egbarison:
She hasn't said anything wrong brother. That's her view and looking critically at it, youd notice that she's or a potential 21st century rtionship counselor.

she is daft and nothing more

essenceplus:
Next time don't devalue yourself by telling ladies the story of your life. Ladies need men for emotional support more and not the other way around.

Also, do not be quick to bring up location you stay and your profession in the friendship stage,let it grow so love would grow before you start revealing yourself and when you do this,make sure its gradual


Do not spend weekends at home, go out, go to church,make new cliques outside your teaching environment. Try to meet new people weekly,being a teacher doesn't stop you from meeting ladies in church,supermarket. Join a church,join a department,when you're seen on close range,someone will pick up interest and be the one chasing you instead of the other way around


Don't let it affect yourself esteem. You're only a teacher at work. Outside school, you're not.



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bros too.much wisdom dey ur head

You have to proof to the ladies that u are a man , by saying a man I'm not talking of your manhood ,but your ability to provide and make ends meet at the home front . If you posted to the village like you said it's an avenue to develop yourself by going into commercial agriculture or look at a venture that can bring in more income for you . No lady wants to suffer

Ajoboss:
bros too.much wisdom dey ur head

Bossjakande:
uyi I know u are not dis kind of girl if u want to change change to be better not worst.dats why I have a problem with pple u chat with here.

LMAO!

essenceplus:

You dry form hard guy, hard guy, deep introspection, and you might just be a Sissy begging to put the tip in the nunu.

Spinojaja26:
Please friends I need your advice, I am a teacher that teaches in one of the Govt. technical schools in Imo state.

I resides in the rural area due to the current transfer from the ministry, though I can go on transfer to any part of Imo state if I want. my problem is that all the ladies that I wanted to settle down with when I tell them what I do for a living and where I stay, they will quit the relation. it is becoming difficult for me to get a wife here.

Let me tell you what you don't know. Many men who earning more than you, living in the city are in your shoes. Many men who were earning less than you, living in the rural areas were once in your shoes, yet they eventually got married. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Just don't relent in your efforts to meet your own woman. And continue to improve in your capacity to earn more income.

Bloooody:
Let's be reasonable here.
Before you get married I expect you earn around #100,00.
Marriage is sweet but can be very bitter without money to feed yourself and possibly children.
Can you afford all of that?
The food, the fees, the support?
If you aren't financially stable then don't get into marriage, if not it will turn into bitter kola for you.
Marriage isn't an achievement.

Marriage is not sacrosanct, marriage isn't for everyone

I have once be in your situation too before, I am also a teacher mine is even private ooo, but I have two other business I am doing, I am into cat fish farming and thank God I have customers, also I am into computer business, doing online registration, photocopy etc inside Unilorin, which my kid sister is in charge so what am saying in essence is that you should find other means to make income....today I don't even tell ladies am a teacher I just tell them I am a cat fish farmer, and they still accept to be my girl because u know what,,,,they will eat free fish lolzzz

essenceplus:

anytin for ur boy

Wey govt don dey "professionalize" teaching??

Spinojaja26:
Please friends I need your advice, I am a teacher that teaches in one of the Govt. technical schools in Imo state.

I resides in the rural area due to the current transfer from the ministry, though I can go on transfer to any part of Imo state if I want. my problem is that all the ladies that I wanted to settle down with when I tell them what I do for a living and where I stay, they will quit the relation. it is becoming difficult for me to get a wife here.

Getting married or having a spouse shouldn't be your priority now.You should be married to.your work so you can move and trust me as you move up you will meet great ladies that will inspire you.Stay focussed.

shegzydave:
I have once be in your situation too before, I am also a teacher mine is even private ooo, but I have two other business I am doing, I am into cat fish farming and thank God I have customers, also I am into computer business, doing online registration, photocopy etc inside Unilorin, which my kid sister is in charge so what am saying in essence is that you should find other means to make income....today I don't even tell ladies am a teacher I just tell them I am a cat fish farmer, and they still accept to be my girl because u know what,,,,they will eat free fish lolzzz

You don mean it

CanineOfJackal:
wtf is wrong with most of you here? Did he complain about his income? Do you know he earns better than most guys in posh offices you drool over on the Island? Stop making girls look cheap and stupid because you are not in sync with the topic of discussion

how much do you think a government teacher in a village in a State like Imo earn?

Its an insult to compare it to what Island big boyz pay cheque

pocohantas:


He doesn't need to say it, the moment he emphasized on them running away due to his location and profession, it was already obvious what he meant. Even his appearance would introduce him as a Tier1 or Tier3 teacher.

If your mouth no put u for trouble we

chisco82:

If your mouth no put u for trouble we

My love...

You may have a delay, be patient,you will eventually have one. This should not be a thing of worry.

bros! biko ...relax your wife is on the way. na GOD get power

Ranchhoddas:
Utter crap. The man is the prize. It is women who are competing. Any woman that thinks otherwise is delusional.

Prize ko!
Nobody is MORE important in a marital relationship.


