emmaodet:


Hahahahahahahahahhaaa
Bro u rly funny ooooo
Dat is why i followed u
Wen i was dating my gal, she always boast of how she wll get a job of atleast 200k wen she graduates, that her uncles have connections with ogun state govt.
I dey look her and do tell her life is not like dat but she will tell me am pessimistic.
She don graduate since 2012 no job, na me set her up.
Her body don hear am, life don pepper dem gang

Lol, i have one girl in my class like that, she can make mouth for africa saying she wont accept 80k job, i just look her dey laff, we are currently serving, I'm hoping things go well for her sha, but i just dey observe her with one kind eye from far.
And our churches are not helping, i remember her telling me her case is different n all those church motivational stuff.

I have one question DO YOU SUPPORT SECESSION FROM NIGERIA...IF YOUR ANSWER IS NO THEN YOU'RE YOUR PROBLEM

IF YES....DO WHAT YOU CAN AND LEAVE THE REST....NIGERIA WAS DESIGNED THE WAY YOU'RE SEEING IT

Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

25k?

You should think twice.
I am a HND 1 student of Civil a Part timer and working for a job of 17k
My rent before was 2500 then 4000 per mouth.
I live in a mini city where you buy water pay NEPA bills and manage to buy 1 shirt once a while.
I subscribe to data plans twice a month and have manage to start publishing business. I have spent 48k already without result yet still pushing.

Women don't understand the language of LOVE.

With 25k, I will be extra 10k or more per month with the online knowledge I have now both in Affiliate marketing, YouTube and publishing. In fact I have a YouTube channel with over 1300 subs and less than 25videos.

What have you been doing online. Each day I get angry seeing online hustlers withdraw from fiverr.

O boy you better take that job and invest in your future.

Martinez39:
I had a friend that was studying Marine Science. I asked him what his job prospects were and he started telling me that jobs are plenty and that he can work in blah blah blah organisation and blah blah blah water cooperation. I tried telling him that jobs are scare but he blocked me because he learnt from his prosperity preacher and motivational books that he should avoid "negative energy and vibe". Lwkmd . The guy is now a photographer giving motivational speeches on his WhatsApp status. Though we later made up but now I am careful not to be a "negative energy and vibe".

lol this is extremely hilarious..

OP, the advice you need are on the first page. Please be strong brother. it's not easy out there at all.

Nooneonline:
Ur number one problem is Ego. I am a graduate I cant work in a local place? Does the locality of the place stop u from getting paid? Or u re worried about what ur girl will say when she sees u teaching in a place like that.

Second problem is ur locale. I don't know where u re but 25k in a village is a good salary considering u re a guy u don't need much to survive. Food is most likely cheap plus ur house rent is 1500k a month. U can use that to ur advantage and save. U don't even buy water like people in the city do.

3. U re not imaginative nor creative. Y do I say so? Have u tried thinking about holiday lessons to make more money or after school lessons? U can charge 500 to 1k per student. U don't see this teaching job as an avenue to gain experience and make extra money.

And the most important drawback is that u went to school just to read books. No skills and and u didn't utilise ur Nysc period. No savings (u dey spend am for girl or u dey Bleep). no connections (mr extrovert). Listen to the radio read books. [font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]leave ur girl when u make am girls go yakpa

your last paragraph has made my day..

You should have taken the sales representative job, it would give you more exposure and you get to meet people

Haven't you held of mini importation, you can save some money and start it. As an extrovert, convincing people to buy from you shouldn't be hard.

Martinez39:
The reason why prosperity preachers and their messages sell among young people, especially undergraduates and below, are for the following reasons:
1) Everyone wants to hear the good news that their future will be bright and they will make money.
2) They are still being provided for by their parents and they have not seen life to know that it's not by decree and claiming it.

These two reasons are a perfect combo. Notice that the population of these churches have youths as the overwhelming majority. Those that reality slaps hard like SARS operatives run to MFM and other pentecostal firebrand deliverance churches to "free their destinies."

brother.. youve seen life ooooh!!!!!! omo 9ja no easy ooh

Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

let your gf go for both yall good. my advice sha
you do not need extra baggage esp at this crucial point in ur life
then restrategize.
God alone knows how long the journey wil be, it might be shorter than u think
hang in there.
steer your ship alone, get ur course right before u carry passenger o

bayulll011:


what has yoruba got to do with this?
you sound empty cos i cant even understand what you wrote down there.

i tell you.

