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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by mrphysics(m): 3:39pm On Mar 08, 2019
Larryslim:

I agree, you've tried four different relationships and none worked.
You musn't be desperate for another, why not stay single and happy, then see how things play out from there?
My point bro. But to her, she must be in a relationship
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Cheeryfeet: 3:40pm On Mar 08, 2019
Madam, it's not your genotype that's the problem,it's your village people.
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by SkinnyNigga: 3:40pm On Mar 08, 2019
Chi59:


The truth has robbed me of 4 good guys. How many more will I lose to the truth?
if you are around Anambra or asaba.. hit me up.. I'm AA
I don't mind starting something with you..
08166544711

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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by lanibi(f): 3:40pm On Mar 08, 2019
Chi59:


No. So far, I haven't let anyone into my "holy of holies"
Good for you cos if otherwise, coping after they leave would be so difficult due to the intimate attachment.

Just as others have said, don't lie about your status however, I'd suggest you don't disclose in a rush. Let him see the good qualities you possess so he can choose that above your ailment.
I wish you all the best

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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Kenontop: 3:41pm On Mar 08, 2019
Why lie when truth will always show up one day? I advise u to be real.... Whoever is met for you will come an stay no minding the genotype . Remember, "nothing is more painful than denying the part of truth when it's too late"
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Nobody: 3:42pm On Mar 08, 2019
lanibi:
Good for you cos if otherwise, coping after they leave would be so difficult due to the intimate attachment.

Just as others have said, don't lie about your status however, I'd suggest you don't disclose in a rush. Let him see the good qualities you possess so he can choose that above your ailment.
I wish you all the best
Thanks
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Apination(m): 3:43pm On Mar 08, 2019
Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?
Being SS is not the end of the world but truth be told and from experience, I have seen but a few men who have been able to cope with having SS kids or partners,it's draining, which you very well know. Be greatful that they left now and not when you perhaps have an emergency later on and they just disappear. There's someone out there for everyone, when your appointed time comes, he will be there for you at the time you would need him. I will like to know you, if you feel the same way, PM me. wink

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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by izzou(m): 3:43pm On Mar 08, 2019
AntiBrutus:


Lol, you believe that? Do you think that is the kind of hookup OP wants? Pity?


I actually wanted to show you the stupidity in the post grin
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Baselm: 3:43pm On Mar 08, 2019
Do not lie to him, because it is essential whoever you date knows your genotype. Based on your status I don't think u should even love a guy without knowing his genotype so as to avoid hurting yourself repeatedly. The truth is the foundation of every lasting relationship
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Nobody: 3:48pm On Mar 08, 2019
izzou:


I actually wanted to show you the stupidity in the post grin

For im mind, e done help OP o.
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by shomutuski(m): 3:49pm On Mar 08, 2019
Chi59:


You need a brain check


SERIOUSLY!!!! WHY TRY TO PUT SOMEONE DOWN WHEN OBVIOUSLY SHE FEELS GOOD ABOUT her SELF

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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Nobody: 3:49pm On Mar 08, 2019
shomutuski:



SERIOUSLY!!!! WHY TRY TO PUT SOMEONE DOWN WHEN OBVIOUSLY SHE FEELS GOOD ABOUT OUR SELF
Don't mind the stupid fellow
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by izzou(m): 3:49pm On Mar 08, 2019
AntiBrutus:


For im mind, e done help OP o.

Some issues are not worth bringing to this kinda forum

Na vex you go vex Las Las

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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Fowuzo76(m): 3:57pm On Mar 08, 2019
donstan18:

Madam! Your low self esteem is disturbing. Stop boasting and advertising yourself. You are this and that, yet men keep running away from you!

Do you think a man in his right sense will get married or comfortably date a sickle cell?

Kindly tell that man you are loving, so that you don't end up ruining his future, life and family with your deceitful plans.
u are d authentic definition of a psychopath. Y not just keep ur stupid opinion to urself.

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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Skiilashi(m): 3:59pm On Mar 08, 2019
What u need is prayers and not guys!!

The guys will continue to eat the punny and run away!


No man wants a liability in future. You may not be invariably ,but I tell u as soon as he get to know ur status,he will usain bolt.

All the ones that stayed,already knew from day one that they will bolt way,they just wanted to have enough of your punny b4 they disappear. You know that the slimmer the sweeter.

