kellykessy:
My wife was unlucky with men before we met. She told me she had n abortion before we tied the knot. We are now two years in marriage, no issue yet. But, I am happy and she is happy. If she had not tell me, that would have been an opportunity loss. Think about it.

kellykessy:
My wife was unlucky with men before we met. She told me she had n abortion before we tied the knot. We are now two years in marriage, no issue yet. But, I am happy and she is happy. If she had not tell me, that would have been an opportunity loss. Think about it.

Chi59:


Are you saying that I give up on relationships?
Should I confine my self to a lifetime of loneliness simply because I have a genetic disorder?

Of course, I might stay single for a few more years but then I would love to find love and settle down someday.

Chi59:



I haven't been fortunate with guys.


Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.



Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

Chi59:


You do know that you can't bury the truth for long, right?

Chi59:


You need a brain check

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

Chi59:


The truth has robbed me of 4 good guys. How many more will I lose to the truth?

izzou:
Chi59, here's my candid opinion

Do not disclose it to him till he finds out. No man is going to start any relationship on "I'm SS" note.

Spend time with him, let him love you for who you are, and just maybe, he may defy all odds and stick with you

This is the reality of the life you have. Be courageous and fight for what you want.

AntiBrutus:


Lol, some do though.
I remember this guy my cousin gave my number to, first question he asked was my genotype. I got the message immediately...

izzou:


If you had said SS, you think he would have continued discussing with you?

mrphysics:

What you need the most now is to be happy. Considering your status, being happy is more beneficial than having a boyfriend that might be giving you some emotional problem.

Why not choose to stay single and happy. There are many things you can achieve being single and happy. You have to accept relationship isn't working for you. Come to terms with that hard truth and go for plan B. So what is your plan B? To keep moving from one to another?

AntiBrutus:


I don't think he would. The question was too direct. I think he is SS/AS.

My dear since you are truthful me I will marry you cos I believe with faith you will live very very long, after all everyone will have to die someday, so what d hec this is my number pls feel free to whatapp me up +23408136019277

cc: AntiBrutus

Chi59:


You need a brain check

BabbanBura:


It only took u about 3 comments to display your true colour. I doubt the qualities u enumerated in your post.
Work on your attitude, the ss is already a dent, do not pad things up with bad attitude.
Sincerely.
For 1 - 5 guys to leave u even when they know that your genotype is ss from the beginning calls for a reflection from you, are there other things about you or your attitude that drives them away? If this is not addressed, even the guy up there that is should interest may leave you

stubbornman:

Hey... can we be friends

Chi59:


You lack understanding. Take that to the bank

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so...Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

izzou:


Hmmm

The op should just keep her disorder to herself. Almost every guy is scared of an SS, Unless he has something to hold on to, which he can only find when he falls in love



cc: AntiBrutus