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Chi59:
What's with the "lol?"
Did you read my post? Did you really read my post?
Did I mention that I lied to someone?

Take it easy dear, u seem very defensive. You are an intelligent woman, and advise for u to focus on other things that make u happy, keep pushing with the advocacy, grow yourself, and at the appointed time you’ll find love.

Chi59:
Thanks. Pardon my curiousity.
Why did she feel that you were risking your lives?

Never be ashamed of being a warrior. If you really want to test a guy then give him your body but no sex. Sex is strictly for after marriage. Masturbate to kill your sexual urge when with him if that is necessary. There's a lot of stereotypes about SS out there and the average Nigerian is usually ignorant. Focus more on achieving something with your life and let the man that wants to marry you prove himself.

OladimejiRufai:
Chi59 Hi

First, I say sorry for whatever sorrow or grief your problem has caused you.

Secondly, I want to tell you that I am sorry as what I want to write as an advice for you may inflame you. It seems crazy, trust me. You are probably gonna curse me for this.

But young lady, I want you to understand that calamities or difficulties are part of life and although, they cause pain or grief, they are actually like medicine.

Medicine tastes bitter but it is good for the body; this analogy is applicable to difficulties. Although, they cause pain, if you react to them in a right or positive way, they will leave you with a good story to tell eventually.

So now that you have this problem, believe me, you should look beyond the bad side of it and you will realize that there is actually a good side to it.

You mentioned some desirable qualities about yourself, qualities which virtually all men seek in a woman and you claimed that, men still leave you. That is to show you that the qualities you have, as good as they are, are still not enough to make a man stay.

How about you build and improve yourself to become that woman that men would not want to leave not minding the flaw you have? That woman that men will rush, race and struggle to have just because they want to be associated with the greatness that will be perceived from you?

Why should you invest in a relationship that you know in your heart that it is probable that it will eventually crumble when you can dedicate all what you are going to invest in that relationship into improving yourself to becoming like an almost indispensable entity which the world cannot do without? To become like a river which myriads of people run to to get water to satisfy their needs? To become like honey which the world would gather around to have a taste of its sweetness? Or is it not because you fear that this guy will also leave that you are now thinking if you should hide that from him or not?

Believe me, being in a relationship is not the only interesting thing in the world. It can even be your worst nightmare. It can cause you pain and sorrow. And more importantly, it is not as interesting and fulfilling as making impact in the world; being widely recognized as an icon or personality of change; putting smile on people’s faces; being celebrated all over the world and laying positive legacies for future generations to follow.

Don’t you want to be that kind of person? How about you start dedicating your life to it now instead of getting yourself into something that will probably hold you back and you probably will still not succeed in it, which will mean you have spent time and effort on achieving a failure (I am sorry to say)? And that is sad.

If I were you, I will stop thinking about men. I will stop thinking about relationship. I will not give a shit about love. The fact that men do not want me will give me to passion and enthusiasm to dedicate my life to productive things that being in a relationship or marriage will not allow me to achieve. It will be like I have gained freedom and I will have a lot of time to do great things and achieve a lot, things which marriage will probably hinder you from achieving or limit your progress.

Let me give you an example. I know you are not a Muslim but I just want to use this as an example as it is applicable to this matter.

There was a Muslim Scholar. His name was Shaykh ibn Taymiyyah. He is one person in whose life what I have explained above reflected a great deal.

Shaykh ibn Taymiyyah was a very knowledgable man who after gaining much knowledge, he began writing books and sharing knowledge. This Shaykh was never found knocking on the door of any house seeking a wife. Most of his time was dedicated towards knowledge and writing. He never married till he died. And believe me, this helped him to achieve a great place in sharing knowledge such that one of the people who lived during his time once swore that he had never met anyone as knowledgable as the Shaykh. No one of his contemporaries could stand him in knowledge.