Pray and pray more until God sends your Devine partner who will truly love you irrespective of your status
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by kense88: 4:00pm On Mar 08, 2019
Really feel for you dear. But don't lie to anybody to be accepted. If he is going to leave because of ur genotype, the earlier he leaves the better for you. Secondly, always prepare your mind for the worse
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Nobody: 4:15pm On Mar 08, 2019
annford:

You're not being curious at all. well, she was always digging up stuffs online.....got misled and all. I'm AA while she's SS. we went to 3 different hospitals for tests and I always came out AA. she felt something might happen and then, boom! we'd have kids with SS. Stuffs like that don't bother me as long as the one I love is truly happy.
toast on baba.
Chi59 give this guy a chance, ain’t u seeing the logic, u guys should plan on a date girl, good luck wink

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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Nobody: 4:30pm On Mar 08, 2019
GadgetHunter:
toast on baba.
Chi59 give this guy a chance, ain’t u seeing the logic, u guys should plan on a date girl, good luck wink

annford, do reply my pm
GadgetHunter, yeah
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Amwitty(f): 4:31pm On Mar 08, 2019
Chi59:


You do know that you can't bury the truth for long, right?
Oh so you know tnk God problem solved dont lie i know how you feel about the issue honey but las las you go dey alright

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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Nobody: 4:37pm On Mar 08, 2019
Chi59:


annford, do reply my pm
GadgetHunter, yeah
yo, good luck girl and be careful out there, this world is full of people with deceit, he might just wanna get to the heavens and back and also he might just be the lucky guy, all in all be careful and be happy wink

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Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by virgintoto(m): 4:41pm On Mar 08, 2019
annford:
lying to someone just so they can stay, isn't a good thing. if you need to lie and dwell in lies so a guy would like you and stay with you, then there's a problem. I once fell in love with a lady who was SS but she left cos she felt we were risking our lives. my advice is that you tell the guy the truth and if he chooses to bounce, well, it's his loss and not yours. I would advice you be yourself and be in charge of your emotions. I wouldn't mind dating an SS lady again. peace.

Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by mechanics(m): 4:45pm On Mar 08, 2019
Just tell him the truth.
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by theoldpretender(m): 4:45pm On Mar 08, 2019
CreepyBlackpool:
You know the answer to that which you seek.







You must lie!

Your advice reminds me of the time,some 3 years ago, that I had to calm down a guy in my office who was bitter and angry about his girl lying to him about her genotype. (AS by the way)

Lying really is not good
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Larryslim(m): 4:46pm On Mar 08, 2019
mrphysics:

My point bro. But to her, she must be in a relationship
I like the advice you gave, let her do what she feels is the the best for her.
You've done your own part to tell her the truth.
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by omojesu202(m): 4:48pm On Mar 08, 2019
Chi59:


The truth has robbed me of 4 good guys. How many more will I lose to the truth?

do you know his own genotype?? your parents have made the mistake, though not a crime, but you shouldn't make the same mistake. You're not allowed to fall in love with everyone you choose. Choices is not for you but that doesn't make you less of a great person. I'm AS n I can I go with an AA, by so doing I don't have an SS. On your part you can only go with an AA too. I'm sure you know your chances. Help yourself n your unborn children. When you get the AA, don't waste time.
they're running away is not their fault, even you too will do the same.
Don't lie but if he doesn't ask good for you. Find a way to get his.
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by omojesu202(m): 4:53pm On Mar 08, 2019
Chi59:


That's sad. Maybe there's another reason she didn't hint you on. Because as far as I know, it's extremely rare for AA and AS to have kids with sickle cell.
I don't think there's a possibility of AA and SS having kids with sickle cell.

AA plus SS has possibility of 1 inside 4. that's the you can get as an SS.
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by omojesu202(m): 4:56pm On Mar 08, 2019
Atlanticfire:
Don't lie to keep any man.

Also only date guys with AA genotype that way you eliminate the excuse of the children being
SS .

AA n SS can still produce SS, just that it's 1 inside 4. in such, case if the person has two n they're safe, then you hang boot
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Nobody: 5:00pm On Mar 08, 2019
omojesu202:


AA plus SS has possibility of 1 inside 4. that's the you can get as an SS.

Not so. Their kids will be AS
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by omojesu202(m): 5:01pm On Mar 08, 2019
Chi59:


No. So far, I haven't let anyone into my "holy of holies"

you have tried... if I date you for 3 months n you didn't open the door for me, I'll disappear cuz I'll know something is wrong with you which you're trying to protect me from
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Respect55(m): 5:06pm On Mar 08, 2019
They left because they wanted to. I'm AA , dating AS
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by Ihateyoumod: 5:06pm On Mar 08, 2019
OP, I have one basic question to ask u. I believe I am speaking d mind of alot of people. Did these 5 ex boyfriends have their way before quitting?
Re: Sickle Cell: Should I Lie To Him? by ttmax09(m): 5:13pm On Mar 08, 2019
donstan18:

Madam! Your low self esteem is disturbing. Stop boasting and advertising yourself. You are this and that, yet men keep running away from you!

[s]Do you think a man in his right sense will get married or comfortably date a sickle cell?
[/s]
Kindly tell that man you are loving, so that you don't end up ruining his future, life and family with your deceitful plans.

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