Jidibia:

Lol..... That's what we are trying to trash out here. He should change his mentality or better still, since he is poor, he should be inviting girls to his house rather than going out on a date. And I am sure, cus he lives cheap and he is cheap, he will only offer pure water to his guests who come visiting.

Inviting over is the best sef
But for someone who hasnt got clean shirt, i wonder how bedsheets go be, before AKIKI( Termites)finish person pikin

Gaspardd:

A girl once said to me that i am the neatest guy she has ever met. That doesnt proof anything but do you think you re 100% right with your analysis?

Naa....the girl is also dirrty.
You can be clean and still lacks composure.
Please how did you get the money out, you had it in your wallet or it was squeezed out in your pocket!

spiceadole:


Exactly.
All the talk about wanting and admiring independent ladies end on social media.
In real life, independent ladies who foot their bills are a worry to men.

It's not that we don't like independent Women, we are just not used to it.

Most women are dependents.

If more women start being independent, men will get comfortable over time.

Clefayomide:


So because of reputation, a man should spend more than what he can afford on a date?
Pls let's be guided ooo

Dating is not meant for everybody, you know.

nkwuocha:


His level used to be my level, but i wasnt this foolish and without composure.It would habe been better if he invited her over or take her to a local bar.

The guy no try at all.

And why him go dey borrow person clothe?Someone who is working sef?

U get problem oo. Person say him cheap u still dey ask why him borrow cloth. Mind you, being broke is not the same as being cheap. Cheap is the operational word here. You can be broke and not cheap. You can be rich and still be very cheap!!!

But the guy fucvk up.

Why must you place the money on table like a kid.?

You could have lied your way through like a man, instead of doing that.

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

But you know in your mind that you are stingy. Prioritize indeed. The solution is...do not hang out. That is a sure way to spend money and it is not really for people on a budget

RTSC:

It's not that we don't like independent Women, we are just not used to it.

Most women are dependents.

If more women start being independent, men will get comfortable over time.

What's the issue here. So I dependency or dependency is what it comes down to. Smh. Who cursed this generation. Dating is an avenue to know one another with slight possibility for futuristic future relations. And when a guy reduces enjoying the littlest of things life offers for the sake of not being reduced to a fool, it tells a lot about his roles lifestyle and how he'll handle real life issues which shouldn't be swept under the rug. Guys, women now earn, deal with it. When men start owning their actions and are not dependent on how their ladies react but by default own their own actions dependency or indepency financially wouldn't matter. I wonder how you boys think

nkwuocha:


Inviting over is the best sef
But for someone who hasnt got clean shirt, i wonder how bedsheets go be, before AKIKI( Termites)finish person pikin

Termite keh? Na bedbug go end person pikin.

Awoo88:

U get problem oo. Person say him cheap u still dey ask who him borrow cloth. Mind you being broke is not there same as being cheap. Cheap is the operational word here. You can be broke and not cheap. You can rich and still be very cheap!!!

Comment of the thread

kunleweb:



When you start to dey cuss o

When did you start speaking after this mabner


I'm not I support. Make seem flashy, but it's a. O no o

You know me to an extent. i don't do because others are doing.

I didn't cuss; was only saying the truth. These guys dent the image of the good guys out there. Those who are future father figures spew thrash all over the place. Don't you see it's worrisome?

Btw, I have been looking all over for you on the other side. You have been MIA.

AntiBrutus:
Men; We want independent women. Nigerian ladies are olosho, they don't pay on dates.

Man goes on a date with lady. Lady pays the bills and even tops the menu

Man comes on NL next day to create a thread like this.

Op is very confuse.

MissJoy29:

You know me to an extent. i don't do because others are doing.

I didn't cuss; was only saying the truth. These guys dent the image of the good guys out there. Those who are future father figures spew thrash all over the place. Don't you see it's worrisome?

Btw, I have been looking all over for you on the other side. You have been MIA.

We need to talk. I'll call you. Make we make am private. I'm u happy walahi


Work


I don't really do social media jawe

ClixMaster:
Dating is not meant for everybody, you know.

Just like sense isn't meant for everybody, you dig

kunleweb:



Change your orientation. See as you wicked reach. You used to be one of my most respected dude for years, look how you mess up, walking in your social Co ditioning life as misled you to believe, women are after your wallet. Smh, this is low. You rationed a date to, I should slap you now. Seriously, if you aren't overly negative you won't be leaning on the mindset that she was after your wallet. See why they say when ladies love, they can give their heart and all, you were in the reverse from the onset, while she was much more open to possibilities, psychological cancer, you need to be whole to date, cause it requires taking responsibilities for more than one individual should things work right. While you're fixated on your rep, I bother about your awareness to your condition. Fix yourself, work on your psyche, I suggest changing your friends and everything you feed your mind with. I can't allow my enemy date a guy like you in your present form. Next time, whenever you plan I volving a third party, always know that things can go sideways real quick and have a back up plan. The 3k you wanted to save due to your assumed gluttony you already Conclouded her to be was the price of your reputation. I feel like flogging you. Make sure you ask for another date immediately and make corrections. Do it while it's fresh before it cast a permanent memory if she declines move on

Good to know you haven't changed your stance on these things.

RTSC:

It's not that we don't like independent Women, we are just not used to it.

Most women are dependents.

If more women start being independent, men will get comfortable over time.

So why do you guys curse out girls that depend on guys? You guys will call the leeches...olosho and all the lewd names to belittle them. Now here is an independent woman and the ego cannot handle it.

MissJoy29:

Good to know you haven't changed your stance on these things.