well sorry bro ,I really feel ur pain , but u have to understand that education doesn't guarantee u that u will make it in life , I learned this very early in my life. my advice for u is this , stick to that job and try learn a new skills and equip ur self for tomorrow . as per ur girl friend don't let her put pressure on u , u have to understand that this is ur life ,u have to go through all these struggles , hustles and hardship yeah that's part of life , Rome wasn't built in a day , check out All these great And wealthy men around , they had once go through stuff like this , so don't be discrorage , good things don't come easily , na unless u want to go through the fast lane and make quick money and that won't last .. .. enjoy the moment while it last and remember that tough time don't last ... lastly don't let ur baby push u too hard , if her wahala too much let her be , and keep ur head up

Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

Keep complaining....some of us started worse

lequama10:
hmmm bruv whatever providence and privileges you enjoying now be grateful and enjoy why it last. This is his time to struggle and find his path. Lifes direction or path has nothing to do with the Type of Government, its a matter of choice, the success due to energy and passion, now that he's face with all of this he only needs encouragement with his battles i believe u should help with that and if you not capable in that, silence would have been better, you can't revolt a govt with empty barrels and expect favorable results.God help us all..

My problem with Nigeria youths is that they are detached from reality. Oga, for many people, their location and it's government, system and security are crucial to their success. Imagine if Carlsen Magnus was born in Nigeria, will he be who he is today?

Imagine if Lionel Messi, whose parents were poor, was born in Nigeria, the bribery and politics would have prevented him from shining this big. Besides, FC Barcelona helped Messi combat his growth hormone deficiency. Would he have treated his growth hormone deficiency as a Nigerian? Would he even smell FC Barcelona? Would his Nigerian parents even let him play football? He would probably have written JAMB to study some course in the university? How many of our female basketball players(D'tigers) were nurtured and groomed in Nigeria? Remind me where Anthony Joshua was trained?

A doctor in Venezuela will earn peanuts thanks to the economic meltdown brought about by Maduro's implementation of socialism. For such doctor, would he be suffering if he was working in the US or UK? Remind me why Nigerian medical graduates are running to the US, Canada, UK and other developed countries? Why don't they stay here, since according to you, location and government does not matter? I got the shock of my life when I was discussing with my American friends online. Those that studied Physics, Computer Science, Mathematics, Zoology and other STEM courses were bragging and carrying their shoulders. These jobs are good paying jobs and prestigious over there not to talk of Medicine, Law and Engineering. Can you please tell me about Physicists, Mathematicians, Zoologists , etc. in Nigeria?

Oga, location can play a huge role. In Nigeria, some have sicknesses that they can't combat because there is nothing the Nigerian doctors can do but they don't have money to travel outside from successfully treatment.

You youths are just too damn hopeful. High hope is deluding youths.

Nooneonline:
Ur number one problem is Ego. I am a graduate I cant work in a local place? Does the locality of the place stop u from getting paid? Or u re worried about what ur girl will say when she sees u teaching in a place like that.

Second problem is ur locale. I don't know where u re but 25k in a village is a good salary considering u re a guy u don't need much to survive. Food is most likely cheap plus ur house rent is 1500k a month. U can use that to ur advantage and save. U don't even buy water like people in the city do.

3. U re not imaginative nor creative. Y do I say so? Have u tried thinking about holiday lessons to make more money or after school lessons? U can charge 500 to 1k per student. U don't see this teaching job as an avenue to gain experience and make extra money.

And the most important drawback is that u went to school just to read books. No skills and and u didn't utilise ur Nysc period. No savings (u dey spend am for girl or u dey Bleep). no connections (mr extrovert). Listen to the radio read books. [font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]leave ur girl when u make am girls go yakpa

I thought I was the only one that noticed the ego lol. And there are millions of Nigerian students like him.

When I lost my mother, I did all manner of things to survive... Including the sales boy he rejected. I did this before I could go back to school.

There was time I also packed sands from gutter. Mind you, in an area we once lived in a flat and peopeknew me. But I no send dem.

I wrote exams for people. Prior to this, I had been reading a lot of books regarding doing business and when I eventually went back to finish school and graduate, it has been strictly hustle ever since...

I was posted to a village during my NYSC and I couldn't do much, I had to Find a way to raise money before leaving NYSC and God so kind I had 150k waiting for me outside before I could leave. I eventually raised that money to some millions when I got out but lost focused and blew it up.