Aside marriage, it also reflected in his life when he was persecuted. This man, for always standing upon truth in the face of oppressive rulers, he was thrown into prison for a long time. For someone to be thrown into prison seems like a calamity, but for Shaykh ibn Taymiyyah, it was a blessing. Why? Because that was the time when he had the most time to himself to write a lot of books and share a lot of knowledge. The affairs that would hold him back when he was free were not to be attended to anymore when he was jailed and this gave him more time and enabled him to even do more.

They punished him with a calamity but he looked beyond the bad side of the calamity and capitalized on the positive side, turning the situation around. His time in prison brought him success and fulfillment even though he was in prison.

It was all of these that made Shaykh ibn Taymiyyah to be recognized as one of the largest source of reference for knowledge in the Islamic World. There is no Scholar today who is upon the pristine Islam except that he will always make reference to his works.

So the life of this man is what I want you to reflect on and apply to your life. It is a practical example of the advice I gave you.

Believe me, the world is in danger and is in need of help. If I were you, working towards making a change rather than watching it get worse and getting affected by the bad state will be my major priority, ranking over having a relationship. I am not saying u should not have a relationship. But my dear, achieve excellence and chase greatness, and if you succeed in those two, success and many other good things including a good man will follow you and then you will have no problem in having a man who will truly want you (God willing)

But if now, you find a man whom you are rest assured that he truly likes you for who you are and will not leave you, then get into a relationship. I am not discouraging you from that. But at any point in time, just be sure that you have found the right man before getting into a relationship with him.

And again, please never lie to anyone about your status. It is probable that what will follow that after some time will be nothing but misery and calamities. Never tell that lie. Never be tempted to. (I am not saying you have lied oo. I am just telling you not to)

This is my advice for you. Again, I know it seems crazy. But please don’t curse me. Not that I give a shit if you curse me anyways But think about it. And also if you are going to take my advice, please do not outdo yourself in the pursuance of greatness. You know who you are; you know your health condition. Do it as it is within your capacity. I hope you understand

Good Morning

Very long, but an interesting read. Just have one question for u. Is this advise applicable to anyone having problems finding love, irrespective of their health condition?

Good morning

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

There's nothing wrong with you. My current babe is sickle cell and I love her so much still.... We've been dating since December and we're the couple people around envy..

I've told her even yesterday that as long as she's alive, I'd never choose anybody above her.

OladimejiRufai:
Chi59 Hi

First, I say sorry for whatever sorrow or grief your problem has caused you.

Secondly, I want to tell you that I am sorry as what I want to write as an advice for you may inflame you. It seems crazy, trust me. You are probably gonna curse me for this.

But young lady, I want you to understand that calamities or difficulties are part of life and although, they cause pain or grief, they are actually like medicine.

Medicine tastes bitter but it is good for the body; this analogy is applicable to difficulties. Although, they cause pain, if you react to them in a right or positive way, they will leave you with a good story to tell eventually.

So now that you have this problem, believe me, you should look beyond the bad side of it and you will realize that there is actually a good side to it.

You mentioned some desirable qualities about yourself, qualities which virtually all men seek in a woman and you claimed that, men still leave you. That is to show you that the qualities you have, as good as they are, are still not enough to make a man stay.

How about you build and improve yourself to become that woman that men would not want to leave not minding the flaw you have? That woman that men will rush, race and struggle to have just because they want to be associated with the greatness that will be perceived from you?

Why should you invest in a relationship that you know in your heart that it is probable that it will eventually crumble when you can dedicate all what you are going to invest in that relationship into improving yourself to becoming like an almost indispensable entity which the world cannot do without? To become like a river which myriads of people run to to get water to satisfy their needs? To become like honey which the world would gather around to have a taste of its sweetness? Or is it not because you fear that this guy will also leave that you are now thinking if you should hide that from him or not?

Believe me, being in a relationship is not the only interesting thing in the world. It can even be your worst nightmare. It can cause you pain and sorrow. And more importantly, it is not as interesting and fulfilling as making impact in the world; being widely recognized as an icon or personality of change; putting smile on people’s faces; being celebrated all over the world and laying positive legacies for future generations to follow.

