My advice for u my guy is to give her some space.wait till she start missing u n begging u 2 comeback

Most girls (below 30) are like that. They love to explore, experiment and make comparisms. I believe you truly love the girl, so have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Reaffirm your love for her, andmake her understand the effects of her actions on you. Her reply, verbal and non-verbal should inform your next action.

Note: Never put the key(s) to your happiness in ANYONE's pocket.

Why are you bothering us now? When she was giving you good sex did you invite any of us? Greedy boy

metformin:
my brother, move on with ya life, think of how you can better your life.

Say no more

holaxi:

No bro,its not about the sex... I just love this girl.. I know myself if I should get angry once it's over , but the girl has a lot of good attributes in her. I'm just trying to do everything to make her comel back to her senses.

Give her space, feel free and relate with other girl's if she sees you fine. Within 2-3 week's your babe will be back and better but if she doesn't, move on and be the best man you admire to be girl's with better attributes plenty out there.

holaxi:

No bro,its not about the sex... I just love this girl.. I know myself if I should get angry once it's over , but the girl has a lot of good attributes in her. I'm just trying to do everything to make her come back to her senses.

Dude, no offence but you are the one that really needs to come back to your right senses.

She has moved on and I suggest you move on too.

When a lady wants a break, it is obvious she is feeling tired of the relationship, suffocating and not purely into you.

A lady who spends time outside you in a relationship is already a cheat.

She may just be angry you are not taking the next step in your relationship, or a ploy to force a decision.

Or simply cheating like most do, either way find friends, pick up a new hobby, forget her and pray someone good comes along.

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

bros you're dating yourself. better wake up. na so my own start, it never ends well.

Please, how do you clone WhatsApp?

Sweeetheart:
you're officially single if you need to know. she might be rejecting the guy advances before but maybe she got to know the guy is financially stand than you. just wait let that guy fvck her then you will see her telling you she's not interested again


you better zero your mind and see her as your side chic why you look for another mental balance lady

my own fiance now put her Whatsapp in nobody settings and I don't see her status update but by this weekend I'm going to cloned her Whatsapp and get her with evidence. if I see something strange, she become side chic immediately, na her pussy go suffer it

Trust me. Cut it off. I saw the signs during my courtship, and went on with marriage. Today I am only praying not to get burnt. Trust me, run if u see any wrong sign.

Obinnaderek1:



Give her space, feel free and relate with other girl's if she sees you fine. Within 2-3 week's your babe will be back and better but if she doesn't, move on and be the best man you admire to be girl's with better attributes plenty out there.

This is very funny. Is this how she will be going on 2-3 weeks break whenever she thinks that she has found a guy that's better than op? So, she will be spending 2-3 weeks with each new guy she finds. He should let the girl go.

All these "she will come back" na nonsense.
What type of relationship is that?

wiseone28:
It is like all female brain wired the same..

Exactly what my girl did last four months ago..

I quit the relationship and i have peace of mind make i no come get HBP..

Now we are ordinary friends

You can never stop her because her mind is made of..
Till when the new guy disappoint her that is when she will want to come back to you

lol..you too? even me oh..it's been a year sha...e pain me sha..but I just had to

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

Move on joor, same thing happend to me in my school days in poly although we are in different we visit each other once in a while and only spend time together 3 times a year i really love to my bone....then I wonder if i will ever love any girl as much as I love her but i was so wrong even though we were in the relationship for 2 2yrs. During the final part of our relationship she always tell me how she went to Lagos hang out with some guys well there's nothing wrong having fun but she's always on the phn on WhatsApp for long any time i call its busy, then one night she told one guy sang for her on the phone the guy is cute and have a sweet voice...i lost interest in her after all these my mind is alrealdy set for the worse...and guess what the day b4 my final exam she said she's not doing again because of small misunderstandings i told her i lost interest in her worse she's breaking up when she knew I have exam the next day...no conscience. I wish her well and we parted ways few I love her and really care about her. 4 years later she saw me on the plane travelling on my FB posts the rest na history

Now i loom back in the days and wonder how I manage to go keep up such relationship trust me i would never do it now I don't have that time to waste. Two words for you MOVE ON

She is your girlfriend and not your wife,...u don't have any right to stop her from having other male friends.

@OP, please I would like to know how this ends .The end result will confirm or denounce the claims made by people on this issue ..please keep us posted...whether the relationship ended or otherwise...Thanks..

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

she is not worth it believe me the only hard part is you trying to move on, surely u will miss her but if u can be strong, you will get a better person then she will come back and be giving u shit story of how u don't love her enough bla bla bla.
I am talking from experience mine was a distance relationship but i know something was fishy and she didn't prove me wrong.
Naso all of them dey do they prefer learning from experience and come back start forming emotional only few are smart very few.

wiseone28:
It is like all female brain wired the same..

Exactly what my girl did last four months ago..

I quit the relationship and i have peace of mind make i no come get HBP..

Now we are ordinary friends

You can never stop her because her mind is made of..
Till when the new guy disappoint her that is when she will want to come back to you

I hope holaxi saw this.

murphyibiam15:

Lol.. competition ke, e no get wetin we no go hear.. like say gals don finish

i am not askin him to go into a competiting...it alway nice to know sum1else want what yu want ... the gurl in question is jus a gf not a wife, so she is open & available to seek other options so does a man.
It is alway easy for some of yu to type "move on" if life is all abt move on at every storm i wonder wu go dey married,
beheading is not the drug 4 headache.