[quote author=vicsongreat post=82094143]Let me encourage u small, life after school isn't a bed of roses. I finished myNysc in 2015, I searched for jobs for almost one year, all my savings during NTSC vanished in transport from pH to Owerri to awka to Asaba, I became pocket less, to recharge 100airtime became a problem, I went to live with a friend at Enugu, I got a teaching job of 8k per month, I taught for two weeks and I got fed up cos no money for transport to sch again. For five nights, I couldn't sleep, I became depressed, frustrated, dejected and helpless. The thought of riding okada came, but I rejected it, after some days, I couldn't feed again, I eat 25 naira bread and pure water 10 in d morning till night. Finally, I cleared the shame, I met a man and explain my conditions to him, he agreed to buy me okada, he finally bought the bike fie 200k and ask me to run it for 300k. It wasn't easy bro, everyday, police will arrest me for defaulting, road safety, okada taskforce etc were collecting the little I was making. But I persevered, I suffered shame, but I continued, God was helping me, I balance 10 k every week, finally, I paid 300k withing 6months. The bike became mine....I started hussling for my own, I did my Intl passport, I saved, started my visa precessing, bro, right now, am in abroad earning six digit salary per month. So if I can be were I am today, bro, u will make it. This my story is for every struggling youth out there in Nigeria, just be positive. Something good will come out OK. Bless up[/quote


See motivation D bless up


Huna see say he no mention girlfriend]
Huna see say hé no go mountain of fire for prayers
Huna see say he enter streets

They lied to u that after the degree the world will be at ur feet
U never see anything
U dey cry
Cry more u hear
Make I bring bucket
What of people wey no get degree
Wetin u want make dem do
U dey even reason gal friend join
U better relax
Work
Find one local gal dey oil her toto
U are not going anywhere
U don enter village u don enter

Nooneonline:
Ur number one problem is Ego. I am a graduate I cant work in a local place? Does the locality of the place stop u from getting paid? Or u re worried about what ur girl will say when she sees u teaching in a place like that.

Second problem is ur locale. I don't know where u re but 25k in a village is a good salary considering u re a guy u don't need much to survive. Food is most likely cheap plus ur house rent is 1500k a month. U can use that to ur advantage and save. U don't even buy water like people in the city do.

3. U re not imaginative nor creative. Y do I say so? Have u tried thinking about holiday lessons to make more money or after school lessons? U can charge 500 to 1k per student. U don't see this teaching job as an avenue to gain experience and make extra money.

And the most important drawback is that u went to school just to read books. No skills and and u didn't utilise ur Nysc period. No savings (u dey spend am for girl or u dey Bleep). no connections (mr extrovert). Listen to the radio read books. [font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]leave ur girl when u make am girls go yakpa

Abeg shun that talk after all the money invested in him he should end up in one village school with 5 students. What a waste of a graduate. It's better he does tutorials and home lectures in the city

ops, people might make jest of you here and even call you lazy but belief me, i fully understand how you feel cos have been there, mine is even worst, i cried for almost a month blaming myself of going to school and getting a good grade with no good pay but everything is very much better now.
my first advise for you is to have it at the back of your mind to leave your comfort zone (ur house/state), Lagos might be stressful and trash but there are lots of jobs (it doesn't matter what you study in school), there is a page on facebook and instagram "AFRICANBIOHUB", follow them for real job update and request they review your cv for you(they will charge you like 1500 or so for that) and get a meaningful cover letter (i can help you with that) before you start applying.
you can be applying at the comfort of your home and travel for interviews when invited for one.
My brother if you work on this, i promise you will get a job before the end of this month (even if it is a marketing job with a far better pay and you wont stop applying till you get that your dream job), don't listen to people that says there is no job, there is, people are not just putting in their best effort.
my own case i have no family in lagos but i was determined nothing will stop me even thou as a lady, i keep scouting about and after 6 months of doing a marketing job, i was able to get an apartment and even change my job to a better one, don't just relent, you're A MAN, nobody will help you until you help urself especially in this nigeria
I BELIEVE YOU CAN DO BETTER

Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

Well,i wonder what you were doing during your University and Nysc days......Lot of commenters didn't offer you solution as i read through the first page.To every student that read my comment now,do not be hoping that once you graduate you would get a job.I'm 19 years old and i have gathered lot of ideas that would make me a billionaire in $$$ before i turn 25...yeah i said so,you might not believe me but it doesn't matter.Op i would advice you to accept that job,work for 6/7 months saving 10k per month then start a restaurant in a very busy place like the bus stop.Not one restaurant but 3/4.Find someone(Not your friend)to manage the restaurant and continue your teaching.If you make a profit of 1000 daily from the 3 restaurant totally 3 thousand,3000 x 30 days=90,000/month profit Goodluck!

iRyan:

Haha you have said it all. "My case is different" and "its not my portion" crew. Reality still hits them whether they like it or not

Don't mind them. When reality hits them hard, instead of them to sit down, reflect, analyse and accept the truth, they will not gree . They will think it's village people, wicked aunty/uncle, or powers from mother's/father's house and they will become more prayerful and start fasting and even run to prayer and deliverance grounds to "free their destinies".