Don’t you want to be that kind of person? How about you start dedicating your life to it now instead of getting yourself into something that will probably hold you back and you probably will still not succeed in it, which will mean you have spent time and effort on achieving a failure (I am sorry to say)? And that is sad.

If I were you, I will stop thinking about men. I will stop thinking about relationship. I will not give a shit about love. The fact that men do not want me will give me to passion and enthusiasm to dedicate my life to productive things that being in a relationship or marriage will not allow me to achieve. It will be like I have gained freedom and I will have a lot of time to do great things and achieve a lot, things which marriage will probably hinder you from achieving or limit your progress.

Let me give you an example. I know you are not a Muslim but I just want to use this as an example as it is applicable to this matter.

There was a Muslim Scholar. His name was Shaykh ibn Taymiyyah. He is one person in whose life what I have explained above reflected a great deal.

Shaykh ibn Taymiyyah was a very knowledgable man who after gaining much knowledge, he began writing books and sharing knowledge. This Shaykh was never found knocking on the door of any house seeking a wife. Most of his time was dedicated towards knowledge and writing. He never married till he died. And believe me, this helped him to achieve a great place in sharing knowledge such that one of the people who lived during his time once swore that he had never met anyone as knowledgable as the Shaykh. No one of his contemporaries could stand him in knowledge.

Aside marriage, it also reflected in his life when he was persecuted. This man, for always standing upon truth in the face of oppressive rulers, he was thrown into prison for a long time. For someone to be thrown into prison seems like a calamity, but for Shaykh ibn Taymiyyah, it was a blessing. Why? Because that was the time when he had the most time to himself to write a lot of books and share a lot of knowledge. The affairs that would hold him back when he was free were not to be attended to anymore when he was jailed and this gave him more time and enabled him to even do more.

They punished him with a calamity but he looked beyond the bad side of the calamity and capitalized on the positive side, turning the situation around. His time in prison brought him success and fulfillment even though he was in prison.

It was all of these that made Shaykh ibn Taymiyyah to be recognized as one of the largest source of reference for knowledge in the Islamic World. There is no Scholar today who is upon the pristine Islam except that he will always make reference to his works.

So the life of this man is what I want you to reflect on and apply to your life. It is a practical example of the advice I gave you.

Believe me, the world is in danger and is in need of help. If I were you, working towards making a change rather than watching it get worse and getting affected by the bad state will be my major priority, ranking over having a relationship. I am not saying u should not have a relationship. But my dear, achieve excellence and chase greatness, and if you succeed in those two, success and many other good things including a good man will follow you and then you will have no problem in having a man who will truly want you (God willing)

But if now, you find a man whom you are rest assured that he truly likes you for who you are and will not leave you, then get into a relationship. I am not discouraging you from that. But at any point in time, just be sure that you have found the right man before getting into a relationship with him.

And again, please never lie to anyone about your status. It is probable that what will follow that after some time will be nothing but misery and calamities. Never tell that lie. Never be tempted to. (I am not saying you have lied oo. I am just telling you not to)

This is my advice for you. Again, I know it seems crazy. But please don’t curse me. Not that I give a shit if you curse me anyways But think about it. And also if you are going to take my advice, please do not outdo yourself in the pursuance of greatness. You know who you are; you know your health condition. Do it as it is within your capacity. I hope you understand

Good Morning

Thanks

Sarcasticmofo:
There's nothing wrong with you. My current babe is sickle cell and I love her so much still.... We've been dating since December and we're the couple people around envy..

I've told her even yesterday that as long as she's alive, I'd never choose anybody above her.

That's so sweet

SocialJustice:
Never be ashamed of being a warrior. If you really want to test a guy then give him your body but no sex. Sex is strictly for after marriage. Masturbate to kill your sexual urge when with him if that is necessary. There's a lot of stereotypes about SS out there and the average Nigerian is usually ignorant. Focus more on achieving something with your life and let the man that wants to marry you prove himself.

