading your legs wide for him. Your confusion is jaw-dropping.
HOW CAN YOU DENOUNCE A CHARACTER THAT YOU FEED PUSSY 24/7 ??
Who is sick the Narc or You?

funmisticqueen:
google it o

everytime I try to Google something I find myself typing "Thick Latina MILF"

victorian:









My dear , I don't waste my time dating such type of human beings.

Immediately I notice on the first date ? Its over . I can't cope with any man , I hope to date having such mentality. I don japa!!

I dated one like that, he thought he is the only available God's gift to women . Fine . tall 6" 2" ft with a good job and perfect massive duplex home . Intact after the date, I regretted ever meeting up with him. And I told him point blank , sorry Im no longer interested in dating you. He was shocked and angry. But thats it . I just can't swallow such attitudes everyday .

bye bye to such terrible attitude . Give it to somoeonesle biko, I"ll pass!.

I can't !

try dating a woman and meet such a character. You are lucky you like men.
(But If you like women holla and we do those 3sums)

Preshy561:
Nice topic.
They will automatically make you feel worthless.

much like a broke man dating a typical Nigerian girl? Mmmhmm?

ubunja:
just marry a rich man already and allow us to breathe.

I didn't expect less.

ubunja:
much like a broke man dating a typical Nigerian girl? Mmmhmm?

What happened to broke man dating Nigerian lady?

funmisticqueen:
lol

Nice thread dear.

Preshy561:

What happened to broke man dating Nigerian lady?

they made him feel worthless.