Local man cannot can.

topsquino:


Hi

I have read your post. Trust me, there is nothing you are passing through right now that I did not experience when I finished service.

I was among the best in my class, yet I still experienced everything you typed up there.

You are lucky that your girl has not yet told you officially that you are no longer her second, third or fifth option.

Let's focus on the solution. After all, that's what you need.

Trust me, there are many jobs in Nigeria.

What we don't have in this country is skilled people.

This week alone, I had to rummaged the internet to find a good 3d animator for my brand. Guess what, I could not find. I had to outsource the job to Indians.

Do you know you can make money just by singing people's song on fiverr?

Do you know you can make money by being a pro player in video games?

Bro, you are not too old at 27 years to start learning a skill.

The secret of success is in three fold.

1. Learn a skill (1 year
2. Perfect the skill (6 months or above)
3. Market the skill.


Just take a year to learn any skill. I would recommend the following

1. Writing or proofreading
2. Graphic design
3. Web design
4. Programming

Just learn any skill bro and stop complaining and feeling miserable .

Forget that your girl friend. When you are successful, you will get a better one or she will come back.

The only person that can help you is YOU

Good luck

Awesome words of wisdom

Your number 1 problem is your girl friend so You don't have problem.

1. Forget girl matter for now. You're feeling bad mostly because of your inability to take care of her.
2. Take that job, organise extra lessons and FOCUS
3. Use your phone to learn skills: digital marketing ( Google ads is free)
4. Open Fiverr and start writing there as a freelancer.
5. Network online and push out your CV.

It's not easy but God will pull you through.

Hi,
It was so sad reading this story, I could relate to everything.
This is my present experience.. Things just got better this week. (I got a job) I pray God provides for you like he did for me.

I'd advice you Venture into business, I understand you ditn have any startup capital. But the good thing is... With the aid of a smartphone and Internet you can start selling online.

All you need to do is
1. identify what you can sell,
2 find a seller,
3 strike a reseller deal with them,
4 take pictures,
5 post them online and sell

It could be a friend or family selling ANYTHING... Phones, Houses, Car Spare Parts etc. Just any thing you are interested in.

To accelerate your success learn how to run ads with Facebook.

When I say ads, I mean how to get your products to the 20 million Nigerian Facebook Users.

FOLLOW IG pages like Triciabiz, NaijaBrandChick, thewebsitechic, etc

I really wish all nairaland contributions/comments can be as meaningful as all I've read on this thread

Mustsucceed:


You took your time to type this sadistic message which gave every one an insight to how dad your life is.my dear what u don't know is that ,you personally are crying for help.

I am not surprised that you don't like the truth I am saying, afterall your moniker is Mustsucceed so kini big deal?

Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

Bro I will advise you keep the 25k job. U should live life like no one owes u a thing n that is a good start for you. I don't wanna hear you committed suicide some days after today. Everyone is struggling and thanks to God you graduated.. It will be worst if your girl sees you as a lazy fellow. Bro gear up. Get the work save up some money and start something else... Don't be a liability( literally)

This life is not a bed of roses bro and you have to start somewhere. My first salary after school was 25k for the 3 months I worked in that organization but I didn't relent, now I earn better but still there is need for improvement which I won't relent.... You have a smartphone check LinkedIn for job listings, you'd be glad you did.

Bro, take it easy on yourself. Keep hope alive, and get busy. You'll make it

Truckpusher:
If I tell you what is keeping you where you are right now you won't believe it.

Oga talk, make we hear or learn

The key thing here is personal development.This is something that should be part and parcel of you while going to school so that when you graduate you will not be shocked by events in the job market.That you will know how to wiggle yourself in fit in which ever way whether self employment or job employment and you start small.l faced the similar situation.l faced book and only book only to graduate and see ''something''.
Our people(Parents and Co.....etc) too who are out there should tell us the truth and not paint a very rosy picture for us times have changed this is not the 1960s.