Thanks

Chi59:
That's so sweet

stop searching for a relationship, like you need to fill a void within.

Live life, love would come, the untaintable one.

femi4:
You are like a time bomb, everyone leaves for fear that you can explode at any time. Its quite unfortunate but that's the simple truth

You lack knowledge

IFEOLUWAKRIZ:
You did do humanoemotionaltology in school.

Don't mind that foolish fellow

CsRockefeller:
I think it's the thrill of the chase. It's like money, you do so much to get it, once you have it, you do so little to keep it. But those days you chased it, it seem it was the whole world to you. It's a psychological issue and many guys can learn to control it by reading books especially the melancholics and phelgmatic who are driven and ambitious, they see relationships as a project also. Their ego, or their fulfillment lies in chasing things.

That said, I think you are an interesting fellow, to even dream of love shows so much faith and hope that you have about life. You are full of positivity and I like that.

Every one deserves love and craves it, even God the almighty desires fellowship with us, so you are not wrong to desire such as you are created in his own image and likeness.

So I wanted to ask, are you done with school? I would like to be a friend if you don't mind. You remind me of the quote by Tyrion Lanister in the series Game of Thrones. He said "never forget who you are because the world won't forget, wear it like an armor and no one will use it against you"

You have accepted your self, that's great, that's interesting, I love that. So what's holding you back on love? Go find love dear, you are priceless and rare. People like you make the best partner, anyone will be lucky to have you.

Wow! Never seen it in this perspective.

rex444:
I lost my closest cousin( a drop of tear for every time I remember that mofo) he a fighter, cunny fella ...tricky as well but he rest well after a good battle...story is his dad went ahead to marry an ss love of his life then, they had 5( all ss) 4 died not seeing em 5th bday but this Brave nigger fought till 27 years but still died...luck was they parents had to divorce and move on and d mum is married to an AA and d dad is also stable now with 4 kids.... Do not give up but do not bring others to suffer for what they know not....

So sad. Please take heart

Skengman:
Very long, but an interesting read. Just have one question for u. Is this advise applicable to anyone having problems finding love, irrespective of their health condition?

Good morning

Good morning

If this person is a man, as in if it is a guy, then it will be more interesting.

You see I personally am a kind of man who would never chase women or go a great length to win a woman’s heart.

It is not that I am proud or arrogant but because I see no reason why I should bother myself.

Why should I bother myself bro when I can be like a magnet? A magnet in the midst of metals does not bother itself to get those metals to itself. Rather, there is something about that magnet that pulls metals to it.

See, greatness/success and women are two things that men chase. But what I have realized it that if a man chases women and does not chase success/greatness, he will eventually lose both. Because even if the woman agrees to his proposal at some point in time, she will eventually leave him because virtually all women do not like to be associated with a failure of a man let alone when she now becomes the one who caters for you and you become a liability to her. In most cases, if a man turns out to be a failure, the woman in his life leaves and become another man’s woman.

But if you chase greatness/success, believe me bro, you will eventually achieve both Godwilling. Because when success becomes yours in life, it pulls to you a myriad of good things that this world has to offer including beautiful and desirable women. Women will struggle to be yours just because they want to be associated with your greatness and success. It will be easy to get a woman, they will come at ease.

So why should I ever bother myself trying so hard to please a woman or get her to like me when even if she agrees, she may eventually leave simply because I do not possess the qualities that will keep a woman to stay with me? I will rather be GREAT! Great beyond imagination! Become so successful that the whole world will testify and marvel at the greatness of the work of my hands. When I get to that level, women will come brother and at that time, getting in a relationship will even be more fulfilling and your mind will be more at rest because then you know that you have in your capacity to take care of the woman and make her want to be with you and even if she eventually leaves you, you will not be pained because you can easily get another if you still desire to Besides, for me, the delight that my success and greatness and my capacity to influence the world will bring me will be so much felt in my heart that I will not even feel sad if a woman leaves me. Rather, it will even be of joy to me because I will have more time to myself to do greater things.