Windflower:


I think I can relate with the situation. Most probably, she just loves the attention the guy gives her. You know when a guy is first wooing a lady, he makes her feel so special especially if he is a funny kinda guy. I was once carried away with chatting with a guy and there was absolutely nothing between us. He was just a friend and knew i was in a relationship. He just brought newness and I just liked it.

I don't think you should take any rash decisions tho, 3years is not a joke. The likeness she has for the guy will soon wear off, just play along but don't keep your distant and don't be so conscious of the other guy because if you do, you would be giving her the opportunity to move farther away from you. That would be playing right into the guys hand.

What you did is called emotional cheating. Seeking from another what you should have gotten from your partner. Not cool.

In fact I don mark your moniker. I go stay far from you

safarigirl:
you can never know someone until marriage. You can date someone fot seven years and still rush out of marriage within a year


Years of courtship does not determine years of marriage and certainly does not determine knowledge of a partner

I just stated my opinion and I never expected it to be universal.

Thanks for your reply anyway.

Brother you just narrated what happened to me two months ago.

I have a girlfriend that knows my parents friends and family, I know hers too.

I went to serve in Akawa ibom all of sudden, like around August I discorved my girlfriend in Ilorin stop calling me like before, don't reply me message on time. I travelled down home she was avoiding me.

Whenever i call her she is always on another call and will not call back. Until her gardiuation day when she mistakenly post herself and another guy on haer status.

She was wearing undise and the guy too, I challenged her she told me she need a break. Now she said she no more interested. She also said I was the cause that she didn't feel sorry for what she has done.

That is a lesson for the two of us, don't put mind too much on a girl you have not marry. Don't even let your parent know about her until it is close to your wedding


The bottom line is leave that girl and move on. I am sure she will regret it.

peterangelo:


Communication as in wat kind of communication?

Heavenly communication na, with all the host of heaven.

You dey mind the girl make she dey talk nonsense.

holaxi:

You might be right though cos I don't know what a guy and girl will be talking about at after 11pm for 43mins+. But I try my best for her. If my best isn't enough then she's free to do whatever pleases her. One bad thing about me is once I lose the feelings, there's no gong back.

Habba, please don't jump to conclusions. They could be talking about how to beat Elon Musk with their new invention, hence the 43 mins discussion.

pocohantas:


All these ones telling him find another girl that will "respect" him are just deceiving him. If he is in his mid-twenties, he will still be passed round. I call them transitional boyfriends.

I have friends who say if they see a girl that fits now, they done marry am in 3-6mths. Yet someone is dating for 3yrs. Highest na to call you for night, dey ask "have you eaten?"

Is that what they all ask you?

holaxi:

I try my best and we both know. She says it herself also. I can't do beyond my capacity

nice !! keep it @ that, buh if she dare leaves you bro move on ... let her dey know down.

MARRY HER THEN...while waste someone daughter time for 3 years and you might not even be ready by the 4th year...

Hey bruh, act like you dint notice and she would be disappointed.

Apt!!!. The truth

Starz825:


Bro na normal thing for girls..they will still have guys coming in their dms while they are in a relationship...stop stalking her....she isn't married to u yet... no dey put mind for girl wey no be ur wife....
Ladies are like that...esp wen they are not married...they want to explore ...they want to feel another man's presence apart from you...that's the nature of most of them.....
They go through a lot of temptations( some of them will open up to some men that they are engaged, married or they are in a relationship..some men na him go still insist say they must have a taste)...esp the ones wey fine and set die....even the married ones wey fine...let their husbands check their dms...he go just faint....




Girls within the bracket age of 18-25 are always like that...

Now, the solution.. having warned her earlier...she changed but went back to her vomit..its obvious she has lost focus....

Now...call her..sit her down and man up...tell her the situation of things..u don't need to argue with her...u ain't married yet don't forget...if u were married now it's a different ball game entirely...
Tell her she has lost focus...that she isn't committed...ask her wat the problem is...(see..there is a way u talk to ladies and they will open up to you Even if na u dey at fault Dem go tell u...they are too easy to get info from)....she will tell u..... whatever she tells you will determine ur next actions.... whether u need to move on or make it up to her...(because I realized that the lady in question is not a random girl to you.. because if she was u had moved on without coming on the platform)

Windflower:


I think I can relate with the situation. Most probably, she just loves the attention the guy gives her. You know when a guy is first wooing a lady, he makes her feel so special especially if he is a funny kinda guy. I was once carried away with chatting with a guy and there was absolutely nothing between us. He was just a friend and knew i was in a relationship. He just brought newness and I just liked it.

I don't think you should take any rash decisions tho, 3years is not a joke. The likeness she has for the guy will soon wear off, just play along but don't keep your distant and don't be so conscious of the other guy because if you do, you would be giving her the opportunity to move farther away from you. That would be playing right into the guys hand.

so u expect @holaxi to stand guard waiting for a unserious girlfriend to return to him while she is giving the attention he deserves to another man because I don't understand.
maybe you will probably do or u are doing the same, she didn't consider the consequences while trying to push her relationship to the edge.

Abragidi:
Bro go to ONITSHA make money..I mean money...forget you too disturb and space bla bla bla...

Lmao

sacx:


What you did is called emotional cheating. Seeking from another what you should have gotten from your partner. Not cool.

In fact I don mark your moniker. I go stay far from you

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That is why they say truth is bitter, every gurl crave for attention old r/ship can't give ... we men do worst than emotional cheating, ...infact sum guys cheat spiritually

ibkayee:
You aren't 'losing interest' per se, rather your girlfriend has left you with no choice with her disrespectful antics lol

I'd leave her if I were you

Woman of few words LMAO