The two parties in marriage are both prizes to each other. So let your ego & "African-man" mentality not deceive you & tell you otherwise.

UyaiIncomparabl:


You dry form hard guy, hard guy, deep introspection, and you might just be a Sissy begging to put the tip in the nunu.

Okay babe

There's someone for everyone. You will meet your wife at the right time and right place. She will accept you for who you are and you will live happily ever after.

Bloooody:
Let's be reasonable here.
Before you get married I expect you earn around #100,00.
Marriage is sweet but can be very bitter without money to feed yourself and possibly children.
Can you afford all of that?
The food, the fees, the support?
If you aren't financially stable then don't get into marriage, if not it will turn into bitter kola for you.
Marriage isn't an achievement.

Hope he heeds to this

essenceplus:
To keep/win a woman,she must be mentally fvcked

Don't speak to her logic. Invest in drawing out her own emotions and use her own emotions as the feul to keep the relationships going, while you almost keep yours, or as a matter of fact, do not invest yours at all.

Planet3xi



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Ubunja Martinez39

So this is another strategy you guys use now? You don't invest emotions anymore? How then do you enjoy relationship?


Ah! No weapon!!!!!

MissJoy29:

So this is another strategy you guys use now? You don't invest emotions anymore? How then do you enjoy relationship?


Ah! No weapon!!!!!

Babe Just take me as you see me abeg. Na as una take do us na him d mata cum be like that. No more emotional investment o. We go use their oil grease our own engine

essenceplus:



Babe Just take me as you see me abeg. Na as una take do us na him d mata cum be like that. No more emotional investment o. We go use their oil grease our own engine

Na so....


It's a vicious cycle and will continue to be until we all decide to not to hurt the next person because we ourselves have been hurt once, twice or dozen times (like me).

essenceplus:



He isn't getting the point. The charisma/gifts of a man the bible says makes way for him.

What i applied as i'm talking to you i had to lie low in church cause after appyling it, atleast 5 females are crushing on me all professionals It's a skill, when men have a mastery of it datign becomes effortless. I recall dating a lady for over 6 months and aftwe we broke up, she said wait oh, i didnt remember to ask where you stay, how much you earn. At a point it didnt matter because she saw the aspirations of the man she was in front of and was satisfied. Speak your dreams, let your dreams and aspirations be heard first before the orgaic you Op, and come back and testify. Quite dumping your sad tales on prospective ladies abeg you. They have endured more than enough

I have atleast 7 ladies on my matter now applying all this. These are not your regular ladies you see littering the streets btw

Talk tall oP. If you don't have your future in hands, you should be able to communicate it clearly to be seen and heard. Come make i lecture you during one of your holidays



Search the moniker HardDon or Ubunja and read their threads

And if you've been begging women to accept you before now, make sure that doesn't repeat itself anymore and no more simping please


Planet3xi

Pele o...Mr Applier or Plier...
Wee u gerrarahia

Rita30:
You have not met your wife when u do there will be no question of where you live, how much you have or earn , how ugly you are, where you are from , how old you are. Everything is beautiful when you are with the right person. Forget this story of women and money most Men run to it just to comfort themselves . the worst of men marry the most beautiful of women that is love, love is actually blind at some point and then grow to begin to see that is after you have established a family. It is God's own way of creating holy matrimony.

Just pray and be good yourself

Yes. At least not every man is like First Bank!

luminouz:

Pele o...Mr Applier or Plier...
Wee u gerrarahia

Go to hell. Is ashewo beer parlor not your heaven eediot. What's my own with your lost soul

Unrated900:
OP you need to travel to Ghana to pick a pretty beautiful bbw who will love you for who you are

And not what you have,like the way our Nigerian ladies do.

Ghana girls are pretty soft spoken easy and calm women.they are family oriented and can plan with ur 500GHC which is 35k here compair to our iPhone girls here

Likes for Ghana women,shares for Nigeria ladies.

Are u sure about Ghanaian girls? I heard they are promiscuous (from NL news).
Are they pretty with big ass?
Lastly,are you sure they can endure some shaky financial foundations??

If I travel go Ghana n I no see girl pick,I go eat u oh

MissJoy29:

Na so....


It's a vicious cycle and will continue to be until we all decide to not to hurt the next person because we ourselves have been hurt once, twice or dozen times (like me).

Now you're speaking like the Joy I know .. Well said you're right. God EPP this generation where divorce tends more than marriages and people are quick to walk away before they sit to resolve differences

essenceplus:



Go to hell. Is ashewo beer parlor not your heaven eediot. What's my own with your lost soul

Omoh,ur aggression no be hia o....
Take it easy na...u just dey attack everyone since...

Essenceminus boy!!!

Rita30:
You have not met your wife when u do there will be no question of where you live, how much you have or earn , how ugly you are, where you are from , how old you are. Everything is beautiful when you are with the right person. Forget this story of women and money most Men run to it just to comfort themselves . the worst of men marry the most beautiful of women that is love, love is actually blind at some point and then grow to begin to see that is after you have established a family. It is God's own way of creating holy matrimony.

Just pray and be good yourself

He should relax....