Lemme give you example. Michael Jackson for example. I am a Michael Jackson fan; a huge one. And I have studied his life to some degree.

Have you ever seen Michael appear in public before? Have you ever seen him step on stage? Have u ever seen situations where woman will run and struggle just to see his face? Have u ever seen when women try to outrun and force their way past security personnel just to touch him or hug him? With tears in their eyes, with great joy felt in their hearts? And whenever the guards try to grab them and take them away from Michael, they fight and struggle to hold on as if the key to Paradise is about to be snatched from them; as if their life depends on him.

That is the power of greatness. And this is something that reflects in the life of every man who is successful.

Look at our traditional kings here in Nigeria for example. Most women do not like sharing their husbands but when there is money and when you are successful, these same women would not mind becoming number seven on the list.

Look at Alaafin of Oyo, that old man whose di*k may not even be potent anymore, yet he has many young women in his palace serving as wives. That is the power of greatness.

Look at that prophetess who married the Ooni of Ife, a traditional king and worshipper. You think if that Ooni was just a poor traditional worshipper, you think she will ever agree to his proposal? Power of greatness!

And believe me, the delight that your success will bring you will so much overwhelm your heart that you may not have time for women or even desire women. The way the world will respect and recognize you (for something positive), the way you will make people close to you feel proud of you, the way the world will look up to you, the way your name will be called here and there, the way your impact will be felt in the world, the way good things will be coming your way; the good life you will be living; all of these (at least, for me) is enough to bring you so much delight and fulfillment that you may not even desire women.

But one thing is, never ever do what is wrong to achieve that greatness. Always do what is right. Believe me, success and greatness do not come to the wicked or evil only. You do not have to compromise before you can be great. Stay legit and stay on right path, work and pray hard, dedicate your life to achieving a lot, stop following women, don’t give a sh!t about them.

Don’t let women control your destiny. Rather work towards become that great man where you will be in the position that makes you feel like God is enabling you have a hand in controlling women’s destinies.

Well, me oo!! As in me, I have stopped giving a damn about love. Until the world witnesses, testifies and marvels at the greatness perceivable from me in future, I won’t give a damn about love.

But I know that there are some women, even though they are rare, but they will love you unconditionally and even help you to be great and be part of ur success story. If you finds such woman and you are sure about it, then embrace her and stay with her. I am not totally discouraging you from having a love life.

But at any point in time, just be sure that you are with the right woman and let your mind be at rest that you will not regret it if you give her a chance.

Good afternoon

Chi59:
So sad. Please take heart

it's ok but it's meant as a lesson....sometimes we meant to also use our head while following our heart

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

There is nothing wrong with you.. Tell him

donstan18:
Madam! Stop boasting and advertising yourself. You are this and that, yet men keep running away from you!

Do you think a man in his right sense will get married or comfortably date a sickle cell?

Kindly tell that man you are loving, so that you don't end up ruining his future, life and family with your deceitful plans.

Bros why na?
Na by force to comment?

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

Maybe you need me!

I've been unfortunate in love for a while now and the only girl I also fell in love with was a CC(just like ss). I guess you guys just love from what u can gain from! remember that word?

we've talked about this but you seems not to understand my plight! we can still talk about it, only if you'd.......

Chi59:
You need a brain check

and again, where are your manners therein?

No need to lie just to get into relationship.
Well, we still have some men with great faith who despite your status will stay put and race through.

But come to think of it, the modifiers you chose to qualify yourself is a selling point coins.

You must be a self admirer and this is a healing balm for such person in your condition. No self pity but self admiration!

Chi59:
That's sad. Maybe there's another reason she didn't hint you on. Because as far as I know, it's extremely rare for AA and AS to have kids with sickle cell.
I don't think there's a possibility of AA and SS having kids with sickle cell.

There's no probability but you can't have AA children either.

Nigerians need to be educated on this genotype of a thing to avoid common misconceptions and the likes.
May you find love.

donstan18:
Madam! Stop boasting and advertising yourself. You are this and that, yet men keep running away from you!