Only whole people should date or marry abeg. It's not for sick unhealthy people

kunleweb:


We need to talk. I'll call you. Make we make am private. I'm u happy walahi

Work

I don't really do social media jawe

Who's talking about social media even though you used to do it. Lol.
"I'M U HAPPY WALAHI" What does this mean?

ImaIma1:


So why do you guys curse out girls that depend on guys? You guys will call the leeches...olosho and all the lewd names to belittle them. Now here is an independent woman and the ego cannot handle it.

Because we want Women to be better.
We want them to be independent.

That We are uncomfortable with independent women does not mean we don't like it.

Keep doing it and we will get less uncomfortable with time.

kunleweb:


Only whole people should date or marry abeg. It's not for sick unhealthy people

I'm telling you!

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

It is good to be quite sincere in one's dealings and it is also great to live within one's means.
You mentioned that you live cheap and prioritize your spending, fantastic!

Now read your own words... "On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). " Now how will you call someone, suggested the person meets you, and you assumed that the person you called to meet you also lives cheap and prioritize spending? I mean, you willingly offered to take a person, you were not coerced into it whatsoever, and you still subject the person to your desires because that is just what you want? That is selfish of you bro.

Things to take out of this event:
1. Do not make assumptions for other people and dont presume you can bend a person to your desires.
2. Do not start what you clearly cant finish
3. 2k is never enough to plan outings in Nigeria... She could call you stingy, and rightly so.
4. She is a good friend; any other lady might have publicly disgraced you.

One mistake you made though.... you should have given her the 1500 for transport to pay for herself, and not directly paying the driver. That act probably might have redeemed you from what transpired earlier and less likely solidify her thoughts about you as being stingy and selfish.
And No, that doesn't mean you cannot eventually date her in the future... You might be surprised she held nothing against you.

We learn everyday, I am sure you must have learnt something from what happened to you!

MissJoy29:

Who's talking about social media even though you used to do it. Lol.

"I'M U HAPPY WALAHI"
What does this mean?

The way you commented is a serious red flag. I said I was unhappy walahi. Opinionated is good I tligence is bae, but cockiness..babe I'll shut up and mind my business sha

Hedonisst:


Can he even afford to buy proper recharge card for anybody? Looks like the kind of guy that would be sending a girl he is wooing those paper N100 or N200 recharge cards and then quickly call her to smugly ask "av you seeeeen it?"

Mumu somebody.

lol. U got me laffing real good

kunleweb:


What's the issue here. So I dependency or dependency is what it comes down to. Smh. Who cursed this generation. Dating is an avenue to know one another with slight possibility for futuristic future relations. And when a guy reduces enjoying the littlest of things life offers for the sake of not being reduced to a fool, it tells a lot about his roles lifestyle and how he'll handle real life issues which shouldn't be swept under the rug. Guys, women now earn, deal with it. When men start owning their actions and are not dependent on how their ladies react but by default own their own actions dependency or indepency financially wouldn't matter. I wonder how you boys think

Oga, I don't know what you are on about.

I want women to be independent in everything including during dates, just like their counterparts in other parts of the world.

I don't know exactly what you are talking about.

RTSC:

Because we want Women to be better.
We want them to be independent.

That We are uncomfortable with independent women does not mean we don't like it.

Keep doing it and we will get less uncomfortable with time.

Do you really think the crop of men available now want women to be better? Our being better will mean less dependence on men and men will NEVER be comfortable with that level of liberation.
Therefore, I don't think men will EVER be comfortable with women being independent no matter how much they say it.

It's a vicious cycle.

Gaspardd:

We all have our roles to play, i am the man and shld act like the boss. This is not me being paranoid its about she being full of herself

Permit me to say you have a problem. She wasn't being full of herself, it wasn't like you paid and she told the waiter to return your money, she simply helped out. If she was being full of herself, she wouldn't have laughed it off when you told her the amount you had, she would definitely make you feel so bad about yourself verbally and with her actions, which she didn't do and judging from what you posted, she told no one. What's with guys and ego self? If she was being full of herself, she wouldn't have allowed you pay her tfare.
You really need to work on your self esteem bro

RTSC:

Oga, I don't know what you are on about.

I want women to be independent in everything including during dates, just like their counterparts in other parts of the world.

I don't know exactly what you are talking about.

Why are you whining? Who's withholding your I dependency. Swerve joor.before you chop slap.


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bossrillboss:
how dis story use make FrontPage na em dey vex me self.Mtchewwwwwww.

I love that Lalasticlala took it to front page so that other low grade,stupid mentality, dirty, stingy cheapskate like Op will have sense and learn from him, funny thing is I use to think @gaspardd is one of the sensible dudes here, smh!!!

Gaspardd:

We all have our roles to play, i am the man and shld act like the boss. This is not me being paranoid its about she being full of herself

. Lols, it's nothing about her. Her action is giving you low self esteem

kunleweb:


Why are you whining? Who's withholding your I dependency. Swerve joor.before you chop slap.


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Whinning?

Who the fucvk is this guy?
You well so?

kunleweb:


The way you commented is a serious red flag. I said I was unhappy walahi. Opinionated is good I tligence is bae, but cockiness..babe I'll shut up and mind my business sha

You think I sounded cocky?

Anyway, I was seriously vexed that's why I sounded that way.

MissJoy29:

Do you really think the crop of men available now want women to be better? Our being better will mean less dependence on men and men will NEVER be comfortable with that level of liberation.
Therefore, I don't think men will EVER be comfortable with women being independent no matter how much they say it.

It's a vicious cycle.

With liberty Comes responsibility which lies the problem. What percentile of women would have their dreams fulfilled, liberated and successful and still provide the emotional safety she should provide. Just the question o leave folorunsho alakija and Co out of it.