Nofavorss:
But what if ‘everyone’ chats matured? Why shouldn’t your man call them dear?

Op no get sense na

Adviseasister:


Not desperation, those were the things we talked about. I am sorry if I am beginning to sound like the proverbial stubborn fly.

I hope I don't hurt myself. The pain is too much for me.

kroger:


My sister this is the best advice you can ever get..I repeat the guy is MARRIED, the earlier u realise it the better. I have friends who do these things online. Chat with gullible girls and have phone and video sex all in the name of they live in Canada or America.

He told u to come visit lol that's a big fat lie, he said that to give u high hopes.. Girl that guy get wife for house believe me and move on with ur life.

kroger:


She is definitely experiencing the heartbreak already lol.

Adviseasister:


I don't think so. He just suggested I come over, so we can see and talk. A little intimacy might help.

Adviseasister:


I saw the mention, you sounded very harsh to me, I didn't know what to respond I am very serious, I didn't know the thread will get these views. I only wanted him to realize what he is doing to me.

Adviseasister:


He isn't married. I do not see what he stands to gain from phone and video sex with me.

Kennydoc:


My dear, it was miraculous. I fervently prayed about it cos I had got to a point where I just didn't have any idea how it was going to work out anymore.
Within those few days after I met her, I was deeply convinced in my spirit that she was the one. For the first time in my life, I had absolute rest in my spirit regarding my relationship. She ticked ALL my boxes and added more ticked boxes alongside.
Thanks for rejoicing with me.

Adviseasister:


I don't think so. He just suggested I come over, so we can see and talk. A little intimacy might help.

Evercurious:


I really love your personality.. You love love, you know how to love and love to be loved..Some advice here by some Nigerians are 'demonic' . Deep down in your heart you know them. Plz forget them. Their advices are based on fake and 'wuruwuru' love they have experienced in the past. Most of the relationships here are just 'kalokalo'.. ( game playing)..

Always keep your heart as pure as it is. And you ll surely find love

Kennydoc:


Don't say much about this cos you truly don't understand.

I met my fiancée on Facebook and fell in love with her within 4 days. Within 16 days, I asked her out and she accepted. We still hadn't seen face to face. We were and still are in different countries and continents. We finally met 9 months later and got engaged.

I can tell you categorically that she's the most amazing friend and partner I've ever had. I've had a previous relationship that lasted 3½ years, I have equally had a number of female friends in the past, but my fiancée beats them all hands down. I am talking from a personal experience.

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Adviseasister:
Good evening Nairalanders,

I had to create a new moniker for this, but I believe my guy will know this is for him.

Sometime last year I received a PM from a nlder. After going through his posts, I was pleased and we started talking. One thing led to another and we started a relationship. I must confess he is everything a woman wants in a man, he brought out this part of me I never knew existed and he did it so easily. We started seeing a future, I was happy.

Fast forward to February this year, I noticed a decline in communication. I complained and he blamed it on work. It continued and I had to ask what the problem is, he maintained it was work.

By March, things got worse and I have not been able to concentrate at work. I send him voice-notes and he responds hours later. I send messages and he responds with one word. I must also add he doesn't pick my calls at night anymore, but his NL profile would be seen online, though he won't comment.

I do not know what to do as I can't bring myself to love someone else as I love him. It is a long distance relationship and I do not know what to do. Is it possible he is facing challenges there and doesn't want to share?

Should I wait for him to come around or move on? Has anyone been in this situation before, how did you manage it? I feel so heartbroken.

Nat404:
Again, she's only interested in going abroad. No pure love. It's all about pretense. I call this "cupboard love".

AngryParrot1:

I speak as a man. Have u done something wrong? If not, move on. Since he can reach u easily, but u don't hear from him as before, I don't think he is still interested. Even women do this. I have had a similar experience. & trust me, u will find love again. The pain won't last forever.

SmartestG:

I guess this is what they call a soulmate

schumastic:
This are one of the reasons I hate long distance relationship, the stories are always the same. At first,

1. Everything will be sweet and rosy.
2. Both parties will start seeing a future together.
3. One out of the party will decide to cut of communication or reduce communication.
4. Finally it will dwell on the other that the relationship ain't working anymore and they should call it quit.

@op you are in stage three, just hold on a bit because you will soon get to stage four is just a matter of time.


Signed.


Vice President,

Bachelors Club,

Ikeja, Lagos Branch.

Daeylar:

You're welcome.
This is so sweet. @bold
I'm happy for you many more happy years to you two

Adviseasister:


Thanks for your kind words.

kroger:


You have not answered my question I asked earlier..

Adviseasister:


Yes we do.

Obas101:


Any guy that tells you he can do long distance relationship is lieing. it's just a matter of time b4 he gets bored and actually starts meeting ppl around him. Unlike girls that have patience men don't. they like excitement nd feeling when their girl is around them. I can assure you he will belive you have sombdy else you dating if the distance doesn't bother you

kroger:


Ok cool.. The truth is he only uses u to satisfy his bad habit which is having phone/video sex with younger girls. Once he has gotten enough of it he moves on to the next victim. He has seen a new catch that's why he is avoiding you like a plague. I know these things cos I have some foolish friends that indulge in it in here in america. You sound so naive and young that's why am trying to let you know it's all a facade.

I sent you a PM kindly reply . Cheers

Adviseasister:


Thanks for your advice. I initiated it and it wasn't a regular thing, like I can count the number of times. I guess it is time to move on.

kense88:
lol, Bad nigga. She wants obodo oyibo husband

czarina:
No way, I should be the only one who chats matured in his eyes.

If not, before you know, pole have steal the man in the rooms and later he'll come with teats in his eyes begging me to forgive him with his community pingolo.



We can't take chances

meobizy:

I had to create a new moniker to reply your comment, so here it goes: 43? You’re even generous.
I still stand my ground on this place being populated by only twenty active characters and the rest being alternates coupled with banned accounts.
The BetNaija guy has up to a million banned accounts and some trolls run into the high hundreds.
I also know this isn’t your only account and the creator of this forum has more than ten alternates.
It makes me understand why a lot of people brag about us being 1% of Nigeria’s population yet I still can’t find anyone who knows of this place.

Nofavorss:
DM me your number for counselling and prayer

Adviseasister:


I never rubbed it in their face. Normally I like to keep my relationship very private, but I couldn't hide those gifts you know. They may start mocking me behind my back, saying I wanted to go abroad.

Reelmii:
ani make u go occupy till the ghost come



I am sure that man is a married man



the girl was to quick to fall in love


baba was only having fun


and now the game is over

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Nofavorss:
I only want to tell her some relationship secrets bro. Nothing more