Do you think a man in his right sense will get married or comfortably date a sickle cell?

Kindly tell that man you are loving, so that you don't end up ruining his future, life and family with your deceitful plans.

I can comfortably date or marry a sickle cell. So speak and answer for yourself. Leave sensible men out of this.

Don't lie, does that loves u will stays.

don't lie to him, if he messed up don't worry just DM me straight I'm AA


I think you should be more concerned of people you're meeting genotype before their commitment.


being an SS, is only AA that can complement your genotype

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

Never be afraid of who you are, if some 1 refused to accept you for you, then lying to them will only make them despise you more & make even you uncomfortable & guilty around them.

respects yourself and keep quiet .....1;2;3; u no dey tire? foolishly you may even tell him that the other 4 boys bleeped you... left because of your sickness,I bet you he will go if you open up.

Chi59:
You do know that you can't bury the truth for long, right?

I don’t think anyone goes into a relationship asking about genotype. Unless marriage is on the cards which I’m not sure is a priority for u at the moment. What I’m trying to say is u don’t have to say it if u weren’t asked. Just enjoy a normal relationship without making ur genotype a huge subject of discussion just yet or else the “love” now switches to pity. Which u don’t necessarily need.

donstan18:
Madam! Your low self esteem is disturbing. Stop boasting and advertising yourself. You are this and that, yet men keep running away from you!

Do you think a man in his right sense will get married or comfortably date a sickle cell?

Kindly tell that man you are loving, so that you don't end up ruining his future, life and family with your deceitful plans.

common! you are too raw, gosh.

Elxandre:
You're a disgrace of a human being.
Ahn ahn.

he is

My wife was unlucky with men before we met. She told me she had n abortion before we tied the knot. We are now two years in marriage, no issue yet. But, I am happy and she is happy. If she had not tell me, that would have been an opportunity loss. Think about it.

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
[b]All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like disappea? [b]
Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

Are you sure you don't know why they disappear?
I know it may be hard, but seriously, try and find out the reason why the relationship doesn't work out.
You haven't given us much information on your relationships
You are the one who has been in the relationships, you know the patterns, you know what happens, just sit down and ask yourself

It doesn't have to mean you are wrong. Maybe you guys aren't compatible, find out why you date guys who you aren't compatible with, then stop dating guys like that. Maybe you did something or act in a wrong manner, Find out why you do things like that, change and act better in your new relationship, maybe you don't like something about them, then subconsciously sabotage the relationship. Good. Find out why you choose guys like that, find out what it is you hate about them that is making you sabotage the relationship, then Change, Don't date guys like that anymore.

Just try to find out what exactly is wrong.


And if it is about your SS. I don't know.

Guys in the house,
Isn't it possible a long term relationship or get married to someone who is SS?
Isn't this possible?

Chi59:
Are you saying that I give up on relationships?
Should I confine my self to a lifetime of loneliness simply because I have a genetic disorder?

Of course, I might stay single for a few more years but then I would love to find love and settle down someday.

Genetic disorder or none, you can still maintain a healthy relationship and marriage. Your only problem is that you lack self confidence. If your are truely beautiful and smart, then you have no broblem at all. You have everything if you can believe in yourself.

With self confidence, tell the guy the truth and expect a positive reactions from him. Best of luck.

i respect the fact that u stand strong to come out abt ur genetics issue.
The only thing i'll have to sey is that i pray u meet a very sincere person. i mean sincere, lying is not an option u jst have to face the fact and truth, like-wise telling it early or telling it late. u might tell it early to someone that is not sincere with you and the person might felt cool but las las might end up breaking ur heart vice versa. for now do the things that make u happy dont be in a hurry for any relationship. take tins easy"
And be proud of urself too. if u ought to date any guy pls speak the truth and do it with an AA might lead to marriage.

Don't lie for anyone tell them your status and try to look for AA and don't allow any other genotype to crush with you God will give you the flesh of your flesh it's just the matter of time'have the faith.